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@SonataAllegro you smoked weed with it??

Hey all, I wanted to get some information on which psychedelic is better for first time experience and further experiences and what is the difference. I am looking for something that will help me release my fear, worry, anxiety, and, most importantly, help me be more self loving.

I’ve never tried psychedelics, but recently I got high a few times on strong weed. When high, I started having realizations about my life, some situations in my life became more clear to me. Is this why people trip? Does tripping make you see the Truth and gives you answers? Do you connect to your higher self when tripping?

But I feel like the insights don’t stay though? I even wrote some stuff down, but the handwriting was really bad.

I wanted to make this post long time ago, but always decided against it. This forum is 90% male dominated and the dating section is always full of misogynistic comments that no one reports for days. However, the second a woman writes something that remotely offends a male, it gets reported before you even get a chance to change it. Mods, is it possible for you to keep this in mind already that posts from a woman will be reported way more? It is already very hard as a female to express yourself, god forbid if you’re a witty one and not tame, the boys here just can’t handle it and have to stalk your every post the moment you make it in order to aggressively dismiss and state that a woman is wrong/doesn’t know anything/is jealous/masculine/hostile etc. Leo himself is letting all the abusive misogynist posts last on here for days and days to have “open discussion”, but I remember how when I made post about men paying for dates, he closed it the next day. How is this fair? @Leo Gura is this forum meant to be a sausage party? Or is it possible to give women freedom for an open discussion without being attacked by 18474918474 heated boys and then, reasonably, perhaps getting angry back in return?

@universe please lock this thread too.

Mods can you please lock this thread? There is too many people here with serious mental health issues and it’s bad for my mental health too. I don’t think I want to come back to this forum @NoSelfSelf

In the video the girl talks about how she was 19 and dating a guy 15 years older than her. She was taking a bus to see him, but was running late. He called her asking where she was and when she said she was just getting on the bus, he replied “didn’t we talk about your lateness before?” Can you imagine a grown mature woman taking a bus in the middle of the night to go to some dudes house like a free hooker to then have him be an ungrateful lecturing douchebag to her? Neither can I. This reminded me a lot about a recent post here by a dude who is 30 and says he only likes young girls, because women his age, as he said, “sorry not sorry”, but were not attractive to him. This dude posted about how a girl doesn’t have a car and has to take a bus to go to HIS place, she “hinted” (didn’t even dare to ask directly) that she wanted this dude to pick her up since he has a car, and the dude was whining here how he didn’t want to do it. Note that this dude goes out of his way to put down “older women” (aka women his age) in his post, he could have stated his preference without putting down women over 30, yet he writes passive aggressive things like “sorry not sorry”, “older women are desperate”, “older women have more testosterone”, etc. MASSIVE RED FLAGS of an abuser. Also, I am 30 myself and I cannot image dating a 20 year old guy, or have a 20 year old friend, I can’t even talk to 20 year olds here on this forum because they are saying nonsense and often are really arrogant/snappy about it too (aka, the donning Kruger effect). People under the age of 25 don’t even have their brains fully developed yet. Obviously, many 30+ year olds can be just as stupid, and just because you’re older doesn’t mean you are wise. BUT the reverse is definitely not true, every young person will not have experience, and therefore, be an idiot. Especially if they’ve had trauma/difficult childhood - that stuff takes years to realize and years to heal. I’ve then looked through some comments under the YouTube video and saw this and it blew my mind. I went to catholic school and had to wear uniform to school every day (grey pants and blue school top) and I would get cat called by older men all the time! It very rarely happens now that I am older. This video touched me especially bad because I’ve been in this kind of relationship myself when I was in my early 20s. I believed everything he said because in my head he was older and therefore “wiser” and must know better and I should just listen to him and everything he says and we’ll be happy (that’s also what he would tell me). This relationship took me years to recover from. Heard this before too.. lol Some of my friends had even worse experience with older men when they were younger, ending in really tragic ways, so I guess I shouldn’t complain. The power balance in these relationships is extremely twisted. And the damage this kind of relationship can do to someone when they are just starting off dating is also incomprehensible. As you grow older you develop thicker skin so you can withtand relationship heartbreaks and you won’t let anyone abuse/gaslight you and have strength and knowledge to walk away from these toxic MFs right away. Is it just abusive misogynists who go for those innocent young women? Ones that just want the woman to shut the fuck up spread her legs and eat his dick without much complains/anything in return? Ones who don’t see women as equal partners but rather someone they can dominate, rule and train?

