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The Enlightened Self - A Description Of Your Existential Nature https://youtu.be/cpr-KFks6-c Introduction to the concept of the enlightened self, also known as the true self Importance of developing a strong conceptual framework for enlightenment work Overview of the idea that most people identify with their body and mind and believe that is their entire being Introduction to the possibility that this identification is false and that the self is not a human being Explanation that the self is actually a collection of stories and beliefs that are learned and accepted as true Discussion of the ego and how it reinforces the identification with the body and mind Introduction to the idea of self-inquiry and the process of discovering the true self Tips for engaging in self-inquiry, including being present, observing the ego, and letting go of identification with thoughts and emotions Conclusion and encouragement to continue on the journey towards enlightenment. Ground yourself in inquiry work The true self is pure, transparent, empty awareness This is what you are existentially You are not a human being, software in the mind, neuron activity, or made of atoms Instead, you are empty awareness, also known as consciousness or presence The term "spirit," derived from ancient languages, means breath, air, or wind and represents what you are You are not an object or a thing, but rather empty space that allows for the existence of objects such as trees, tables, cars, people, colors, sensations, and emotions These objects occur within awareness and space, and you, as pure transparent empty awareness, contain space and time and everything else This awareness is transparent and empty, like the gap between the walls of a cup that holds liquid This awareness holds experience and all of reality Reality is composed of absolute zero, or nothingness Features of absolute zero include non-duality, meaning there is no separation between the self and the rest of reality, and impermanence, or the constant change and fluid nature of reality This understanding can bring about a paradigm shift in perspective and lead to enlightenment There is a transparent field within which everything is happening This field is not separate from current experience and objects Everything is happening within nothingness, encased in a field of empty awareness It is possible to train the mind to focus on this field and become aware of awareness itself Awareness currently thinks it is a human body living inside a skull, but it is not a thing Mind can only work with things, and cannot conceptualize or think about enlightenment It is not possible to find oneself because the human mind is addicted to objects and space To reach enlightenment, a process like self inquiry must be followed This process involves letting go of the ego and surrendering control Enlightenment cannot be reached through thinking or mental effort, and it is not a destination or a thing It is a realization or understanding that one is already enlightenment This realization comes through a shift in perception and understanding the true nature of reality

27 Qualities Of All Successful People https://youtu.be/LuVAFapEs4g 27 characteristics of successful people Passion: inspired by life on some level, deep love and passion for what they do Hardworking: work obsessively, almost workaholic Persistent: essential for achieving something with low odds of success Focused: able to single-mindedly pursue their goals Disciplined: able to set boundaries and follow through on tasks Confident: believe in their abilities and are not afraid to take risks Determined: have a strong will and are committed to achieving their goals Resourceful: able to find creative solutions to problems Adaptable: able to adapt to new situations and challenges Innovative: able to come up with new and original ideas Creative: able to think outside the box and generate new ideas Strategic: able to plan and execute a path to success Visionary: able to see the big picture and plan for the future Proactive: take initiative and are proactive in achieving their goals Resilient: able to bounce back from setbacks and continue pursuing their goals Emotional intelligence: able to understand and manage their own emotions and the emotions of others Social skills: able to communicate and build relationships effectively Humility: able to acknowledge their own limitations and seek help when needed Empathy: able to understand and feel for others Courage: not afraid to take risks and stand up for their beliefs Open-minded: willing to consider different viewpoints and learn from others Curious: have a desire to learn and explore new things Intelligence: able to think critically and solve problems effectively Integrity: act with honesty and integrity in all aspects of life Service-oriented: focused on helping and serving others Gratitude: able to appreciate and show gratitude for what they have. Ambition is important for rising to the top Successful people implement ideas quickly and have a bias towards action Mediocre people often get stuck in paralysis by analysis Successful people have strong opinions, are decisive, and have a spine Successful people are optimistic and hopeful, even if they struggle with depression Successful people are courageous and act in the face of fear Successful people are resilient and able to bounce back from setbacks Successful people have strong work ethic and are willing to put in the time and effort Successful people are confident and believe in themselves Successful people are proactive and take initiative Successful people are adaptable and able to pivot when necessary Successful people are strategic and able to plan for the long term Successful people are able to learn from their mistakes and grow from them

The Most Important Commitment You Can Make + Huge Announcement https://youtu.be/jF_R7R1zz9Y Introduction to the video and announcement that Actualized.org now has a self-improvement forum Explanation of why the videos are often long: the depth of the topic of self-mastery and the challenge of communicating deep concepts in a short amount of time The importance of committing to self-mastery and the need for a long-term investment of time and energy The benefits of self-mastery, including life transformation and reaching your full potential How to get started with self-mastery, including setting goals and tracking progress The announcement of the Actualized.org forum and some of its features Conclusion and encouragement to visit the forum and continue on the journey of self-mastery. The speaker found the self-help section in a bookstore and bought a Tony Robbins CD program The speaker realized that they wanted to understand the inner workings of self-help, not just listen to one program or a few books The speaker started their own platform, actualized.org, to share their understanding of life with others The speaker encourages the listener to imagine the possibilities of self-mastery over the long term and to make a commitment to their own personal growth The speaker suggests setting aside time to visualize and connect the dots to see what is possible for the listener in the future The speaker suggests starting small and building up to bigger commitments and goals in personal growth The speaker emphasizes the importance of consistency and dedication in personal growth. The speaker discusses tools that can be simple on the surface, but can become more complex and engaging when one becomes involved in the community The speaker talks about the creation of a forum for self-actualization and the challenges and doubts they faced in doing so The forum is intended to be a democratic community that promotes self-actualization through discussion and interaction The speaker discusses the potential for a large live community to develop, focused on self-actualization and advanced personal development concepts The speaker encourages people to join the forum and be a part of the community, as it has the potential to be something "incredible" The speaker talks about the values and principles that will be central to the community, such as empathy, honesty, and self-inquiry The speaker emphasizes the importance of community in achieving self-actualization and encourages people to take the first step in joining the forum.

