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I have so far interacted with people from dozens and dozens of countries because i study in a very international programme and i live in a very cosmopolitan city, also i have traveled quite a bit especially in Europe where i live. I tend to be very fascinated by history, geography and economics and have noticed that USUALLY (not always so please do not give me this 1 example that is different), people that come from richer countries tend to be less friendly and warm. Also countries with warmer climate tend to be warmer and unfortunately there seems to be some correlation in the modern day between wealth and weather. Rich countries tend to have colder/less sunny weather and also colder people. By cold i do not mean necessarily rude or mean. Cold i mean how friendly and hospitable they are. You will rarely have for example people inviting you straight to their home in northen europe, usa or japan/south korea while in southern europe, south asia and the middle east such behavior is more common. I noticed countries from the Middle east (muslim culture) to be extremly warm hearted and hospitable. The hate they get is really sad. Also stuff like small talk, emotional expressivity, the idea of paying or treating someone else, inviting people to your home, opening up relatively fast etc etc are some of the things that differ. Another observation i made is that usually on the capital people also tend to be less friendly than in more rural areas or smaller cities. Either capital or biggest city (usually capital is biggest city that is why i said capital). What do you guys think about this? Disclaimer: I am not saying X quality is good or Y quality is bad. There is nothing wrong with being reserved or quiet. Personally i would be considered so in my home country so i am not hating on "cold" people. Just i always see this correlation and wanted to express it here and get your opinions/thoughts. Kind regards

@Leo Gura Yes of course she would rather get fucked by a strong asshole, however is that good for her? We are talking about what is healthy for her, not how female attraction works. We all know that. Would you think a guy would be better off with a hot girl that treats him like dirt or an average girl that treats him very well. Personally i think the guy would be much better off with the average girl. How the other person treats you is more important for your overall happinness in the relationship than "evolutionary attraction triggers". Yes we are also attracted to burgers more than salad but that does not mean eating burgers is good for us in 2021. Maybe in tribal times the female would be better off with the strong asshole because he would ensure her survival but these days that is obselete. These days people should be wise enough to care about how they get treated as much as biological triggers. Find a balance. I would dare you Leo to date a very hot girl that treats you like dirt then see how happy you are with just your "biological attraction triggers" getting met while ignoring everything else. Which is exactly what girls do when they date strong assholes that treat them like shit. Of course i understand the female survival agenda but i also think they should be wise enough to see past it considering it it obselete in 2021.

@Javfly33 Yes i have, it is a good movie but not applicable to real life. Please do not use such extreme examples. I can also mention A LOT of PUAs that kill it with girls and have legit rape charges and cheat 24/7 and use it as an example of what a strong guy gets you. Please. @Emerald Leo is saying that some specific things are more attractive for girls than others. He is not saying that ALL girls are attracted to such things but most are. There are guys that have much better results with girls than others. Why so? Because of specific factors. Now these factors come in different flavors. However you cannot say things like confidence, non-neediness, humour, good looks, status, competence etc are not attractive in general. Maybe not every single girl will like a guy for X thing but it is just general trends. Leo has said many times that filling X factor will not guarantee anything but it will increase your chances.

@Knowledge Hoarder @Flowerfaeiry Yes ofc a weak guy can be an asshole too but strenght should not be an indicator whether a girl should sleep with a guy or not for her sake, KINDNESS is. You can be strong and kind or weak and scumbag, of course you can. I just said that if you use strenght as an indicator of a good mate partner in 2021 then you might deal with a scumbag, if you use kindness then you will not deal with a scumbag. A scumbag is worse than a weak guy in 2021, i mean we do not live in tribal days anymore you will not die because the guy is weak. Basically i said prioritizing strenght over kindness will create bad results FOR THE GIRL. We are talking about the female agenda here. A guy should try to become strong too, i agree with that while remaining a decent person. But if you guys had a sister would you rather her date based on how strong the guy's personality is or based on how he treats her. And please do not confuse kindness with niceness those are totally different things. You can be nice with a girl and still be a piece of shit person, niceness with an agenda is not real niceness it is fake shit. Paying for someone's shit 24/7, kissing their ass and allowing them to treat you badly doesnt make you a kind person, it makes you a nice idiot.

