Natasha Tori Maru

@Joshe You sound like you are well versed in MBTI and not just the typical types. Have you been formally tested? I have had 2 paid tests and both turned up INFJ - so the function stack would be Ni (introverted intuition), Fe (extraverted feeling), Ti (introverted thinking), Se (extraverted sensing). It aligns very well for me. But it is a framework with limitations. The Big 5 is more utilised in psychology. I had fun learning about the functions and how they all mesh together a long time ago - but I find it useful even today. I blatantly admit to manipulating and using leverage at work by working out peoples top functions and changing my management style to suit! I am sly so never trust me No surprises Leo types as INTP

Totally ! Although its on women to actually explicitly tell guys what works. We all work very differently. So many women value harmony over honesty here, as it is generally more in our nature to want to be agreeable. Getting trapped in our own deception, because we weren't honest about sexual needs, instead of candid feedback. Then women stop having sex with their men because they aren't satisfied... you pay in disharmony in the moment - or you pay later on. This is where good boundaries come in - and most people fail! Just speaking in general here

I should have prefaced with that - when I read your comment I realised my error

Pretty much, it would put them back in balance. Burn the vibrator

I should be more specific here - I do not mean blindly approaching. I mean I pursued these men, having known them as friends or colleagues for a good period, prior. This was how I vetted them for compatibility & alignment. Women often become very emotionally charged and let this blind them to properly vetting men. It is difficult to do, but I always have to consistently compartmentalise my emotions so I am clear in values alignment. I had ulterior motives and waited until the correct signals were there. I also knowingly took the risk I may loose them as friends in the process. I am very confident, so I wasn't worried about being turned down. But by this time I was already significantly emotionally invested. The key thing is to remember that if you are turned down - trust in YOURSELF that you will bounce back from it. Don't worry about it going belly up, as you have the resilience and self assuredness to overcome the negative outcome.

I find value a really interesting topic, as the story element you raise (very rightly so) is baked in. There are the sets of values we have that are rather static - but then also the ones we develop when in pursuit of a goal. Both enter into the narratives we have underpinning our lives. I very very frequently see people pursuing things that have little value, simply because they have invested to much time/work/effort/energy into the endeavour. But of a human psychology trap there.

There is actually some merit here. This is JUST my opinion and I am aware it is quote controversial - but I firmly believe most women need to learn to make space for men in their lives. I am 100% for feminism and the liberation of women, but I also feel it is okay to need a man. To make space for a man to enter into our lives and allow him to embody his positive masculine traits. Love for a man is an action. There are 2 issues I see - 1) Women have had to redefine their roles post feminism and 2) men have had to adapt and redefine their roles also. Both realms for the sexes have been dislodged, so I do not think it is fair to blame either one. We are in the 'teething issues' stage of learning a new dance.

Really good movement in the form here - was there a reference?

Thank you hehe I enjoy the modelling stuff. I have a very esoteric style in real life. I'm stupidly resistant to conforming also, so clients have to deal with it (which is a fine line as they are real stuffed shirt suits). Some more (sorry this is a raw file with no edit):

I must be a freak as I have always approached. I've been pursued a few times also, but all the long term relationships (4 years +) have been me approaching.

@aurum @Princess Arabia I agree I was being very safe. This is just my experience, but generally the game of pursuit and prize hinges on value. Meaning through action. Humans tend to value things they work for and earn. Even if the prize isn't actually that great! There is an element of the sunk cost fallacy that could play into that. I think I speak more on value that is discovered or created. Which is one aspect. But there are also values we have that are more immutable.

Can confirm they are racist to others. My family at least. They pretty much shunned my grandfather's marriage to a white women - I am perceived as a mixed mess to them, who just wants their money

@Schizophonia Japan has had the phenomenon of Hikikomori for much longer than the west. It's like turbo charged bedrot. Aside from that phenomenon, I have relatives in Japan that claim it is harder due to individuation. Dating apparently is difficult, but this is only between Japanese natives. The dynamic is probably different between westerners/Japanese

How about, men and women are humans. We are all valid. None should be reduces in value to some sort of 'prize'. The game of life isn't to win, it's to dance

@Leo Gura Most recent blog post on intuition - enjoyed! Big intuitive leaps really mess with types who work in other ways. It is really one of the most common reasons for misunderstanding. It is like the ability to see all possibilities, the connections between them, and all deductions that result. Without getting stuck on one single detail. This processing occurs in an unconscious way. The flip side is it can (as you point out) be difficult to elaborate precisely how you came to this conclusion. Often with intuitives it is hard for them to understand how their own intuition works, because it is such a baked in 'default' way of thinking. It is, in my experience, a rarer trait. You would probably have a heaps chill time with other intuitives

But what about bRaIN mUSclE... I present, BRAIN GYM. I don't know what the fuck it is, but it's the first hit on search. Somatic movements for brain activation. Not sure if serious I wanted to make a joke but apparently this is a thing

Punani overload

He should go into Eunuch mode, would brick his personality

Stepping into protection, responsibility, loyalty & strength. Is this something you have noticed within your own personal growth? It would be interesting if we had anyone here successful with polyamory able to elaborate on their own journey.

Jeez, thanks for that

Your prerogative & right as a sovereign individual. You are quite polarizing

This is not quite respecting your audience. You are human, just as we all are. Unworthy being the judgement there. You of all people should be open to these probing questions, as they assist in your own minds development. You should be challenging yourself with these engagements, rather than focusing wholly on your own thoughts. Therein lies a large area for you to further your own growth. Many of your responses are coloured with the delight of you being correct. And born of this delight, you will go on a ranting spree. On the other side of that coin, I have observed you quite chronically evade many questions from users who disagree with you. Then you shut down and double down or stop posting. This is a cycle we are here to assist you in breaking. There is also a large emotional undertone that comes through in your writing in this way. This subliminally communicates you are being triggered somewhat. I would expect you to be much more benign and serene in tone, detached. But it seems that you are very emotionally tied up in your thoughts and ability. You are defining yourself in some way here, and it is clouding objectivity. You created this space, platform, content. You should be proud, it is valid. But you are very very attached to it egoically. This is holding you back. This is going to retard your development eventually. You require this friction, just as we all do, by engaging in these verbal jousts. Do you not consider that answering questions is an obligation and duty as a teacher? We understand you may not have time to address them all, but to dismiss them as unworthy is something else. There is a reason God is asking that question, through the form of another, directly to YOU. I mean no judgement here, just my observations.

@zurew * Nodding * To be clear I agree with you 🙏 Adding in my insight into how different thinkers work and their various flaws that need addressing

This is a common thing with Leo. There will be an intuitive grasp of concept that isn't properly founded on solid points that build to it. Many times it is recursive. Can't be sure but I suspect Leo is the type of thinker who intuitively grasps a concept, and then understands the details of it. Rather than someone who understands details and works up to an intuitive insight. But I cannot be sure, just my guess & observations of deep thinkers and their methods. Both ways have flaws if not addressed. Like running a loop on a track - you run the same path and can get to the same outcome. But one jogger going clockwise will see something totally different to the jogger running anti-clockwise. They both get there in the end, but different methods.

It is a great, deep question! There is an element to boundary learning and survival to it - puppies and dogs play as a way to test each other. Its essential for learning, creativity and development. Play is an area where we learn, test, explore - without immediate consequences. I think, being more playful in general, would be engaging with joy without thinking on any predefined outcome. Being free within that framework, like the rules of a boardgame. Going in and testing boundaries being free from real risk. It is very much a spontaneous, voluntary activity. Intrinsically motivated, pleasurable. Imaginative and exploratory