The Ultimate Model Of Human Knowledge - All Knowledge Explained! https://youtu.be/y_bs-W_xON4 The speaker discusses their encounter with a deeply religious person named Thiago in high school, which sparked their interest in understanding different perspectives on religion and the human psyche The speaker debates with Thiago and his friends, and realizes that there is an emotional aspect to being dogmatic and set in one's beliefs The speaker reflects on the history of human cultures, noting that they often hold beliefs that may seem strange or irrational to outsiders The speaker suggests that all human knowledge can be understood through the lens of the "map-territory relationship" The map-territory relationship refers to the idea that humans construct mental models or "maps" to understand and navigate the world, but these maps may not accurately reflect the complexity and nuances of the "territory" or reality The speaker discusses the limitations and biases of human cognition and how they can lead to conflicts and misunderstandings between different groups The speaker suggests that the ultimate model of human knowledge involves understanding and acknowledging the limitations of our mental maps, and seeking to constantly update and improve them through the pursuit of knowledge and understanding. The Sun rises every day, but how do we know it will continue to do so? The laws of physics and gravity explain the Sun's orbit, but what if there is an error in these laws? Even if laws like Einstein's theories are accurate, how do we know they won't change in the future? Existence of God and other beliefs can't be fully justified and rely on faith Personal biases and intuitions play a role in shaping beliefs Justifications are created by the mind and can become tired after a while Beliefs and justifications can vary among individuals and societies The mind's need for certainty and security leads to the creation of beliefs and justifications It is important to recognize the fallibility and self-bias of one's own beliefs and to be open to the possibility of change. People often encounter facts that contradict their beliefs, but instead of changing their beliefs, they reconfigure their beliefs to explain away the fact Even logical laws are a part of this "model" and are not necessarily hard, empirical facts Beliefs often have layers that protect core beliefs, making it difficult to change them Cline proposed that revision of the logical law of the excluded middle could simplify quantum mechanics In quantum mechanics, counterintuitive things happen that go against intuitions, which suggests reality may be structured in a way that the mind cannot intuit Quine proposed the idea that our beliefs and the logical laws we use to construct them are a part of a web, and changing one part of the web would require changing all connected parts This idea suggests that the way we understand and perceive reality is subjective and dependent on our beliefs and the web of knowledge we have constructed. The speaker discusses the limitations of human knowledge and understanding The speaker concludes that it is not possible to find absolute truth The speaker decides not to pursue a career in philosophy because of this conclusion The speaker continues to contemplate the limitations of human understanding and the possibility of enlightenment The speaker suggests that the concept of the self may be an illusion and that getting rid of this concept could allow for direct access to empirical reality and truth The speaker suggests that this could solve the problem of personal bias in understanding reality.

A Rant Against The Pickup Community - Must Watch For All PUAs https://youtu.be/q56Qkejx_FM The speaker, Leo, is going to talk about the pickup community, particularly targeting those who are involved in pickup. He warns the audience to be self-honest and open-minded, as some of the things he will say may go against their previous beliefs about pickup. Leo claims to have a lot of experience with pickup, including doing live infield pickup, attending seminars, coaching others, and having many Pua friends. He initially had reservations about the pickup community but was drawn in by the personal development aspects and the promise of improving his skills with women. However, over time, Leo came to realize that the pickup community is filled with selfish, narcissistic, and dishonest individuals. The pickup community often tells the lie that mainstream society doesn't understand pickup and unfairly frowns upon it, but Leo argues that this is not the case. Instead, Leo claims that mainstream society has valid reasons for frowning upon pickup, which he will discuss in depth. Leo asserts that the pickup community is not about self-improvement or helping others, but rather about selfishly manipulating and objectifying women for personal gain. He argues that the pickup community is based on a toxic masculinity and a desire to exert power and control over others. Leo advises those involved in pickup to reevaluate their motivations and goals, and to pursue genuine self-improvement and connection with others rather than manipulative tactics. text discusses stages of personal development and values stage blue values include conformity, obedience, and tradition stage orange values include individuality, nonconformity, and technology stage orange values demonize stage blue values stage green values include genuine compassion and concern for others and society pick-up community glorifies stage orange values and demonizes stage blue and green values individuals and organizations tend to demonize stages below and above them in order to maintain their current stage stage green values include fairness, balance, and recognition of the validity of different perspectives stage teal values include systems thinking, recognizing interconnectedness and interdependence, and holistic thinking stage teal values include valuing diversity and uniqueness stage teal values recognize the limits of rational thinking and the value of intuitive and subjective experiences stage teal values include recognizing the importance of inner work and self-reflection text suggests moving beyond stage orange and into stage teal for more authentic and compassionate relationships and a greater sense of purpose and meaning in life The speaker believes that some people in the pickup community prioritize having sex with women above all else, even if it means being dishonest or manipulating the woman This attitude is characterized as selfish and lacking in compassion The speaker suggests that some people in the pickup community may be at an "orange" stage of development on the "greatest model," which suggests a lack of empathy and compassion The speaker also observes that friendships within the pickup community can be shallow and fragile, and that pickup artists may not be reliable friends outside of the context of pickup The speaker believes that pickup is "anti-spiritual" because it is centered on materialistic pursuits and ego-driven goals, rather than on transcendence of the ego and spiritual fulfillment The speaker suggests that people who prioritize pickup may be missing out on opportunities for personal growth and self-improvement The speaker advises people to be honest and genuine with others, rather than trying to manipulate or deceive them in order to achieve their goals The speaker discovered that women do not fit negative stereotypes promoted by the pickup community These stereotypes can be damaging and can harm relationships Women may be offended by the pickup community because it glorifies narcissism and disregards their agendas and desires The pickup community may be seen as manipulative, dishonorable, and dishonest by women The speaker advocates for being more genuine and honest in relationships with women The speaker suggests that the pickup community may be seen as analogous to a group of women conspiring to marry and divorce rich men for their money The speaker believes that the pickup community is superficial and lacks real meaning The pickup community promotes groupthink and conformity The speaker finds the pickup community to be immature and juvenile, with a Bro mentality and a one-sided, male-dominated perspective The speaker views the pickup community as a support group for narcissism and selfishness The speaker believes that the pickup community's values are incompatible with mainstream society and mainstream decency The speaker suggests that people who want real meaning in their lives should seek it through the spiritual side of things, rather than through the pickup community. The speaker accuses the listener of being jealous of their pickup skills The speaker suggests that the listener has not been successful with pickup in the past and is therefore jealous The speaker talks about their own experiences with pickup, including both positive and negative aspects The speaker discusses the materialism problem and how having success with pickup does not fix it The speaker addresses the idea that they are using outdated or manipulative pickup techniques The speaker emphasizes the importance of being authentic and self-aware in pickup The speaker clarifies that their goal is not to vilify pickup, but to raise awareness about its limitations The speaker stresses that there is nothing wrong with approaching, flirting with, and having sex with someone, as long as it is done with healthy motivations and in a respectful way

