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If you're now not anti-Putin, there is something wrong with your morals.

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No, I was definitely being vulnerable. I was even a little shaky. Though I was calm, took my time and kept good/reasonable eye contact with vulnerable eyes. It just was a very "real" moment. Girls love that and I am flabbergasted that this isn't taught.

Women love guys who can be vulnerable and radically honest about their thoughts and feelings. It does away with all the masks and fakeness. This is also a more high conscious aspect of pick up. Yet, I don't see anyone teaching this. Authentic verbal and non-verbal communication is the key to her... ehum... hart.

@actuallyenlightened By vulnerability, I mean something like sharing a personal struggle. Either one that you have at the very moment or one that you had in the past. I told the girl that I struggle to be sexual and that "societal" expectations laid on men are not in line with my "authentic way of being ". I didn't use those exact words but my message was something along those lines. It was genuinely what I felt and I expressed that in a vulnerable way (I wasn't needy, butthurt or anything in the like, just vulnerable.) Her attraction to me skyrocketed afterward. She kept constantly looking at me and was craving to be kissed. Also took her home(;

@Roy hmm... not in my experience A date is a very proper context to have such a moment

Sit her down and do this exercise: First a "fun challenge" of who can stare into someone's eyes in silence the longest without laughing. Of course, this is just a pretext for building quick and deep intimacy. Then the second challenge: feel deep inside and tell honestly what you feel. The guy goes first and takes his time to properly feel and word what he feels and thinks. After this, the girl will be more than happy to go home with you.

First of all, your logic is mute because Argentina itself is mostly of European descent ("white settler" to use a boogie term). The Falklands are British for the simple reason it's Inhabitat by British people, (The Islands actually never had natives). On top of that Britain has the proven capability for responsible government and defense. Something Argentina can not guarantee to put it mildly. So Love or hate her but Thatcher was completely justified in defending her land and people. I get your point, lack of critical thinking can lead to dark places. Still, I would say focus more on your own mind. Seek understanding and beauty. Prioritize that over ideological crusading. I get it now, just watch your word use. Overusing hyperbolic terms will make you come across as an alarmist nutcase, be more nuanced instead. Don't be so pedantic over the use of a conceptual term. It's perfectly understandable to say "Europe" in reference to Western Europe in a political context. Eastern Europeans are not that insecure. They don't consider themselves some sorry oppressed minority. Russians and Ukrainians themselves refer to "Europe" as meaning Western Europe. There is just absolutely no issue here.

Dude... don't be so fragile. In a political context, you can say "Europe" and refer to the liberal democracies of western Europe. I am myself an Eastern European. Countries are myths and precisely therefore they need to have even more myths to seem real (Catch my drift) A country is not some dry governing entity. A country is "Home", It's a highly emotional thing. It got beauty, love, ambitions, sadness, trauma etc. and of course a story: history. History is not some dry dates and events. No, history inspires all kinds of passions: love, hate, shame, pride etc. History, emotion and myth are inseparable. History is poetry. Britain defended the Falklands, her sovereign territory, against what basically constituted naked aggression by a military dictator who wanted to distract his people from a real f*cking economical crisis. For some reason, you projected this onto Britain. First of all: Be more coherent and intellectual, you just ramble. Second: South White Englanders? Third: Ireland and Scotland hostages? Ireland has an independent country and Scotland (which is in a constitutionally equal union with England (as reflected in the flag and coat of arms)) can leave by referendum. And lastly, yes it's harder for a German to be proud. A (proper) modern-day German nationalist (one who associates-with and cares for his country) would feel deep shame for that era in his country's history. Sorry, I cannot read this. You seem passionate about this topic yet you don't bother to write in a coherent and understandable fashion.

By Europe I mean of course Western Europe. People underestimate how brutal and bleak the (recent) history of eastern Europe was, so no wonder Poland and Hungary are a stage or two behind. Also, Brexit was not grounded in xenophobia. Just in moderate nationalist and conservative values. Your country used to be a mighty Empire that kicked ass in every major European war and now you are losing sovereignty to the EU. Of course, this will cause an identity crisis. I am not defending Brexit, I think it was a dumb move. But in order to defeat Hitler, Britain needed a lot of healthy stage blue self-sacrifice and nationalism. The Scandinavian countries, who are spirally the most advanced simply don't have this recent history of depending on nationalism to defeat a greater evil. They were either too weak or neutral. So yeah, I guess if you're a small and insignificant western European country it's easier for you to spirally develop.

