PurpleTree

hmmm great question. and also lovely answers. do you have any more info/sources/practices for the people pleasing stuff. i've read "not nice" which was decent

follow the white rabbit

i don't think so, i'm not really buying it

Most often with friends And also it's a small city, so when i go out alone i might meet someone that i know. If i go out alone and see women or a group of women and i'm alone, approaching them feels very creepy and needy, so i basically never do that only sometimes when i'm drunk If i go out alone and don't meet anybody that i know then i'll most likely go home. Also i've never really done pick-up all i'm doing is going out trying to have fun and see what happens, most often nothing happens though But i've watched a few rsd videos here and there. The thing is i'm a very moody/feeling type person, if i try to force myself to do stuff when i'm not in the mood then it just feels off for me and for others most likely too. Sometimes (often) i'm really low energy, so then i try to get my energy up and be funny etc. that often doesn't work though it'd probably be better to just accept the low energy on these days and work with that. I saw a video once of Tyler and he said when he used to be so happy when he approached anybody and looked at it as a win don't matter how it went. But i'm almost the opposite i'm usually hard on myself and always see the faults in everything i did. I rarely look at things as "wins" so i' trying to work on those types of things.

Do you push yourself to go out and meet people (probably mostly women) even if you don't feel like it? has anything good come out of pushing yourself on days you don't feel good/like going out at all? Or should you just go out when you totally feel like it and are more happy and in the "zone" etc.?

the thing is though he didn't want those women he was just playing a prank on them so if you don't want them, then you don't fear their rejection, which makes you automatically much more confident and non attached because they couldn't really do anything that hurts your ego

thanks wouldn't be very easy to go out everyday here as it's a smaller city and also wouldn't be possible with my work. or what exactly do you mean by going out, does even a short visit to a bar count? sometimes it feels effortless and then when it doesn't i'm really hard on myself why it's not i can go between being the life of the party on some nights (maybe that's a bit an overstatement) to not being able to relax and thus not having fun and barely being able to look people into the eyes on another night i know it's normal for people to have bad and good days/nights but that seems a bit extreme

it's funny a few yrs ago i was trying out some magic(k) "techniques" for some stuff that i went through, exams, court stuff etc. and one of the methods was to visualise your preferred outcome during an orgasm

that's entirely possible

f it not today it's also too cold outside hopefully next week today i'm searching for a good heist movie or something

That sounds horrible, wishing you the best

Actually sometimes i enjoy cleaning up too, especially while listening to an interview or podcast etc. but unfortunately i'm not enjoying it often enough so things can get a bit messy. (like my mind)

i love cooking just not washing dishes and cleaning up, god bless my dish washer

Yea me too mostly What's frustrating is that yesterday i felt good, kind of zen, happy, kind of confident and yesterday i told myself tomorrow (today) i'll go out And now today i want to go out because i can't next week, but extremely fatigued today and not feeling it at all. Then i start to obsess why i felt better yesterday and worse today like maybe i stayed to long in the sauna, maybe it's a dopamine issue, maybe i ate something wrong, maybe just chronic fatigue and so on. Also wanting to go out but not feeling it at all creates inner tension/unhappiness, if i'd say fuck it i'm staying home and watching a movie maybe then i'd be happy in my fatigued state but because i want to make progress i can't really accept the fatigue, feeling out of it and yea that creates unhappiness. aka having too high expectations for myself like i should be cool now, should be happy and go out and have fun and meet people.

that's cool. thanks for your answer. i've also had some very bad nights socialising though (even with just friends and cousins etc.) when i didn't feel like it and still went. just couldn't connect and was far too self conscious and uncomfortable etc. and not being able to accept that i'm not funny and social that day/night made feel even worse and it just spiraled down usually i try to not to plan things and just do the things when i feel like it but here going out is mostly on saturdays so when i feel bad on saturday another week is gone. but i've also warmed up after going with bad mood, fatigue etc. first, so i guess you can never really tell how it turns out.

don't know who you're talking to. but if you're trying to address me. then i never said nor thought that racism doesn't exist. surely it does exist. i also said the laws and jail system in the u.s. needs to be changed. people need to be let out of jail for many offences of the past and so on.

if you really want to overcome then that's the first step if you're just saying you want to overcome it but actually you don't, or most parts of you don't then obviously you'll never overcome it and then find meaning in life without said "thing"

pulling her home, night game, go in for the pull etc. i know it's pick up lingo so that people know what you're talking about but it does sound rapey and creepy

coooool f*ck yea man

yea i would take it more often if it wouldn't interfere with my sleep so bad

actually yea maybe. apparently they're working on fecal matter capsules which could be swallowed and much easier than a transplantation

whatever don't act like you didn't start this conversation with me. your this you're that you're ignorant buhuuu you're ignored peace

ouchhhhy it's kewl though but you don't know me. i'm also not interested in engaging with you you're not interesting and lame (jut IMO obviously and what i've seen of you thus far) but just to tell ya and end it on a note i'm not only giving you and your little circle jerk sjw reverse racist virtue signaling movement push back. i'm also giving racists push back i'm giving people who make racist jokes or use racist terms push back and that in the real world. basically i'm giving everybody push back. i've also been to blm rallies and so on. so don't act like you know anything about me because i don't agree with your silly ideology

ok so you say it's true. but where's the humour in it, what makes it funny? well it doesn't really matter, humour is very subjective obviously often people want to show me stuff they find funny and i just find it kind of corny (i'm fun at parties ayeee)

Is that you Owen? Tyler? Papaaa?