Free Will vs Determinism - Does Free Will Exist https://youtu.be/fecQUZ-ehKQ Introduction to the concept of free will versus determinism Importance of addressing the concept of free will in personal development Overview of the debate between free will and determinism The determinism perspective: the universe is mechanical and predictable The free will perspective: individuals have control and can make choices Approach to discussing the concept of free will from a first-person, experiential perspective Claim that free will does not exist Explanation of the concept of ego and how it relates to free will The role of cause and effect in the concept of free will The influence of genetic, environmental, and societal factors on individual choices and actions The concept of "choice" and how it may not be as free as it seems The idea of predetermined outcomes and the concept of "fate" The potential consequences of believing in free will or determinism Conclusion and encouragement to continue exploring the concept of free will and its implications. The CEO living inside your skull is an illusion Thoughts do not come from a person, but rather appear out of nowhere Thoughts are triggered by external stimuli and can happen on autopilot Most people do not have control over their thoughts People may believe they control their actions and behaviors, but in reality, they are just a thought that is arising The true self is not the thoughts or actions, but rather the awareness of them This awareness is not limited to the body or the mind The true self is infinite and boundless, and can be accessed through mindfulness and meditation The goal is to recognize and identify with the true self, rather than the ego or the thoughts and actions The mind and brain process vast amounts of information, with most of it occurring without conscious awareness or control Examples of unconscious processes include: Physical processes such as heart beating and lungs breathing Immune system response to viruses and bacteria Sensory systems taking in and processing data The ego or self likes to take credit for intelligent actions and decisions, but these are also influenced by unconscious processes and past experiences The idea of free will may be an illusion, as our choices and actions are influenced by unconscious processes and past experiences The concept of the self or ego is not a fixed, unchanging entity, but rather a constantly changing and evolving process The mind and brain have an innate intelligence and ability to perform intricate and elaborate tasks, such as the immune system's ability to distinguish and attack certain viruses It is important to question and examine our assumptions about the self and free will. Misconception that people who have achieved enlightenment or have high levels of self-control, like Zen masters and yogis, have free will These people have actually realized that there is no self and therefore, no control This realization allows them to flow with life and be more disciplined Paradox that surrendering the self leads to more power and discipline Previous discussions on taking 100% responsibility for one's life are meant for a different audience or stage in personal development Journey to enlightenment often involves strengthening the ego before being able to release and transcend it Belief in free will may be a coping mechanism for dealing with suffering Illusion of free will may be necessary for society to function Examination of neurobiology and determinism supports the idea that free will is an illusion Examination of quantum physics and non-dual teachings provide alternate explanations for the appearance of free will The speaker believes that the truth is starting to be revealed and that it is negative and depressing The speaker suggests that to become enlightened, one must admit to their own corruption and take responsibility for their actions The speaker asserts that Zen masters and yogis do not truly have control, but rather a "pseudo control" Religions and spirituality are derived from self-observation and the teachings of mystics such as the Buddha and Jesus The ego, or the "devil," separates oneself from God or reality by acting arrogantly and claiming power over things they cannot control Recognizing the lack of free will can free one from negative emotions and suffering caused by the belief in having control Surrendering oneself and taking a leap of faith can bring about a sense of peace and understanding of the true nature of reality The concept of no free will can be applied to practical, everyday life to improve relationships and communication The speaker encourages the listener to let go of their ego and to question their own beliefs and assumptions about the world. The speaker discusses the concept of free will and how it relates to suffering The speaker suggests that people often feel anxious and frustrated because they believe they have control over their lives, but in reality, they do not To address this suffering, the speaker suggests three steps: admitting the possibility that one does not have free will, practicing self-observation, and educating oneself about enlightenment The speaker notes that initially, these ideas may be depressing or demotivating, but encourages viewers to have faith and trust that there is something deeper and truer to be discovered The speaker promotes their website and newsletter as a source of additional information on these topics.

Understanding Awareness - The Staggering Depth Of Your Unawareness Revealed https://youtu.be/ugvMqHkUO-0 Understanding Awareness is a foundational topic for self actualization The importance of awareness is greatly underestimated by most people All lasting growth involves increasing awareness in some form Awareness is a tangible, concrete thing, but it is a tricky and deceptive topic to discuss The "catch 22" problem: when you lack awareness, you are not aware that you are not aware, leading to self deception Most people operate at a low level of awareness, often only utilizing a small portion of their brain's capacity The brain is designed to filter out information that does not fit with our preconceived notions To increase awareness, we must be willing to constantly question and challenge our beliefs and biases Meditation is a useful tool for increasing awareness by quieting the mind and allowing for increased self-observation The process of self actualization involves gradually increasing awareness and breaking free from limiting beliefs and behaviors The mind tricks us into thinking we are conscious, but we may actually not be Self consciousness test: observe a clock or watch for one minute while trying to stay self conscious Notice how the mind wanders and is not actually self conscious Most of the day is spent unconsciously and not self conscious The only way to study oneself is through self observation No one can create awareness for us, but we can get hits of higher awareness through spiritual teachers and experiences Self observation requires great effort and attention We need to study ourselves in order to understand ourselves and the world around us Uspensky's concept of self-remembering: remembering oneself while performing actions and being aware of one's thoughts and feelings in the present moment Life can trigger emotional responses Struggle with feeling in control Thoughts appear automatically and cannot be controlled Society promotes the illusion of control Realizing lack of control can quiet the "monkey mind" Man is a machine that can realize it is a machine and potentially change its nature Being aware of this can lead to self-discovery and potential personal growth A person may not believe it is possible to be more conscious or enlightened It may take self investigation and self observation to achieve self consciousness Few people reach this "tipping point" where they realize they are not self conscious Falling back asleep after reaching this point is common The metaphor of digging a hole to the bottom of the ocean with a shovel represents the difficulty of achieving self consciousness It is a long and hard process but ultimately worth it The metaphor of climbing a mountain represents the journey to self consciousness The reward of reaching the top of the mountain is a new perspective and understanding of the world The journey to self consciousness is a journey to the self Self consciousness is the key to true happiness and living a fulfilling life It is important to strive for self consciousness in order to live a meaningful life. The speaker believes that many people are not interested in learning or knowledge and may not have had good education opportunities The speaker thinks it is surprising when scientists engage in unthinking or unexamined behavior The speaker will guide the listener through a meditation to help them become aware of their lack of awareness The meditation involves focusing on various sensations and the self-image associated with them, including the face, body, mouth, hands, ears, and feet The meditation aims to demonstrate the gap between what we think we know and what we actually experience in the present moment The speaker encourages the listener to continue practicing awareness and to question their assumptions and beliefs.

The Challenges Of Making Bold Life Changes https://youtu.be/BF1t2T8VLI4 Introduction to the topic of making bold life changes Personal story of the speaker being sick and reflecting on life and death Goal of the speaker to make personal development more personal and vulnerable by sharing their own issues Problem being discussed: the need for a major realignment in life and the fear of letting go of a comfortable paradigm Examples of major realignments in life, such as quitting a business and becoming a monk Definition of a "turning point" as a moment of decision where the current path no longer serves the person's goals The process of making a major realignment in life, including self-assessment, seeking guidance, and taking action The importance of self-trust and self-acceptance in the process of making a major realignment The benefits of making a major realignment, including increased personal growth and satisfaction Conclusion and encouragement to make bold life changes if they are in alignment with one's goals and values. The speaker has achieved success after struggling for three to five years They are now at a point where they can relax a bit and success still comes to them However, the speaker is uncertain about their desires, motivations, and life purpose going forward They are afraid of having to make sacrifices, such as material comforts and relationships, in order to continue on a path of success They are also worried about how they will be judged and how their decision will impact their viewers, business, customers, and family The speaker believes that achieving success and focusing on business will not ultimately fulfill them They recognize that they need to make significant changes to their life and how they relate to various things, including people, society, culture, entertainment, food, fitness, sex, business, money, and happiness This process will involve a "purification" where parts of themselves "die" and they are "purified" and pushed forward This process can be painful and scary, but it is necessary for growth and fulfillment Making "turning points" in life is important for self-actualization and reaching one's full potential These turning points are rare and are most important in young adulthood (20s, 30s, 40s) Making these turning points requires letting go of the good for the sake of the great and pursuing a greater vision for oneself These changes may seem crazy to others, but should be balanced with responsibility and wisdom Making these turning point decisions is a highly conscious, purposeful act, not a rash or impulsive one These decisions may involve taking a step back before moving forward Making these turning points can lead to paradigm shifts and significant progress in one's life

