Breakingthewall

brilliant! Learning to deal with "toxic" people unlocks all the toxicity that you have absorbed in your life, which being a person of high nature as is the case, is always a lot. I say toxic in quotes because more than toxic it is normal. Most people are toxic in the sense that they compete and lie. For them, their self-esteem is always in check. As you have rightly said, the origin of shame is pride, and its cure is humility. That is genuine wisdom that helps you live cleanly and fully.

There is an essential difference: some have a limited vision, others a broader one. Some pursue something that does not bring real satisfaction, that is perishable, that increases the ego, isolates. It is necessary in its right measure, but making it your religion is stupidity, a mistake. The others know that it is not necessary to have anything because they have everything, as long as their basic needs are covered. that existence is broader than what is perceived and that there is an evolutionary path that forces you to ascend or be crushed. Then they move to the openess, the others move to the closure. Some point to heaven, others to hell.

The pleasure of torturing someone is something quite natural, since at the foundations of life is competition, the fight to the death for survival, so the one who tortures feels power. It has been done in all tribal cultures, it is not evil, it is life. It is the same as the feeling of winning a tennis match but exacerbated and without the civilized filter. The masturbation issue is something else. You are horny and you do it, and that's it, but since it has a huge genetically implanted reward component to promote reproduction, it is easy to turn it into the b side of pleasure: the evasive compulsion, the addiction, that leaves you empty, sad and without vital energy . Some substances like cocaine, heroin or nicotine touch this area of reward of the brain But there are more subtle, let say, perverted pleasures. Maybe some son of a bitch 4 years older than you who, when you were 11, enjoyed beating you up? Maybe a rapist, a scammer, a narcissist who surrounds himself with people with no self-esteem? It's always the same, primitive survival impulses implanted in genes. Their genes scream: it won't be me who will be expelled from the tribe to starve, you will. I'm not going will not be enslaved, I'm going to wield the whip. These people are still wallowing in the mire of the primitive, they cannot get out of it, for them enlightenment is impossible, even as an idea. Enlightenment is leaving the genetic struggle behind, being reborn from the animal mud as divine essence. then, the pleasure is another: being, observing the work of existence, giving what you have inside without expecting anything in return.

Reality is infinite because it's nothing. It's something very strange, like a natural phenomena. It's impossible to understand, but you can see it and be it. The absolute zero, the unlimited void, is the source of reality and the reality itself. Then ultimately, yes, reality is unreal in that sense, but is, you are, or i am, that is the same, and anything else is irrelevant

That's normal, you are a human, same than me. Be enlightened is not being human anymore. It's something very rare. We are, let's say, awake to what enlightenment is, but not enlightened, and probably never will in this life, but who knows

It is not as simple as being silent. Silence is necessary, but there are subconscious mechanisms that close, structures of the mind that block perception. The mind is a filter that has that function, among others. It is a machine for the survival and evolution of the species, and it puts this before open perception. The full glory of existence does not reveal itself so easily, it requires a very profound restructuring. If you were enlightened it would be the same for you if your son lives or dies. it is?

No one has proved that never, all of them are liars. Ask Leo, who thought that he could cure himself. Reality is much more complex than a dream, because it's infinite. Imo It's impossible to understand with the mind, but who knows.

My mind can be silent and same time closed. Enlightenment is more. It's the opening to the absolute, it's unthinkable, that's why it's not permanent for me, because my mind isn't in the right frequency. It's something extremely difficult, all our genetics, our evolution, is shouting : close your mind

Then they should can move objects with their mind, like you could do in a lucid dream

I'm not talking about 5meo, but about the total opening of the perception. It happens only with meditation in my experience . Sometimes happened to me just walking in the street, but always it's short, because the energetic pattern that my mind is closes it.

Enlightenment? I have been enlightened for about 5 minutes straight at most. After that my mind closes and goes into normal, limited functioning. If you are truly enlightened, suffering is zero, you are beyond form, you are open to the essence of reality, everything is total glory. There is no difference between good and bad, for you it's ok to have cancer in the brain. Here no one is enlightened. In the world almost nobody is enlightened, more than that, almost no one understands what being enlightened means.

Then , if you are creating everything, why you can't move objects with your mind? Or create anything that you want?