Question: why does this transition from Orange to Green look less rocky in Europe? Is it because the US has a massive population. Also, I feel that from the very start, stage orange ideals were deeply baked into the identity of America. Stage orange and America might as well be synonyms.

@aurum @TheAlchemist @Leo Gura Thanks for the advice, I can really relate.

I solo day game relatively regular in two Dutch cities, mostly following the same (usually crowded) route. During a session, I walk the same route several times and regularly stand still and observe, and occasionally run up to a girl. My biggest anxiety is to be recognized by someone I know or be known as "that guy". On some occasions, I stumbled into old schoolmates and colleagues. Even one time I came across the same old schoolmate two days in a row in different cities. I don't want them to know that I day game. I have no problem sharing that I do day-game with people that I am comfortable with: my brother, sister, parents (that one was kinda awkward though) and of course my pick-up mates know. But I just don't want to be known as "that guy" by the "community" so to speak. I know deep down nobody gives a f*ck about me but still this is my biggest anxiety. Am I just being a pussy or is there some healthy caution within this anxiety?

Everybody thanks for the advice, very helpful! @aurum But how do I overtake girls and position myself right in front of her? Won't I miss a lot of girls that way? Obviously, I prefer the lazy approach when the girl is just standing/waiting but then I will miss out on most hot girls. Some of my most successful approaches were run-ups. (With run-ups I mean jogging pace, they are usually short in distance). It's of course an ego thing. I just don't want that reputation. I am not a total beginner anymore, in the past, I had some very cringy approaches. These are much rarer now. Now 90% of my approaches are socially calibrated. I can tell that by the way, I brighten up the girl's day.

Day game in winter presents challenges with it that the summertime doesn't have. Let's start with the obvious: it's colder and darker which makes it a little less enjoyable. Days are shorter so you have less time opportunity. (Only malls and train stations are sufficiently lit). Further: girls but also guys are not as sexy and have lower sex drives. Which makes embodying intent harder. The overall mood is non-social and cold. Also, the risk of getting sick is high (I have problems with a constantly running nose in winter.) These are not excuses I still manage to do approaches but they are just lower in volume and perhaps with less energy. Any advise?

In a political context, Russia is often not considered Europe. Because people associate Europe with liberal democracies and Russia is often opposed/contrasted to them. Even Russians say for example: "look what Europe is doing" or "Europeans get us wrong" etc. Of course by Europe, they mainly mean the powers and liberal democracies of western Europe. Also, historically Russia always tried to catch up to "Europe" in its development. Russia's progress was stunned by the bad fortune of being under Mongol occupation, which was a profound Asian tribal steppe influence that western Europe never experienced.

For almost a year I have had stomach/intestinal pains and a generally sensitive stomach which before I never had. I did all the tests at the hospital, including SIBO but nothing was found. I've noticed that my stomach pains are often accompanied by grumpiness, stress, and just a shitty mood. I used to think that these mood problems are caused by my physical pains and that I just need to focus on eating the right food. But I could not logically deduct which foods caused the problems. Sometimes I ate one thing and feel shitty but then I eat the exact same thing end feel absolutely fine. But then I noticed a link between "successes and failures" in my personal life with the amount of pain I had. Whenever things are going good in my personal life I am also feeling good without big stomach issues but whenever I get "setbacks" my stomach pains return. I consider myself mentally relatively strong so the setbacks that I have in my personal life wouldn't bother me so much normally but the stomach pain that comes with it adds another layer on top. Are there people here that have experienced these kinds of issues?

This! My normal coping mechanisms don't hold up anymore. I definitely know the source and what I should 'let go'. Very interesting. I checked out your website and youtube channel, very interesting stuff. I must say I was a bit surprised to find out you're a man, haha, I always pick up very feminine energy from your responses (caring, loving, soft and slightly vague). (; This! This! This!