How To Stop Judging Yourself https://youtu.be/ulam38XpQG4 In this video, the speaker will talk about how to stop judging yourself and provide a powerful exercise to do so Judgments are a problem because they poison your life and you are usually not aware of how they work and backfire on you Every time you judge someone else's physical appearance, behavior, or belief systems, you are also judging yourself at the same time and making life more difficult for yourself in the future An example of judging fat people and how it can backfire on you in the future by making you feel guilty or neurotic about your own fitness routine How judging someone else's looks or behavior can make you feel insecure about your own looks or behavior How judging others can create a cycle of judgment and self-doubt that is difficult to break The exercise for stopping the cycle of judgment: self-inquiry and self-observation to become aware of when you are judging others and asking yourself why you are doing so The importance of letting go of the need to judge others and finding a more compassionate and understanding approach to life. Judgment creates laws or rules that the mind stores and applies to future situations Examples of how judgment can backfire include: Comparing oneself to others and feeling inadequate Reacting against judgments by overcompensating and causing harm to oneself or others Creating positive rules that lead to negative consequences, such as trying to be the most loving mother and instead becoming overbearing and controlling The root of judgment is often fear and a lack of self-worth It is important to become aware of judgment and its effects on the mind and to work on self-acceptance and self-love This can involve practicing mindfulness, learning to let go of judgments, and practicing self-compassion and self-forgiveness. Dysfunctional behavior is abnormal and not cool People can have negative qualities such as being crazy, weird, odd, closed-minded, religious, ideological, rationalist, myopic, arrogant, egotistical, selfish, narcissistic, dogmatic, lazy, careless, ignorant, and greedy People can also have positive qualities such as being normal, cool, caring, kind, loving, humble, brilliant, creative, genius, strong, confident, and charming Making judgments about oneself and others can be damaging and lead to negative feelings of inadequacy and insecurity It is important to be mindful of how often we judge others and how our judgments can affect us and others To stop judging ourselves and others, it is important to increase awareness and try to be more accepting and less critical

40 Signs That You Are Neurotic - Understanding Neurosis https://youtu.be/JhV9f1l3H1A Definition of neurosis 40 signs that you are neurotic Anxiety Obsessive thoughts Compulsive behavior Vague physical ailments (e.g. chronic fatigue syndrome, fibromyalgia) Insomnia Depression Suicidal thoughts Anger or rage Social maladjustment (e.g. shyness) History of dysfunctional relationships Inability to work Money problems Addictions Perfectionism Workaholism Stress Lying Restlessness Overeating Phobias Paranoia Easily offended Constant criticism and blaming of others Preaching and moralizing Arguing and stubbornness Narcissism Neediness and codependence in relationships Jealousy and envy Guilt and shame Self-pity Negative thinking Self-sabotage Procrastination Inability to enjoy life Inability to make decisions Inability to cope with change Low self-esteem Inability to set and achieve goals Lack of motivation The dangers of living according to rules and laws The consequences of being neurotic, including a lack of freedom and low levels of morality The difference between low levels of morality, which require rules and laws, and high levels of morality, which come from internal understanding and awareness The negative effects of clinging to beliefs and identity The tendency of neurotics to become ideological fundamentalists The importance of abandoning rigid beliefs and living freely The role of consciousness in ethical behavior The need to discipline the mind and cultivate awareness in order to behave morally without needing external rules. The speaker believes that neurosis (a mental disorder characterized by excessive anxiety or insecurity) is a problem that needs to be addressed in order to achieve peace of mind. The speaker suggests that there are alternative ways to live life that are not neurotic, such as enlightenment or self-actualization. Enlightenment is the most direct way to achieve peace of mind, but it is an advanced topic. Self-actualization, which involves improving and becoming more authentic, can also lead to peace of mind, but it requires a change in strategy and a willingness to accept both the need for change and self-acceptance. The speaker's website and YouTube channel contain over 100 hours of content on self-actualization. If someone is not enlightened, they are necessarily neurotic because they misunderstand reality. Neurosis stems from a lack of acceptance of reality as it is, and it is important to develop awareness and get clarity about the stories and lies in one's mind that contribute to neurosis. It can be difficult to reconcile the need for acceptance and change, but it is necessary for growth.

How You Lie - All Your Dirty, Sneaky Lies & Manipulations Exposed! https://youtu.be/XulpS3cAkOM The speaker (Leo) is discussing how people lie, manipulate, and deceive themselves The concept of the self-agenda is introduced, which is about preserving one's image of themselves and protecting their ego or identity The first insight is that the self-agenda often takes priority over the truth, and people will lie and manipulate to protect their self-agenda The second insight is that people often deceive themselves about their own motivations and actions, and are not aware of the extent to which they are lying and manipulating The third insight is that people often lie and manipulate to avoid facing the truth about themselves and their actions The fourth insight is that people often deceive themselves about their own emotions, and will lie and manipulate to protect their self-agenda The fifth insight is that people often lie and manipulate to avoid taking responsibility for their actions The sixth insight is that people often lie and manipulate to protect their pride and ego The seventh insight is that people often lie and manipulate to protect their insecurities The eighth insight is that people often lie and manipulate to protect their sense of control The speaker encourages the listener to be honest with themselves about their own lies and manipulations, and to work on overcoming them in order to achieve self-actualization. Truth and survival/reproduction can be in conflict Choosing one over the other can be difficult People may lie to themselves or downplay their own self-interest in order to appear noble or righteous Lying can lead to various negative effects on one's life, including: Stress, anger, anxiety Cheating, abuse, theft, neediness in relationships, codependency Back pain, skin rashes, depression, overeating, heart attacks, panic attacks Feeling like a victim, bankruptcy, hating life, headaches, migraines, fibromyalgia Cancer, diabetes, asthma Social isolation, lack of connection with others It is important to be aware of the ways in which we lie to ourselves and others. Limited time opportunity Lying when in a leadership position Withholding information for self-agenda Not admitting when wrong Hiding weaknesses and insecurities Pretending to be perfect Withholding emotions Softening opinions and judgments Changing or altering stories to fit a desired narrative Saying one thing and doing another Pretending to agree with someone Using flattery or manipulation to get what you want Making excuses or blaming others Pretending to be someone you're not Hiding or downplaying your accomplishments Lying to protect someone or something Lying to avoid confrontation or conflict The speaker is discussing the importance of communicating truth in various situations, including in writing sales copy, in one's work, and in personal relationships. The speaker distinguishes between three levels of communicating truth: reporting facts, disclosing one's emotions about the facts, and revealing how one truly feels about a situation. Communicating truth can be difficult, especially when it involves negative emotions or actions that may harm one's self-image. However, the speaker suggests that being truthful and communicating truthfully can lead to a more fulfilling and honest life, and can help to reduce negative emotions such as depression, loneliness, and anxiety. The speaker suggests that many people do not prioritize truth because it can be emotionally challenging, but that integrity is a key reason to strive for honesty and transparency in communication.

