mandyjw

If you pick something you're passionate about and believe in, that power and love for the subject it just channels on through you. The love and passion itself is what should be contagious, but lots of us just catch the ideas. Achoo!

I don't think I've ever even thought to do this unless a strong emotion arose on its own.

I generally ignore them and if I'm bothered I contemplate on my own why I might have attracted the comment. Occasionally if it feels amazing to say just the right thing, I would reply. But generally I know that if I do it out of hurt or reaction or trying to control someone's behavior it just perpetuates it until I do the inner work. I have so many amazing things going on in life, it's not worth my time to pay attention to the .01 that are crap unless I'm cleaning it up for good at the source.

I'm a girl who has a youtube channel about non-duality, I've dealt with trolls. It is always about something I'm insecure about, particularly, being a girl with a youtube channel about nonduality. Occasionally, I don't feel 100% worthy of speaking about what I'm speaking about, so sometimes people remind me of that, and then I have a fire lit under my butt to love myself and speak about what I love without concern. Which is what I want and the whole reason for doing it anyway. It's not at the cost OF self esteem, my self esteem is MY self esteem, not anyone elses.

No, it's empowering. We aren't saying it's your fault, we're saying it's within your power to focus on something else and create something you want. Anyone who puts themselves out there has trolls at some point. The trolls say more about themselves than they do you. If what they say strikes a cord there's a voice within you that echoes the sentiment. Then the troll did you a favor by pointing this out and the, the troll works for the side of self love and greater awareness. It's up to you what you do with anything. If I bought you a paint set, I don't want you to spend 45 minutes telling me what a horrible shade of brown there is in this particular set and how it shouldn't be there, I want you to choose the colors you DO want to use and paint a picture.

I dunno, either way you're screwed though.

Actually thinking back, the Christian heaven I was sold was one of the most terrifying aspects of Christianity. All kinds of "good Christians" and spacious white and gold rooms. A nice bowl of grapes. Some pearly gates. Nothing else. Ugh.

Many people need to actually voice what they know and clash/play with others a bit to learn. It's much easier to convince yourself that you fully know something because you've never tried to articulate it. When you do try, you learn that you mostly don't know what you thought you knew and that's the most important piece. Then, from there, everything is possible. If your main intent to know is out of love and curiosity, it's a fantastic opportunity for growth. If you're just wanting to bolster up what you think you know and aren't willing to see and feel into the weak spots and truly, openly interact with others, yeah, it's a waste of time, except eventually you'll get so frustrated you'll leave or see through it. I think that enforcing a high standard of quality for this forum actually hurts the quality, because it makes people even more insecure and more willing to try to prove what they already know rather than say something off and get challenges for it. Often people misunderstand that spiritual knowledge is something they they can really intellectually "get" just like they could pass a test in school, and they cover over doubts, hurt feelings and suffering, thinking if they can secure the knowledge, those will go away somehow. The aspects that make people uncomfortable in these conversations and drive so much unnecessary inauthentic, unsatisfying communication are actually the potential for growth and understanding. When people really want to know there is a POWERFUL potential for iron to sharpen iron. Sometimes solitude, meditation and nature is what people need and other times it makes them just grow dull.

Bettering oneself is a never ending game. There's always a better, or another category to better. The "end game" is complete dissolution of the mind, if you've watched a loved one die a natural death you know that their mind functions degraded and faded, but what they really are shone brighter and brighter and brighter. There's nothing permanent about our psychology. We're all gonna die someday. I love psychology, I love my dog, or I love the skills I have, but I know that I am going to lose these things, and what I really am is beyond these things and that what's real can never be lost. Knowing this does not diminish my enjoyment of the impermanent, it enhances it.

If you're interested in what's beyond the perspectival then what other approach is there than going beyond psychology?