@Thought Art The fear of being socially ostracized is very common and even universal. It's our primate programming. Though you must see that it's highly irrational and out of touch with 21st-century life. We envolved living in small herds and tribes but now live in cities with endless people and complex social structures that are generally forgiving and not giving a shit about you. For example, approaching a girl in cavemen times could have gotten you killed, ostracized, or result in you being perceived in a damning way. Now that possibility is pretty much non-existent though the fear programming is still there. Your fear of being canceled and having your career destroyed is even more irrational. F*ck those people that want you to fall in line with their worldview. Whether it's politically correct snot, pressures to repress your sexuality, some crusade of contempt or ideology. Be you. Learn to respect your own worldview and values. Stand up for what you believe in, be edgy, be polarizing. Express your self with honesty and fully within your integrity. That's not opposed to being open and introspective but is a prerequisite for personal development. Society is hell but you are a man, you carve your own path trough life, fearlessly, authentically and independently. You lead the way! Men take risks, men fight wars, men get injured and men die. That's what a man does. If you get cancelled for stating something you believe in, so let it be. you're a man.

@Thought Art Dude... That's not a healthy attitude for living life. Nobody owes you love nor do you want to be (overly)dependent on others for love. First and foremost love needs to come from you, build love for yourself and for your life (I recommend spiritual practice/psychedelics and discovering some passions). Women are not some vindictive fragile feathers, they will not destroy your life because you touched them in an uncalibrated "autistic" way. Just don't grab them by the pussy(;

Sounds more like an "autistic male" action rather than a malicious assault. Maybe he was a big-shot senator that normally gets all the girls so he doesn't register properly when girls are not into him. Like good-looking rich and famous people that end up raping. But again the guy apologized and backed down after the kiss and after the clear protest of the women. The situation is of course highly unfortunate and uncomfortable but is it really that traumatic for the women? (genuinely asking)

After a lot of trial and error including a day-game bootcamp, I found THE method (for myself) that pretty much guarantees getting strong numbers (that lead to dates) from girls that are very hot. So this is what I do: I approach a girl that I am genuinely attracted to, stand right in front or half in front of her (keeping enough distance so not to spook her is crucial). I state my intent: "I saw you over there and you looked very cute" (The more personalized and unique the statement the better and if you express your intent with strong body energy or a look in your eye then you are very f*cking solid). And here is my secret: Silence! I swear to god it's just magic. If the girl is not your type, has a boyfriend or is just being friendly you will feel this very clearly! the silence will feel awkward and keeping pressure is pretty much impossible, you'll probably just have a friendly interaction. Now if she is single and somewhat your type, oh man! you can stand there and just be silent. Maybe at the beginning of your silence say something like "sorry, I am not good at these things" which will charm the girl and buy you understanding which you can use to prolong your silence. Just stare into her eyes, and move your lips subtly as if you are thinking of something to say but you can't come up with anything (this is most likely what you authentically will be doing, just think of things but do not say them). This builds a lot of tension, you don't have to constantly be looking into her eyes, your presence and silence are enough for pressure building, your only "job" is to relax into the pressure, be okay with it, it's fun! It's almost like a comical challenge: see how long you can be silent in front of a hot girl. Of course what will happen is that she eventually will release the pressure by asking you questions and being genuinely intrigued by you. You basically just fanned the fire of attraction with your silence. Sometimes especially if she is in a hurry she will be the one asking my number and making sure she typed it in correctly. Also sometimes you can break the pressure yourself by saying something unexpected. For example, she says she studies economics and then you drop silent. For her, it will seem like you are struggling to find the right words to charm her (though you are very calm and centered) but after a while of silence and you really feel you can't keep it up anymore, you can say in a very disinterested and dismissive tone "Okey." This will make her laugh from her stomach. Of course, everything I state here requires authenticity, being totally cool with standing in front of a hot girl, being silent and just relaxing. This is also a way for me to do day game with a lot of integrity and "dignity" because very fast you'll figure out whether she is a match or not. If not I just let her go or have a short friendly conversation. It basically eliminates scenarios where I feel needy or persist through on a disinterested girl. The frame is: I am grounded and just feeling up if you're a match and if not, I will not bother asking for your number.

