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@Javfly33 100% and I am trying to resolve it but it's pretty damn hard. I want to say that I don't like feminism becuase I live in a Sweden which is super green and that I therefor have seen the exses but I don't buy it lol.

@Leo Gura I am on it

Wow This is getting really interesting. People are actually starting to add two and two together... Quote from the video:

Go on Naval Ravikants podcast. He is a yellow + systemsthinker and is into nonduality and meditation. He has been on Joe Rogan - check him out.

because his vids are literally 4 hours long

Good evening everyone and welcome to my journal about low self-esteem! I hope you will find hope and wisdom in my writings, story, and progress in troubleshooting my own low self-esteem. Enjoy. Introduction - why am I doing this? I have created this journal for a couple of reasons and the biggest one has not to do with me, but with you, the human being who reads this, at this very second - right here, right now. I know that this sounds cliché but bear with me. I will explain what I mean in a second, but before we get there I want you to ponder a couple of questions I have prepared for you. Are you ready? Okay, go! Do you know who you are? Do you feel worthy? .... Are you enough? If you answered no to any of the questions above - I can tell you that... * whispering, " you are not alone!". I am in the same boat, and my hope is to one day help us both get out of this ocean of self-created shame and hatred, but for that - I need you to hold the candle for me... For sometimes we need to be the light in our own tunnel - and hence, that´s where I am going now. I am going to find a way out of my own tunnel - out of my own darkness so that I then can come back and help other people who are crying in their own cave of despair find their own way out into the light. Towards a life with a healthy self-image - where everything is possible. Towards a life, where they are their own light, in their own tunnel. That´s what this journal is about. It's about documenting my journey in troubleshooting my low self-esteem so that it then can help, inspire and give guidance in how others can do the same. It´s really important to note though that chances are that you don´t have the same type of " low self-esteem" that I do. Low self-esteem takes so many different shapes and forms and I will only focus on my specific variant of low self-esteem which is insecure low self-esteem with perfectionism. Bare that in mind when reading this journal - but also don´t shy away from taking inspiration and trying out and contemplating the ideas, techniques, and exercises yourself. To the people that read this and suffer from low self-esteem, I only have one message. I know how painful it feels and I sincerely hope that I one day can help you see the world in a different light through my own journey. I know the feeling when you believe you´re worthless, and I have directly experienced the darkness that these perceptions have projected out on to the world... But I also know that lights always beat the darkness and that I will fight to be that light myself, for me and everyone else.

Watch this. I remember them talking about how a client was attracted to another woman while being in a relationship. He explained it as a way for your anima ( your feminine side) to be heard. Investigate it for yourself! @Raf_vd

@EmeraldThat's your bias based on a belief that it's much easier if you are a man. Probably animus repression

1: Discover something you hate or despise. 2: Find a book, video, or resource on the topic 3: Read the book/ watch the video and try to understand the perspective, how it came by and why you hate it. For example, Read Mine Campf and try to understand Hitler.. Or my example, I have a lot of yellow in me but I still have a big green shadow so I am looking to learn more about the feminine perspective, animus obsession, and anima integration, and all that stuff to understand what´s going on because it is something that I see in stage green that I hate about myself. In other words. Find out what really triggers you and learn more about it and immerse yourself to death with that perspective.

this sounds like green lol

Woman know what they want, not what they are attracted to. It's like they are giving the guy they dated advise on how to be a better boyfriend becuase he treated her poorly. It's honestly just simple survival and " overcompensating" pendelum swing reaction against what the guy did wrong... just like when someone reacts against the excess of spiral dynamics color X That's also why a lot of girls feel misunderstood and like that the guys are not open to " THEIR" experience of what they want which they feel so strongly becuase they have experienced the opposite side of the coin ( what hurtled them) - so strongly before. That said - they don't know what will attract them becuase that process is subconsciously driven, while they are focused on what they want consciously.

What happens if you're not resisting anxiety? Is that anxiety or something else? I would say shame.

What I would do if I were you is to work towards discovering your problems/ challenges and the root solution to them and then figure out which concepts are used in describing the thing you want to change or improve. The same thing goes for if you want to improve on something. For example, if you want to learn how to set boundaries, then google boundaries and look for concepts and resources that are interrelated to that ( For example, inner child, shadow, anima, or whatever). Then when you have identified something which seems helpful to learn more about you, you go into that rabbit hole ( for example, shadow work or whatever) The key is from my experience to find the root solution to a problem, which usually is done through going deeper and deeper into the thing you want to develop, understand or change. In other words, be specific about which problem you want to work on/ improve and then go deeper and deeper into it by going deeper and deeper into concepts that are related to that one thing you want to improve. Hope this helped (:

Teal Swan would be really interesting

Happy birthday Leo! Your work is one of the greatest gifts to humanity

@StarStruck Did you get laid? how fast? What value did you from it?

