Natasha Tori Maru

@Monke Reading through this back and forth I think a big issue for you is not meeting women of your maturity level (as well as low consciousness women). Anyway I'll step out - I don't have too much useful info or steps to take. As long as you put yourself into situations that increase probabilities for desired outcome, you won't be robbing yourself of the possibility of a banger of a high consciousness lady

While I understand the non-dual talk as the pointer it is, I find it is mostly confusing to users and propels less experienced individuals into emotional and spiritual bypassing. Especially over text. We have our own crew here who do a mixture of bypassing and truth. And they often will not drop the neo advaita trash talking to meet another users where they are at. It sort of comes across as quite arrogant, because if these individuals really did have a genuine intent to teach they would tailor their language to assist other users in understanding. Instead they try to sledgehammer non-dual language at the other users....

Yes this is my concern. If I have a heart attack, tragic accident or other unplanned malady, I do not also want to have to worry that it will be a life-destroying debt to face at the end of recovery... To add an anecdote - 8 years ago I got terribly sick from a kidney infection. It went sceptic and I was rushed to hospital. 7 nights in emergency to get better. Did not pay a cent. Am very grateful to live in Australia.

I think it is inherent to pattern-recognition personality types to see these sorts of things. For myself - as long as I am not drawing hard conclusions or meaning making, and do not close myself off to other possibilities - I enjoy the process of slowly finding puzzle pieces of people over time and matching them up... and not just people. Anything really. Patterns and perspectives are my natural mode I missed the typical Carl style of ripping someone's ideas into the shredded ruins of hopes and dreams How long can you keep the inner dragon tamed? He he he

Yeah, fuck yeah! Genuinely glad for you as well It is hell to try to guide men out of that sort of thinking/cognitive bias. You must have pretty good meta-cognition to have made it out. Nothing worse than self-filtering out the best women there are that match you well, and having no idea you are doing it.

I'm glad I could have a sensitivity to it. I take it at night due to severe allergies (bad town planning had those massive Plane trees with the spores all through my suburb). I avoid it if I can. I will sleep straight through for 20hrs if I do not set an alarm. And if I do have to work? God help me!

I mean, you can approach it this way. Sure. But you will attract women who are boring and screen out those who are more interesting. The smart ones will see how you are barely paying attention and drop you instantly. Self fulfilling prophecy.

What else have you got to do????

@Ramasta9 You possibly have some account restrictions in place? Because I notice you are flagged as a 'new user'. Perhaps when this cooldown period is off you will have full privileges. Having said that, I do not know all the ins-and-outs of the account system. Maybe @Sincerity might have some information? He he he! YES. While it is hard to connect through text sometimes it just HITS. Some users, you just read their words, and they are so easy to follow. Phrasing and delivery. As well as subject. It is written in such a way it is a pleasure to read their posts. Even when it is on topics I do not necessarily align with or share interest. I think this is a big part of why AI is so jarring to me when it is used more than normal. I don't want to freak you out but I did notice your absence on the forum, and my immediate thought was 'I bet he is in that crazy period where there is cramming and pushing to submit a paper. I bed Carl-Richard isn't sleeping.' I actually thought that... and I am coming across your posts, scattered in random threads, affirming this! Life would be simpler if this stuff didn't just randomly keep happening... but way, way less fun!

Me too! Also that evil antihistamine phenergan. If I take that I won't be fully back to reality until 4pm the next day....

America is fucked for anything healthcare... I would not enjoy living there for that reason

I do not know what happened with myself to achieve this. I used to get in my own way all the time. One day I begun to stop judging experiences as good or bad. Wanted or unwanted. I begun to look at each task as a set of sounds, textures, lights and smells. I deconstructed my senses until I lost some of my ability to define a task or thing. So for example - I used to hate folding the laundry. After this transition, the laundry folding became a game of colours and textures in my hands. Fun digging out socks and pairing them up. Then the sensations of drawers opening, hangers clanging... the pretty visuals of neatly folded fabrics Now I simply move through life from the next task/experience to the next. My only aim is 'the next step I take must enhance the probability of something maybe occurring in a later time' This reduced my mental chatter down to almost zero. So I just operate on the principal I am taking the action to enhance probabilities all over my life experience. 'Will this increase the probability of X?' I do this in my career building medical facilities. I just move from one experience to the next with priority on enhancing probability and not deeming anything good or bad. It is all just sensory data that could lead to a surprise - or desired outcome. Because nothing is in my control. At all. Not sure if this helps - but it removed all resistance within me.

