mandyjw

The core of the problem here is that you believe your success, happiness and fulfillment can be prevented by others and circumstance. You could not have found the material sooner. Rather than thinking that your child prevents you from doing practices that help you to build the habit of letting go of thoughts that don't feel good to think, just let go of those thoughts about the child and the practice as they come up, no matter what you're doing. Those of us with kids value our alone time so very much, and we by necessity get really good at focusing our energies and not wasting it. Because our desire to be alone and go within gets so strong, we ironically can get there faster than someone who has all the time in the world to do it. What does your partner think about the second child? I think ultimately the reasons we decide to have a child are not logical. Kids are an amazing asset to spiritual growth. You're forced into a position of sacrifice and giving. Kids mirror you and brings your bullshit to the surface to be examined. If you understand what a gift they are and don't miss the lessons, you'll have a whole new view on life. If you can let go of thinking that they stand in the way of the life you want, you'll be better able to let of of the thoughts of ANYTHING else that stands in your way. It all starts with your thoughts, this is the reason you want to meditate. You want to master your thoughts. Kids have a way of forcing you to do this, sink or swim. You're living with a little zen master and you don't give him any credit just cause you still have to wipe his butt for him.

I personally really want to bring back the Victorian era tradition of having picnics in cemeteries so everyone can join in.

Make a list of things you love to do just for fun. Watch a favorite music video, read a web comic, etc. Make it a point to do three things from the list a day. Intensely deep spiritual work is NOT an excuse to neglect basic emotional self care, in fact it's an absolute must do if you want to go deep at all.

@Consept No offense but I suspect you're a bit stuck in some sort of intellectual elitism paradigm. Education, intellect and development is just as meaningless and shallow surface level as material success. Some people start with LOA and learn the renunciation, the value in the search for truth, or more scientific parts later. It doesn't matter what you start with. Your desire for material success can be your first foray into spirituality. Leo got into personal development through pick up. Neurological explanations are just as dangerous stories in the materialistic paradigm as The Secret. In a way there's more truth in fantasy stories than in scientific textbooks, because the fantasy stories are honest in their presentation of themselves as just a made up story. LOA is about not demonizing stories but realizing you're writing them. Which also means it's based on nothing. It has no past or future, and there's nothing behind it. None of the characters are real. Yet, this is unfolding. What to do with this? This is your creation. Take the reigns. You appear to be a character but you're really the author, the creator in the story and you've forgotten that you love yourself and others and everything equally. You love everything so fully, you're not. real.

That's not what they are saying, that's what you are saying for them. The entire point is that what you think of as material is not. There are no nonmaterial things to want over material things. LOA is the ultimate wanting what you've got. Which is actually nothing, nada, zip.

Yeah, you're missing that you're likeable.

Sometimes you just need someone to fuck your psyche. As if intimacy could be quantified, measured and defined.

Just a guess, there's some alignment with your intentions that needs to be worked out. In other words drop em'.

Eve ill.

Good "point". Bahahaha.

A way of safety from what? God? Or yourself?

Aww... I love him even MORE now.

Considering the guy who made this video is a professional sword swallower, I don't think he considers danger much of a problem.

Yeah, the miracle is that they aren't, but... love. Yes but my stories are long and involved and every time I tell a story it creates a new story.

Ohhh.. burn. I like you. I like you a lot. Better watch out or you might end up like my pet toad.

I loved Jesus so much I killed him. Opps. Kinda like the pet toad I tried to keep when I was four. Hugged him just a little too hard.

Allergies are an autoimmune response, in other words attacking yourSelf.

An idea of oneness is NOT oneness, so can you see the potential value in a contradiction to the idea of oneness?

No because the man, manifest is an act. You are the whole, the entirety, you are not. So you are attracted to opposites in a desire for wholeness. Confirmation bias assumes that there is an objective true way to see and think of things. There isn't. This is a horrifying realization for a few seconds and then actually felt as the deepest most fulfilling freedom and relief.

It's only a law from a certain perspective. The thing is, you want to identify with that perspective because man is manifest. You're either conscious of (or aligned with) this want or desire or unconscious of it. We often want to resist that we are creation, creating.

I was raised conservative, as a kid I really wanted George Bush to win the election. Then became a passionate liberal in my early 20's. Now I realize that the timeline and circumstances of myself and my having those opinions are pretty meaningless, circumstantial and arbitrary, so it's hard not to love people for how they are. I also really make it a point to focus on what I want, and not what I don't want. If I talk to people and read enough stuff I still get really angry, but I know that that anger is just an indication to change my focus on what I do want. In other words it IS normal but is this what you want? Is this really how you want to feel about your friends? We can't change the world without first changing our perspective on it. That's true and that itself makes us want to change other people's perspective to a higher one. But we forget it's our perspective. Not theirs. So if we change our perspective on Trump supporters, and see them not as Trump supporters but what they really are, crazy unbelievable miracles can occur. Love always wins.

@Raptorsin7 You know the cliché rags to riches story everyone loves so much? The whole purpose of improvement is to grow, transform, become and have the pleasure of incrementally doing so. You absolutely fascinate me because while almost everyone here' story follows this rags to riches theme, this is NOT your story, at least outwardly. You were born with privilege. Your actual rags to riches story is the realization that that story doesn't mean shit. I mean, really, it's so overdone, everyone is bored with it. What exactly IS your story? How do you want to tell it? Are you still searching for the kind of success you were born with? It'll never fulfill you because you already have it. What DO you want to experience? I've had two women mentors who had a HUGE impact on my life when I was a kid. Both were born to rich privileged families and gave that way of living up and moved to the middle of nowhere where the people are poor and uneducated. They were here exploring an aspect of living and giving entirely different from most people's American dream, because to them that was old hat, their parents already achieved it. When my parents couldn't give me the tools I needed to dream a better life for myself, they did. Throw away your ideas of success, the ideas of success other people have fed to you with a silver spoon in your mouth. Write your own.

Would you rather be happy or have Truth? Maybe there's actually no conflict? You believe that other's believe in nonsense. Maybe that belief is nonsense. Why is it frustrating? How does it effect you?

Practical self preservation is not a selflish act, it's selfless. I for one would feel horrible for the people who had to bury my stupid dead body and raise my kids. Living is selfless. There's already no self whether you live or die. Nothing you can do about it.