Natasha Tori Maru

You said it. Agree I can tell you half that game is knowing your man. Having a strong emotional connection. And during sex, being in such a pure state of absolute being you are no longer a person. Nothing defines you but the experience of floating in sensation. No hangups. No worries. Only the language of touch as your being is lost and the walls of yourself are broken down. A smart woman will be able to read and understand that emotional connection and translate it into a physical act. It's not about a position, or liking certain things - as you say. That mentally ill sex is all about treating the experience like it's the end of the world and all you have left is the moment with this person. You drown in their eyes, swim in their smell. And crawl into that nook in the man's armpit after 😜 Yeah books ay, I was raised weird. Sex was so baked in. Certain rooms of the house were off limits as kids. It was made clear sex is part of life and we knew about our parents needs. I mean I was told not to put a man's cock in a jar under the sink, metaphorically speaking. Also sex education was from the men to girls, as well as women. Really helps with perspective regarding genders.

This is a WOOSH for a lot of women. I had a radical upbringing regarding openness and sex. It was baked in that I should get good at sex. I was given books on the topic when young, and taught this was a man's love language. You have to communicate love to the person in their language. These teachings were from men and women in my life, which really emphasised boundaries and balance

I feel the same about Leo's statement. I'm chopping veggies for dinner last night having my brain turned inside out by it.

Slammed with the cinderblock. Men attend to truth very seriously as application is (generally) the ultimate priority. I would say you are an anomaly in that you persue it for its own sake. Intrinsic feedback loop. But do you think there could be some more to say about the realms of truth each gender enjoys to swim in? IE a woman may pay attention to emotional truth as a function of communal survival. The truth of their children's emotions, their health (a truth many men ignore) etc. I say this acknowledging that the truth of emotion and it's functions are somewhat less concrete and harder to quantify.

Yes but it's crucial to be able to bring coherence to the enhanced energy. You need to learn to control, to use, to experience & understand these energies you are touching. Otherwise you won't find the truth of it. And you need to find the basic constituents of it to integrate it into your being. Keep doing that and enhance your level of consciousness and knowledge 😊

What am I reading. Eyes bleeding while I relax, drinking morning coffee. People don't care about truth. Keep your gender wars out of it. Most men, especially younger, have such a charged up sexual cock energy. This gets in the way of your truth just as much as a woman's emotions get in the way of hers. Just because you as a man can handle the truth better than a woman, doesn't mean it's more important to men. Men just absorb it and take it on with efficiency and (you would hope) grace. Courage under pressure.

Yeah, good tapestry of words running to form a progression of images in that rap

Hmm indeed I agree. Thank you for the insight. Most especially because I have experienced a very, very different perspective on life. And no matter how much I attempt to cerebralize it, or empathise, there are assumptions I make based on my experience I have trouble escaping. I hope to always help others with my altered perspective. Dissecting gender, sexuality is a big one for me. More vivisection required. Let just hope I'm still human by the end

Agree to disagree - but I have no idea how you took this away from it. She had a lot of shit to say most women wouldn't want to hear. Already expressed my opinion regarding Orion.

"The harsh realities of Mating" Listened to the whole thing. I mean - what to say? There was so much covered in that interview. Is it controversial to agree with it? Because it doesn't appear to me to be controversial. It's just what it is. Sadia knows men. They really got down to the core of typical sexual and mating dynamics between men & women. She was like a fucken gatling gun firing off. Really great link - cheers for that

Like a brick to the FACE it resonates. Agree

You are quite right - my problem is I lack the ability to discern the qualities I seek. It is not so much they aren't present, but I fail to see the signs. Or, others aren't as interested in exploring spirituality cohesively. But I know this must not be the case, as there are groups abound. I think finding someone I truly see eye-to-eye with is mostly the issue

It sort of went like : ego death/realisation elevated consciousness more ego death/realisation more elevated consciousness - Oh wait I am more content with bad state of life more ego death/realisation more elevated consciousness more ego death/realisation more elevated consciousness - oh wait, some peace now more ego death/realisation more elevated consciousness - oh what, now I am happy a lot despite bad stuff Whenever there was a realisation, a layer of my own lies to myself was removed. Deconstruction. Somewhere in that cycle, if you do it right, you pop your head out of reality into an awakening. And now in general I am a pretty happy person. I don't have a lot. But I value everything and appreciate all I have very deeply. I have so much gratitude to be alive. The cool, crisp air in my lungs, the stupid rock in my god damn shoe. Picking up my dogs shit. That's not to say I don't have human consternation, I do. But as the above, endless, infinite cycle, repeats - it gets easier. The endless spiral. The snake eating itself.

@Emerald I admire your optimism - really inspiring. Do you think you see more of the smaller % of the population of women who are into this work? It could make your view skewed more to believing there are more of us out there. I feel very isolated. When my colleagues / existing family ask me what I did on the weekend and I reply 'meditated, float tank, consciousness work, mindfulness, dog' etc the conversation DIES. I just don't really talk much to others as this topic kills the conversation. My grandfather raised me, and the family members who heavily lead me to spirituality are gone now. I feel very different being raised with no TV in an artist's studio with buddha heads, human skulls, religious icons, ganesh statues etc. Probably the turpentine fumes made me existentially depressed from a young age haha! Spiritual groups just never work for me. I never find pragmatic individuals, who are also able to maintain elevated states of consciousness, in a healthy way to facilitate exploration. Not that I can do this all the time, but I am a lot happier and content and powerful within myself than most. The questions I ask of reality - most people don't get. They can't manage the material nature of existence and hold space for consciousness work.