30 Ways Society Fucks You In The Ass https://youtu.be/z4YkMoysymY Western society, specifically modern capitalism, is characterized by businesses shaping all aspects of society, including culture, government, science, and religion Businesses use architected and optimized systems to trap individuals in low consciousness patterns in order to make money Businesses are fueled by greed and other neurotic drivers, and are often unaware of this fact There is an all-out war for eyeballs in society, with businesses fighting for attention in order to sell products and make money Society is rigged against individuals and those creating the systems, as both are caught in low consciousness patterns Society is driven by the pursuit of progress, which often leads to environmental destruction and negative consequences for people and the planet Society encourages conformity and discourages individuality, leading to a lack of authenticity and fulfillment in life Society often prioritizes external markers of success, such as wealth and status, over internal happiness and fulfillment Society promotes the idea of "the grass is always greener," leading to constant dissatisfaction and the belief that one's own life is inferior to others Society promotes a narrow definition of success, leading to a lack of fulfillment for those who don't fit this mold Society promotes the idea that one must work hard and sacrifice their time and energy in order to be successful, leading to burnout and a lack of balance in life Society encourages the belief that one must be constantly busy and productive in order to be successful, leading to a lack of time for relaxation and self-care Society promotes a consumerist mentality, encouraging constant spending and materialism Society often prioritizes efficiency and productivity over happiness and well-being Society often prioritizes the needs of the few over the needs of the many, leading to inequality and injustice Society often promotes the belief that one must constantly be seeking external validation and approval from others Society often promotes the idea that one must conform to certain beauty standards in order to be accepted and successful Society often discourages vulnerability and emotional expression, leading to a lack of authentic connections with others Society often promotes the belief that one must constantly be striving for more in order to be happy, leading to a lack of contentment and gratitude in life. Holidays are driven by marketing and consumerism Politics is characterized by individuals or groups flinging insults at each other Religion is a performance by individuals who believe they are important or special Modern marriage is often used as a means of avoiding personal growth and responsibility Romance is driven by a desire to escape one's problems and find someone to take care of them Family life is often portrayed as noble, but is actually characterized by dysfunction and running on one's own patterns The typical nine-to-five career is unfulfilling and does not contribute to society The stock market and Wall Street financial companies exploit individuals' lower selves and are driven by greed Society encourages the belief that one must constantly be striving for more in order to be happy, leading to a lack of contentment and gratitude in life. The traps and distractions in society are driven by ignorance and ego, rather than a conspiracy or evil intent Businesses and capitalism can provide good services and resources, and there are many opportunities for personal growth in modern society It is important to acknowledge that one has been reliant on society and to make a commitment to living an authentic lifestyle and taking control of one's life This may involve renouncing certain distractions or unhealthy habits in order to make room for personal growth and psychological health One practical action step to take is to take a week off to be alone and reflect on one's life and goals, without distractions or external influences It is important to take time for self-care and self-reflection in order to live a fulfilling and authentic life.

Radical Openmindedness - How To Break Free Of Dogma & Beliefs https://youtu.be/jTK3kO0MopM Introduction to concept of radical open-mindedness Warning that this is an advanced and potentially threatening topic Analogy of mercury fillings in teeth, which represent beliefs and dogmas that have been "clogged" in the mind These beliefs and dogmas limit personal development, career, relationships, and spiritual advancement Counterintuitive move in personal development is to let go of knowing and embrace not knowing Live exercise to help understand and embrace not knowing as a powerful state Most people think they know, but actually do not and have a false certainty Exercise to help break free of false certainties and truly embrace not knowing Importance of questioning everything, including beliefs and values Embracing not knowing allows for true personal growth and the possibility of enlightenment Conclusion and invitation to continue exploring the concept of radical open-mindedness Light takes millions of years to travel vast distances between Earth and stars Most of the stars being looked at no longer exist When looking at a star, it is actually a galaxy with millions or billions of other stars People throughout history have been wrong about many things, such as the earth being flat, the earth being at the center of the universe, witch trials, intelligence of different races, Euclidean versus non Euclidean geometry, absolute time, human body's ability to handle high velocity, ability to lift over 500 pounds, wireless communication, flight, computers beating humans at chess, the four-minute mile, Iraq having weapons of mass destruction It is possible to be certain about something that is false Suggestion to open the mind to the possibility that current beliefs could be false Take time to deeply ponder the ideas discussed Notice when you try to convince others of your beliefs and become conscious of this behavior Realize that true not knowing can be empowering and liberating Wonder why you cling to beliefs and become curious about this behavior Keep working on expanding and opening your mind in order to reach a state of personal development and freedom This process can lead to profound transformation and liberation, and allow you to experience mystical states and discover the truth about yourself and the nature of existence

How To Deal With Strong Negative Emotions https://youtu.be/l96TZeZGlDg Negative emotions include sadness, hurt, loss, heartbreak, fear, nervousness, and anger To effectively deal with strong negative emotions, you must allow yourself to fully feel them This may seem counterintuitive because it requires vulnerability, but it is actually a strong move that can lead to success To become okay with allowing yourself to be vulnerable, you must start by acknowledging the negative emotion and giving it a name Then, sit with the emotion and allow yourself to fully feel it, without trying to resist or push it away It may be helpful to journal or talk to someone about your emotions to process them Practice mindfulness and self-compassion to help you better manage your emotions Remember that experiencing negative emotions is a natural and healthy part of life, and they will eventually pass Pay attention to emotions and be curious about them without judging or labeling Allow emotions to flow through you without resistance Do nothing and sit with the emotions without distracting oneself Repeat the process when waves of emotions come Notice tension and tightness in the body and relax major areas (belly, stomach, shoulders, hands, arms, jaw) Breathe deeply and fully Increase awareness and consciousness through focusing on the present moment Notice patterns in negative thoughts and emotions and interrupt them Practice gratitude and positive thinking to shift focus and emotions

