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@Terell Kirby The kid in me probably just wanted to hear this. Love you ❤️ That’s what deception wants you to think, silly.

Who knows, maybe I’ll do something a little out of character and selfishly soon enough. I know it’s not so bad. It just feels like a waste when there’s people starving and such. But perhaps I have given my self enough to be free and think freely and not enough to live free and act freely.

Deception is the least of my worries. Once deception is gone, you have to figure out what to do actually. And I do not know what to do. I am not good at thinking for myself and doing what would logically work. And I do not have a role model or someone in my life that can easily see into my life and support me specifically. I was good enough, up until this point. I secured free insurance in America, live alone, work less than 30 hours a week, probably will get money if a relative dies, etc. I can kind of Min-Max the shit out of life and I am way more spoiled than I would like to admit but it is not purposeful or fun. I want to help people. Make music or educate. But I see how everything just works out now. That makes it so much harder to be selfish and try to save the world myself. So I do not want to save the world anymore. I do not need saving anymore. I accept I can not save anyone I thought I maybe could anymore. WTF is there to purposefully do here? Lmao!! I could fuck chicks? I’d feel bad. Keep eating hedonistically, I would feel bad? Try to get into a relationship and pretend I do not like to be alone 90% of the time? I’d feel bad. Make more money to secure better security for myself but ultimately hate my job or lifestyle? I’d feel bad. Do I just sit, walk, eat and clean my bowl? 😂

@WelcometoReality I eat binge amounts of sugar, lay around, slack, etc. I dreamed of making music or helping education people. By slacking, I reduce my chances and then the pressure of fulfilling any of these ambitions. I do not want to do that. It is just easier and I do not believe in my self naturally. Everyone around me is completely demoralized too. Or at the very least they never had my amount of ambition. Maybe my purpose lies within that. I am sure it does somehow . I have not given up and I am somewhat embarrassed to be this stalled out over something. I know I must make my purpose. Take control. Ignore others and carve my own path, trusting myself. It is so hard, with no conventional metrics of success, with no one able to regularly meet me at my level anymore, reassure me, etc. I hate how much of this is probably from seeing my Dad go down hill. It is hard being a man. A real man. Not a rich man, not a poor man. Just a man.

What are you guys solving here? How is this productive?

The reality is that we’re discussing things we can’t possibly know for sure, and it doesn’t really help anything. We have no way of knowing if someone like this is insane, calculating, naive, radicalized, or something else entirely—it’s too soon to tell, if we ever can. Speculating about these things or theorizing about how we could have prevented it—whether by addressing bullying, mental health, or something else—often feels like a detached, oversimplified analysis. To those who are directly affected by these tragedies, the path forward is often painfully clear, and this kind of distant commentary can seem hollow and unproductive.

Just because something makes sense, doesn’t mean it will help people make sense. What you said is correct Leo. Did not bother me, personally. I understood. But as you can see, you’re confusing people. When you try to say why someone committed an atrocity like this, it is hard not to imply things, even unintentionally. It becomes, unhelpful.

@Leo Gura I’m not saying I don’t understand why the shooter did it or that we shouldn’t address the underlying reasons like bullying or isolation. You are explaining the obvious. But the way you’re phrasing this shifts the responsibility entirely away from the shooter and onto others in a way that seems more offhand than serious. Comments like ‘guys like you’ or focusing on paying attention to a manifesto don’t add much—they come off as ineffective and distract from the real cause of the harm. If we’re going to have a meaningful conversation, it has to focus on accountability and constructive solutions, not these kinds of vague, profound-sounding remarks.

hey - hey there - buy whatever you want from the store and eat it.

@EdgeGod900 I was. The comment to you was in regard to your locker room talk comment. I understand Leo was not trying to bully and that you probably were not even offended. But it is clear neither of you have any connection to this and are just having fun talking.

@EdgeGod900 It is simply perverted to joke around the topic at hand. We have all done it though. Your joking implies one of two simple options: A) You have no connection to this shooting and should probably grow up a bit or B) You are connected and this is your way of coping.

@Leo Gura I hope you find a way to reframe however it is you’re trying to make your points. I know the place this shooting happened. The idea that ‘if I’ - whatever - there will be less shootings? Ha - what a rude joke Leo. Maybe, you should take a note from yourself. If the one thing they all have in common is being bullied, why haven’t you considered the way you phrase things yet? I have heard you talk about it before. Maybe, one man’s bully is another man’s jokester. Catch yourself using Truth to hurt others. And stop it. If it’s not productive, it’s not productive. Love you man, thanks for everything. ❤️ Lets get everyone to Stage Green; they aren’t ready for you.

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A classic thread. Meat Eaters run their mouthes without a thought and Vegans moralize the majority on their high horse. Yippee!

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You can zoom into anything infinity, from a physical, visual level. You may just need tools. What you can see without tools, such as a microscope, is just human quality vision. ’Human quality vision’ is inherent to being a human. If we had different vision we would be something different or similar. Our vision is calibrated to the median focal length best suited for our survival needs (assuming you don’t have glasses). So while we can zoom in or out, with tools, it is simply not practical most of the time. When it is, we often come across more riddles and questions about what we’re looking at and many times it is unclear if anything will be worth its time discovering. We could operate in a world with more depth so to speak. Perhaps birds already have more of this and some animals have less. Or for instance some animals are colorblind whereas we can see color. These are all just different dimensions to difference experiences. If we were to hear everything at once, see everything at once, feel, etc. We’d be God. But you’re you and I’m me. We see what we see.

