Natasha Tori Maru

I feel like this forum needs a bolt on IRC or MSN Messenger section for users to shit talk. Then I remember I am a moderator and why would I want to do that to myself

On it boss, I have an exceptional radar for dick chop 😭 Sometimes I wonder how I get to the point in conversation where phrases like this come up

And then unlock "into eunuch mode" Not a welcome achievement 🤣

I'd be pretty concerned at the speed and sense of urgency, within the context of not having known the man for long. Sounds like affection bombing with gestures. But it is heavily context dependant

Right

Steps? Difficult? Asking open questions. Flowers don't work on me.

Navigating the online domain also? IE apps

@Cred long time no see - many hugs

Do you think you understand the social dynamics of sexual attraction as it applies to generation Z or Y? Do you think all the same rules apply?

I find that even having the idea of looking and labelling something a shit test conducive to poor social dynamics - just personally. Would take me right out of the moment and into analysis. Never good.

@Inliytened1 there are variations within the sexes - although I think you speak in generalities.

Attraction is so weird though! What I am attracted to has changed. People SAY they are attracted and want one thing, but then fall for something totally different. Same sorta shit with buying and purchases. I think a lot of attraction comes down to familiarity with our first attachment patterns and learned love signalling when children. Even when it is unhealthy - we are drawn to it as it is sometimes the only pattern we know that represents love.

Of course - but having a functional cock isn't the be all end all. People run into health issues. We age. Etc The relationship can't totally hinge on a solid member. Having said that, sex is so much more than penis in vagina 😁

Just gotta be mature really A man that can handle his shit - MUAH

Yum - add a dash of sesame oil and I'm IN!

I define shit tests as being deliberate / orchestrated. I don't look for proxies for maturity or self-regulation (that's not to say they aren't extremely useful in their own way). I look for direct evidence for them. I don't like high stakes games that involve negativity.

My grandad raised me - his passing was hard. I've lost 2 grandfathers and 1 grandmother. Parents hit different.

You can think what you like. But it doesn't do to deny someone's self report in totality.

These shit tests don't sound very... Scientifically sound 😂 I don't deliberately set up shit tests. But I want to see, and wait for the opportunity to witness, how dissappointment is dealt with when stakes are high. If you just spend time with someone in varied contexts it'll happen. Someone who knows how to be dissapointed with grace and dealk with the feeling is a green flag.

Are you experiencing the advanced age of your parents?

Great interview, went for a long hike with the pup and listened. Appreciated !

Bumping this for a good review - Leo introduced me to Ralston also. Few peeps around here have attended his workshops I believe

Lets keep these sorts of opinions to ourselves. Thanks.

Yep. It has been a big thing for me recently. My siblings seem to be oblivious - but I think this is because I am more engaged in a caring role already. I am lucky that my parents were young when they had me. I am only 40 but I still see this as half way through - if I am lucky.

Get off chops and let loose - I only go out to dance or see live music