How To Overcome Creative Blocks & Writer's Block https://youtu.be/OwgD1vmAawo The video discusses how to overcome creative blocks and writer's block There are two main ways to overcome creative blocks: brute forcing it and pacing yourself and reconnecting with your source motivation Brute forcing it involves sitting down and forcing yourself to work, even if you don't feel motivated This may work in the short term, but is not a good long-term solution because it does not address the underlying issues causing the creative block Pacing yourself and reconnecting with your source motivation is the better solution, but may not be possible if you are under tight deadlines To be a successful creator, you need to do the important, non-urgent tasks, rather than just focusing on the urgent ones Procrastination is a sign that you are not doing the important, non-urgent tasks To overcome creative blocks, you need to identify the underlying issues causing the block and work on those issues Some possible causes of creative blocks include: fear, self-doubt, lack of motivation, and being too attached to the outcome To overcome these issues, try: setting small, achievable goals; taking breaks and finding inspiration; practicing self-compassion; and focusing on the process, rather than the outcome. Creativity is a state that can be created and engineered It is important to recognize that you can change your state and have control over it Five practical techniques for getting rid of creative blocks: Slow down the pace of your work Change your environment Take breaks and do something different Get into a flow state Change your perspective or reframe the problem There are 5 techniques for improving creativity: Practice your craft regularly Seek out new experiences and knowledge Engage in creative activities outside of your main field Create a catalog of your favorite books and quotes Work on improving your process and understanding the psychology behind being an effective creator It's important to balance discipline and inspiration to be a strong creator The speaker has other videos that address issues that creative people face, such as how to stop being lazy and how to stop procrastinating The speaker has also created a life purpose course that can help people understand their authentic selves and what they should be creating in their lives Consistency is important for effective creation, and the speaker struggled with it in their youth The speaker shares advanced concepts on self-actualization and personal development through their website and free newsletter

A Vision For The Self Actualized Life - Get Yo Ass Inspired! https://youtu.be/jo_3rvcUpJw Leo from actualized.org talks about his experience at a consciousness retreat Reflects on his own life and how it has changed in the past year Talks about the freedom he has in his life, including setting his own schedule, earning a six-figure income, and achieving his material desires Mentions meeting a 20-year-old at the retreat who had a transformation after becoming an apprentice and learning about consciousness work Leo talks about the importance of self-improvement and personal development work Discusses the idea that anyone can achieve a self-actualized life and be inspired Encourages the audience to pursue their own growth and development. It is possible to consistently feel creatively alive and charged every day It is possible to turn work into a top passion and have creativity infused into every aspect of life It is possible to make a meaningful contribution to the world and be an inspirational leader It is possible to shed negative habits and emotions, such as self-sabotage, guilt, shame, nihilism, depression, anger, and negativity It is possible to learn and master key areas of life, including career, wealth, health, friendships, intimate relationships, self-esteem, and confidence It is possible to master emotional development and resolve family issues It is possible to develop a sense of purpose and meaning in life It is possible to overcome limitations and break free of toxic societal norms and culture The importance of taking time to appreciate and savor life Setting the goal of dying with a smile on your face and without regrets The concept of self-actualization and the difference between happiness and fulfillment Personal emotional growth and spiritual growth as key components of self-actualization The process of conscious work and the challenges that come with it The idea that self-actualization is a journey, not a destination The importance of understanding one's own values and priorities The role of relationships in self-actualization The potential for self-actualization to bring a sense of peace and contentment. Introduction to the concept of self-actualization Four steps to achieve self-actualization: Develop a strong personality Have a clear life purpose Become financially independent Engage in deep self-actualization work The importance of taking action now, rather than waiting for a midlife crisis Encouragement to share the message with others and check out additional resources Conclusion and sign-off

Mindfulness Meditation - A Complete Guide With Techniques & Examples https://youtu.be/wPUWdhHDKS4 Definition of mindfulness: experiencing reality exactly as it is through the senses Benefits of mindfulness: improved personal development and happiness Introduction to Shinzon Jung's mindfulness system Practical, effective, and simple mindfulness techniques Importance of paying attention to your senses in mindfulness practice Different types of mindfulness practice: formal, informal, and natural Examples of formal mindfulness practice: seated meditation, walking meditation Examples of informal mindfulness practice: mindful eating, taking a shower Examples of natural mindfulness practice: being present in everyday activities The importance of developing a daily mindfulness practice The role of mindfulness in reducing stress and increasing self-awareness Tips for starting a mindfulness practice and overcoming challenges Summary of the benefits of mindfulness and the importance of incorporating it into your daily life. Introduction to mindfulness cycle 3 steps: note, label, savor Example using visual channel (seeing a lamp) Example using auditory channel (hearing a clap) Example using feeling channel (sensations in the body) Practice mindfulness cycle with all three channels Introduction to cultivating mindfulness Benefits of cultivating mindfulness Importance of non-judgment and beginner's mind Suggestions for incorporating mindfulness into daily life Importance of consistent practice Introduction to mindfulness practice Cycle of noting, labeling, and savoring phenomena for 5-7 seconds, repeating for 20 minutes Advanced option to limit range of focus to specific senses or inner/outer experiences Common questions about mindfulness practice How to choose which phenomena to focus on What to do if a phenomenon disappears How to handle changes in a phenomenon How to handle difficult or unpleasant experiences How to handle distractions or a wandering mind Conclusion and encouragement to practice mindfulness regularly Mindfulness practice can lead to emotional mastery and the ability to control and reduce negative emotions such as anger, fear, depression, loneliness, anxiety, and frustration Mindfulness can also reduce physical suffering, including chronic pain and the pain associated with medical conditions and injuries Increased mindfulness can lead to increased fulfillment in life and more enjoyment of activities and experiences Mindfulness can also facilitate behavior change and the ability to overcome bad habits Through mindfulness, one can potentially experience enlightenment and gain a deeper understanding of the nature of the self and reality The benefits of mindfulness practice are numerous and can lead to significant improvements in overall well-being and happiness.

Curing Perfectionism - How To Stop Being A Perfectionist https://youtu.be/GPPdWfoeGbs Curing perfectionism can help stop being critical and unhappy Perfectionism can be a theme throughout a person's life Being critical hinders happiness, wastes mental energy, and hinders self-actualization Perfectionism can cause procrastination and prevent people from starting or completing projects Perfectionism is an anti-mastery mindset To overcome perfectionism, focus on the present moment and develop a growth mindset Practice mindfulness and self-compassion Don't try to be perfect, but strive for excellence instead Use affirmations and reframe negative thoughts Seek therapy or counseling if necessary Perfectionism is not a good motivation What got you here may not get you where you want to go in the future Successful people often have negative or flawed motivations Art is not about perfectionism, it is about the joy of creating Artists should focus on the process of creating, not just the outcome The perfectionist is too attached to the outcome and undermines their own progress Focusing on mastery and the process can lead to more enjoyable and productive work It may take some effort to make the transition to a more fulfilling way of working The importance of letting go of the need for perfection in order to achieve success and fulfillment The speaker is discussing the negative impact of criticism on one's life and the importance of retraining one's mind to focus on positive things like goals, dreams, and purpose. The speaker suggests using a rubber band as a physical reminder to redirect thoughts away from criticism. The speaker encourages the listener to practice acceptance and gratitude, and to focus on actions that will advance their life. The speaker recommends taking a perfectionist quiz to assess the extent of the problem. The speaker promotes their newsletter and self-actualization videos as a means of improving one's life. The speaker acknowledges that this work is challenging, but stresses that the rewards of self-actualization are significant and well worth the effort.

