Karmadhi

The fact that the top 10 richest people in the world hold more wealth than like the poorest 40 percent of humanity is mind boggling and disgusting honestly. It would be nice if the UN did some sort of taxation for ultra rich people where all that money they have would be better distributed. Considering how corrupt the world is, i do not see it happening in the next few decades at least. Hopefully some day...

Any movie/tv show examples? Would be easier to visualize.

@Leo Gura Yes i agree, if you are shy and never talk about yourself it is very good training. I was saying in normal conditions not if you are training.

@Leo Gura I am saying it from personal life experiences not from thinking about it. Nobody likes narcissistic people except other narcisistic people, the kind of people i enjoy spending time with hate narcissism and love and respect humbleness. I am not talking about girls especially here, people in general. Talking about yourself is a good way to keep the ball rolling but i think it should be balanced, too much of it can create issues. For some people i think it works good because of their personality type, if you are very loud and expressive and stuff and have cool stories it can work RSD Tyler videos style but that is super not my and many people's style. Todd V would be a better example in my opinion.

@Leo Gura I thought people find those that only talk about themselves obnoxious and annoying. Often i hear people complain about this person only talking about themselves and it annoys them and lowers their desire to be around such people. I often hear the advice that people do not give a shit about your stuf, they just want to talk about themselves so if you talk about yourself it will not work. Exception would be some over the top crazy story. "Just ask questions, women love to talk about themselves", is an advice i often heard which contraditcs the "talk about yourself" advice. Is there a balance between the two or the first is bullshit?

@Windappreciator Agreed

I wrote this small essay after some conteplation. The nature of evil always fascinated me and after going through Leo's work and a few other teachers and my own contemplation on the matter this is what i came up with. Would like to hear your guys opinions and thoughts. Limited identity- The true cause of evil. Identity is what we associate ourselves with at a deep almost existential level. It is what we have concern for and what we care about. Our sense of morality, of what is right and wrong is directly associated with what we identify with. Whenever something that is harmed within our sense of identity, we consider it immoral. Whenever something that is harmed outside of our sense of identity in service to something we consider as part of identity we do not consider it immoral. There are different degrees of identity which are expansive. Here are they listed from least to most inclusive. Note, that this should be taken with a grain of salt. 1. Identifying with a specific part of yourself, not your whole 2. Identifying with yourself as a whole. 3. Identifying with your close family. 4. Identifying with your large family. 5. Identifying with your city. 6. Identifying with your country. 7. Identifying with your region 8. Identifying with your ethnicity. 9. Identifying with your continent. 10. Identifying with your race and religion. 11. Identifying with your species. 12. Identifying with all living things in your planet. 13. Identifying with all living things throughout the universe. 14. Identifying with creation itself, in all shapes forms and sizes. Now, as you might see humanity in the 21set century has done quite some progress in expanding its sense of identification. However, much work needs to be done. Why does this identification stuff matter you might ask? For a very simple reason. Everything that we define as “evil” is an act made out of love within a specific identification level in expense to something else outside this identification level. I will now dissect this into simpler and easier to understand language. Let us take the example of a person in Germany. This person identified himself with a specific race, called the Aryan race. In his mind, the Aryan race was the primary thing that he cared about and what mattered the most was the best for this race. Then you have another group called Jews. This person did not identify himself with Jews and therefore in a twisted, deluded version of love tried to exterminate this group because he thought their eradication would benefit the Aryan race. This act of love based on limited identity is considered as one of the worst tragedies that has ever happened in human history, and the person in hand is considered one of the evilest persons in history. Everything he did was out of love however. Interesting, isn’t it? Let us give some more simple examples to clarify it even further. The atomic bombings of Japan- An act of love made to save American lives on expense of another country’s lives. The crusades- An act of love made to help a religion on expense of another religion. The great purge- An act of love made to solidify and maintain person power in expense of other people. As we can see, every tragedy that has happened in history was nothing more than a twisted, limited, self- biased version of love based on limited identity. If we want to eradicate what we consider as “evil”, our only solution is to expand people’s identity. I have friends who are against the European Union idea and when I ask them why, their response is simple. “I do not want to pay for other country’s issues”. Fair enough, well what about your city paying for another city’s issues on the same country? “That is the same country, that is different”. Well, this is also the same continent, why complain about this? “Continent and country are different”. This circular logical, without a clear explanation is nothing more than limited identity not being able to be properly articulated. If we use the “they are different” logic to justify a limited identity, as in the above example then we would shrink to the point where we only care about ourselves. I mean we are different from our family members, why care about them? See, how idiotic this logic is. Just because something is different does not mean you should not care about it and not identify yourself with it. We are all different parts of creation in the end.

