Elton

@puporing okay it really hit me this episode. I think the style for making this vedio was the newbie style or intermediate style, because the more advanced vedios doesn't hit me so much... this one thing for me could really change my life. Maybe it stood out so much because I have been so indecisive and maybe this one decision of being decisive could be the master key. So I have made the decision of being a decisive motherfucker...

@puporing are you making fun of me ? I'm expressing my deepest gratitude here and you think its funny, I have been with actualized since 7 years and I know what content has been shared !

Another 4 bad weeks passed by without the balancing act, the balance was shifted towards academics and final exams. But time to come back now its been 1 week after exams but still not on the right track yet. The power of decision making is huge and I will really take this very seriously. This is the most foundational and I must be highly decisive, I see this as a huge step towards my personal growth. Thanks @Leo Gura for the latest episode I want to show my gratitude by being highly decisive in future.

In my personal development journey what I have realised is that it is very difficult for me to maintain balance. Work, education, health and fitness, nutrition, finance, relationships, family and mental health are way too difficult to balance. I have realised the only way to do it is through adaptability, flexibility and patience. 2022 will be result oriented and thinking about death on daily basis will be the motivating factor. Journals will be the key. Strength and focus will unite.

@Leo Gura ohh if it is not the allergy type of cold try having 2 tbs honey and cinnamon powder 3 times a day.. it will pass in 3 days.. You might know better, but if not given a try you could try this out too.. Get well soon..

@Leo Gura with all this crash and all taking up a lot of your time, will you still be releasing a vedio this week ?

@Leo Gura the same can be applied to friendships aahhaa!

I realised that the need to have friendships is just an issue with loneliness and people pleasing. Maybe because of alot of time at home this week I was feeling like this. When I'm working, and doing all my self actualization activities I don't have time for loneliness and people pleasing. I feel not needing anyone while doing nothing not even self actualization activities will be a great thing to achieve.

Hello friends, In Leo's last vedio I came across the concept of conscious relationships, and I had a deep realisation which I was pondering about since many years actually, however I will bring this to light and work on this now. I have been always wondering why I always have issues with people and don't really get along forever. I have lost many people along the way in a sense like at some point they were so close to me but now are Indifferent. I don't have an issue with intimate relationships as I spent a lot of time and energy working on that but the boat got a bit off-balance with friendships I'm talking about friends here. I feel that I want to have really deep and rewarding friendships and maintain them. Please help me build realtionships and maintaining them by sharing various techniques, I will research and share some techniques too. For starting this journey im journaling on my one note journal, I have made a new section of relationships and made a subpage friends and another one as colleagues. I will be writing certain notes or key points to each and every person here. Would this be a good idea ?

@Jan Trautwein hi Jan welcome to the forum... I liked to see your point of view. Hope to see many more posts from you. This is a personal development community where we help each other grow and share resources as well as our personal development difficulties and also act as a support system for those who need it. :-)

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@Razard86 taking the example of Buddha I feel like you have to really undergo spiritual purification before you can truly connect with people... But Buddha would connect even before spiritual purification I guess.. I Don't know but I intute at the moment that just say fuck all ! And do your stuff and let life happen to you let those who want to come come those who want to stay stay and those who want to leave leave ..

@Bobby_2021 thanks for your perspective it will help me

@Bobby_2021 oh come on man ! What does masculinity got to do with friendships? Staying in touch is femine ? Calling or wanting to meet is feminine ? Wanting to have some companionship is feminine ? How did you come to this conclusion ? Btw is this your real pic?

@Leo Gura @Bobby_2021finding friends with same values are easy the main thing is about maintaining. What should I do when I'm the only one who is trying to msg call and keep in touch, yes I understand that maybe I'm putting my ego here like why should I always be the first one to call or msg.. but then again shouldn't the other person be interested in keeping the friendship too? And isn't not calling or msging an indicator that he/she doesn't really care? Also what about when your friends get involved with other intimate relationships then they don't want to spend much time with you. It was not that difficult in my school and college to have friends but now things are changing, the life stages are changing not only mine but also the friends who I grew up with. Should I just accept this that friends come and go, and you meet new people in every phase of life and we must just let go of the friends who don't want to be in contact ? Or should I leave my ego behind and always be the person to call and msg and make effort to keep connection with old friends, not that they don't respond but If I don't mag or call they will not too. What does it look like for a spiritual person to have and keep friendships ? I even struggle with being jealous about my friends prosperity and success @Proserpina I am sorry I didn't really understand you... are they some full forms to those words ?

