Natasha Tori Maru

Couple more tips: Plunger. Emergency electricity/plumbing contacts. And a locksmith. Locksmith is a big one - it is the easiest way to scam the living daylights out of people. Think about it, if you need an emergency locksmith you are in a desperate position of great disadvantage. Find one local that is actually legit. Many online will charge you upwards of $1000 (for about 2 minutes work) by adding fees on to their initial callout quoted through the phone. The scammy motherfuckers know exactly what they are doing and will rip you off in a surgical manner. Last tip - give someone your emergency key, or have a coded padlock with a chamber nearby. You need to have a plan in place for when you are inevitably in this position!

Haha! Well, what a perfect example right here He has seen through my intellectualization - right to the truth !!

@MuadDib You fucken SAID IT. Really good breakdown - and I do agree regarding just how much mental acuity it requires to do well. I do need a lot of recharge time to load up the brain-gun again, so to speak. It's also a BIG dopamine hit. If I know I've hit the mark its literally 'Fucken BOOM' in my head. I get a burst of intense focus after. I think Leo has a whole video devoted to the topic. I enjoyed your insight very much!

Haha - I don't think anyone is laboring under any illusions. There is a subtle but powerful art to flirtation - and it's not always a sexually charged endeavor. Very underrated skill. It's about wit, context, subtext, pattern recognition. Play, strategy, callbacks, challenges, banter, subtlety. Much of the fun of it lies in how well the receiver returns the serve. I gotta hand it to him - credit where credit is due - Leo is rather good at it. He doesn't miss much, and that sharpness translates to his skill there. Its that 'Gotcha!' feeling when you hit it right. I flirt to manipulate at work a lot. It leaves people with a positive impression as I aim to create laughter through wit. If the subbies always remember laughing while interacting with me, they will have positive associations. This means it will be easier for me to direct them to a shared goal. This type of flirtation is not sexual in nature, more the wit and banter type. It is a way to, ah - skillfully navigate - feelings to achieve shared goals. I am sure this is utilized in pickup - @Leo Gura @Miguel1 I think you might have some good frames from a pickup standpoint to add I will add this is a very powerful framework to learn, as it has multiple applications!

Damn man, have a look at the history of humans and music. It is deep. Sound has a profound effect on people. I think OP's journey of interoception & sound couldn't be LESS boring.

Hell yeah - this is a big milestone as an adult! I fucken LOVE living alone. To the extent my most recent relationships weren't even cohabiting. Just had our own spaces to go back to - bliss for introverts or for those who value privacy. You're going to learn: To take action and learn priority You are a fucken slob. That bit of pasta that fell on the ground and you cbf? Well, your gonna have to pick it up when it falls, or later when it's a crusty, shriveled turd stuck to the floor with the red sauce. NB you might super clean, maybe I am betraying how revolting I am? lol How much connection and social interaction you prefer. When you remove all the typical family interactions or housemate chit-chat, you learn you valued it more than you realized, or you don't miss it at all. To craft a pace and tone of life that you prefer. There's more, of course. But overall, this is going to be a HUGE growth phase for you. <3

Meditation and access to higher states and how they interact with ones unique genetics are a curious area. Looking at it epigenetically it really gets my mind going. Genetics load the gun, and environment pulls the trigger (as the saying goes). I've always had no issue with meditation and being able to do ZERO with no stimulation for 1/2 hours. And I previously thought (ignorantly) that this was a skill anyone could access just by sitting and removing everything. Reading some forum posts here, and some other anecdotes of how much individuals struggle to sit even 10 minutes sans-stimulus, threw me for a loop. I really do wonder if our environment (air, food, screens, water) interact in a more complex way to switch the genetics 'on' to be able to meditate. How are we to discover this, without painstaking trial and error, is a long and arduous process. Imagine - it could simply be one thing (ie type of food) switching off the genes that facilitate an easy transition, and maintenance, of a meditative state. It could just be the air quality even. Even I notice this in myself - when I seek out outback Australian locations, in particular near rivers and dense trees, my meditation experience is far superior to when I attempt in my apartment. In fact, if I do have issue slipping into the state or maintaining I actively alter my environment. What if it is blue light? What if it is the radio-waves in the air? I know for sure, after much experimentation, binaural beats always assist. These alter brainwave states, but how do we know if different genes are activating in the process? Who knows if this is literally switching genes on or off? After reading about epigenetics, there are actually multiple very fast acting pathways that lead to different gene expression - some pathways cause effects within seconds, minutes, hours. Ultimately, I feel like there are way too many variables, and we are still in the infancy stages of understanding our own biology.

@Puer Aeternus yep similar to myself on all counts. I used to think everyone was like this until looking at how we each process music on a deeper level

Let's hope they are padded cinderblocks ay? Otherwise heads will end up caved in 🤣

ᕙ⁠(⁠ ⁠ ⁠•⁠ ⁠‿⁠ ⁠•⁠ ⁠ ⁠)⁠ᕗ💜 I've been that girl! OP describes the turning point of a romantic relationship - it's either going to explode, end up with commitment, or cement it's definition as solely FWB (this is more unlikely, since she seems to have caught feelings).