Advice For High School & College Students - The Keys To Mastering Life https://youtu.be/apOBPsAHxYU The speaker is giving advice to high school and college students about how to master life The speaker has compiled a list of important principles based on their study of psychology, self-help, and success High school and college are the best time to build a foundation for a fulfilling life After this time period, people enter the workforce and have less energy and time to work on themselves If you invest in yourself early, you will see exponential growth in your life If you don't invest in yourself early, your results in life will be flat and shallow Most people don't experience high levels of satisfaction, fulfillment, and success because they didn't build a strong foundation in their younger years You have the potential to gain a lot or lose everything that you could gain in the future based on the actions you take now The speaker will share some of the principles they have compiled to help guide high school and college students on their path to success. Use study ethic to build work ethic Study for knowledge, not just grades Read nonfiction books Don't waste time in high school and college slacking off Build relationships and social skills Don't get caught in early life romance and waste time and energy Date around in high school and college to learn about different partners Have at least 2-5 partners before settling down in a serious relationship Don't sacrifice schoolwork and life purpose for a relationship Be independent and self-reliant Have a well-rounded life with a variety of interests and activities Don't focus all your energy on just one thing Learn about the world and people around you Don't be afraid to be wrong or make mistakes Learn from your failures Take risks and try new things Don't be afraid to be different or stand out Keep an open mind Don't be afraid to ask for help or advice Surround yourself with positive, supportive people Find a mentor or role model to guide you Set goals for yourself and work towards them Don't be afraid to change your plans or pivot if necessary Keep a positive attitude and always try to improve yourself Don't worry about what other people think or say about you Focus on your own growth and development Don't let fear hold you back Take care of your physical and mental health Debt, with the exception of college tuition loans, should be avoided College diploma does not guarantee success in the real world Employers care about results, emotional intelligence, quick learning, good work ethic, and street smarts University teaches how to learn and develops a love for lifelong learning Suggested subjects to learn in school/college: science (physics, biology, chemistry), philosophy, psychology, history, nutrition Recommended habit: read one self-help book per month Importance of networking and building relationships The value of internships and real-life experience Pursue passions and interests outside of school/college Exercise regularly and eat healthy Learn how to handle stress and manage time effectively

Avoiding Dysfunctional & Abusive Relationships - 30+ Red Flags https://youtu.be/WY9JqrmAI4Q Red flags to avoid in relationships: Substance abuse Asking to borrow money History of cheating, stealing, swindling, or arrests/jail time Lack of empathy Lack of communication Emotional manipulation Physical abuse Verbal abuse Lack of trust Insecurity and jealousy Lack of respect Lack of support and encouragement Lack of effort in the relationship Unhealthy boundaries Lack of commitment Lack of compromise Constant criticism Lack of appreciation and gratitude Lack of intimacy Lack of affection Lack of emotional connection Dishonesty Infidelity Disrespect for personal space and privacy Lack of transparency and accountability Lack of mutual understanding and respect Lack of shared values and goals Controlling behavior Gaslighting Neglect and abandonment Unreliability Lack of responsibility and dependability Lack of follow through on promises and commitments Lack of reliability and predictability Lack of consistency in words and actions Insecurity can manifest in a partner who tries to control or monitor their partner's relationships and activities Clinginess and being constantly on call can indicate insecurities within a partner A healthy, independent person will have their own life and schedule and will not be overly clingy or constantly on call If a partner demands to see you frequently and expects constant communication, it may indicate clinginess and codependency On the other hand, a partner who is too busy to see you at least once a week may not be prioritizing the relationship A partner who is unwilling to learn better communication skills can be a red flag for a problematic relationship A partner who refuses to work on issues in the relationship and address problems may not be committed to the relationship's success If a partner is constantly critical, it can be damaging to their partner's self-esteem and the relationship A partner who is not supportive or encouraging can also be a red flag for a problematic relationship A partner who is dishonest or lacks integrity can be damaging to the trust and health of the relationship Don't date someone who doesn't care about others' opinions and lacks empathy Watch out for verbal abuse and yelling in a relationship Be wary of a partner with a short temper or tendency to break things or throw objects If a partner threatens to leave the relationship, it is a red flag Avoid dating someone who is dishonest or constantly lies If a partner constantly puts you down or belittles you, it is a toxic relationship It is a red flag if a partner is overly controlling or possessive Pay attention to how a partner treats others, as it may be indicative of how they will treat you A partner who is not supportive of your goals and aspirations is not a healthy match If a partner is unwilling to compromise or work through problems in the relationship, it is a red flag Introduction to exercise for gaining wisdom from subconscious mind First step: fill in the blank for the following prompt: "The biggest thing I fear about leaving my partner is _______" Generate 10 answers quickly without overanalyzing Second step: fill in the blank for the following prompt: "If I took 100% responsibility for my relationship, I would _______" Generate 10 answers quickly without overanalyzing Third step: fill in the blank for the following prompt: "20 ways that I could create more sexual options are _______" Generate 20 ideas Reflection on answers and consideration of next steps for improving or ending the relationship Invitation to join newsletter and continue learning about self-actualization.

How To Deal With Criticism, Trolls, and Haters https://youtu.be/Pv9Cs3FB2vQ The point of dealing with criticism is to not take it seriously and to focus on your life purpose Critics are like crabs in a bucket, trying to pull you down An opinion does not change reality and is not worth taking seriously It's important to have a thick skin and not let criticism get to you Use criticism as an opportunity to improve and grow When dealing with trolls and haters, it's important to remember that they are often projecting their own insecurities and issues onto you The best way to deal with trolls and haters is to ignore them It's important to have a supportive network of friends and loved ones to help you through difficult times Remember that you are not alone and that others have faced similar challenges Lastly, focus on your own growth and progress rather than getting caught up in the negativity of others The idea that being infested with rats, worms, and being haunted by ghosts can be metaphorically used to describe being stagnant and not moving forward in life The importance of finding one's life purpose and values The idea that depending on the opinions of others, especially those in positions of power, can be limiting and make one feel like they have to constantly seek approval The need to take responsibility for one's own success and not rely on others or expect freebies The importance of restructuring one's life and being proactive in achieving success The idea that it is possible to change one's circumstances and that it is worth investing time and effort in personal growth and self-improvement Feedback is important and necessary for growth and success It is important to distinguish between constructive criticism (feedback) and criticism Ignoring criticism or thinking of it as "trolling" can prevent you from taking valuable feedback Receiving feedback requires courage and may require thinking in shades of gray rather than black and white This does not excuse being callous or abusive towards others It is also important to consider multiple perspectives and not be dogmatic in one's beliefs or actions.

