Breakingthewall

I don't think it's exactly like that, imo it's more that if you don't have a real, deep connection with yourself, you always perceive a lack in your relationships with others. So, it always seems to you that this isn't exactly what it could be, and you keep searching, but it's always unsatisfactory because you're not complete. Some settle for what more or less fits, and others don't, but always it's a bottom of dissatisfaction

You have an area of decision and action, right? Why do you say there's no such thing as individuality? If, for example, I decide to stay home now or instead go out, they're two different possibilities. Where is the absence of self?

If you find casual sex you don't know the other person and there's no real connection. If you're very emotionally disconnected from yourself, in psychopathic mode, you don't care, but if not, you're really having sex with someone you don't know at all and that's weird . Their physical beauty doesn't matter; it's strange and alienating. So, if the situation is sustained by your sexual desire, there's only sexual desire. But the moment that desire disappears, in two seconds the situation reveals itself as uncomfortable, weird, not natural

We are talking about casual sex . Casual. You don't know the other, you haven't deep connection, you don't care about anything except sex. That is casual. It's not noble and pure, it's something that people do because it's impossible to avoid. It's better perfect sex of your dreams, but if it doesn't happen, then you do anything, like 99,99% of men. If you manage to get free of that impulse, you have done a big thing, it's very difficult.

This situation is a mess, you love the other but she controls you and gets deep into your life, you lose your freedom, and you can't break because you feel that it's shit doing it, but same time it's unbearable. And women never will make it easy, they will make you feel guilty as you were a genocide if you are empathetic. Stupid attitude, if they would loose the bondage and let you feel free respecting your independence and your freedom, everything would be much better, but try to tell them that, it's impossible, and they never, even under torture would admit that they are acting toxic with their need of control .

People do that for many reasons, one of them is because can be your only chance to have sex. Sex is almost impossible to avoid, it's genetic, you would do anything to get it, so do that of the clubs is not so extreme. If for you it's not a problem, good for you. But it's for 99%

Sure, the sexual dynamics are so simple, clean ,satisfactory and easy, that's why everyone is so happy in their sexual/couple life. Sex is the root of narcissism, and narcissism is the root of human shit.

We are talking about casual sex. Casual sex means that you approach anyone, usually in a club, then you do your game, and if you are successful then you have sex. Is the activity that millions do every Friday and Saturday night around the entire world.

Exactly you will see.

Who talks about undesirable girls? You ve not experience, then don't insult so much. It's not the same a prostitute than being flirting 4 hours, then go to an apartment, continue the game, then have sex, and in the end, when the fire is out, there's nothing left. The whole false operation seems empty, and there's really nothing more to do there with someone you barely know and with whom you've been acting fake since they were talking in a club with the sole idea of fucking.

How many times have you done casual sex in your life?

Then why I can't imagine some millions? Just two, I don't need more.

Someone like Ramana Maharshi, who one day completely loses his worldly inclination and finds himself in a state of permanent, total openness. He barely moves, speaks little, sits in meditation all day, and is indifferent to one thing or another, life or death.

Perhaps science is at a very basic level compared to what it could be, and perhaps in the future it will be able to delve into the structure of reality to a level we can't imagine. Perhaps it will be possible to penetrate quantum dimensions where reality is only information and unfold universes within particles, things that will make current science like that of the Middle Ages in comparison.

Sure that most of women from a structured family consciously or unconsciously they look for a partner who is approved by their father, but that does not mean that the father chooses him

Sure, women reach an age where they leave the game. This can be very traumatic for some, but the change is usually toward more balance, being human and stopping being a toxic harpy who believes she's a movie star drunk on power over an army of monkeys😅 Anyway, it's different working together than be in a relationship, then the toxicity arises (in both sides)

may not be clearly perceived, but use to be due to the dynamic between the sexes. I suppose there are some women who don't have that emotional way, but most do. Most men, after casual sex, would pay a good amount of money to be immediately teleported to their bed alone. You've fed the devil inside you, and there's nothing else you can do about it. Women don't process things that way; they're horny, have a lot of fantasies and want sex, but it's not a necessity, it's something that have to be good in many senses, not just physical. Well, maybe not consciously, but go out on a summer day in the city and see how the girls dress. They look like they're going to a erection-inducing contest, right? They don't seek direct attention from men; in fact, it bothers them. They want to be seen as high-value, and to do that, they have to be sexy, and that implies attention. It's paradoxical, the direct attention bothers them but the total lack of attention is dramatic because implies that they worth noting.

Well, theoretically society is evolving toward a more conscious place where women and men can find more fulfilling and authentic ways of relating, and along the way there are mistakes and suffering. But of course, "theoretically" doesn't mean it will be achieved; there are no guarantees, but it's the path that is taking place. Furthermore, there is overpopulation on the planet, technology is evolving, and if half the population is single, it's not so dramatic (well, for some, it is). I don't think returning to the old ways is a possibility.

Yeah, humans are part of the hive, not real individuals. It is extremely rare for humans to prefer real solitude. The jungle where the leopard hunts is the social matrix for humans, and their instrument is language. A human alone couldn't survive, he's a weak being without the hive.

What I wanted to point is since your experience is finite there are infinite possibilities out of it. In an infinite frame that's implies that are others dimensions that are coexisting out of your field of experience. The fact that you don't experience them doesn't mean that they doesn't exist. if mathematically they are a possibility, they are real. In a infinite frame mathematically possible is equal than real.

That true, they have it much harder because their real goal is finding a life partner who meets certain standards in a relationship that works and grows over time with great monogamous sex, commitment and social life together. Their entire game is geared toward that end, and many, if not most, fail, as it's a difficult goal.

Yeah in general, women find random sex humiliating. What they find stimulating is the attention and, at a given moment, having a man they consider high-value tied to them.

Yes ok but the only possible answer is because it's out of your field of possibilities. "Out" implies just that something is out, not solipsism.

Okay, but the last thing. Let's see, the ultimate reality at the physical level is changes of state. This is obvious and any physicist accepts it. Changes of state are ultimately information, and this information can ultimately only be a symmetrical duality changing state with respect to itself. On, off, on, off, etc., that is facing itself, reflecting a change of state. What is really what is facing itself ? The reality. Ultimately, it's impossible for it to be anything else. This implies that the most fundamental aspect of reality contains the totality of reality. In all directions, reality unfolds to the infinite power. It's always the same: symmetrical changes of state synchronized with other changes of state raised to the infinite power. It's only information, zeros and ones, but each zero and each one is the totality of infinite reality that unfolds infinitely. What else could be?

Look, experience is change isn't it? What is change ultimately? Change of state. If there is only one thing, one field of reality and nothing to compare it, there is not a state, the state is in comparison with another field of reality that is in another state, is obvious or not? Then multiply that reflection to infinite power. It has to be absolutely synchronized because if not there can't be contrasted, and if it isn't contrasted it doesn't exist