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When you’re allowed to say whatever you want, groups will start to agree about what should and should not be said. We don’t have freedom of speech because we wanted to say everything. We have freedom of speech to figure out what we do not want to say. It sounds backwards but freedom of speech is supposed to guide us towards a more conscious way of speaking- not one where we little just say anything- because we can. We all know where that gets us. Well, not all, that’s the problem here anyways, isn’t it? Some actually think that because we can say anything, we should and thats how we exercise our rights. But we need to acknowledge that none of us like to hear everything and at the very least there needs to be a good contextual foundation for the words.

If you don’t think it will cause legal trouble, 100% yes. Be able to discuss sourcing, methods, precautions, etc. would be so beneficial.

@Preety_India The reasons. Most likely, the general, nonspecific, forgiving reason are not the real ones in this scenario. If you’re thinking things like ‘they’re a person too, that’s why they did it, selfishness, etc’ Thats a good starting place but not good enough to forgive them in a way that isn’t Stockholm syndrome. For that you’d need to suffer a little, controllably, and figure out really why?

That’s awesome! Keep doing nothing, if it works.

Trust me https://www.altrarunning.com/ They don’t have to be running shoes. I wear them inside too, as slippers, despite the look. Read up on them a bit; their big things are the open toe box and neutral/level base.

Ants in my eyes Johnson!!!!!! One of the best!!!

@Carl-Richard if they get bad enough, you can go get them drained. Otherwise, steamy showers, vitamin C, etc. standard cold stuff.

@thisintegrated This is just naive. Pretty sure the authors of spiral dynamics are stage blue. So ‘blue teaching these yellow concepts is just dumb’ is just dumb. Also yellow thinks can make shitty videos too. Check out some of Leo’s work a few years ago

@thisintegrated You’re being very naive. Spiral dynamics was written by people at stage blue. Certainly not yellow or turquoise.

Ignoring the simple preferences people may have for their lifestyle, there are probably more kids and people in third world countries on this forum than we may think. Meaning, some of us simply haven’t been given the spotlight yet. That’s not a victim complex, that can be true. Also, again, many of us here are happy with a fork in our eye Who cares about money? What have you been doing? Haven’t you learned anything?! Just kidding Seriously though, to each their own life. We didn’t come here to compete or contrast metrics of character. Most of us came here for Truth and you don’t have to be a billionaire playboy to figure Truth out or talk about it. In fact, it might slow you down haha

Fair enough.

I’m glad you’re cooking I just moved out and I started back up myself, fun, tasty, and sometimes healthy. Im glad it seems you’re doing the basics too. Sometimes the basics feel that way so we can get them over with and dream a little. Dream a little. If you’re taking care of yourself and just feel a dread, you must still have some extra time to yourself if you’re cooking, eating, etc. Try things, with or without people. Whatever, just dream. We love you.

Good and Evil are relative. Assuming you are a good person, stay that way. But nothing is saying you are but you. Good can be evil and evil can be good. One thing, good for me, could be bad for you. Vice versa. The relative game of ‘Good vs. Evil’ is senseless though. It is better to focus on your ability to focus. Your ability to surrender to whatever happens. If you understand God, non duality, etc. You’ll see why everything from Gods perspective is good and why it can not be this why for you without suffering. It could also feel sick, nasty and outright wrong. This might be where some of your confusion comes from. You could be trying to take on Gods perspective too fast. Im sure you’re a nice person, but it is hard for any of us to surrender to seemly injustice atrocities of the world in the name of wisdom and Gods love. Or however you want to look at it. Instead of worrying about what good and evil are maybe it’d be more practical to first focus on what you think is good and evil. Have you felt evil? or Good? What remains the same out of those experiences? Any differences? In physics there is a saying ‘there is no such thing as cold, only lack of heat.’ Heat is just the moving of particles, no movement, no heat. But it’s really not cold just less hot. I like to say, and I don’t know if I made this up or Leo or someone said it but: ‘There is no such thing as hate, only lack of Love’ I think it fills in the gaps.

Just some I’ve gathered the past couple years, not much. Just the ones that stick with me. The hashtags are for search function

Learn to work with bpd, like anything else you’ll be okay. I work with a girl with bpd, been to scared to ask her out for months. Ive seen her have some ‘episodes’ but I’m pretty good with handling peoples emotions. Doesn’t bother much at all. She’s smart, and cute as hell.

@Leo Gura The problem with an appeals board is the delay. Some of the stories ‘moderated’ have been pretty ‘timely.’ Over all though, perhaps we need more moderation than Musk may be bringing but less than what we have. Uncertain; we’ll see what Musk does.

Thinking effects almost, if not, everything we do. So we must, at least, agree it is important. Now, if we imagine trying to develop any skill, you need to practice it enough to get good but not too much that you get caught up in it. Thinking is the same way. You will not get better at thinking if you do it all of the time and it is not an easy thing to stop or untangle for the rest of your life. So you must take breaks and even learn how to do so better. Via no mind. It is not so much that we wish to think or not, it is just that we’d like to have the option to go from hard thinking to nothing

@RokazuluYou misunderstood what I was calling stupid. But I misunderstood you as well. Nonethless, yeah, lol, ideally. But also, this forum was almost specifically designed to help people who do not realize they are their own authority and the seriousness of these topics requires moderating.

@Rokazulu It is insultingly stupid to ask whether authority has any positive consequences. Also, are we having an absolute conversation here or one relative to this forum? Because if you’re going to propose this forum has less authority and then, at the same time, say you’re your own authority - you’re arguing against yourself. Not saying authority shouldn’t be wielded careful. Power needs responsibly. But ride that line then. Don't flip flop.

@Rokazulu Fine zero authority, zero focus. Freedom always everywhere. Are you seriously questioning whether we need authority at all?

Actualized.org has never been a place to give Truth or uphold a free place to speak. It has been a place to lead us to Truth and it turns out that doesn’t require the ability to talk about anything we want. It actually needs focus. Most of the censoring here has been political or obvious. Say what you will about the politics, it’s not really even needed here anyways. But, sure I do not always agree with some locked threads. Other than that, mostly, the censoring has been reasonable. I get the disdain though. I’d just say, Leo’s game here is fun. Play by his rules a bit, might not be for you but, for some things, it is highly effective. Also, there’s always Reddit, open browsers and Facebook. Just be careful though, I bet I could find some words you’d want to censor too. Not a threat, love you, just an acknowledgment. But, I’ve made grown men cry. Ones would would’ve ‘talked about anything.’

You won’t question the result.

Deciding

Hi, so obviously there is more context to this topic but in short with an example: How do we avoid over explaining in a conversation or feeling like we have something to say? Even if we know we are right, what are some tips to exercise self control during engaging introspective conversations? I grew up fighting (verbally) a lot and even though I’ve turned it to a well manner good intentions dude I will get super over explainy with people. Example with Leo: After the 1st Thoery of everything video with Curt, Leo mentioned somewhere (video, forum, idk) that in the 2nd video he’d be much more listening oriented and try to give Curt more time to speak. How did you prepare for that? In the first video, leo just talked over Curt, over explained, etc. In the 2nd, he did as he said and listened more, etc. How do you do that while still making your points? I know a big part of it is feeling although there are no points to really make. Nonetheless Much love

@Kamo yeah this problem is quite easy, but a little counter intuitive. appreciate the help, though. I think I just need to keep growing up