Hi there Leo’s recent blog post blew my mind. I have been scraping at similar words myself but was no match for his clarity. I also would like to ponder the poles/inflection point of the paradox. (Leo has a great video where he goes over dozens of inflection points. One of my favorites.) Anyhow - this idea of insiders and outsiders. What are some definitive inflection points? But first, what are some more characteristics? Insider Characteristics: -Could’ve chosen to be an insider or circumstances could’ve funneled the bias -Firsthand knowledge -Bias towards circumstance (situational attributions) -Apart of something in-particular Outsider Characteristics: -Could’ve chosen to be an outsider or circumstances could’ve funneled the bias -Second hand knowledge, often closely tied to firsthand experience interpretations -Bias towards internal factors such as personality, character or inherent traits (dispositional attributions) -Independent — These may not be perfect characteristics but examples of what I mean to take notice to. — Lastly, where are the inflection points? Also, most here are presumably outsiders. How are we getting by? As someone relatively young, that’s mainly been an outsider, I’ve had a lot of moments of imposter syndrome. The outsider knowledge + a little wit and encouragement and one can really seem like they know more than they do. But, as Leo mentioned, insider knowledge of any thing grandiose involves heavy investment of time, among obvious other risks. I’d imagine an insider feels the same way about pausing their life and stepping out of it. Inflection points? Comments? Ideas?

@Emerald It’s not that what you’re saying is wrong, it’s just not the whole picture. Everything you’ve said is correct. But when the biological differences in a topic like this get focused on, without acknowledgment of the rest of the factors, people start to subconsciously poke at you to see how flexible you’re willing to think about it. ‘Half truths’ like “estrogen makes you horny too” or “hormones do not act independently.” It’s like if I told you you’re only being emotional because you’re on your period. I’d be ignoring your feelings and everything else that led you to this emotional point. That’s how men feel when you boil down our sexual patterns to simply biological. Men have been over-sexualized as much as women. Just in different ways. And nobody talks about it. Hollywood - this idea that every strong man gets laid all the time - makes a lot of money, etc. The pressure men feel. The ideas they think are correct that go against their very being. Like a girl watching princesses growing up thinking they need to be saved. We think we need to save you. We don’t. We need to take care of ourselves. We don’t. It’s ‘not our fault’ as much as none of this is yours. On top of this men ‘aren’t allowed to talk emotionally.’ You saw in this very conversation @Spiritual Warfare tried to make me look weak for admitting I had emotions, haha. There are a lot of environmental factors that act as a catalyst to obvious biological factors, such as testosterone. Our whole society has been co-opted into exploiting our biology. It only makes sense that sex is too. And it affects men and women. So, in short, we agree we you. We’re just trying to offer additional perspective. Men and women are struggling and there’s not a whole lot of ‘over the counter solutions’ to the biology problem. But talking helps. Sex therapy helps. Figuring out trauma and thought patterns from parents getting divorce or a dysfunctional family helps. Diet helps. There’s just so many factors. I am a pig as a man but not a biological one. It’s much deeper than that. I was trained, by everyone. I hope this wasn’t obnoxious and I really do hope you know I know women do not have it easier. Also I know you know it’s not just all biological. You seem much smarter than that. We’ve just been dancing around an idea I hope I have now expressed.

Environment can also affect hormones. Hormones do not exist or act independently.

@Yimpa Exactly friend! 😂

@Princess Arabia Interesting. Honestly I don’t know where the idea that makeup was for men came from. But I understand what you’re saying. Makeup has become the norm, it seems. It’d be like saying ‘brush your teeth to look sexy.’ Nobody brushes their teeth to look sexy. We just brush our teeth and that happens to make us ‘sexier.’ I guess the difference could be that while makeup is just something that happens, attraction aside, it does seem to be quite altering. Not as much as implants or something but you know what I mean? When I say I’m not attracted to it - my personality loves simplicity. Make up doesn’t ‘have to be done’ and a certain part of my brain rationalizes it away as bad for the skin, not needed, etc. To be fair, I do this too much, admittedly. Makeup is attractive to me as well. It’s when it wipes off on my sweatshirt or comes off the ‘disappointment’ sets in. I would’ve much rather just had the ‘natural’ woman. Maybe I am being picky. I know we’re all allowed preferences but I wonder if this is sensible of me or not. I just think a lot of men feel immense pressure and want to stop ‘playing the game’ entirely. Men and women can ‘level up’ but there’s not too many things a man can do as consistently and as effectively as putting on makeup. Or other things, like getting nails done, which more women seem to do than men. There’s this idea going around that porn has increased men’s expectations immensely - true. But makeup then almost does the opposite of that. Because men also don’t realize how good they could have it as every girl seems so far out of our league, as makeup and the other things mentioned enable any girl with some extra money to look like a super model.

@Leo Gura I agree with the others. I check the blog almost everyday. At least once a week. Love it - love it. I enjoy the variety. From something educational, to interesting or funny. There really is a little bit of everything with it. I guess thats just us liking you as a person though!