@Leo Gura I love how you tend to favour strenght over kindness. Like a girl is being dumb for fucking a weak guy rather than fucking a piece of shit guy. A girl suffers more if she gets attached to a piece of shit guy than if she gets to a weak guy. Of course aim to be strong and kind but if i had a sister i would rather have her date a weak kind guy than a strong asshole, for her sake. I have seen more girls suffer from dating scumbags than i have seen them suffering from dating weak guys. I doubt that is just me. You do not seem to be very critical of scumbags in the dating scene when actually they create more issues than "weak" guys do. Being weak is an issue for a guy, he will suffer because of that. A girl will not suffer. "What is said is a hot women getting fucked by a scumbag that gives 0 shits about her" would be a better response i think.

@Preety_India "The best day in US history". I find that cringe and funny at the same time.

There are affiliated websites i have seen where you have a list of coaches and people can find you there. I think you have to pay the website a fee or something and they put you there. For example if i write : "Coaching in Belgium, i can find such a website". It includes relationship, career coaching etc. People can also leave you reviews there to help your reputation. Could be a good way to start. The coaching market is not very saturated i think (at least where i live, idk about other countries) so people will find you if they search a bit. Maybe also not charge a lot in the beginning to make yourself a better option for people that may not afford it a lot. I find coaching prices to be ridiciously overpicked (300 euros for a session like wtf).

@DieFree I come from a country that is not developed nor does it have a great reputation in my continent. So this does not apply to me. I meant how they treat EACH OTHER, not foreigners only. Hospitality can inculde a person from another city but in the same country. I already explained here that this kind behavior is towards what they considered THEIR group. So people from south USA will be friendler to each other than people in Norway will be towards each other. However this does not apply for people outside their own circle of self, so some minorities may not get this treatment. However in the middle east i ve seen that they treat even americans quite well as tourits. It is usually they dislike their government.

@roopepa Yes exactly. My theory is that in harsher environements which tend to be in poor countries, things like social connections matter a lot more. Basically if you have no connections and weak relationships you are fucked because the survival situation is more difficult and the institutions are weaker. Therefore it is society engrained this idea of being friendly, charismatic, open, friendly, hospitable etc. It happens uncouncisiously for most of the people and they just see themselves as being friendly, ignoring the subtle reasons why they act in that way because it is a cultural norm at that point. In a rich country you can get by while being cold and reserved because things function better. Also these countries tend to be stage blue a lot which is not as materialistic and more social (even though it is only to their small enthnocentric group). What do you guys think of this?

I can tell from my personal experience that their advice is not good. My sample size is not small either. Their advice is too soft and catered to a female perspective which is not at all how guys situations are. The best people to learn from is those that are good at it. Just like anything in life. So guys that are good with girls are better sources to learn from. Maybe girls are good sources of advice for relationships but most guys struggle with attraction , not relationships.

It basically makes you less of a nice guy. Which is important. Thats about it that is good. However if not used properly the knowledge can fuck you up even more so its dangerous territory.

@Preety_India Because there is a huge difference between the two. If i talk about poverty i will specificy if it is poverty in Africa or in Canada because different regions have different situations and standards. You cannot compare women rights of saudi arabia to those of sweden. It is not at all the same situation. Fear of rape is legit everywhere in the world and unfortunately it will never be solved fully. Just like mugging will not be solved fully. You cannot stop some psychopath from choosing to rape you if he wants. However it can be reduced with effort and i am all for that. Rape is fucked up. All sort of sexual assault is, even catcalling. Regarding sexism or oppression i do not know, laws in the west are very gender equal and if there is sexism is very subtle in a way that my male mind cannot pick it up. It is not like other countries where a female cannot even get a good job due to sexism. It is not at all obvious, it is ver subtle. If anyone here can give me a list of specific issues i would love to hear them. I treat all the females i know with respect, if you knew me in person you would change your opinion.

@Preety_India I am talking soley about the west here. It is not that bad there. I am sure in India the situation is totally different, i am not familiar with how it is there. I do not do any misstreatment of women and neither do all the people i know. So do not use we for me please. Never said so. Do not put words in my mouth please. I said it is a problem just like these things, it should be solved just like those other problems should be solved too.

