Gabith

I begin to be happier It's happening while being more loving and patient with myself. All my negative beliefs (feeling less than others, thinking people are always judging me negatively, thinking I'm unattractive...) are slowly loosing their power and it's quite liberating. I don't want to fight with life/me anymore I did this shit too much time

It seems to me that there is no free will in the sense that everything that happens in our life will happens no matter what because it cannot be otherwise... We cannot avoid anything that is in our "destiny" The only free will I see is in our thoughts, beliefs, reactions to the situations that are happening. I'm not sure because I didn't realized this yet but it seems more natural to me

Can we share some quotes on positivity or even gratitude ?

@amanen I want to live in the dream

I don't know why, but for the past month I had strong feelings/images of past lives popping out anytime during day or night. When I have these sensations, I don't feel like myself at all, I feel everything through the perspective, the personality of the other person I'm remembering. I remember a forest with a big monument in the middle of a path and I felt something wonderful, like an angel was there and showing me there is no reason to fear anything. There is another memory where I was in a field and nothing worried me, I was in a state of peace and fullness naturally, as if I had lived my life like that, it was before technology. I didn't do anything special, I didn't change anything in my life except giving myself more love every day. So I am a little surprised by these memories but it feels good. I've also have deep feelings like I was always there, it's hard to describe. I'm clearly seeing how I cannot die. But I'm scared to realize this more deeply, to integrate it. Realizing that I am God would be traumatizing. I like the idea of no death but living through every perspectives for Eternity is another thing... How about you? Do you have this too? How did it happen? What do you do to immerse yourself in the memory and learn more about it?

@UpperMaster I think yes, because there are things I know here on this planet : grass, forest, buildings...

It happened when I was a child but I hardly remember

I realize how much loving myself is crucial, the more I love myself, the more life become enjoyable and the more I'm able to make good decisions / moving toward what I really want. I was wondering what do you do daily to increase this sense of love for yourself ? It's hard to love myself during social interactions, the more love I feel is always when I'm alone...

@WelcometoReality eye-opening !

Chill guys, listen to this beautiful song and lyrics <3

Best life, shorter

I'm really grateful that the Internet & this forum exist, thank you guys <3

My life is quite good, I could be happy. But I suffer because I can't accept the possibility of being alone all my life or never finding a good/long-lasting relationship. Having a girlfriend is the thing I want the most in my life, but when I'm conscious, I see that the thing I really want the most is to be at peace with myself & reality the way it is. It is impossible to stay conscious & live my life okay with being alone so I keep suffering and I see so much guys worst than me having a girlfriend that I tell myself "wtf I meet tons of girls each week since years, and I'm still alone because of my self-image" "wtf there are guys who barely meet ten women per year & they can find a girlfriend?" and there's also a lot of angriness because I know I'm a man, I need sex, I need love, I need touching, it's normal! and I can't offer this to me because I'm sabotaging everything and my fears & beliefs that I'm unattractive, weak, odd, not good enough are so strong... The worst part is that I meet a lot of women each week (because of street interviews) and I'm unable to open-up to them or even to imagine the possiblity that they could be attracted to me or that I could be in a relationship with her. All I have when I'm interacting with people is a cloud of negativity; feeling inferior, feeling like I'm disturbing them, feeling like I'm odd or weak, believing they're judging me. Even when a girl seems to show interest by asking me questions or the way she look at me, I want to shut-off and go away because I believe I will get rejected if I ask her out or show that I'm interested in her. Bad parenting and years of being bullied at school totally destroyed my self-image/condifence I don't know what to do, I tried so much things in 10 years.

Thank you, very wise I had some experiences of God's Love but I quickly fall asleep. And I can't stop myself from looking outside. I find so much beauty in women... but inside, I know I don't need anyone, I want to find myself, to live in harmony with "me"

Thanks everyone for all your help

@Razard86 very helpful yes I'm interested in the books

Thank u

Do you have a book recommandation on socializing ? I've read books on pick-up and I'm uncomfortable with the idea of playing a game or manipulating girls What I want is to be able to be at ease with myself & authentic toward girls so I could attract one that is attracted to my real personnality If I could feel that I'm not inferior to others, and that not everyone is always judging me negatively and if some are, it's okay, it would be a game changer

This year I've discovered that I have thoughts, mental stories about being tortured in this lifetime. I imagine the most awful ways to be tortured and it feels really bad. The worst part is that I've a feeling that I will be tortured in this lifetime, it's becoming terrific. I think that my thoughts about torture will attract this situation in the future (maybe in time of war, I don't know) These forms of thoughts about torture appeared 10 years ago when I was a teenager. What can I do to reassure myself that I will not be tortured in this lifetime ?

@Kamo This is very helpful Awareness in this context would be the "Observer" or the Observation itself which is "perceiving" these thoughts. You allow them to pass, no matter how often they arise again you let them pass, the more you allow yourself to focus on them the more energy you put into them that sustains them. Thoughts like that only matter based on how your interpreting them, so setting in the awareness and ground yourself back into actuality A good reminder

@Kamo thank u

@Realms of Wonder Beautiful song!

