Natasha Tori Maru

@Willy Phallicus you speak of possibilites of where empathy or compassion can lead. This does not automatically lead to condoning pedophilia. There's a moral leap there that isn't assured. You can understand and empathise with something and not condone it. If one cannot understand this, it typically points to poor/unclear boundaries. 'I can understand and have compassion for your troubles with addiction. But I cannot have it in my life.' - this is an example of empathy for an addict, who hurts themselves and those around them. But making it clear it will not be tolerated, allowed or approved of, and it is wrong.

My experience also.

I think you are correct. I think its both! Men are socialized not to express the full spectrum of emotions. Which leads to any emotion being labelled or expressed as anger. Yet they face disapproval for expressing the anger emotion/feeling, due to this being labelled a hazard. It effectively stifles men, which can lead to suppressed anger and depression/nihilism. Not all men are effected the same way. These are just general patterns. Appreciate your experience and perspective also

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Fucken Leo, sure knows how to pick em'

It has nothing to do with gender or sex.

I realise I probably need to make an exception regarding my experience and not comment sometimes 🥹😅 Your point regarding people pleasing? 🎯 It links to the big 5 'agreeableness' trait. A trait that females show a trend of being high in. Data backs you. The issue is women internalise this shit and it turns into resentment!

Anger is a powerful emotion that compels us to action. When it is not allowed, or suppressed - it turns into depression and immobilisation. I don't want to make this a gender war - but men are NOT allowed to express anger in the way women are. And it's sad. Men get castigated for being angry by society.... I think suppressed anger causes a lot of the depression, hopelessness and nihilism in young men. Emotions need to be allowed to pass through. Suppress them and you end up in a bad place...

I didn't, and have never experienced what OP describes. In any relationship, let alone first.

I do not understand. What is your argument that one having compassion for a pedophile's experience condones pedophilia? One sentence.

It is one thing to say we need to be more conscious of what behaviour points to a potentially bad mate. And another to blame the victim. The line of responsibility needs to be expounded upon clearer imo. Because women & men are responsible for actions they take. But the consequences and outcomes aren't guaranteed or deserved (in this case, abuse isn't guaranteed when someone appears Machiavellian/dark triad). Moreover, men also pick toxic women. Beauty blinds us to red flags. Like women, men need to become aware of their bias to avoid abuse from women. Both sexes do the same thing in different domains. If you read my post carefully, I am not disagreeing with the argument in question. Merely pointing out the wordying could be cleaner. One doesn't need to reduce their own integrity in this way, as it isn't the only way to attract women. In fact - you will avoid attracting a women with attachment issues and pathologies if you do avoid this. Not saying there aren't a subset of women who are attracted to dark triad traits.

Hahahaha 🤣 I can manage the ears. Possibly an inked on nose with eyeliner. Whiskers. T-Rex arms. But the tail? Fuck. Those tails... Like hauling a dump truck of thicccc

Regardless of women and what they are attracted to, the point around phrasing/clarity I raised still stands.

For men only? 🥹🥹🥹🥹

Legitimise what?

I made a comment here that overlaps with some of what you speak of (just to contribute to discussion):

Indeed - I supposed the mentally healthy + mature & stable clause would screen those on anti-psyches or SSRIs. ADHD meds are a common one. Anti-anxiety meds too. Intake forms usually have you disclose what medications you are on, and also list medical conditions. I'd assume that's SOP for this sort of thing. Although, considering the pioneering nature of this retreat... there probably is no SOP 🙃 just identifying hazards prior to risk management.

Are there known contraindications for this substance? I am assuming it has some research and history. I suppose even answering may give clues you do not wish to give. Clashes with chemicals can be deadly.

Fuck man, I admire the diligence - Truly! You could also try it with just glucose. True scientist I gotta say, you were the main inspiration for me purchasing a quality air monitor. There was smoke haze over Melbourne 2 days ago, my eyes went bloodshot. Nose sniffling, lungs hurting and slight headache. The haze was barely perceptible to the senses. But my air monitor was pinging alerts, indicating the air quality was 'very high' in pollutants. I am not as diligent/anxious as yourself with this stuff, I just do what I can - but it made me think about China and India. They have some of the worst air quality on earth....

I can understand that - but think about all the rest of the pure SHIT in coke. These chemicals, excluding sugar, could possibly be contributing.

@Miguel1 you're talking averages and generalities, different contexts - I'm just saying right person for right role. Honestly, it isn't so exceptional. I understand you are expounding upon the general orientation of the masculine/feminine. It's probably worth it to note, my examples are from women in professional spheres working in construction - namely, project management. I don't listen to online rhetoric and algorythm slop. I speak from my professional career experience. It is around a 60/40 split in favour of men in the project management or a superintendent role. Both sexes are equally competent and really enjoy their roles with long careers. I notice women in these roles who do well are 40 +. I've never ever had any issues leading men. All I do is broadcast my competence, aptitude and willingness to take responsibility and they are onside 100%. I only have commercial experience in state / government projects. There is a strong push for women in leadership roles. This alone could skew the numbers and present bias in my professional dataset I present these thoughts from. I have yet to see a woman in a role that didn't appear to fit her skillset and aptitude. I do think I am an anomaly (but not just for my leadership position and enjoyment, for other qualities) - I've never met another female construction estimator or construction manager/contracts administrator (I wear a few hats). Lots of superintendents and clients, though. They are out there. I don't feel I am more 'masculine'. I feel I have very good balance. HOWEVER - I know how to make room for a man in my life. In romantic relationships, I personally feel women need to stop pushing men away and learn to relax. Learn to bloody make room! This boss bitch 'I don't need no man' shit needs to fckn go. Let the dude HANDLE IT with the testicle This is what I mean by having balanced feminine/masculine. A strong/balanced woman can make room for her man to be a man!

I don't think there are any shoulds for men to lead society - I think it's about best person for the role. Man or woman. As long as they are competent and the best person for the role.

Hoes need to keep the other hoes in check 😈 Always been my take. For a man to try to keep a woman in check in modern society he risks being shredded by feminists. I've always been a strong proponent of women keeping each other in check. A crazy violent woman being checked by another woman is much more acceptable than a man doing it. It is just a shame so many women are terrified of correcting each other. They don't want to appear to betray the sisterhood (so to speak). I've always naturally performed this role. But it takes a lot of responsibility and wisdom to do it right. I have to make it clear I am FOR women, but this particular woman needs the steel heel 👠

'Experiments in testing the limits of bias' I say go for it - everyone's sexuality expresses itself differently. Who are we to judge? Provided there are no violations of consent - woohoo

I reckon your probably already excellent at reading subtle queues, body language and expression as well! All good - text has no tone. I bet if the prior post was said face to face the playful lightheartedness would be obvious 😁