@mandyjw No, the premise is that women potentially won´t be attracted to males who are less successful than them because women are more attracted to wealth, status, and success than men are which then leads to a situation where the options for women are running out. ( Because they can´t find a partner to which they are attracted) it's not that men see it as unattractive, it's that it is not as attractive as success is for women when they are selecting a mate. Like, men don´t really care. honestly( Attraction wise). Sure they might be repelled by it because they are scared and have low self-esteem, but I don´t think that is that big of a problem. There are other variables.. at least for more conscious males - such as looks, personality, compatibility, consciousness, etc. If a girl is super-wealthy, the guys won´t care that much (attraction-wise) but the woman will care more because she doesn´t want to date below, she wants to date above. Also, wealth is only one part of the attraction equation for women. Attraction can arise, if a man embodying his masculinity, even though he is poor. A woman who is wealthy should in other words still have a good chance to find a high-quality partner even though she might have higher standards because a man can give a woman security in so much more ways than being successful... But, as I said - the premise is that it might be harder because finding high-quality partners is harder when you have higher standards. Not that a successful woman is unattractive to men.

Amazing video to practice how not to judge and react against spiral dynamics stage orange.

I belive the best would be to be open to them about how you feel when they do this roasting game's. If they are not understanding, you should ditch them and move on. Thinking about it... who wouldn't feel shit if you have a game where you're trying to put people down? That's so immature and stupied. Honestly, ditch them anyways - find better friends. These are not people you want to be around anyways It is 2 weeks left. If they start, tell them that you don't want to partake In this game and tell them why. If they start blaming you, leave the fucking table. In other words, practice setting boundaries. That's one of the keys for now, and for your college life.

Be you but don't try to get them up, they are not ready yet.

(: You are right! (: You being aware of it is enough. Be aware of what you're doing, feel into it - do what makes you feel good and notice why you´re doing it and then take action in accordance to eat. Also, consider do try to not meditate sometimes if you notice that you´re super afraid of not meditating. I know I know, it´s very contradicting, but the reason why is because it is super context-sensitive. it´s a paradox. Leo is right.. I mean how do you think I realized this?? by consciousness and awareness of course but which then, funnily enough, made me realize that my approach of forcing it didn´t work. That´s why you should continue meditating lmao, but at the same try to find out ways so that you can break this cycle. one way is being " AWARE OF THIS DYNAMIC"... Conciousness is currative and the foundation ect ((: ( See what I did there Lmao)

Yeah (: @fopylo You´re scared of not being enough and therefore try to fix yourself. Do you notice however that you´re trying to avoid fear by raising your conciousness? I used the exact same tactic man... I tried to cure my low self-esteem by meditating every single day ( forcing myself to do it). It became like an OCD where I had to do it in order to be enough and cure myself and where I had to become more conscious to solve my neurosis. But, the fact of the matter is this... THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU and the " needing to" mediate and raise your consciousness feeds into this negative feedback loop. Look at this feedback loop model and you will see. " I am not good enough " ------ " I need to change myself in order to be enough -------- I should meditate to change myself --------- If I don´t do this I will not be enough and then I will be unlovable, worthless or whatever" This is what you´re doing. You think you´re solving your neurosis but you´re not. You are MAINTING IT, instead of solving it because you´re acting in accordance with it. That said, you shouldn´t stop meditating because of fear of being driven by fear, because that will also feed into the dynamic of you not being good enough. Instead - meditate and do it and everything else in life because you love it and because it feels awesome and because you want to. Discover what you want and then go after it, if that is getting girls, consciousness, success, money, or whatever pursue it. Let your inner compass be what makes you feel good, not the fear of not being good enough.

yeah, and why is it bad to be fucked? what will it mean if you wouldn´t unfuck yourself?

Because it is short-term. Playing the ego game will make you happier in the short term while playing the consciousness game will make you happy in the long term +the happiness that is created will be grounded in something sustainable.

The last thing I'll say is this. They of course won't but the question is, do you honestly feel like they won't fulfill you? To me, it sounds like you're trying to get self-acceptance and consciousness so that you then can pursue the outside world with love + at the same feel love and peace... Almost like, " imma fix me first, and then I can function normally and be enough"... Which reminds me of myself lmao. You know best what's best for you, but be careful. Leo has many times in his videos mentioned that it is important to get your lower needs in check before going all buddha style because even though you know they won't fulfill you, you will deeply crave them. You can´t become conscious and loving if what you´re pursuing is based on avoiding what you fear ( not being good enough/ not accepting yourself". Notice how trying to get somewhere else and becoming conscious in itself is a crutch and based on the idea that you´re fucked up... which is not love, but fear GL my man