@Preety_IndiaCancer

How you doing self actualizes! This is Elton from actualized.org and I want to tell you some tips on how i deal with common cold. Start drinking hot water. Gargle with salt water (warm) at the back of your throat and spit out the water. Round 7 tk 8 gargles per session, three times a day. Have honey with cinnamon powder 2 tea spoons are enough 3 times a day. Add some ginger to the back tea and have that during tea. Steam inhalation 2 to 3 times a day. In 2 to 3 days your cold will heal naturally. If not then you need to consult your doctor.

@Optimized Life I am also saying something around these lines.

What's up guys thus is Elton from actualized.org. and in this blog post I want to show you how to use negative emotions to self actualize. First of all it is very necessary to identify emotions and be honest about it. I am not really sure if I can identify with emotions and be honest about it because of the on and off meditation and yoga work that i have been doing over the past years or if i could feel them even when I wasn't doing this work. Never the less now when I experience a negative emotion I will use it as an indicator that something is not right and needs to be changed. Just like in Leo's vedio on how to stop comparing yourself to others when you feel jealous about others and start comparing to them it means that you need to look at that aspect to change. in using negative emotions you see your result because of which you feel bad and think why do you feel like this. Was there anything better you could do to avoid this situation or create a different situation ? start working on it right away once you get the answer. I have also realised at least in the last 2 negative episodes of my life that I have a choice to feel in the negative way or let go but I choose to remain in the negative emotion. So this is what i will use as an Indicator that i need to change something and gain insights in my personal life. So my fellow actualizes: here is an assignment for you'll Let know about your specific negative emotions and I want to help you find the indicator in it to self actualize. Even napoleon Hill wrote something along these lines that every negative event has a seed of an equivalent opportunity in it.

@Optimized Life thanks for the advise.

Hey. This is Elton from actualized.org. Through this post I will perform an experiment to see if awareness alone is really cureitive. So I have discovered this really disturbing side of me of latly where I'm totally comparing myself to others and not only that but I wish Ill for the other person. I wish ill for my childhood friends who have higher paying jobs than me, I wish ill for my colleagues who get better prevelages than me, I dispise my old friends who have settled abroad, I dispise friends who have a better romantic life, I despise people living in better houses, I despise people being on a higher posts than me, I despise people having better experiences than me, who travel different places and enjoy life. I wish that they all don't get what they have ! My name should be the despiser ... I'm am aware of my buring heart at the moment as I right this post, yes my bum burns.. I am a jealousy cat. Be a creator Elton.. be a fucking creator, competition is useless. Wait a min I'm beating myself up here.. Awareness cure me ! Cure me awareness... cure me ! I want to like it when people are doing well specially my friends, but I can't...I can't... I fucking cannot... I want to genuenly feel happy about their success but I can't, I don't. ?

@SQAAD can you try going back tobher today or maybe tomorrow and tell her that hey I dispise you because you treated me in a disrespect way yesterday and I'm truly hurt about it I felt very sad and unacknowledged when you behaved the way you did with me yeaterday. Maybe something was wrong with her personal life and that's why she treated you like that?

So there was this girl whom I asked for sex out of the blues and then she completely rejected me and not only that she blocked me from her whats app. Over the months I felt really bad as I didn't like being the creepy guy who was blocked, that not how I intended to be remembered, even though she obviously intuted that I wanted to use her for sex. So I asked for forgiveness and then she also forgave me and unblocked me too. I think she is an hr and I am doing a project in employee engagement so I asked her for help, then I called her like 2 times in the morning and then she msged saying sorry I was sleeping, so I called her again in the afternoon and she was like i don't think its a good idea to talk and my fiance don't like it. I was really sad as I really just seeked her help for the project. Maybe the rush in the msges to help me out came out to be too needy. No body I guess likes needy guys not even guys. Any relationships require patience and clarity of mind before starting a communication. It is true that you can revoke your feelings at anytime but I realised that I choose to feel bad, feeling may be necessary and help teach you and make you more aware... For eg. This bad feeling made me aware of how we must talk to people not only to use them but qith clarity to establish a human connection.

@Magnanimous the content I the book is magical. It was written long back ago but visualisation and affirmation techniques in it will surely help you think rich. You don't become rich when you have a million dollars in your bank account. You become rich when you think like a rich man. Follow all the techniques in that book and you will definitely be rich.

@Max_V sure