Natasha Tori Maru

Ah yes, sorry for the confusion. If you perused the dialogue that followed between Miguel1& I, I did backtrack. I was hasty. Terminal health cases where quality of life is non-existent are a good example of a case for suicide. I sensed the desire for the OP to harm themselves, so I was mainly acting out in an attempt to protect themselves from a terrible mistake

Nailed it. You have isolated the systematic root of the issue here. It also needs to be acknowledged just how much of an honour and privilege it is to be in a position to devote time to epistemology & spirituality. +1 for gratitude ALSO WTF AVATAR CHANGE, WHY YOU GOTTA MESS WITH MY PERCEPTION LIKE THAT?

Hell yeah 😁

I'm pleased my comment forced some contemplation. You should be questioning these beliefs. B - E - L - I - E - F - S Trying to surgically cerebralise love is further castratring yourself from understanding. Being is the way.

Father a daughter Leo. You will be exposed to more truth than any substance or contemplation can ever get you. There is Love you have not realized, a state you have never reached. No human survival mechanism can taint. A love you cannot conceptualize. Cannot intellectually dissect. A love no substance or thought can show you. There is More.

It breaks my heart to read what the men here write. All their current values - when time has ravaged them to a husk of themselves - will be erased. Age my friends, age. It will get you, and it will change you.

Always with the smut, he loves the dirt You are way too reductionary with this, when there are nuances and higher values that come into play with higher consciousness states. Love can override fucking. Love will make you into Eunuch mode, if the calling is strong enough. I perceive you as constantly communicating: 'I will dump any woman for anything better that comes along'

You can say c'est la vie Leo, but you probably wouldn't be thinking this way if social media, the internet & online dating weren't a thing. Comparison is the thief of joy. Is your truth hinging on these things being present in society? If societies frame is removed, is the game the same?

Enjoyed this post. I think the adaptive response element, as a product of the friction of the exercise, is a key variable I have really been paying attention to. For myself, as I have aged, I really have to precisely assess and keep an eye on my own bodies adaptive response becoming slower. I also perceive additional fatigue, as more of my energy is devoted to the recovery process. The energy drain of an exercise I do now causes mental and physical fatigue far greater than when I was in my 20s. It is a fine balance assessing the benefits of the exercise vs cons, when recovery and functionality are variables with age (on top of nutrition/sleep etc). Age was never anything to even think on previously for me. Now I am consistently assessing this process more than ever.

The possibility exists the women bought into some of the 'women in power/bossbitch etc' narrative, explored that and decided it wasn't for them. And in-so doing, learned more about themselves, and decided she took no pleasure in wanton sex, when no meaning (for her) was involved. It still leads to the withholding mechanism you highlight, but with less of the angle of intentional power play or gating. Could be a boundary discovered. However, this would not be the case if the behaviour is the narrative of the relationship. As typically, I would say as a women becomes more emotionally involved, sex becomes more frequent. None of this implies I disagree.

@Joshe I appreciate the insight! I think your description actually fits better. I have a feeling societys conditioning on women has pushed me towards care for feeling a lot. But I am very results driven. Hey - I mean, I build hospitals for a living! The building is the result I picture in my mind constantly. And yep patterns jump out at me, I don't even look for it. Interesting it is rare, but does nothing for my ego. I do enjoy the analysis more as tool to know how I process information and make decisions. And for awareness of the flaws in the process! Makes me think why the hell intuitition developed as a survival tool, since sensing seems more valuable there ? Cheers 🥂

Hahaha CORNERED

Oh my gosh - she is like a different person. Maybe Aubrey is now seeking the energy Vylana used to embody, in the new bird, and he isn't self aware enough to recognize it? These 2 girls are total babes, it's quite distracting. Aubrey doesn't do anything for me

We use the boxing gloves here now, rather than the brass knuckles?