Unless you're in the right emotional place, you will read the spiritualist view as gaslighting, or interpret it as that you are a personal failure. I think that's why it's appealing to paint others as narcissists or realize why we attract them, because we want to let go of the personal failure perspective. However, shame and blame are co-created and co-dependent. There aren't two people, there is the movement of thought of shame and blame, one creates the other. Seeing this gives the person seeking healing an empowerment that psychology doesn't often offer. So while it feels better to blame someone than to feel shame, in order to move beyond blame, we have to step out of the psychological theory. The real magic of healing lies beyond that. That's why putting your emotions and the desire to heal and feel better first, above the story and theory is the TRUE non-avoidance, while thought says "that's avoiding!" it's actually holding the story in place and hindering the incredible potential of healing that is there. There's nothing wrong with psychology, but it gets much, much better. There's a far more profound potential for healing available than what it has to offer. But if it's truly, truly helping and making you feel better for now, don't listen to anything anyone else says.

Yup. It is such a brilliant movie.

Women have better immune responses than men. "The more robust female immune response is also why women are generally better at fighting off infections such as sepsis, pneumonia and, now, COVID-19. Studies show that men who get COVID-19 are almost three times as likely to require intensive care as women who are infected, and they're also more likely to die. On the other hand, women are twice as likely as men to have autoimmune diseases such as lupus, rheumatoid arthritis and psoriasis — another consequence of their strong immune response. In those disorders, the body's immune system mistakenly attacks the body and causes inflammation."https://www.aarp.org/health/conditions-treatments/info-2021/women-covid-vaccine-side-effects.html But they are also more likely to go into over drive. I was thinking how I see on this forum a lot of people who are considering religion and spirituality for the first time. I did not realize why observing Christians my entire life and deeply studying it was so helpful. I see people falling into traps that I had displayed for me as a kid. When I got into this stuff I thought all that background was mostly a waste. I see through things that don't serve me extremely well, the problem is I'm so adept at this that it's to the point of attacking myself and paralyzing myself. I guess we go back here again. So I lived a whole bunch of contrast, it was very helpful, great. Bye now. Ahem. BYE NOW! Oh wait. I'm still living contrast. Cause living is contrast to death, so... Fuck. If I don't have to be anything for anybody! I don't have to be anything for anybody! I don't have to be anything for anybody! I don't have to be anything for anybody! I don't have to be anything for anybody! I don't have to be anything for anybody! I don't have to be anything for anybody!

Any question asked "why" is cause and effect, the realm of mind, duality and time. It's incredibly useful obviously, it's only within the "vision" of liberation of psychological suffering that we discard this. For example, understanding myopia and the lens of the eye because you want to understand, are interested or want to heal someone is one thing. Suffering because you think you are flawed for having blurred vision without glasses, or being prejudice against someone else with a disability is another. Spirituality addresses the second "wrong use" of mind, and in doing so the mind works much sharper when it is used appropriately.

Unrequited love has reassembled me I think it's crazy And if you said I do, I'll reassemble you, baby And you're so cool, 'cause you don't think you're cool You cannot be sad Because you made my all time favorite music We could play a beautiful game We could play a beautiful game You could chase me down the way I wanna play a beautiful game Even though we're gonna lose But I adore you (Adore you, I adore you) Unrequited love has reassembled me.

Oh.... I don't have to be anything for anyone. Funny how the implications of realizing you're not a thing aren't implied at all. They're just free. I watched all these impulses to have to be something come up and saw through them and it was just amazing. I don't have to be anything for anyone and I don't have to be anyone for myself. That's what it was all along anyway. I wonder if my entire gender identity (when it comes to suffering) was just this. I was taught by my mother at a young age that wo-man meant for-man. Woman was created FOR man in the creation story. On top of this she is the one first seduced by not staying on her side of the line drawn by Father God. I can't even see through the etymology that this is quite right. Maybe. https://www.etymonline.com/word/woman The more usual Indo-European word is represented in English by queen/quean. Words for "woman" also double for "wife" in some languages. Some proposed PIE roots for wife include *weip- "to twist, turn, wrap," perhaps with sense of "veiled person" (see vibrate); and more recently *ghwibh-, a proposed root meaning "shame," also "pudenda," but the only examples of it would be the Germanic words and Tocharian (a lost IE language of central Asia) kwipe, kip "female pudenda." https://www.etymonline.com/word/wife?ref=etymonline_crossreference I was taught that a woman is someone who serves. Her existence is for someone else, not for herself. Also she should live in shame and be ashamed of being a woman. And she should learn to toe the line. If she follows what pleases her all hell breaks loose. What's more is that man and God get so very confused. Should I resolve this all by trying to find a man who thinks he's God? "We got a whole lot of money but we still pay rent 'Cause you can't buy a house in heaven There's only three men that I'ma serve my whole life It's my daddy and Nebraska and Jesus Christ" Or who I think is God? Or maybe this is all just for You. How did I perpetuate this so long? You are perpetuation. Can I blame somebody for this? You are the creator of cause and effect. The blamed blames. The shamed shames.