Mods do you see what I mean by how women get attacked? Although, I don’t know if this user attacks everyone like this, or is it just women. I’ve explained already what I meant by my comment multiple times, again there is a difference between race and culture, and you can’t pretend that all cultures are equally developed. It seems that the user wants things said exactly the way he wants and he will harass the person until they say it. This is why women leave this forum because you’d go crazy with all these harassments and attacks (again don’t know if this user in particular targets only women or everyone who doesn’t do what he wants).

I am talking to you the way you’re talking to me. This conversation is over.

And you will not talk to me like that and order me around. Is that clear?!!!

Lol, what? ???

Oh, you need me to say “not all Indian men”? I have met 1 guy like that, yes. But I am talking about the culture in general.

I have lots of exposure to that culture. I don’t like Indian culture for the most part and will not romanticize it to make you feel better about yourself. That being said, I don’t like stage red/blue cultures generally. I also have no clue what you meant with the counter example thing.

@eos_nyxia What ended up happening to me is that I started worrying that all men are secretly like this. I’ve read people here (probably even Leo) saying that this is practically “locker talk”. What ends up happening with all these isolated/socially uncalibrated people here, they don’t get any feedback from the outside world, so they think they are all so developed and great and the rest are stupid “normies” who have their priorities all messed up. And no, the forum and online friends here don’t substitute in person real life connections. And, on average, people here are doing worse than the “normies”, financially, career wise, relationship wise, mentally, etc.

The reason that a 12 year old cannot start a family is because it’s not physically/psychologically ready to raise children. Children brought up in such homes would struggle physically and emotionally. The reason why cars are not rented out to people under 25 is because the data proves to be more reckless/unable to see the consequences of their reckless driving. Cops/teachers etc go through rigorous training and are being constantly monitored by others in order not to abuse their power.

Like I explained, I thought the guy was the same guy who made a post here about Indian guys struggling to date in US. Again, that was not a racist comment, nothing to do with race, but with the culture. It’s important to learn to distinguish the two.

You think that the power balance between two genders will change over night right after you fix laws? Also in some countries men have the right to bare their head and drive cars that women cannot do.

Because growing up children have been taught to listen to adults because they are older and thus know better. You were not told to listen to your younger/same age sibling. Being older has a natural authority to it.

There was a lot of really good women on this forum, really wise and their advice was always gold. They didn’t want to tolerate this abuse anymore, no healthy woman would want to be a part of this toxic community for long. There were multiple posts similar to mine too, nothing changes. I feel the opposite though, I’ve never met men who would be as bad as they are here (some men here are also very wise though and give great advice, but majority is toxic and abusive). After being on this forum my view of men declined drastically.

Why was the age of concent 18 to begin with? Why is it that in US you aren’t considered responsible enough to have alcohol until 21, but yet it’s ok for a 40 year old grandpa to date you? Or why is it that you can’t even rent a car until the age of 25? But yet you are considered wise enough to marry/start a family/ bring in children to this world.

More moralizing. See my post 10 comments ago about how you’re harassing me and how I am not going to be NICE to someone who is constantly harassing me.

That is my style of communication. It will never change. In fact, you being a pain in the ass makes me want to call people names even more. See you do it, so maybe instead of trying to teach a grown woman of how she’s supposed to speak you try and change yourself?

Again with the coulds and shoulds Do you make everyone in your life say exactly what you want or otherwise you throw tantrums and lecture them for hours? How does anyone keep tolerating you at this point.

So why aren’t you commenting under a thousands of posts like this that men make? Why aren’t you reporting that? You’ve patted yourself on the back for not participating in the “women are run through” open discussion we’ve been having - interestingly you’ve commented that also AFTER MY POST. Or because I am a woman I am not allowed to be “controversial and polarizing” not to make entitled “centre of the universe” males like you “triggered”?