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Yeah makes sense but I still don't get why Leo says the opposite in his new how to get laid vids? Have you changed your mind or made a finer distinction? @Leo Gura

Yeah, that makes sense. Cool! How do you do that? Is it about getting into state thorugh approaches or are there other ways except drinking alcohol. Can I train myself to do this somehow? Will exposere to these situations in a way autocorrect it if I pair it with trying to get into state? @Leo Gura Makes sense! Thanks Leo.

@Leo Gura Hmm yeah interesting! What about when the girl you approach try to find her friend to get herself away from you? What is the reason behind that? Is the solution simply developing better verbal game? Also, last time I made a post about this you gave me the advice that you gotta physically escalate fast in the club. How does that go with being careful with to much physical game from the start? Can you help me make that fine distinction?

Wow, this was profound. Mind exapning pn this?@mememe

What Is the thing they don't understand about you/ the world?@EntheogenTruthSeeker

I think this approach of burning through karma needs to be accompanied with awarness. Awarness alone is curative - so fulfill your karmic desires - but do it CONSCIOUSLY.

Maybe it's you that is against yourself

@soos_mite_ah I think what your therapist is noticing is that you´re afraid of having these coping mechanisms because you believe they are a problem. My therapist said something similar to me in regards to my goals. I said that I was driven by fear, while he said I was driven by desire. I felt incredibly misunderstood and almost angry as to why he didn´t see that I was driven by fear. I later realized that the real mechanism of fear for me was the very act of wanting to avoid being driven by fear and that I tried to " let go of it".. but for what? because of fear. What has helped me is going towards what I want instead of trying to stop acting from fear. This has meant that I sometimes have let myself be driven by fear.. because It´s okay. Dare to trust in yourself. What do you want?

@Zeroguy Lol. You don't get it. Controlling people and needing people to be in a certain way backfires and creates a self fulfilling prophecy. I have nothing to do with this dynamic. If the girl is always like " where have you been?" " you don't really love me; you will leave me" " you think I am annoying" ----- it will become the reality. Lastly, your entire point of not letting be controlled is this whole mechanism. You don't want to get controlled - that's why you will avoid committing to these girls.. but her having this attachment is not something you can control. @Vzdoh If the girl is super attached she will "love" you so incredibly much and belive you will save her. She often tries to control who your friend group is, who you can hang out with or not and how much attention she should get. She can for example be extremly ubset if you forget to text her " in time" This has showed up in almost all of the girls that I have had a relationship with or have been close to have a relationship with. I attract broken super attached girls. I think there can be degrees to this.. but it's always repelling.. yet at the same time " toxic" attractive. It's a self destructive attraction becuase you feel so loved, but then at the same time so trapped. Side note: I don't know where this came from but your NEED of him being intimate with you makes him scared of being it with you.. so the more you try, the harder he will resist. Take what you want from this.

I've experienced that I am scared to commit because the girls become super attached to me ( reliet on me) and if it then don't work out for whatever reason there will be immense suffering for both. Her fear of me not committing to her becomes a self fulfilling prophecy because she tries to control me and then I end up not wanting to try at all, because I know that the consequences will be severe if I commit and then change my mind.

Maybe you are right This was awsome, Thanks a ton

Beating myself up for not being as spiritual as I want to be or in other words, accepting when my ego is taking over and being fine with it. That's really challenging.

I think this is a good sign that you should brake up with her.

He is a super interesting case study of how new age beliefs and maybe even paranormal abilities can make you incredibly self deceived. There might be an ounce of truth to what he is saying and it might even be as such that he has some " paranormal abilities " that has given him messages but I belive those are the very thing that was his downfall. This, because it made him trust himself to much because HE had access to ultimate truth.. except he never did.

Women are afraid of men... yet at the same time LOVE men. This is something I am still trying to wrap my head around, and while I do understand it - I want to understand it deeper. Preferably from the female perspective, but also very much from all the other perspectives as well. Here are some specific questions that highlight the essence of what I don´t yet understand. Thank you for your help! Note that these questions are only there to help assist a deep metaphysical inquiry about the meta dynamics of the female mind. 1: What exactly does a man provide for you? Why are men so " Awesome"? ( for women) 2: What does make a man a creep/ scary? ( what invokes fear in woman) 3: What is the most important thing a man can do to not make women feel afraid but safe? ( if you have to go down to one word, to the essence). Any other thoughts, explanations, or comments about this paradox are not only welcome - but highly appreciated. @Leo Gura Thoughts?

Wow 15, That's so young. I would have loved to discover this at that age. Leo's life purpose course is almost a must. It will help you a ton.