@Zigzag Idiot Thank you for your response and material

@Windappreciator Animals no but eating living being is. At least with the technology we have currently. In an existential level there is no difference between a tree, animal nor plant i think. All of those are distinctions made by us. That is why i said identifying with all living being or even with all creation as the highest levels of identification. The higher the identification level is, the more it hinders your survival.

@Windappreciator Eating animals is needed for pure survival (they are food source). However, if you see how animals are treated at big farm factories it is scary similar to how Nazis used Jews in concentration camps. Even eating animals which is fundamentally selfish can be done in more conscious ways but that hinders survival (less food). Imagine raising an animal, feeding it well and treating it well versus putting 10 of them in a tiny cage, feeding it shit and not caring if they developed diseases as long as they managed to stay alive.

Get heartbroken a few times and it will auto correct it trust me. There is a beautiful quote i read once it is something like : "The more i interact with girls, the less nice i want to be to them". Now do not become red pilled and hate women and shit. Just do not be simp. It legit took me 1 bad heartbreak to cut my niceness in like half. The issue is not being less nice, the issue is treating them properly. Best way to treat in my opinion is to treat her good but not too good. Watch the movie "A bronx tale", the way Sonny treats his people (not C) is the correct mindset to have.

I saw your supplement video and noticed you use the same brand "now orange box" on that video with the ones i use. My mother gave me some vitamin D pills because where i live there is little sunlight most of the year and some vitamin C. I wanted to ask, omega 3 pills, vitamin D pills and vitamin C pills, so these kind of supplements if they are high quality brands, do they cause side effects? So basically is it healthy and safe for you to consume them? I know direct experience is king but with some things you do not feel anything until years so i just want to safe, i feel like you know this stuff very well. So if i do a doctor visit and he tells me that you might need vitamin D or C or more omega 3 etc, is it safe to get them from these pills? I am not replacing a good diet of course but omega3 is hard for me to get because i cannot really afford salmon (really expensive where i live) and for vitamin D there is no food to get it.

Dude i know a guy with 1 arm that is super popular and has way more friends than some other good looking guys i know. Regarding friends, respect, admiration etc looks play a very small role. I would say for us guys it is so small it is not worth talking about. I despise the notion "looks do not matter to get girls" but when it comes to making friends, even friends with girls i have to agree that they do not matter. If you are really insecure then try to maximize your looks (workout, good haircut, glasses if they fit you, good clothes etc). What really matters to make friends is your attitude, social skills, being funny, positive, empathetic, uplifting etc. I am 5 8 in height and most of my close friends are taller than me, some way taller. They never treated me with disrespect, made fun of me etc because of the way i behave. If you wanna be liked and respected, behavior is like 95 percent of the equation.

And i find it strange that people get mental fog from eating wheat products. Tried to replace wheat with rice after watching your diet videos for a few weeks and literally 0 difference in how i felt, so yeah these things are super subjective and personal dependent. And you still managed not to talk to girls or try to date/fuck. Wow man you have some serious willpower not to pursue sex with that crazy sex drive. You deserve a medal for that feat alone hahahahahah Personally i can technically jerk off around 3 times a day, after that i get a bit burned out (im 22), however a lot of my friends do it like once every 4-5 days and consider 2 times a day way too much. "You are like a machine" they tell me hahahahahhaha. So yeah, these jerk off topics are fucking stupid since it is very subjective and personal. Everyone has different sex drives and bodies so trying to monopolize the amount someone should jerk off or how jerking off should make you feel after is the opposite of what actualized.org stands for. "No group think" and no "ideology"! "No fap" has become like a small ideology and i do not think members of this forum should follow it blindly without heavy personal experience of what works and what does not for them.

Great job! May you give us a small explanation of how that picture came out to be

@Flowerfaeiry Thank you

I noticed that this is never talked in actualized.org either forums nor videos (that i am aware of) and i was just curious what Leo+all of you think about this topic. So zodiac signs matching your personality and astrology in general. I know a lot of people, especially girls for some reason that tend to have some believes about your zodiac sign matching your personality often. Personally i do not have an opinion on the matter but would be curious to hear all of yours.

I have watched like 90 percent of his videos but do not remember hearing that. Anyone know name of video?