It's obvious that everything that you see don't have real existence by itself? Maybe that's obvious for you. For me it is obvious that reality is infinite, so everything I see is infinite, therefore its depth is infinite, everything contains the totality, therefore it has existence in itself, even a speck of dust is infinite, or a thought or an hallucination . If infinity is the case, nothing is finite, it is impossible, any fraction of infinity is infinite, and therefore is neither understandable nor classifiable. Then I don't try to understand it, I try to open myself to it's substance, and being it you understand everything, but when it's close, you don't understand anymore. Infinity only can be , let's say understood , being infinite, that is, being open

Seems that you can't understand that that differentiation is just a mental label. You are still trying to define the reality with your conceptual mind. Don't you understand that your conceptual mind is inside of the reality?

For example?

I don't think that sex is in the same category. Sex is a natural impulse and it's impossible to avoid. The thing is when sex becomes and addiction, just to evade anxiety. Usually all pleasures/addictions have an evasive function, getting out of your anxious vibration for a while. Real sex, with connection, is not an addiction, it is something with a great mystical component, a high human activity

If the substance of reality is conciousness, conciousness is something, then it's physical, or mental, choose the one that makes you happier

What is the difference between physical and mental? I did psychedelic so many times that I realized that sober or on psychedelic are exactly the same. Tell Leo to move a stone with his mind when he's in god mode and send the video, would be interesting to see it. Yeah, that is what Leo said, but what it means? That you have the mental image of a god that is imagining things? Are you sure that you know what reality is? Or infinite mind? That's just religion My personal perception, which I absolutely doubt and which also does not interest me too much, is that reality arises spontaneously from the absence of limits, and since there are no limits, its intelligence is unlimited, and it is organized unlimitedly in patterns composed of holons self-conscious, creating an interconnected whole, which is at the same time one and multiple, connected and isolated, like the cells of your body, and which emerges in cycles of creation and destruction. What interests me is perceiving the essence, be open to it, not making a mental outline of what it is. the metal/physical difference is just a mental scheme. If you are open to the essence, you realize that everything that arise are just forms, you are the essence, and everything is irrelevant, just movement, a dance. Then you enjoy it, but you don't need to define, to classify it, because it's useless, is just ego mind.

All about solipsism is an intellectual exercise, but following it, would you say that all the infinite eternal reality would be always the cyclical avatar davino? Surely no, right? Then, are other avatars, cycles, povs. t's quite obvious

The difference between both is that mental implies that you are imagining it and have not real existence without you. Physical means that it has real existence independent of the observer . Id say that mental perspective is limited. It limites the reality to your field of perception. In absence of limits, how could reality be limited? Reality has to be real and unlimited, then, physical.

You can't keep sitting blissed because the identity, not because the seek of pleasure. Almost all movements are to reinforce identity. In solitude, identity falls apart, it requires intense mental work of rumination to be maintained. in social relationships it is affirmed. The search for pleasure is normally the search for evasion from anxiety. If we did not have to constantly reinforce our identity, we would not see content, we would not constantly talk to people, we would seek success, etc. Any animal sits alone for several hours in a state of perfect harmony. For a human it is a very difficult effort, because his identity breaks down and we are absolutely addicted to it

because the word dream by definition means a mental image that imitates reality. If there is only a dream, it would not be a dream, since there is no real model with which to compare it nor a dreamer who produces it based on that model.

No, It is not complete, but if you do not make a serious conscious effort, little by little you fall into increasingly closed patterns of identity and rumination, until you become someone with a schematic, dead mind, and this translates into underlying anxiety. It's not horrible like being tortured, but it's dull, annoying, unpleasant, dead. Life is another thing, is pure joy and creation by definition, but in the case of humans it's a challenge, an enigma, and if you don't solve it, things can turn very hellish

Agree in the process , but I don't agree that it is the worst that can happen. It is an evolutionary mechanism that is adjusted millimetrically every second, from generation to generation, to make a species go from living in caves to traveling through the stars in record time. That's pretty impressive, considering our ancestor a few million years ago was a rat. The only problem with this is that on an individual level it is absolute shit.

The problem is that human dynamics are very powerful, have enormous evolutionary inertia, and many triggers that force compulsive action. would you be happy sitting in misery under that bridge if the cause was that your wife denounced you for rape to steal all your assets and spend it on your best friend, and you just came out of serving an 8-year sentence in prison, during which your daughter commit suicide because of the abuse suffered by your friend? This, on a cosmic scale, is nothing, it is just another movement of life. Could you let it go and be in perfect harmony? In theory yes, but in practice it is extremely difficult. For example, if you were a crocodile and all your babies had been hunted to make ugly shoes for drug dealers, yes you could. You would be in the sun in total harmony and you would not care about all that even for a second. but being human is different