On one level, I am really conciousness for my age. I am spiral dynamics stage yellow, with shadow elements in both green and orange. These shadow elements seem to be really big though, because even though - I am calm and aware on one level, I am super unaware and scared on another. It's like I see a lot of stuff very clearly, and gravitate towards truth and understanding while still being really anxious. I have social anxiety, separation anxiety and anxiety in general over things that can go wrong, yet I am wise for my age and have a lot of wisdom within me that I don't know where it comes from. It's like I am pretty conscious but not in integrity with it. I realize stuff that others don't, yet I can still be super scared of stuff that " unconcious " spiral dynamic stage blue people don't care about... so in that sense, I am unconcious. It's a very interesting paradox. Something tells me this is due to that some people have a security wound which is tied to their world view while others like me have a " big ego wound" which makes one scared of not living up the very fixed identity towards others. Anyway, What is this? Any ideas or thoughts? Thanks @Leo Gura

Where would you peg yourself? @Gregory1 interesting. Thanks. Any ideas how to understand this better? ( how God realized you are)

@Gregory1 Hmm maybe you're right. Thanks! What would you say the difference with having a center of gravity of yellow and having aspects of yellows? How would the 2 look like? Interesting perspective! Thanks for the insight man. Why do you think that's easier? Thanks for reaching out man! Yeah, I can relate to that aswell eventhough my bullying experience is kind of left in the dark. My whole life is trying to figure out emotional belonging and connection... especially in regards to the femenine. I understand that it is tough to feel " alone/ separated from other people". See it as different hang ups in the ego. some have a vulnerable ego with a big need to protect it's world view because that's what hold the world together. Other people, don't care about that as much and instead care about being " X" In regards to oneself or other people. My friend has for example aspects of stage blue and hold his world view very steadily ( he is a chrisitian). Becuase of this tightly held world view he needs to fight all other perspectives because they are dangerous for him. I on the other hand don't give a fuck about if I am wrong. Like there is no anxiety there at all, it's like - oh okey cool and then I adjust. What's interesting however is that he don't care about what other people think at all and have a lot of more empathy for other people becuase his ego is " more incompassing and less rigid in that way". So in some ways, he is more " loving" and in other ways I am more loving.. That's where the question begun. When reading this again, it's almost as is the solution is the problem, maybe he is more rigid because it's his survival strategy and I am more flexible because I am not at my " final secure world view yet" Anyway. Yes I have been hurt, and would love to chat more. I'll PM you.@WonderSeeker

I am going our clubbing tomorrow and want to protect my ears. I don't want to damage my hearing. Any good products/ recommendations?

Buy her X if you want to but don't let her manipulate you to buy it. Also dont do it because you want something. See buying her a coffee as a fine gesture, WHEN you want to. It's not about do's or don'ts. It's about you doing what's authentic to you.

Yeah, but do you know what's weirder? Hearing a fucking ringing sound 24/7 eventhough it's quiet. That's really strange my friend!? Yeah - I plan on outgrowing this as fast as possible. Thanks for the tip! Thanks for the link. I'll experiement ?? Yeah, I'll keep that in my back pocket! That's hilarious ? Okey, cool - thanks for the tip! @Random witch can you hook me up? Any spare finges available? Oh hell no, the gates would flood open! I don't wanna drown the club.

I am very perfectionistic so before I tried to write down everything as I saw that it could be used for XYZ later. This leads to paralyze by analysis becuase I procrastinate reading and taking notes becuase the effort is so high due to me wanting it to be perfect. I know this is not the best way though. When I looked around some have said that it's best to take notes after you have read something and try to remember it and then look at the material again and take notes on the things you missed. How do you do it? @Leo Gura

@Surfingthewave Well obviosly I do but I am trying to heal. That's why I try to understand, because I want to heal and grow. It's my whole point. If you read my posts you will notice that aswell Trust me, I know. This is my whole work. Please let me grow my own way. I ask these questions because it's a part of my journey to understand and heal. It's not weird or strange that I beliive what I belive and it's not so simple to say that I don't have a point either. Woman are afraid of toxic masculinity/ shadow feminity in men, but if it's healthy masculinity then the fear may or may not be there, depending on the context. Besides this, woman often have a love hate relationship to their masculinity which gets projected outwards, just like a lot of men have shadow feminine aspects so my beliefs are understanable, yet at the same time gross generalizations. ( see the term animus posseion). I am trying to understand you ( the feminine), please try to understand me aswell. Eventhough it's based on fear - I am trying to connect to the femenine, I do my best. Please try to see that.

Yeah for sure Yes I do, I signal shadow feminity which implies toxic masculinity and feminine repression.