mandyjw

Ok, so i should just shut up now, but whatever. I think that women actually LOVE to be beautiful, and they LOVE that men love looks. Like, it's just one of life's deeper pleasures. But we just do NOT like the talk about it, the judgement about it, or the noticed absence of good looks. It's a mystery. Leave it at that. You like beauty, you know what you like, cool, just STFU about it and leave the mystery of beauty to be on its own.

Developed people also carefully chose their environments for success, just as Leo is doing. I threw out my own admittedly biased perspective which probably wasn't necessary, but whatever. We have to trust that everyone knows what they really want for themselves. And if they don't, they'll unavoidably attract experiences which give them more clarity toward what they really want.

Be aware of the thoughts, and don't take them seriously as they arise. Just knowing you experience hypochondria rather than believing the fearful thoughts is 99% of the battle. So really, congratulations!!! Also look for youtube videos to help with the subject. It's a common thing that happens to smart people. Focus on what you DO want. Focus on exercise you love doing, healthy foods you love eating. Do yoga, get a massage, pamper your body. Make a vision board, or check out @Nahms dreamboard thread.

How could you even be aware of other people if everyone had their own separate consciousness? You cannot be know something unless it's within consciousness. Just like here and there both exist within consciousness, consciousness is neither here nor there.

I have seen a lot of drop dead gorgeous women in their 60's, 70's, 80's and beyond. Cause it's really about confidence and life force more than anything else. But if people aren't open to see it, they'll miss that. It's like telling Fall or Winter that she isn't as beautiful as the Spring, she most certainly is. I'm not gonna want to be with a man who can't see it also. @Etherial Cat

I'll have you know, Jesus thinks I'm POSITIVELY DELIGHTFUL.

Dude, I don't know if I'm gonna get a skin condition or get in some horrible disfiguring accident two months from now. Or develop an intense all consuming love affair with chocolate cake and become a world famous 300 pound cake chef. Maybe that's my life purpose! Who knows? That's the inherent beauty in life, you never know.

It's really fascinating, and really empowering because once you understand it, you can hack it and create the life of your dreams. Not just by how it looks on the outside but how it feels. Or rather, you already have the life of your dreams!

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-science-success/201208/how-keep-happiness-fading It's the tendency of our minds to return to a set point of happiness, even after something really awful or wonderful happens. Things, people and events don't make us happy or sad, we are susceptible to the contrast. So for example, I win the lottery. I buy my dream car. Someone scratches my dream car. Instead of being thrilled that I won the lottery, I'm now mad my car is scratched. That's how ridiculous our minds are. That's the power of meditation, to go beyond noticing the contrast of things and mistaking our true being for our shallow, fragile states of mind.

Never underestimate the power of hedonic adaptation.

I dunno, but from my perspective if I was single and looking, I'd assume from that that you were more interested in my body than anything else, and since I couldn't honestly in any way guarantee my health or looks, the anxiety and doubt over meeting all that criteria over the long term wouldn't be worth it. I find that anxiety over having to look a certain way for someone else is what destroys confidence, which is the actual root of what we find attractive, and that confidence or self love is the very root of my sexuality, femininity and spirituality. I'd much rather just find someone who immediately finds me attractive, without having to check all these requirement boxes first. But anyway, good luck Leo, I hope you find someone who is your perfect match.

Getting enough protein if you're vegetarian or enough carbs if you're low carb? Getting a moderate amount of exercise? Getting outside, getting enough sunlight? Try some cold exposure?

The universe already takes care of you in more important profound ways than your mind can ever grasp. Kind fo like you don't think about every breath or your organs functioning. Working is how most people's survival gets taken care of. The means makes no difference, but a lot of them think they are working and are responsible for taking care of themselves and feel the weight of that. You can only become conscious of what's already occurring. Then circumstances may naturally change, or not.