I suffer with this too and it is really a pain in the ass. A piece of advice i can give you is to look at it in terms of your needs getting met. Your needs are a priority and always will be. Not meeting your needs will not result in you being more "selfless". It will result in you being more manipulative and having hidden agendas in everything you do. Often these manipulative actions will be unconsciousness and will not even seem like that to you. There is a great book called "no more Mr nice guy" and even though it is more catered to males, it generally helps all people pleasers. Personally i noticed some things i did from reading that book and how fucked up and selfish they were. If you cannot get your needs met, then you may not become a "selfish" devil that goes for what they want, instead you will become a "subtle" but often even worse devil that tries to get what they want while being unaware of it and thinking they are some selfless saint. Now of course there is balance and nuance here. I am not saying to be an asshole or ruthless person in the traditional sense. Empathy and compassion are still needed. However what i think is even more important than those is integrity and pure kindness. Helping someone without giving a shit what they do, whether they are grateful or not. Becoming independent and self love are essential in reaching such a state. I feel like i kinda covered all of personal development and jumped through like 10 topics however i hope it gives you some insights. If you want more practical less woo-hoo tips they are: 1. Adopt paradigm that your needs come first most of the time (there are exceptions of course, nothing is absolute) and if your needs are not met it will result in you being even more selfish than before, it will just be unconscious selfishness most of the time. 2. Read no more Mr nice guy and contemplate on it.

@DaveB There is already a thread about this. It depends how you try and how bad your skills are when you start. I think most Incels have actually tried unlike what most people on this forum including Leo say but the amount of effort you need if your social skills are bad (and you re not very handsome) is insane for most average people to bear. This guy did 300, YES 300 approaches and got no results. Leo did 440 to get his first results. Imagine what kind of tenacity you need to do that amount and still keep moving forward. The average guy stands no chance, you need willpower of a god. Keep in mind most people will not need that amount of trying to get some results. This is the case for people with horrible social skills due to lack of lifelong experience. Which is why most incels stay incels. Also quality of the advice matters too. Some advice is better than others. RSD is amazing for inner game and general advice but their outer game strategy is kind of lacking in terms of how to handle objections, how to get the girl to come to your place, what to text etc. John Anthony Lifestyle seems to be the best regarding pure logistics and objection handling to maximize the chances of a girl to sleep with you.

@Peter Miklis Just watch Leo's videos on this topic, they are really good and no bullshit explanations. Do not trust girls about what attracts them because most are not aware of it.

@WaveInTheOcean I never ever said that guys get girls for no reason. That is a crazy straw men you made. I said guys should learn how to socialize and attract girls in a socially healthy way. Talking to girls in a mall and being called a creep by 95 percent of society for doing so is not a healthy way. Healthy way is to learn it through education system which not only does not teach this stuff, it actually makes it worse with all the bullshit "all genders are the same" stuff. This is not about me for fuck sake, stop making it personal. I ALREADY know how attraction works, i am talking about the millions that don't and feel hopeless. I used not to understand it at ALL and thought being nice and kind and handsome got you girls due to the bullshit media and popular opinions people have these days. Had to learn it through sheer experience and observation and would like if this shit was taught by society instead of having to read some RSD forum for it and then get demonized by most of society for being sexist. "He's not alluding to forcing women to have sex or something. That's quite a ridiculous strawman. He's seeing and pointing out to a MASSIVE societal issue, which is the unmet needs of a vast majority of men, and seeking to find healthy solutions. Not for himself, but on a societal scale". This is a response someone gave that perfectly explains what i meant with my thread.

@Emerald Amazing explanation. Thank you.

@Preety_India It is very true that both genders struggle in dating. Both genders face difficulties and suffer. Even pretty cool girls go through hard times so it is not that they have it easy. However there is 1 thing which i cannot wrap my head around, maybe you can help me. I have noticed that when guys struggle with dating it is usually that they cannot get ANYTHING, they have 0 girls interested in them. Meanwhile girls when they struggle it is because they cannot get that 1 VERY high value guy they want and even though they have A LOT of cool guys they can get, they are not happy with them. They only want THAT 1 SPECIFIC guy. From my male biased mind it seems like guys complain that they are starving and have no food while girls complain that they have food but they want that great lasagna, only that will do it for them. Thing is most of the guys the girls can get are pretty decent guys, they are not lame or shitty guys but they are not safisfied with them. They only want that specific guy. That guy sometimes is not even thattt great, it is just the idea that i want X and dot mindset more than anyone else. Even though i might seem like an Incel from these threads i have interacted with legit hundreds of people through my life. I am very social and have a lot of friends from both genders, from all looks levels. I notice consistently that the guys that struggle with girls usually struggle to get ANYTHING while girls struggles are about getting a very high caliber or specific guy they might want. They usually have guys into them but do not want them. Very few guys i know are very picky with girls, usually they are very good looking guys or feminine guys. Masculine guys tend to fuck anything that moves but they will not commit hahahahahaha

@Emerald I stand corrected. The numbers i provided were for past year sexual activity. Therefore a non virgin that has not had sex in 2 years still counts in the 1/3 ratio. Pure virgin ratio is as you say it.