SamC

We got you bro

And show intent. That you are there to fuck here - not to be her friend. This is according to my research one of the most important thing.

@Gesundheit @Tim R 1: When you enable a narcissist you're doing it out of fear and thorugh being manipulated ( Which has happend cause they have found what your fears and triggers are). If you were to act out of love in this situation, you would stay the fuck away from this person 2: Let's take your example, if one were to be abused by a narcissist.. what are some ways to handle the situation. You can either A: Hate the narcissist, hate yourself for falling for the narcissist, hate yourself for hating the narcissist and as a result become bitter for the rest of your life. That's a choice, and there is nothing wrong with that choice, the only question is if that's the thing you want moving forward. ( do you see how this will just create more suffering, ego and evil?) Or B Allow yourself to feel all of your different emotions of hate e.ct towards yourself and that person and love, accept and honor your/ that experience. Loving something = acceptance of everything just as it is, including your ego's view of the experience. This alternative doesn't include, wanting to enable a narcissist - only accepting your feelings and behaviors as they are. Now, ask yourself if you were to choose, which one is the " best" way to go about managing this problem with an abusing narcissists? Is the answer moving forward, honoring/ accepting your feelings, taking steps toheal and develop yoursellf or is it hating those feelings? The only way to counter hate is with love, so when you hate something, whatever it is.. love that you hate it. Meet your ego with love and acceptance. "Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses"

It's a paradox. You want to accept the ego to be able to transcend it. Otherwise you will create more ego. It's the same with yourself. You can't use fear/ negative motivation to change yourself in a core sort of way. First you need to accept yourself, than you can transcend yourself. If you hate that you hate yourself more fear and hate will come up and you'll be stuck in the same pattern. Same goes for ego. If you perceive that the concept "ego" is bad - you also partake in the same pattern and create more ego. You can't hate your ego to death - only love it.

Bro, I would be careful with this girl. I don't know but somehing feels super off. On top of this, you say you have attracted similar girls before. It is a red flag. Yeah and nice girls don't do that. Most woman are super sensitive to set people in pain. Not saying that she is but in some ways she reminds me of narrcisst. 20 points to buy her a house, are you kidding me?? Be careful man! This doesn't sound like normal games. This gets me thinking of spiral dynamics stage red and a power game, disguised as a joke. " ohh but it's just a joke"... no it's just super weird. You have the total right to feel your feelings, don't let her gaslight you into believing you're overreacting. Your feelings are your feelings and they are true. You have the right to feel hurt - they are the perfect indicator to your reality. Note though bro, that I don't know shit about her, you or your relationship so don't take my words as the truth. I hope that this is not the case and that I am terrible wrong. I have also read a lot of your posts and you sound like a super awsome guy. You deserve the best! Don't let gits, good gestures and stories manipulate you - listen to peoples energi and intent, not their words. Again she might be awsome and it might be as she explained, I don't know, but keep an eye on her. All the best man!

Awsome that you care about this person mate - I've been in similar situations many times. What I'm trying to get at is that you're emotionally codependent to her. You see your path, as a way to save her. " I tend to want to bring people with me, and she seems like she needs somebody to ground her as well as push her to develop". In other words her obsession and desperste need of you makes you feel loved, it's deep stuff. You give her secerity and is her savior in a way. If you're where to leave her you would fear for her future health and development, and you know that. Why? Cause She needs someone to ground her - aka she needs you. Just like you need her. Note bro, that its nothing wrong about that, but it's destructive in the long turn. It will cause a lot of suffering and destroy the relationship. That's my message and perspective, now do whatever the fuck you want it. Take care man.

Yeah an archetype who symbolizes something. Me too, you have no idea?. I do this a bit to much for my own good though. It's a challenge, but a fun one to find a good match!

Meditation helps with everything. Than again - if you're not motivated and see the benefits you won't do it.. cause the point with meditation is not to make more money, it's to become happier. Therefor - look at this below to get a good case to meditate??? Why do you want to earn money? Probably cause you belive that if you make X amount of money you will be happy, fulfilled and enough, but do you see what you did there? You asked will meditation help me get more money. And the answer is indirectly yes... but you didn't ask - will meditation make me happier more fulfilled. Eventhough that's what you seek thourgh earning more money. It's nothing wrong to want to make money - it's a necessity for life and survival and it get's you cool stuff. Go and pursue it if that's what you want.. but also pursue happiness/ stillness cause when you're happy - you will get more money, be more energetic and of corse - be even happier when you get the money?.

Psychotherapy and meditation is self help though Get what you mean though, start with the basics - fix your issues first, but that often includes self help or cultivating self acceptance/ self love/healing which is a form of self help.