Hey I think that it can be cool to share our songs (lyrics) that helps us when we feel down etc... Here's some: NAT KING COLE - SMILE Smile though your heart is aching Smile even though it's breaking When there are clouds in the sky, you'll get by If you smile through your fear and sorrow Smile and maybe tomorrow You'll see the sun come shining through for you Light up your face with gladness Hide every trace of sadness Although a tear may be ever so near That's the time you must keep on trying Smile, what's the use of crying? You'll find that life is still worthwhile If you just smile That's the time you must keep on trying Smile, what's the use of crying? You'll find that life is still worthwhile If you just smile JEM - JUST A RIDE Life It's ever so strange It's so full of change Think that you've worked it out Then bang Right out of the blue Somethin' happens to you To throw you off course And then you Breakdown Yeah, you breakdown Don't you breakdown Listen to me Because It's just a ride, it's just a ride No need to run, no need to hide It'll take you 'round and 'round Sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down It's just a ride, it's just a ride Don't be scared, don't hide your eyes It may feel so real inside But don't forget, it's just a ride Truth We don't wanna hear (don't wanna hear) It's too much to take (too much to take) Don't like to feel out of control So we make our plans (we make our plans) Ten times a day (ten times a day) And when they don't go our way we Breakdown Yeah, we breakdown Don't you breakdown Listen to me Because It's just a ride, it's just a ride No need to run, no need to hide It'll take you 'round and 'round Sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down It's just a ride, it's just a ride Don't be scared, don't hide your eyes It may feel so real inside But don't forget, it's just a ride Slowly Oh so very slowly Accept that There's no getting off So live it Just gotta go with it 'Cause this ride's Never gonna stop (stop, stop, stop) Breakdown Don't you breakdown No need to breakdown No need, at all Because It's just a ride, it's just a ride No need to run, no need to hide It'll take you all around Sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down It's just a ride, it's just a ride Don't be scared, now dry your eyes It may feel so real inside But don't forget, enjoy the ride It's just a ride, it's just a ride No need to run, no need to hide It'll take you all around Sometimes you're up, sometimes you're down It's just a ride, it's just a ride Don't be scared, now dry your eyes It may feel so real inside But don't forget, enjoy the ride JOAN OSBORNE - ONE OF US If God had a name what would it be? And would you call it to his face? If you were faced with Him in all His glory What would you ask if you had just one question? And yeah, yeah, God is great Yeah, yeah, God is good Yeah, yeah, yeah-yeah-yeah What if God was one of us? Just a slob like one of us Just a stranger on the bus Tryin' to make his way home? If God had a face what would it look like? And would you want to see If seeing meant that you would have to believe In things like heaven and in Jesus and the Saints And all the prophets? And yeah, yeah, God is great Yeah, yeah, God is good Yeah, yeah, yeah-yeah-yeah What if God was one of us? Just a slob like one of us Just a stranger on the bus Tryin' to make his way home? Just tryin' to make his way home Back up to heaven all alone Nobody callin' on the phone 'Cept for the Pope, maybe in Rome And yeah, yeah, God is great Yeah, yeah, God is good Yeah, yeah, yeah-yeah-yeah What if God was one of us? Just a slob like one of us Just a stranger on the bus Tryin' to make his way home? Just tryin' to make his way home Like a holy rolling stone? Back up to heaven all alone Just tryin' to make his way home Nobody callin' on the phone 'Cept for the Pope maybe in Rome MICHAEL JACKSON - YOU ARE NOT ALONE Another day has gone I'm still all alone How could this be? You're not here with me You never said goodbye Someone tell me why Did you have to go? And leave my world so cold Everyday I sit and ask myself How did love slip away? Something whispers in my ear and says That you are not alone I am here with you Though you're far away I am here to stay But you are not alone I am here with you Though we're far apart You're always in my heart But you are not alone 'Lone, 'lone Why, 'lone Just the other night I thought I heard you cry Asking me to come And hold you in my arms I can hear your prayers Your burdens I will bear But first I need your hand Then forever can begin Everyday I sit and ask myself How did love slip away? Something whispers in my ear and says That you are not alone I am here with you Though you're far away I am here to stay But you are not alone I am here with you Though we're far apart You're always in my heart But you are not alone Whisper three words and I'll come running And girl you know that I'll be there I'll be there That you are not alone I am here with you Though you're far away I am here to stay But you are not alone I am here with you Though we're far apart You're always in my heart For you are not alone (You are not alone) For I am here with you (I am here with you) Though you're far away (Though you're far away) I am here to stay (You and me) For you are not alone (You're always in my heart) For I am here with you Though we're far apart You're always in my heart For you are not alone Not alone, oh You are not alone You are not alone Say it again You are not alone You are not alone Not alone, not alone If you just reach out for me girl In the morning, in the evening Not alone, not alone You and me Not alone Oh, together, together Gotta stop being alone

KILLING JOKE - THIS TRIBAL ANTIDOTE Lift up your spirits! Too much pain and suffering, crying too many's funerals, we know the earth is dying gatherers, celebrants, in a state of merriment this sickness - cleanse us with fire and music. This tribal antidote my choice, come to the great assembly - Revelry rejoice! Rejoice! Rejoice! Not a concert, show or entertainment a temple, a ritual, a festival of dissent kindred spirits exchange and listen we share in common different value system. This tribal antidote my choice, come to the great assembly - Revelry rejoice! Rejoice! Rejoice! This tribal antidote my choice, come to the great assembly - Revelry rejoice! Rejoice! Rejoice! Church of liberty, you'll never take this from me barter, no money, i don't suffer from spiritual poverty economic slavery, come back with bravery here is a sanctuary we'll get away from all this. This tribal antidote my choice, come to the great assembly - Revelry rejoice! Rejoice! Rejoice! This tribal antidote my choice, come to the great assembly - Revelry rejoice! Rejoice! Rejoice!