Natasha Tori Maru

Social media and group think. It's just people subscribing to some system. 1) It's a value system, the hilarious part is everyone values things differently. So 1-10 scales aren't even comparable between people. 🙃 2) External beauty is subjective. 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' cliche 3) Its more junk and concepts to feed thought and mind, taking them the opposite direction of consciousness. 4) If they dedicated the same serious amount of time contemplating existential matters as arbitrary sexual objective rating scales, it probably would have been discarded. I suppose it works for those that use it. But imo, it's just more junk thoughts you don't need in your head, that are going to rob you of BEING in the moment. Stealing your own presence and attractiveness to those around you.

Yeah this makes me fucken' CACKLE. One of my brothers is obsessed with it. Talks to it and about his AI companion like it is real. People are so starved of intimacy these days they are latching onto the teat of anything that will give them a drop of the sweet stuff. Modern society, instant delivery, social media, the internet... the great wedge that facilitates isolation. Humans, perpetually creating problems, then solutions to problems we create. Ad infinitum.

I knew I was speaking directly to someone here! YOU! You might also appreciate: 'new sock feel' + 'contemplate' <3

I care for my dying grandmother. I work a full time, demanding and stressful job managing construction sites - not just any construction sites either. State & Federal work in science and medicine. Mental health lockdown wards, entire pathology departments, ICU airlock isolation rooms. MRI rooms. Synchrotron work. The real deal where you ensure 100% and standards are the strictest in the field. Angry fuckers constantly. Deadlines, lead times, logistics, inclement weather, budgets blowing out etc you get the picture. I have a dog, I run 8kms 3x a week. I cook all my own meals from scratch (and the dogs). I weight train. I read books, I spend time with my family (oldest of 5 siblings). I babysit for my nephew. I still practice art & I meditate 30 minutes, twice a day. I live alone and pay my way, keep my shit in order and clean. 8 hours sleep - no negotiation. No processed food. Water. Tea. (gotta admit coffee is my shithead mode) I don't think about what I want to get out of life. I don't think about whether something will work out. I don't worry about what 'to do'. Life has endless things to do, I just pick one. I don't really think on if I 'dislike' a task. That will stop me doing it. I have preference for different tasks. But I don't dislike anything. Even cleaning up dogshit. As soon as I engage a thought or emotion about a task, I stop it by moving to act on it. If I cannot act on it in the moment, I plan the steps and see myself doing it. I go into full imaginary mode so intensely the feeling of accomplishment and the thoughts are as if I have done it. So when the time comes, all I do is the act and can sever all thought, If you don't take action in life, life is going to take action on you - and you aren't going to like it. You just go in and do your best to influence things correctly. Who knows what the fuck is gonna' happen? You are here, alive. You are already committed - you can't try to half arse it with one toe in wondering how the rest of the ocean is. And when you do all this shit, you simply laugh at the absurdity of it all - because your questions could be true. This is probably an illusion. A game. A play. When you are laughing at these bizarre emotional reactions and negative experiences and mistakes - this is when you know you are doing it right. You walk around perceiving all this, experiencing. You acknowledge yourself moving in life with spiritual/conceptual cataracts over your iris, because you never see anything correctly anyway. Everything you do in reality, in the physical realm, brings you closer to your 'being' state. You seem to already have mastered this thinking shit. That contemplation with the 'being' state is where you need to move to. That's where you remove all the unnecessary stuff and empty. Empty it all out. You are way too full at this present time. This mind thing you are doing - you have to get to the point you realise you are DOING it. You are paralyzing yourself with concepts. You are doing this. Engage. This is the only advice I have.

I also think I must be misundersting this: The 'your' is catching me, if thought of in the absolute. Every deconstructive process I have engaged in has revealed nothing left but pure being. Pure consciousness. Perception was an overlay obscuring the truth. I am 'doing' perception. When I get to this part of contemplation, when I know I am the doer, I know I can stop. So I do. Then, being. Then, empty. I have always found fault in perception, just as, ironically, could be the case here - in trying to perceive the above statement 😆😅

I do not set any length. There is no end. I walk the dog, I contemplate. I fold the laundry, I contemplate. I document the jobsites, I contemplate. I order doors, contemplate. Write an email to the architect, contemplate. Rub my freshly showered feet in the clean sheets, contemplate. Sit in the darkness waiting for sleep, contemplate. Walk the streets in the rain, contemplate. Shit, contemplate. There are endless subjects that arise to contemplate as a result of all these quotidian life tasks. The mistake is stopping your life to contemplate, removing the physical. Being physical during the process brings being to the concept, until I have warn both concept and myself down, like a knife being sharpened on a rock. Both my being and the practice are eroded. Warn down to dissolution, but sharpened also. Truth is in this space. If you are genuinely curious, it will happen in perpetuity.

However, you will find, that getting back to the 'not knowing' state is virtually impossible. Your survival methods are like a reflex you cannot control. Like your heart beating.

