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I guess that's why when we asked our doctors they didn't tell us about this, probably because they taught, yes there is a risk, but not a significant one (talking about viral asymptomatic shedding). I'm just assuming, I don't know who to believe lol. Most people on the internet are saying that it's guarantee that the other person will eventually get it, whether they use condoms and avoid active breakout episodes, or not. I'm glad that people reacted this way

Thanks for your answer a lot. I have a question, since I've read your whole post, how is dating for you? Have you ever given it to somone? Since there is obviously asymptomatic shedding that is happening even when there is no visible sores. How do people react to it? ANd out of curiosity, do you think it's harsh/selfish when people don't want to deal with your condition?

See, this makes me so confused. Because on one hand, I talked to a professional, but on another there's someone telling me doctors telling me those informations are not reliable. Besides that, as I asked Leo, do you think then these people are just done with dating in general? Because they will ALL pass it on another person no matter how hard they tried to protect themselves, it's just doomed to happen. Is this what you're saying?

He is otherwise very caring towards me, and he felt bad that this all happened. That he put me through worry. I was feeling terrible but so was he. Then doctors kinda reassured us that we should be fine as long as we use preservative but I still have worries.

@Forestluv Well, the way it happened for us is the following... He didn't know he had it (even though he had blisters before meeting me but discard it since it passed quickly, he said) and he never told me he had those blisters ever, and then we were sleeping together using protection and then since I was feeling uncomfortable with sex (I was unable to enjoy sex, I had mental blockages and worries that something is not right ) I asked him has he ever tested himself and he told me no, and then I asked him to take a test and that's when breakout happened and doctors confirmed it was HSV-2. Then I got worried (even though we were using protection) and tested myself and I was negative thankfully. Doctors told us that everything is fine and we should keep using protection and avoid having intercourse when breakout appears. They told us transmission is not possible when there is no breakouts. But people on the internet have a different view on it which made me worry... They say that it's the matter of time when you get it, which is a different from what our doctors have said. If it's the matter of time I'm not sure am I willing to take a risk. Even though I just feel terrible for him. I do.

Guys, how would you feel if someone left you because of it? Honest answers please

I feel deep down what's being said here. I can see that it's foolish to endanger your own health for life (and this is NOT a life threatening condition but it's a lifelong one still) just because you like someone... I can see that... This is hard... I cannot see how I can show empathy and humanity and still leave someone because they have an incurable contition that happens to be contagious (but chances are lowered when you take precausion). I only leave them stranded. I'm not being ignorant here, I just really cannot see that. What am I teaching him that way? That people will leave him when he tells them he has genital herpes. I only win here. He will be devestated. But so will I if I get it ever. THIS is why it's hard. On one hand you absolutely don't want to make compromise when it comes to your health, but on the other, imagine you being in that position and someone leaving you because of it. PLUS you know you cannot ever cure it so you are forever doomed. Yeah... Someone's disease is not my responsibility, have to repeat it to myself. I absolutely don't want it to backfire on me.

Well, okay... Thanks for your view. I need to ask though, by that kind of thinking, he is obviously done with dating for the rest of his life then? Since he got it, it's a lifelong condition that will keep reaccuring whenever his immunosystem is compromised. Is that really the humane way we should go about with these people? Just ditch them?

@Michael569 Thanks a lot, this is so helpful! I feel like doctors prescribe some generic multivitamin and call it a day, with this stuff. They gave him also a drug called Acyclovir and told him to put it on whenever virus is activated. But this is really informative and helpful. Though I have found that some people take daily antiviral medication which I forgot how it's called but it's supposed to surpress the virus and make it less contagious. He wasn't prescribed such medication, so am I at risk (even when using protection)?

@Preety_India Herpes type 1 or 2 are quite common. And it's a lifelong virus. Let's not stigmatize it. And besides that, I didn't ask whether someone would date such person, but how to deal with such lifelong condition in best possible way.

@Leo Gura For one year exactly, but always using protection. And avoiding sleeping together when an outbreak occurs.

@Farnaby I would say it's either her lack of interest in you or she indeed is going through a tough period in her life which blocks her mentally (because in sex mental stimulation is very important for girls) and that's why she doesn't feel like having sex. If it's the later, you can try to be a good partner to her and support her through a tough time, hoping things will improve over time (if you care about her). But if it's something you simply can't fix and it's making your feel worse and worse (reminder: her problems are not your responsibility, in that case she needs to figure it out herself) then you can choose between leaving her or staying (if you think she is worth the effort). Hope this helps.

Would having RO help then? Or are those small Tap Water filters enough?

The fact that you put so much effort into editing photos, rather than improving your in life social skills/approaching, learning a few tricks etc... Is what's holding you back. Use that precious energy that you obviously have into improving yourself in real life!

Is it so called fate or luck? Can we influence what happens to us and if so, is it really possible to exactly figure out HOW we're creating what we see/experience in our everyday life?

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Well, both guys and girls face different difficulties in life based on their gender. You can view "hunting" as just part of this whole game called life. We as women also play this game whether we like it or not. Just try to view it as a fun game full of rules, which, if you play along and follow the rules, you will almost always get what you desire.

I see. So why I wasn't awaken from the get go? Why all of this? Just for the fun of it? Also, I expected that the answer would be "Because if God didn't create this convincing dream, you would be dead" or something like that. So God created this dream just so it can experience itself through my being, just for the fun of it. My assumption. And on the comment about God forcing itself on people... There are stories of people who were distancing themselves from God and who weren't aligned with God (they didn't pick up signs God was sending them aka bad feeling thoughts) and then they hit rock bottom where they either developed some kind of diseases or something like that, and only then they were able to learn a lesson and get back on track. So this is a clear sign that God "forced itself" on them, by almost killing them. God was giving them "signs", they were ignoring them, and God almost killed them because of it.

@Leo Gura Why would god try so so hard to make such a convincing dream so that noone can ever doubt it even a bit?

Is it indeed safe and smart to take 5meo as first psychodelic? Like... Is there hightened chance for PTSD or something like that? Since it's so powerful (I am kinda scared not to mess my head/body up lol)

@Hardkill What's your goal? If you want to attract normal, decent and nice girl (that most people consider girlfriend type), she will certainly not like to be flashed/surprised like that. She will find it inappropriate and gross. Might even call the police. If you want the type that suck stranger's dick, because she likes his "confidence" and alpha energy he radiates when he does these type of things in public (even though she met him 2 minutes ago), then do outrageous and scandalous things like that. But I feel asking about whether or not these things that are out of the norm work, are just used as a distraction from actually going out and talking to girls and being a decent human being. As if you would ever use this technique in the first place, so why even ask if this works. Who cares.

Help me find out what you think about pregnancy and being able to carry a new life in your body. Do you think it's beautiful, magical thing and you would want to have such "superpower" or you belong to other group of people who think like: "Thank god I'm not able to become pregnant, pregnancy is so stressful, scary and terrible!"

@tsuki No, but by that logic, noone would have kids, because of childhood trauma (that everybody, including women, had) , is what I'm trying to say.

As for child trauma, everybody has it. Women and men. We all have some unresolved childhood trauma so it shouldn't be used as an alibi to rationalize "men's lack of desire" (compared to women) to have kids.

I can relate to heighten sense of responsibility blocking someone from desiring kids. I feel like most people (girls maybe more, generally) just pop out babies without thinking through what that entails. But I feel like, if everybody were so super careful, noone would have babies. Lol