Yes, this technique is not for beginners because it requires staying perfectly calm under pressure, basic confidence, masculinity, and even the feminine component is very important here. In my experience is this technique the opposite of creepy because it does away with all the try-hard, pushy and gamy. It's a non-technique really. As an intermediate, you should learn not to close when the vibe is off. Choose integrity over closing. Ultimately day game needs to be a smooth part of your life, something that builds character rather than makes you question your sanity and integrity. As it did with me in the past. I started with day-gaming spring this year, It was psychologically a very hard process for me but that's what personal growth entails. I used to get a date once every two months with 6s (day gaming on the weekends) and those dates I would f*ck up with neediness or rookie blunders. The last two months I had 5 dates (including insta-dates) + more planned with girls that are 7s 8s and 9s. Having said that I still have bad days where I get rejection after rejection. Also, I am still learning and struggling with the other parts of the courting process. But I can definitely envision that relatively soon I'll be having a hot and intelligent girlfriend

Of course, sometimes she needs to be comforted with for example "I know this is unusual" maybe a little question here and there, you still need to be socially calibrated. But the bottom line is: silence is your best friend! You really need to intuit for how long you can keep silences and sometimes you can feel it's not possible to stay silent for very long but the girl is still into you. But if I drop a silence and it feels awkward or "not right" I authentically lose interest in the girl because she is not impressed by my presence and the vibe just isn't there. If I persevere I will step slightly out of my integrity, then I might get a number but it will most likely be a weak one. The silences are meant to fan up attraction but they also build rapport because you give the girl room to bask in your (relaxed) energy. After the silence(s), the vibe is excellent and you can have a normal conversation. In the past, I would get a lot of numbers pretty easily but almost all were very weak ones so I readapted my strategy. I now have a strategy where I get fewer numbers but the numbers I get are as solid as they come. I came to the conclusion that "vibing" is the ultimate factor for solid numbers. I will definitely go along with this strategy but again authenticity is a huge part of this, so I don't think it does work for everybody the same.

@bejapuskas @Fleetinglife When I read your replies instead of openness I feel a wall of contempt and outrage even though the core of your message is one of compassion and understanding. Dividing the world between victims and oppressors closes you off to the complexity and the larger picture of history. If your purpose is to fight for social justice I think it’s a very noble cause though I do think you would benefit from a less judgmental view on history. What I value the most in history is the beauty of it, history speaks to me and plays in my head. I care more for the beauty than obsessing over historical "facts" altho those also have their importance, but history really becomes fascinating when the line between history, imagination and myth blurs, as it so often does. I am involved in a project that makes interactive infographics about history for children. The main goal of the project is to get children intrigued and fascinated by history. We also cover topics like explorers and conquerors. Even though they are controversial in today's environment we made the decision not to unload this heavy bag onto the children. Children will not be intrigued into learning history if I, for example, would come with an agenda implying that historical figures are evil and that America or any other state is evil, at their age, this would be plain disappointing and have the opposite effect of intrigue. In a sense, I have a child-like passion for history and I want to transmit that. Beauty, Idealization and seeing the virtues are a big part of this. Later when they grow up they can learn more in-depth about the cruelty and injustices in history. When I was a little kid, I had a very good and wise teacher. I asked him once in history class: what happened to Indonesia (our former colony) after ww2. He said: "We felt so happy to be free so we granted them the same freedom ". Of course, later I learned that Holland fought a very bloody war after ww2 in an attempt to subjugate Indonesia. But his answer was absolutely brilliant because A: it implied that my country is good and B: it implied that Indonesia's independence is also good. He of course knew the truth very well yet he did not want to diminish my childly passion for history and my country, which was perfectly healthy and innocent. Somewhere along the line, my passion for history diminished but after doing spiritual practices and a lot of psychedelics I learned to be more authentic and I rediscovered many of the passions I had in childhood. I learned that I was never meant to "outgrow" them. I can't help but feel that stage-green ideology and society suppresses these passions within children and adults like it did with me. If you deep down don't think that Napoleon or Alexander the Great are kinda badass, you're suppressing your inner child and inner passions. Especially as a boy or man, you have an inner warrior, conquerer and Emporer inside of you, let him out!