The mind was never a fixed thing, so there can never be a perfect model of mind. All diagnosis of the mind is the mind looking back at itself, it's very biased self diagnosis in a way. Even when other expert minds are making the diagnosis, the illusion of separate minds calls the shots and believes it is an actuality that must be maintained. So while mental illness can be painful, debilitating, and seeking treatment can be the best decision, ultimately it's really a window into what is prior to mind. "There is a crack in everything That's how the light gets in"

I have a man like that, who easily fits all those qualities, been with him since I was 17. It doesn't matter if someone fits all the qualities you say you're looking for, your mind will still find major things to complain about. A lot of being in a relationship with anyone is to pay attention to what you want, don't give any thought OR resistance to what you don't want. If you're going to make a list of what you're looking for, only list what you do want, because by thinking you're also attracting into your experience all of these things. The universe does not differentiate between what you don't want and what you do, it just shows you what you think about. So focus your mind through the power of meditation and see only that which you want to see. Good luck hun, and good luck with your healing. Don't making healing a prerequisite to enjoy what you've got now, let it occur on its own as you focus on the things you want and love. Aim to live in relationship like it's your first time together ever and also like today is your last day on earth together.

devil is lived spelled backwards and life is a dead end. We will have to go back and account for how we cut ourselves off from ourselves, and we will see in fact that we are the devil, and created ourselves as we did the devil. There's a higher place to go, beyond belief, beyond belief Where we reach the next plateau, beyond belief, beyond belief And from faith to faith we grow Towards the center of the flow Where He beckons us to go, beyond belief, beyond belief Leap of faith without a net Makes us want to hedge our bet Waters never part until our feet get wet There's a deeper place to go Where the road seems hard to hoe He who has begun this work won't let it go (let it go!) They were right though, you certainly can't lose your salvation. So what's to fear, really?

Whatever you find it to "be" it's not what you thought it was. One person's revelation is another's cliché.

None of them are about anything really. There's nothing lacking. Hope can be the assumption that something is lacking, the glossing over it to look for happiness in the future. Each teacher has a unique way of pointing to something, people come from all different directions in their tactics to point. What you REALLY want, what you really are looking for, is not just limited to peace and happiness. It's not limited at all.

Yes. You should not be in the present. I apologize for that. No teachings are above another. The present moment is a powerful pointer, but it can at times become a block or cutting off of oneself. There is no present moment, so therefore no real disconnection from past or future, even though there's no past or future either. That's not Eckhart Tolle's fault or anyone else's. It's not your fault. You go with what you got, you fall, you mess up, reevaluate, and you get up and keep going. All language is both deceptive and guiding. It's inevitable, and part of the fun.

I read the book. If you're not sold on the advertising, I don't think you have to buy the product in order to be able to judge it, if we put that as a prerequisite to judge something for ourselves we'd fall into so many traps and miss so many things that are freely available along the way. Of course to be fair, I'm can only judge for my own purposes based on my own desires and not for anyone else's. I've found Jim Newman to fit in perfectly with Rupert Spira and Nisgardatta's teachings.

Option A. Blame kids in Africa for their predicament. Option B. Blame idiots who believe in the Law of Attraction for not being compassionate. Option C. Envision health and well being for kids in Africa, and be open and looking for a way to act to help, when one appears as it will inevitably, act on it with joy and enthusiasm. Option C is the actual understanding and utilization of the Law of Attraction. If there were really separate selves, and cause and effect, we could blame or credit them for attracting their circumstances. But there aren't, so we cannot do that. What we can do is focus on creating a life and world that we want in our experience. The only thoughts we experience are ours so it is up to us to align our thoughts with what we want. If we blame someone for their thoughts, that's just an unaligned thought of our own.

If everyone knows that everyone is intimately them, why don't they just go and kill each other? It is the very Knowledge beyond concept (Love) that everyone is you.

I don't believe in oneness and unity or division or separation or good or bad. All is appearance, duality. What if God is SO good that he still speaks to people directly, including you and you never had to outsource your authority or connection with God in this way. I mean, what else is the Holy Spirit? Don't you trust that inner guide and resonance to guide you? How can you live your life and make everyday decisions if you outsource credibility to scholars who lived and died hundreds of years ago, who you never knew? You'd have to put God in a box somewhere and set him of a lofty shelf, to keep him safe and untainted by all that you see, do and think.

No perspective, not one though. Not two, but that doesn't mean one.

We aren't separate beings with individual minds who share a world, we are shared being itself. Mind is open and borderless. You and the friend both share the same consciousness, mind filters consciousness into the tree, by creating subject and object, the experience of "your" mind filters/ imagines it further. Both minds filter it into a tree, but he can say it's ugly, you can say beautiful.