Most people cannot comprehend sacrifice. This is a lot of what the story of Jesus is. Many people who turn to Christ do so because they have an experience of the meaning of sacrifice. Of course there are other reasons. The concept of sacrifice essentially acts to 'save them from themselves'. I personally feel these individuals outsource their sovereignty to religion in an attempt to merge themselves with morals and understanding they cannot attain on their own. And through this 'merging' they realign their inner systems and redefine themselves. The second coming of Christ is not meant to be literal - it is the 'Christ consciousness' within you IE merging or revelation. I say this with no judgement. I do not ascribe to a religion. I was just raised with many religions around me and always told they send the same message, all pretty much the same. Human interpretation is where things get murky.

This whole topic is fascinating, and I have very much attempted to attend to perceiving how sound and music effects my inner state. I am not sure it is so cut & dry regarding its effects. So I will as users a question: 1) do you listen to music, and walk away sad/happy/peaceful/joyous/angry? IE does the music you listen to effect your mood? 2) do you listen to music and feel no change, or an elevation, to your mood? IE you feel angry, so you put on angry music. This acts to offload the emotion and ease pain. Effectively purging the feeling. For myself, music does little to effect my mood. It will slightly. But I choose music according to my mood, and it acts to enhance good feelings, or ease bad ones. I do not take on the 'state' of the music genre. I've spent a lot of time on this, and asked others many questions. It usually comes down to one of the 2 above (but there is always some crossover).

Good tidings to us on our inner journey! I'll spend some time putting forth my own thoughts to your prosperity 🙏🖤

Does she ever have conversations where she wants you to 'define us' or is she content with the FWB label? When a girl catches feelings, she starts to think about being claimed by a man. Somehow through your interactions, she is perceiving that you only care about the snatch, and not the body/mind attached. Her actions are a strong bid for contact. Depending on her love language; acts of service, words of affirmation, gifts, physical intimacy without sexual intention, sex - you may need to work out how she receives love, and translate to it. I'd venture a guess and say she probably wants either words of affirmation or physical intimacy without sex. If she wants words, focus on expressing the qualities about her you value that aren't sexual in nature. If she wants affection, just do some cuddle puddle sugar glider sessions with no sex. But it is up to you if you want to communicate these things back to her. They have to be true for you, because you are in a grey area of courtship where attachment can get deeper and more serious, or break off entirely. She is definitely wanting you to express your feelings here. I really suspect she wants to hear you are attached to her for more than the sex. She sounds like she has feelings for you, and is a bit too emotionally charged up to trust herself to just outright ask you. This is really common in women. You do get some freaks who just walk up to you and spit it out though !

Of course, but the reply was in reference to thoughts that arrive during the day. Witnessing. That was the context I replied to, that you supplied. When the thoughts silence is something else. You make room for what is greater than yourself.

Yes, precisely! Which is why I love 'I am not ...' deconstruction. You eventually get to 'then what is left?' Out of the meditative state I rebuild, and of course, identify all over again with a new structure. Identify with a new bunch of thoughts. All the while slightly resigned to the fact that I'm probably going to have to rip this up again. The perpetual expansion and contraction cycle.

Interesting. I consider the above 'mindfulness' which is a byproduct of what meditation is training. This just naturally happens with me after engaging in intense meditation and maintaining daily practice. I really need a serious issue to emotionally upheave me out of a mindful state. I am generally within the moment 80% of the day. This requires a lot of routine & structure to act as a framework to enable mind stability. So you can trust you have everything in order to remain present. The last thing you need is to be thinking about a bill unpaid, or panicking you didn't pack lunch and have no time etc.

There is a decline for sure. Witnessed it in my family (seen the transition in 4 women). 'You stop giving a fuck' They all become much more comfortable being disagreeable.

Yes, this is good advice to men. I wish I learned this long ago, but only because I operate from a solutions mindset and fuck off all the women in my family. I had to preface most conversations early on with 'Do you need a solution or some advice, or is this just getting it off your chest?' You send women off the rails when you try to give unwanted advice. They will consider you lecturing and arrogant. They will also feel you disregarded their feelings as the solution you present is often interpreted as undermining them, instead of holding space for them. They want you to focus on sharing the experience and understanding. Sometimes I want to rant and offload - but I always preface by letting the person know its just that. No input needed. Again this is really rare for me, as I do all my emotional processing inside. If i want outside advice, its simply to check if I have considered all angles effectively.

Thoughts? Does Esther Perel resonate, or do you think she misunderstands the plight of men? She has experience that spans back before the modern era and it's tools. Do you all think we should adjust & accept technology and it's impact on our relationships? Or get out there and and relate to each other?

He's an alien in contact with NHI.

Nice Neon Genesis: Evangelion reference. But in all seriousness that series is a good look into the human condition, consciousness and God.

@Anton Rogachevski He's coming with the cinderblocks

I am being attacked But of course - Leo up there... surrounded by cinderblocks of truth, is his version of heaven! I stupendous oversight of my own thinking! I will attain absolution at a later date, in another conversation Honestly though it's been a delight, many lols were had !

Too much rap music? It is having an EFFECT Also a lot of my horrible metaphors, similes and language in general is picked up from Australian construction sites... I have to edit out 'c you next tuesday' here more than I like.