This is describing infancy - 'not knowing' >>> Growing to adult - 'knowing'. As elements of existence come into awareness, we form beliefs and understanding so we can learn to survive. What works for us. Belief, and thinking you understand, lead to no further questions being asked. This can blind you to the real truth, as these beliefs you form as a result of survival serve to function as a method for survival. Thinking you know, means you won't look into what you believe - you filter out the truth - hence the 'computer interface' of belief.

Perhaps you engaged in this long format contemplation with the users here to lead you to this book. Because I have just finished it. It has many of the answers you are seeking - I highly recommend it

Nah. You're just plain wrong with your statement. Here, I changed your statement to remove the errors. No healthy individual takes pleasure in rejecting others. You are projecting the pain of rejection onto the person just expressing their bias. Which they are entitled to.

@Joshe +1 Over intellectualising kills chemistry, connection and clarity in the moment. Wise advice

This was a phase I went through 10 or so years back. I don't have much advice, but I was severe on myself 😈 I confined myself to a room, no phone. No music. Nothing to distract but me and the book. The trick is being fantastic at deceiving yourself! I convinced myself outside that room was a radioactive wasteland. If I went out - instant rip. It was some strange method of forced focus. I got so good at pretending, it also had a strange fallout effect of enhancing my ability to identify delusions. Especially romantic ones, I fall prey to those little fantasies 😬 It took 3 months of that nonsense behaviour to make my brain crave the linear process of a book.

I CAN'T STOP LAUGHING WHAT THE FUCK IS EVEN GOING ON HERE 🤣

Draw some stick figure illustrations on flash cards and hold them up, analogue creativity 😏 I'm picturing busted positions that would result in broken arms in real life, and you snickering in the background

100%

You've got some telepathic feed into the smut of the forum 😅 direct tap-in lol

I think this video from Teal Swan encapsulates this idea very well. I think if a man can supply 'containment' as she coins it, it's a good foundation for exploring sex that can surpass just penis in vagina:

Stinks of virtue signaling - if you were serious with your accusation and not looking to simply slander and undermine @Princess Arabia, you would have simply PM'd the mods. Or Leo. But you chose to publicly announce this. Your intent was to discredit her and damage her reputationally with this statement. I do not know the full extent of what Preety India did, but I suggest conducting yourself with more respect if you suspect someone as her. @Princess Arabia There is a lot of projection on this forum toward strong, self-assured women. I have been accused of being Preety India, also. If you don't package what you are saying in a nice little bow covered wrapping, users get bent out of shape. Expecting agreeableness from women. I speak up to back you as I think this is a problem.

I know (⁠o⁠´⁠･⁠_⁠･⁠)⁠っ I wanted to transcend suffering for years. It never worked. Only lead me to want to an hero. It got better for me

Could be resistance acts to enhance the suffering. Surrender was a big one for me to learn.

I have found this to be very true in my experience. Show a man that he can remove the stress of a hard workday by jumping into pure emotion in the moment. Always found positive engagement to follow. It did always feel like men engaged with their own emotions through my own flamboyant expression (I am very expressive facially and I talk with my hands and body). Having said that, it doesn't work if one has predominantly negative emotions. But if i can bring real raw emotive communication to the bedroom it creates a thunderous experience 😁 Words don't seem as powerful in this setting, but the best sex I have had is when raw emotion was the communication between me and the man. Words were only useful when I was cracking a joke, and laughing in the moment is damn bliss ! I think a lot of it comes down to subconsciously communicating to the man 'you make me feel safe enough to engage in the moment, fully. You hold space for me' Reinforcing he is providing as best he can and is powerful for her presence.

No one buys this. Derisive sarcasm is your weapon of choice. Loving responses mean everything. It's how you should be approaching others. Not sure how this is lost on you. You aren't keeping it real. You are being contemptuous of OP. And you are wrong. Others here do care, and are assisting with advice.

Damn, OP was super vulnerable. Not a loving response

@OBEler This is quite beautiful, and I hope it was beneficial for her. Do you think it resulted in a more balanced approach, or has she been acclimating to this new realisation? I recall being very destabilized. I have had enlightenment experiences and integration through the masculine path. Prior to developing the feminine. It was quite inversed for me I have been present at the feminine birthing process many times. I bring this up as there is experience there that is quite additive to the embodiment of love. A strong teaching experience that we only fail when we don't love enough. I new state and experience - body - for God to inhabit, is brought forth. Infinite Love is there, in that moment. This feminine axis relies on integrating a state of being by immersing in pure feeling, experience, emotion. Love. The masculine required a lot of understanding to integrate. A heady, disembodied feeling. The feminine relies less on cerebral energy. Keen to hear what your girlfriends thoughts are

I am with you there. I am on this forum, a follower, due to always being hinged toward a masculine approach. I have followed Leo since his initial videos, I just chose to lurk and immerse myself in process for many years. It is in the latter portion of my spiritual path that I have delved into the feminine approach. Having more experience of both, I find much more peace overwhelming me. I am able to love others even in conflict. And while I cannot always do this (especially when charged up in emotion myself!) I am closer to this experience on a daily basis.