What traits about you now are preventing all those things occuring? I ask because it seems like you are assuming you are getting in your own way - if you think changing yourself is the answer 🙃

No. I feel great when I wake. Full of energy. I typically go for a 5k run first thing because I am feeling a need to be in a state of meditative motion, which assists with running. Then I take the dog for a hike. Then straight to work. I rest well, female 39 years old. No aches, pains, heaviness or creaks. I wonder if there is something going on in your sleep patterns. Do you dream? Smoke weed? Eat close to sleep? I get 8 hours a night. I stop water 2 hours before bed. I am sorry to hear your troubles

It is not ego, which is plain to see. It is because dry fasting for 15 days is Ill advised. Basic safety.

@Ramasta9 Thank you for the post! I think my advice to users would be to always ask ourselves; 'what am I assuming about the passage I just read? What are the presuppositions?' prior to responding. It is these assumptions that usually close us off and are a result of habitual, reflexive thinking patterns. Often, by probing further with openness, new contexts are revealed that reframe the entire message. Evaluating assumptions and presuppositions also tends to reveal our own thinking biases - which we should all be aware of. This naturally raises consciousness On these sorts of heady, intellectual & mind-based spiritual forums - the masculine is drawn in like a moth to the flame. With that masculine energy is usually the fire that wants to fight and joust... And make it about the win

Context is always very nuanced and a challenge to communicate properly through text. This, combined with all topics pertaining to metaphysics, awakening, enlightenment, consciousness... context is never fully encapsulated. Everything is a pointer. Just the slightest angle of 1 degree difference with the pointers between individuals, results in discord. It is the nature of these topics. It would help if everyone remembered we are on each others side, it is a not war of who knows more. Openness without defence. There is too much of an egoic need to correct present, not only on the forum - but woven into the nature of humans within present culture. We are individuated and a voiced species with no telepathy - and this makes us very very unique. Very individual and special. But this also makes bridging the gap all the more difficult. And needed more than ever. We had an entire thread on context alone here. Words don't actually even describe the things they point to. Without context there is no meaning. Light can be a light weight, bright light, light sleeper etc. The context defines all.

This is a big one. And usually what people react to instantly that others aren't aware of. If you come across or are burdened in any way it is projected out and others intuitively feel it within microseconds. Especially women.

OP admitted to using AI. The rest of the internet is being consumed by AI (look at Reddit now). I for one really want to speak to humans unfiltered. If stuff is heavily filtered through AI users end up focusing on that instead of the message.

Just note, LLMs are programmed to encourage you to use them. They will always answer in a way that bolsters a preference to return and enjoy your time. They are designed to do so. This is an inherent bias in their programming that influences their answers, so they are no measure of reason or barometer of truth. Just some facts to note when using them so you aren't caught off guard. I am personally fine with using AI to clean up grammer and spelling, but hard against promoting it to phrase things for you. I personally think it is against the very spirit of this forum. Writing is an art. Poetry. Word selection, cadence. Pacing. Sentence length and arrangement. These are unique to each person and AI tends to erase this from a users writing. The tone of AI is dead to me, so it ends up detracting from the message. I end up hunting for parts that are disingenuous rather than looking at the paragraphs for their originality of message. I cannot see how the user has genuinely contemplated when things aren't filtered through their own consciousness.

Be calm, all is well 🫠 Dissolve time !

As an ex-troll I lean toward troll. My eyes glaze over from the AI filter. No soul. No creativity. Dead internet

Some division left, better get the excavator out

@Ponder Melbourne, yep I enjoy knowing if I have an emergency I won't go broke + have my life destroyed