@CARDOZZO Man it's just... it's deflating. I dunno how the other girls feel, but its like a knife to my heart when I see what men go through. The divide in understanding is like an ocean between continents. I lot of the issues with men being pilled can be dealt with by socialisation - which is essentially approaching as per Leo's advice. But my take is focused on boundaries and how you handle this as a man. How it relates to attraction. I have some controversial opinions (come at me with the pitchforks) but I feel like the fracture of the family system and parents divorcing really messes up men (women too). Typically, young boys end up with just the mother as a parent. This can go sideways as mothers can teach boys to tip-toe around women's feelings. The masculine parent is there to show the children boundaries. What they should and shouldn't tolerate. When to take action. That they need to not fear women, to know their boundaries and call it when women behave poorly (and they do, they can emotionally savage a guy, leading to the guy pretzelling himself into what they want, betraying his boundaries). If you add in a nice dash of scarcity mindset - that fear of losing a women is further inhibiting men, now your fucken TERRIFIED of calling out anything with women. You self cuck. Modern feminism is also to blame - the backlash is a lot of men feel like their dicks are in a vice. Fearing to stand up for themselves in a healthy, holistic and self sovereign & respectful way. Feminism has been great, we all benefit from it, but the fallout is men losing their traditional identities (women too, another topic). Men and women are still working out this new identity shitfight. Back to boundaries. So you, as a man, give EVERYTHING to a women. You violate your own boundaries. And the women senses this imbalance. She senses some power over you - there is a loss of respect. Out the door with respect, in comes disrespect leading to contempt. Then any sort of connection goes down the toilet. She wants to know you are someone not to be messed with, that she can't smash your boundaries down. Its not about controlling her, its about teaching others what you will and won't tolerate. This communicates POWER. This is attractive. Lovely female moths to a flame. You can have charisma and game. That's the fun attraction phase. But you have to drop that when you show a person your truth. As a woman to a man, my advice is: know yourself. Know your boundaries - TEACH others how to treat you. Unfortunately, you have to school others in what you will tolerate and what you won't. This is a healthy structure of truth in a relationship that can open the doorway to intimacy, trust, and prolonged sexual attraction. Your boundaries are your personal truth. If you don't do this, some dick is gonna come along and walk all over you. This rap on boundaries and how they are about YOU, is where people get messed up. They think they need to be a jerk to attract women. No. Its being kind, but firm. Not nice, kind. Big difference. No fear. You know who you are and what you want. That's admirable. That's why, again, Leo raps on life purpose and focusing on that. Attraction is the by-product. You aren't going to approach women - LIFE - even, with a scarcity mindset, if you get this right. I like to help men (my whole reason for being on this forum is to help), but you are correct @CARDOZZO in that I feel I am limited in assistance due to being too a-typical. As a women, that is. I don't think I addressed the OP so well, but this is my take on the patterns I see. There are tons more but I have to go back to work now ... lol

Did you like my little measurement span to show infinity? I used my swanky construction software LOL

Fuck, yeah, I know what you mean. I understand the pedestal comment better now. You are juggling someone else's complex value system. Sex is never the only thing valued, there are multiple values that rise and fall. This contributes to someone's sense of well-being, balance. So I guess you would want to be a pro at assessing a woman's values and checking for a reasonable match (if chasing a relationship). Or, pretzelling yourself into something she will value to access sex (if just looking for a root, bit deceptive). But in the latter case, if she is also looking for JUST a root, you can be pretty confident sex as her value will trump almost anything else.

Or loyal to the man she just respects flat out. Contempt is the poison of relationships, and with its entrance, respect leaves the building. Gonna listen to the video linked on break to get into it. Define 'Pedestal' in this dynamic, you may mean something else.

@Hojo Just reminding you I was making a joke - it was you who escalated into serious territory. Which is why I know it kicked the feet out from under you.

When you think on your thought process, do you understand things better conceptually or in concrete facts? Because the Africa example is a conceptual example. If you are more concrete in understanding it will be more difficult to understand the double slit experiment, as it is counter intuitive.

That conversation got you really bent out of shape, didn't it? Sometimes I apply body paint and just boot around in my apartment and don't leave. No images needed. But here I am breaking your brain again...

Hello, greetings, I am here to destroy your paradigm.

For myself I just cannot be stuffed with the attraction and dating phase of relationships. People have depth to me, but I have to guess if there is a pothole of verticle ocean hidden in what appears to be a shallow puddle. Can I be stuffed toeing the puddle to check for depth? At the moment, no way man

This phrasing, I trip and fall through its logical conclusion. For this statement to be true, this Leo must consider himself non-human. Dive in internally, only to break ones neck on the shallow puddle 🙃 Replacing the word 'human' with 'human relationships' would serve to lacerate out the subject without the extrapolation. But in any event, I think you have a berometer for a type of intelligence you haven't ever seen in a woman's body. One scale of intelligence is relevant only.