I think I'll make myself miserable so that everyone likes me. When I talk to people I'll point out the negative things that I don't like about myself, downplay everything good, always find something to complain about and connect with them over that. They'll LOVE me. Actually tried it, nope, turns out it just makes you miserable.

Having the desire to open up is enough, let life flow, it will give you what you need. You're already open, that's your very nature, it's just aligning actions and feelings with that. Listening more to intuition, less to what you think you're expected to do. Journaling helps a lot I find. Often gets you to that same feeling of being in love without having a someone to be your excuse for it.

I've found Ramana the same way for the most part, but it could have been a not so great translation or collection. Some sections are really good though. By the way if any one has a recommendation that would be great. I Am That is very well translated though, there's a little bit of a learning curve to understand the religious language, but Tolle and most other teachers create their own language to some degree. It's WELL worth it and there is a glossary the back. He was an incredible spontaneous teacher and the book is transcripts of conversations and really shows this and the spirit really shines through.

This place gets just gets more and more inviting to women and sincere seekers by the day. Contrary to popular belief, the little head isn't the dumb one. They both are.

Wasn't talking about butts anymore at that point. Gotta hand it you, you boys are so incredibly well focused on one thing.

My favorites rights now are... I Am That -Nisargadatta Maharaj Mister God, This Is Anna -Fynn (Totally unexpected but incredibly enlightening and nondual) The Nature of Consciousness- Rupert Spira The Transparency of Things: Contemplating the Nature of Experience - Rupert Spira The Power of Now was also the biggest turn around one for me.

Everything you're naturally drawn to is you leading you back to yourself. If you want to really creep yourself out, (amaze yourself) you can get into symbolism and delve deep into the psyche and deeper desires behind all the weird attractions you have. All desires stem from the same source, which is already fulfilled, so you can chase out a specific attraction or desire to no end, or go full circle. Knowing that it's neither meaningful or meaningless, neither fulfilled nor unfulfilled frees you from it and frees you to it. Sexual attraction is just one example. You're always attracted to something, attraction is also your focus. That's probably why it feels bad to focus on something you have an aversion to or don't want to be focusing on. It's an effort, like trying to make the two same poles of a magnet stick.

A few centuries ago your mother would be like "NO! You must ABSOLUTELY NOT marry her! She does not have child-bearing hips!" And you'd be like, "Screw, you Mom! Ima gonna do what I want!" And that's how skinny women came into fashion. JK, not really, although, I dunno, maybe. All the survival stories and excuses forgotten, you're naturally attracted to what serves you. This isn't bad unless you too narrowly define what "you" are. If you do, you're in the thought realm and that creates a fear and desire movement around it and actually keeps what you want away. It also makes you susceptible to confusing your own authentic desires for what you think you're supposed to want because you see other people wanting it or because you're told you should want it. Rosa Parks wanted to stay in her seat so she did. Now, all that came from that since had nothing to do with a bus seat, yet EVERYTHING to do with it. Authentic desires (truly on a deep level felt and owned desires) have yours' and everyone's wellbeing in mind even if on the surface they seem to fly in the face of what you think is your best interest in your own survival.