Contemplating Your Own Death - To Stay Motivated For Life https://youtu.be/jK1EqqHIOqw Contemplating one's own death can be a way to stay motivated in life Death is a finality and there is no second chance in life Contemplating death can help put things in perspective and prevent wasting time on petty matters Examples of individuals who have used contemplation of death as a motivating force include Marcus Aurelius and the Buddha The Buddha's contemplation of death led to his enlightenment and the creation of various traditions Reflecting on the fact that life is miraculous can be a way to stay motivated Contemplating death can be a way to appreciate the present moment Thinking about death can also help with making big life decisions Contemplating death can also be a way to let go of fear and to find peace It is important to balance contemplation of death with living in the present and enjoying life The speaker is asking the listener to imagine going to sleep and never waking up The speaker notes that in deep sleep, the person is in a state of nothingness with no awareness or sensations The speaker encourages the listener to consider how much time they have left in their life and to imagine never waking up again The speaker notes that existence and experiencing the world is a miraculous and rich opportunity The speaker encourages the listener to live the best and most rich life they can, regardless of how long it is The speaker suggests that if the listener does this, they can die in peace and accept their fate The speaker will count to three and when they reach three, the listener will slowly wake up feeling refreshed and alert

How To Be Funny - Comprehensive Guide To Developing A Sense of Humor https://youtu.be/EsLCVXYqUns Introduction to the topic of humor and the purpose of the guide Importance of humor, including for attracting people and for socializing, sales and marketing, and personal happiness Personal backstory and experience with developing a sense of humor Theory on what humor is and how it works Examining your own psychology and identifying what may be holding you back from being more humorous Categories of humor and specific examples from the speaker's own life Three powerful exercises for drilling in the skills of humor The role of timing in humor The importance of not trying too hard to be funny How to handle a humorous situation that falls flat Conclusion and encouragement to continue practicing and developing a sense of humor. The importance of being goofy in order to be humorous The idea that everyone has a natural sense of humor, but society can stifle it The idea that being in a relaxed, playful, and approving social context can bring out one's natural sense of humor The question of why humans laugh and a theory that it releases tension The structure of humor: set-up and punchline The role of surprise in humor The idea that laughter is a social bonding mechanism The importance of context in humor The idea that humor can be used to challenge social norms and power dynamics Role playing can be funny because you're pretending to be someone or something and making others laugh Roles can involve playing pranks or walking around pretending to be someone else Self-deprecating humor involves making fun of oneself in a way that is funny to others Example of using self-deprecating humor to attract a stripper at a strip club Trick to using self-deprecating humor is to go over-the-top with it, to show confidence rather than insecurity Insult humor involves insulting others or oneself in a funny way Example of using insult humor to attract a stripper at a strip club Trick to using insult humor is to use it in a way that is not mean-spirited or aggressive Absurd humor involves saying or doing something that is ridiculous or doesn't make sense Example of using absurd humor to attract a stripper at a strip club Trick to using absurd humor is to go over-the-top with it and not take it too seriously Mention of using humor to "break expectations" in conversation Example of breaking expectations with a girl by making a joke about a bear attack Mention of physical humor, including making weird faces and using a foam stick as a makeshift phallus Explanation that the best humor is situational and spontaneous, not memorized or canned Suggestion to practice finding and expressing absurdity, ridiculousness, and breaking expectations Mention of not being afraid to offend or look silly in the pursuit of humor Discussion of timing and delivery in humorous interactions Advice to pay attention to reactions and adjust accordingly to find what works for an individual Mention of using self-deprecating humor as a way to disarm and connect with others Suggestion to observe and learn from successful comedians to improve sense of humor. 12-month program to become extremely humorous person in social circle Techniques and visualizations discussed are crass and basic, but effective Do not use canned lines, as they do not help develop real humor Goal is to develop skill and new attitude towards life, not to make others laugh or seek validation Importance of self-amusement and not hurting others with humor Importance of playfulness and not being uptight Being humorous is a powerful skill to have in life, especially for men Hard work is necessary to become humorous Do not waste time on canned lines Do not become a stand-up comedian or clown for others Express joy for life through humor Do not be concerned with others' reactions to humor It is possible to be self-amused while not hurting others

One Simple Rule For Acing Life https://youtu.be/ayEoiU5MOg4 The rule for acing life is to always do what is emotionally most difficult Most people do the opposite and look for the most emotionally convenient and easy thing to do This leads to a mediocre and frustrating life The rule applies to every aspect of life, including relationships, business, health, finances, mood, goals, and more The rule is counterintuitive and goes against the grain of what most people do in society People's minds are designed to pursue emotional security and comfort This mindset leads to a weaselly attitude and robs people of joy and amazing experiences It takes a lot of personal development work to become aware of this mindset and how it affects different aspects of life To truly embrace the rule and put it into practice, even more awareness and work is needed Sit down and do every assignment in a self-help program Admit wishful thinking in spiritual work Question culture Save money for retirement Use a condom Get a lab test done Build a solid business Don't do what friends and family are doing Stay mindful through anger Don't abuse power Follow the principle of doing emotionally difficult things to achieve extraordinary results in life Examples include self-help program assignments, admitting wishful thinking, questioning culture, saving money, using a condom, getting a lab test, building a solid business, not following friends and family, staying mindful through anger, and not abusing power Fast-food and high-end restaurants serve cheap food because they don't care about health and customers don't care about health Organic fast-food stores do not do as well as McDonald's Solution to achieving success is hard work and emotional labor, not magic solutions Transitioning to a self-actualized life starts off difficult but becomes refreshing Psychological self-mastery can be developed through consistent action and habit building This allows a person to construct the life they want and tap into joy and beauty The goal is to help more people tap into these qualities

Being A Spiritual Seeker, Good or Bad https://youtu.be/nCv416ofSGQ Being a spiritual seeker is a topic of confusion for many people There are two traps people fall into with spiritual seeking: Stereotyping spiritual seekers as desperate or sheep-like Dismissing the journey or dissuading others from seeking spirituality There are conflicting opinions on the value or difficulty of spiritual seeking: Some believe that seeking is unnecessary because enlightenment is already present Others claim that enlightenment is easy to achieve Some argue that enlightenment is an illusion and discussing it is counter-productive The speaker believes that being a spiritual seeker is a good thing To properly seek spirituality, the speaker suggests following three rules: Be honest with yourself about your motivations for seeking spirituality Keep an open mind and be willing to question your beliefs Take action and practice spiritual disciplines to move closer to enlightenment The Star Wars universe involves battles and fights The protagonist, Luke, goes through three episodes of this before confronting Vader and the Emperor Someone suggests that Luke should have just gone straight from Tatooine to confront Vader, but this ignores the hero's journey Luke needs to gain insights, skills, techniques, friends, and enemies in order to be ready to face Vader The hero's journey involves overcoming personal challenges and realizing one's own fears and obstacles Spiritual seeking can help with this, but it is important not to get lost and make an identity out of it Three rules for becoming a spiritual seeker: expect the journey to be a cycle, don't try to escape reality, and don't try to change the world The goal is inner realization, not changing circumstances or achieving a certain status The journey may involve seeking out new experiences and teachers, but ultimately it is about returning home and finding enlightenment within oneself It is important to be authentic and genuine in spiritual seeking, rather than seeking validation or recognition from others The journey may involve facing difficult emotions and challenges, but it is ultimately rewarding and worth it