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@Leo Gura After reading the comments on this thread i think it would be very helpful if you made in the future a video like "Understanding feminism" or something like that. I have tried to find any good videos explaining feminism in a detailed way and especially the systematic nuances that my male biased mind does not pick up on and honestly for feminism it is impossible to find anything worthy. It is either some short video explaining feminism and how much it was needed in the past (doubt anyone here dissagrees with that) or some feminist ted talk that has like 90 percent dislike rate (looks like toxic green to me), basically 0 stage yellow on feminism to properly explain it in a nuanced systemic way. For example "Some more news" youtube channel does for concepts cancel culture and racism in USA. Also have noticed that A LOT of males in this forum (including myself to some extent) need to better understand feminism. Reason why i write to you is because i think you are capable to give a proper stage yellow perspective on it, not a stage green perspective on it. You can talk about it while also explaining its trap and excesses in a way most stage green folks can not. When i mean feminism i am always talking about feminism TODAY, what it is trying to achieve today. Also i refer always to developed western countries. If we talk about saudi arabia or the west 100 years ago then i do not think much explaining is needed on the importance of feminism. The difficulty is understanding the small systemic nuances that occur today in the west.

I mean plenty of females hate men too. They call them the source of evil etc etc. Extreme feminists comments about men are no walk in the park either. The bottom line is that happens to both genders from the other gender because a lot of people see this duality between male and female. Therefore it can occur for one half to hate the other half. Same for religion, race, ethnicity, income level etc etc. The meta mechanics are similar for all of these.

I also used to suffer from this in the past. It REALLY bothered me when people ignored my texts or took way too long to reply or left me on read or were generally quite cold compared to real life. It was painful. However what fixed it for me was to develop a new attitude and not give much value to texting in general. I either use it in group chats or to catch up with people. If i really want to talk to someone i will just arrange a meeting. Be busy with other stuff and have a big social circle so each individual becomes less important. And for the love of god do not attach your relationship with someone on how they text you. PLEASE.

Red pill is very biased and pro male however i think it can be useful on extreme nice guy cases. It tends to make them more grounded and less female worthshipping. It helped me to some extent but you gotta see its limitation and outgrow it. Pick the good bits of wisdom it has and ignore the toxic parts.

They do so because of 2 main reasons 1. This is why how they were raised to think, their values and cultural norms teach them to think of women as lower and lesser in many things. This is the case in many non developed societies. 2. They feel like they have been denied something they desire from women, usually sex or love. This is the case in most developed countries (although non developed too to some extent) and this void is filled with hatred when it is not filled with love.

This guy seems quite green to me. Interesting videos about race and cancel culture. Seemed on the healthier side of green to me, such people are needed more on media.

@AtheisticNonduality Yes i am sure 90 percent of Nicki Minaj youtube views come from horny guys wanting to see her twerk

I am not talking about myself as an individual. I am talking about my generation, it pains me when many people around me feel bad from this shit, especially females (although some guys too they just dont express it much). This may sound as a rant against orange but i see no point for over sexualization.

@Leo Gura True but most guys these days do not see it in this way because of this sexualization bs. They feel worthless because they do not match standards set by the entertainment industry. So what you say is true but because of these standards and vibe that is created it makes them insecure a lot nonetheless. Even the notion of what a high quality guy is has changed in their minds. Tyler says it very well, good looking guys are portratied as very confident and charismatic so if a guy is not handsome he will feel like he should not be confident or charismatic. Most of it is subconscious. Yes, if you do self actualization work and self help it will seem foolish but most young people cannot see that far or deep. What would be the best solution is to remove this extreme sexualization and objectification in general. A lot is really unecessary in telling a good narrative and used as a shameless money grab, ignoring the subtle effects it has on young people. No but you can put a normal looking guy if he is skilled. Even male singers are quite handsome in general these days. I do not recall watching someone's face when i listen to music. Still happens. For females it is 50 times worse cough nicky minaj cough. My rant here is about this whole industry, it is purely disgusting and ruining the self esteem of basically my whole generation (i am a zoomer). So i am fully agreeing on what you said about Tomb Raider ass thing affecting young girls and building up on it to include everyone.

@Fearey Red or orange?

@Leo Gura Which psychadelic would you reccommend a total noob do? I mean i think 5 meo DMT is way too strong for a newbie. Maybe mushrooms or LSD?