Ah! I would say I am quite different in real life. Definitely an introvert. I will try to illustrate what comes naturally, if you would like to give me your insight. Beware this is going to be a somewhat unstructured stream of consciousness. I have always been heavy with Ni use. I am familiar with the dreaded Ni-Ti loop, which I have much difficultly with. I have a lot of thought recursion I have become aware of since establishing a serious meditation practice. To break these Ni-Ti loops I typically do something physical (movement, music, food etc) or seek contact with people. These 2 things ground me out of the loop. It is really seeking a change of state. Many times I do not know what is good for me, thinking I can brutally think my way out of bad emotions or problems. At baseline I thrive, and I am energized most, with intellectual conversation. I don't care about being correct, but I love hashing out ideas and theories. Theory and concepts, abstraction. Pattern recognition comes naturally to me. I love to collect information & facts over the long term to build a system I can use to understand other systems. I do this so I can expand my own understanding. I am consistently taken aback when others are unable to see the patterns in their lives they repeat. It might also help to know I skipped 2 grades in mathematics and was placed in accelerated learning classes in school. I will immediately look for the meaning behind any situation or concept. It took me a very, very long time to establish habits round looking after myself. I neglected the quotidian elements of life and was stuck up my own arse in fantasy and sci-fi during my formative years. I am terrible at birthdays, traditions. Bad at making people feel welcome and looking after others in a nurturing way. All learned traits. I really like harmony in my relationships - it grinds my gears when others show no compassion or invalidate others. Having said that, I do often disregard others feelings when I am delivering knowledge I think they need to grow. I have been told I can be harsh by being too candid. But I do observe others intensely and try to tailor my advice to how I think they will best receive it. My overall driving aim in life is to help others around me grow by looking at patterns they loop through. I am also intensely creative and artistic. Dance, painting, drawing etc. I am future oriented. I do not dwell on the past. I do not tend toward nostalgia. Its either now or next. I look at the past as a way to see into the future, to extract the pattern. I am not the sort to typically regret or beat myself up regarding mistakes. I just don't ever think about the past at all, come to think on it. In terms of emotions and how I feel to about people, myself and situations - I struggle to know what is going on internally in that realm a lot. Often, I won't really be aware of how I feel about something until well after the event itself. I need to stop and assess what is going on internally to understand it. Does this help? It is interesting to note I may be defaulting to INFJ on tests due to conditioning society places on the sexes. Also - yes I work in construction, in a variety of roles (estimating, contract administration, but mostly project management). I like the moving, multivariable system.

This is purely from my anecdotal experience - but the man that I was in a poly relationship with maintained a lot of desire and sexual chemistry with the women by engaging their emotions continually. In a positive way, considerate, passionate and thoroughly engaged + attentive. No negativity or manipulation. To my experience, many men aren't so open to engaging emotions for a prolonged and deep period. Emotions tend to be something that remains hidden, like a vast ocean belied by a calm surface. Often, they come out to smack one in the face in a moment of insight. Operating in the background only to be revealed in a moment of vulnerability. Being emotionally open is often a weakness, or can be seen as such, in terms of survival. This is just in general, as there are many outliers. Women on the other hand? Speaking for myself, I am a basket case

You have a good understanding of the cognitive functions - respect! This test gave me INTJ - normally I type INFJ I can only think I might be answering in a non-authentic way, since I have been scheduling & planning 2 large construction projects all day

Shit someone delete that juju - the website went mental and posted a link that told me it failed to embed. Ghost in the machine

Does your client value time over money? If it were me, I would bill the client the same. I would take is as a learning process to reassess my own efficiency for future work. Your value has increased as a contractor

Does your client value time over money? https://youtu.be/jE53O1PzmNU?si=Br9MMrHFDMId5IkI

Would need good, concrete clear resources and definitions of the Jungian cognitive functions to start with. MBTI is like the surface of the iceberg - the juicy guts (cognitive functions) are under the waters surface 🧩

Get outta here you big Fe ENFJ harmony driven feel good bastard! 😜❤️

The emotional labour the guy needs to be ready for - I couldn't. I have no idea how some men have the capacity for it. Some men are wired that way though. My ex being one. If the women can seperate emotional needs from carnal ones it is much easier. But typically for women the 2 are interlocked.

Backing up that anyone very interested in MBTI should look at the cognitive functions that the system is based on. The framework isn't I vs E, N vs S etc. it is based on the functions behind each type. INFJ vs INTJ has totally different functions, and is very difficult to get mixed up. The online tests aren't so accurate. You are better off looking at and researching each function (Ne, Ni, Ti, Fi etc) and deducing which you naturally use. One description will jump out to you. Some will sound bonkers. MBTI is a simplified version of the functions. Online tests for myself often reveal INTP, but I think the official ones (I have taken, paid) revealing INFJ and the function descriptions are more accurate.

Many of us always here to listen <3 There is a reason for your choice of username !!!