The truth is that you can't really help her. You can give ger love, support and suggestions as to what you think might help her but it's her life, Only she can solve her issues. I understand that you want to help her and that's okey and super caring you, but in reality - you can't be her savior. Eventhough she and you would like that to be the case. You're codependent to her, which is super understandable - but it's not healthy and beneficial for you or your relationship in the long turn. It will destroy it. I would honestly try to get out of this relationship and than figure out why you got into this relationship in the first place. What does she give you that you desperately need? What can you give her that she desperately needs. If this is not an option, be there for her, give her love support and meet her with understanding. You have your life to live, it's not the partners task to save the other partner. That's not love, that's fear and codependency.

I would focus on 1 habit at a time. A good habit usually tends to have a positive carry over effect on your other habits though. This means that you might start to eat even healthier and do other stuff that's beneficial for you if you were to let's say start to meditating. Don't be to seduced by this though! Note that an extension on your habit is not automatic if it's not something you're doing. The ideal approach to habit building is to create a system where you do something repetitively on the SAME TIME, SAME DAY.. every single time you're doing the habit. This is of corse impossible sometimes, but remember, that the habit is not the goal - your desired lifestyle is. So focus on one thing to improve and do it consistently ideally at a specific day/ time and nail that one in. Than do the next! Otherwise you won't be able to stick to it and you will fall back. Slow and steady wins the race, build quality habits that lasts, don't rush the process!

Fuck RSD I have found the real shit?

Before everyone starts screaming ITS FUCKING TINITUS!! I'll tell you that tinnitus usually don't just disappear out of nowhere... cause guess what?? It just disappeared... again. Right when I started writing this post. Unbelievable! Lmao This is the first time it is gone in like 2 weeks. Before the 2 weeks I heard it on and off and it always seems to be getting louder when I meditate. I just meditated for about 40 min + kriya yoga + wim Hoff and it was super there and loud 10 minutes ago. Today I heard other sounds in my ears at the same time as I heard this one but those sounds whre different and in the left ear. This sound suddenly disappearing on me has happend before though... one time during a meditation in fact. I heard the sound and than decided to focus on it and so I did for like 5 minutes and than boom from nowhere it was gone again. Like wtf is this?? It litterly comes and goes and Is only in my right ear and gets louder when I meditate and do spiritual stuff. Sometimes it's louder sometimes quiter. Does anyone know what the fuck this is? I would appreciate all of your inputs! ( All the medium and chanelling guys aswell) If any one you guys can tell me what this sound is and means I'll give you a cookie. Thanks!

High pitched. Yeah true, it could be because excess vax. I have thought about checking that.

Interesting! Thanks for the imput

Not only for validation. But love(; You feel drained cause you sacrifice yourself for codependency love. You do this cause you either want to or feel that you have to be their savior. They will then when you do this give you " needy love" as a thank you and than you feel important ( aka loved) which is what your ego craves. Glad I could help! (the same pattern is in my life btw)

Could you define clairaudience?

Might be the case. I don't know though, it's pretty weird that it especially comes and becomes louder after I have meditated. If it is, that's fine. I will continue my research into it!

So weird right. Still waiting for some mystical experiences though! Maybe some dmt aliens can explain to me what this is in the future lmao

Awsome! Yeah it's gone now but I debated if I should go see a doctor or something before. Here?

To be honest, if it's a spiritual thing and comes and goes I can have it but if it's always there as it has been for over 2 weeks, I would not want it.( untill yesterady that is, cause I haven't heard it since I wrote this post) I was kind of scared that it wouldn't go away to be honest but now it's gone again so Idk. Weird!

Bro I love this so much man! I will check out your music and your writing. You seem super chill! It's so true it's a process and I'm still super young ( 19 years old). Thanks for your input. You inspire me!

I have just finished the LP Course and It has been life transforming. I have discovered my zone of genius which is that I give people deep insights about themselves and the world intuitivly when I talk and discuss with them. I don't want to be a byrocratic life coach though, I want to be a public speaker who can answer peoples questions about this stuff really fucking good. I love my L.P and I am also great at it but here is the thing - that's not the only thing that I love. I have beside this also discovered that I have a deep passion to play, sing and create music aswell. Like, I can sit for hours playing guitar and creating songs and it feels sometimes even more fun and creative than talking to people. I am for the record good at this aswell, but probably not as gifted as I am in my other ability. I am unsure and somewhat confused about what I should do. Maybe I can combine it, but how can I give intuitive insights to people through music? And am I even good enough at this for it to be my zone of genius cause I am really fucking good at understanding people intuitivly. Like really good. Can I really have 2 zone of geniuses?? My impact statement is to give people hope through wisdom ( insights) and that can be done both by playing and creating music and by being a public speaker who can give people insights on the fly. Any thoughts or ideas what I should do? What are your recommendations? More research? Small best? Patience? Thanks for all your help and advice!@Leo Gura

100% love this. Super true. Hopefully no aliens will come and steal our DMT tho

Yeah I get it. Go follow your ❤ @Siba If you have any cool art that can give people insights about themselves that you would like to share, shoot me a PM. I would love to see them!