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Men and women process attraction differently For him, it's a hell yes top down check list and how high up that list he will risk approaching based on his vibe that day For her, it's a no or a maybe based on how i am feeling thanks to him in this moment His agenda is wants in particular today, hers is needs in particular tomorrow Different animals

Man is a ruthless predator scheming to satiate his loins and this is 24-7 and not just in times of famine or war. Money trumps laws. (Didn't anyone mention Don One in this thread yet?) Food and shelter is a solved problem for most. Lower appetites remain unfulfilled for the majority. Woman needs a strong protector because unconsciously she knows how vulnerable she is. A ring may announce her off limits. Though that won't stop the majority from chancing his luck.

Man provides the strength, safety, security and stability that woman needs to thrive

Yes because you receive rather than generate Different dynamic

She feeds the world, he seeds the world Looks are what determine whether he can or not If you get my point

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My myopic take: He wants sexiness; She wants status What this means for him is when he asks her out, he already eliminated all other women in his options and she is indubitably the one What this means for her is when he asks her out, she has a yes or no answer to give, and status can only be guessed at in that first minute. So as long as he acquits himself passably well she has good incentive to give him a chance to prove his worth. His choice is definitely a yes. Her choice is definitely a provisional maybe. Bottom line, sexiness isn't nearly as fakable as status while certainly being plenty enough to be marriable All the while she will bide her time to see if she is really that magical 777 he claims to be in the first minute He's hooked with the looks and she figuring did he cook the books Different value systems

So look in the mirror and then tell me who you think you really are

Yes, this is close. For me, the form is a trap. You tricked yourself by dissociating other parts of yourself, believing in separation and making duality. When you attach yourself to form, you are identifying with limits that aren't there. The experience of form, with all its thoughts, feelings, and suffering, comes from a belief in division - from seeing yourself as distinct from the totality of existence. But that’s not the real you! The truth of who you are is beyond the form, and beyond any appearance of suffering. The key for me is that real freedom comes from recognizing that all form is purely an illusion. Instead of finding balance between form and the infinite, the task at hand is to see through the illusion of form entirely. Suffering exists simply because of the attachment to the illusion, but when you understand that it’s not real, your perception will shift. You realize that what you actually are is untouched by suffering or limitation, and that you are still whole and unified with everything, even if it looks otherwise. This isn't about denying form or pushing it away but about no longer taking it as one's identity. The more you stay in the deeper reality of who you are, the less grip the illusion of form will have on you. What once felt dense and limiting starts to dissolve, and your experience of freedom and peace becomes more consistent. So it’s not a gradual process of balancing both realities but a gradual awakening to the fact that only one reality is true - the absolute beyond form.

health is wholeness physical health means to be be able to enjoy the world fully mental health means to be able to think happily spiritual health means to be able to enjoy more than the physical or mental

An ego loves this idea and will trumpet this doctrine from the rooftops It's a way of keeping ITS kingdom intact with IT on the highest throne Egos are fiendishly sneaky, beware

I love you and as I told you before, you are my teacher

Give up the nightmare boom and bust dreams There is something way better waiting Creation is one's destiny and everything here is child's play

Truth told I have never suffered my entire life, have worked Walmart type jobs and done stretches inside This body has indeed suffered plenty and often gets on my case to do something I tell it this isn't up to me I can tell everyone here that when you heal your mind then you WILL heal your body Body is not being affected by surroundings and circumstances like commonly believed You are doing this to yourself to punish yourself and to keep yourself enslaved in darkness Your sick mind cannot have you waking up Your mind is eminently healable as I explain many times over. The means is forgiveness of all that you see. Let me say it aloud: YOU ARE CREATING ALL THIS HERE AND FORGIVING IS TO SEE THEN TREAT EVERYTHING AS LOVE NOT FEAR

Yes it is absolutely a choice Problem is 99% who live don't know there's a choice And even the 1% don't see eye to eye as we see here Which is why I say, listen to no one and find what works yourself It's lonely and thankless and painful but it actually works Joy is guaranteed and irreversible

Drifting in space, I could not awaken. I need the forms to discover what I really am. I dumped them outside me and covered them with fear to make an interesting story. It's a silly mad detour from what is much better: creating unimpeded for eternity. This is a shit-show by comparison. I can undo all this. Fear is just saying I am a frantic mess because I am a poor limited soul so I better do stuff quickly before I expire. And you are stopping me from doing it. You are not stopping me from anything. You are the only god available to me and I have to see you and treat you thusly. That is the only ticket home. To dissolve this madness forever.

Alliances You need to help me to survive and thrive and arrive else just get outta my car and outta my life (h/t Billy Ocean) Love means every form at every moment is exactly the same And tricking me to think otherwise is ego's whole game

It's impossible in my view to awaken alone. I have to deal with this world I have projected. I projected it because I hate it. I love myself and I am doing my best to keep the world at arm's length. Imagining it is not me. This is all dumb. I need to see god in what I created. Not hate. That's how I realize what I am and now this world is transcended.

For me the false is I am a separate sovereign suffering individual and so are you The truth is we are the same oneness and the reality of this can be upheld and actualised by my seeing you correctly as you truly are By seeing you right, I see me right and withdraw projection of this world, dissolve the whole illusion and return to our true nature I made this world to escape a non-existent problem and seeing this I can correct it easily and return to my state of wholeness and happiness

It's easier to look back and see one's strife with searing clarity than to look upon these walls closing inwards in the heat of the battle Everyone loves to romanticize their struggles yet shies away from dealing with the elephant looming in the room The task is a moment to moment one of choosing to uphold truth and withdraw from falsehood and all else is failure

For this to happen, false self needs to be crucified and from the ashes true self needs to be resurrected That's a death and arising that doesn't come out of thin air; it takes tremendous application and determination

You are saying this is instantaneous. For me readiness and earnestness is mandatory. Reminds me of the saying that enlightenment may be an accident but anyone can make themselves more accident prone. There are steps one can take and help one can receive. In this, existence has one's back at every step and will reward effort and devotion and to that end one has to commit whole-heartedly. The ego structure needs to be understood in totality before its unwinding can take effect. The reverse thought system - love instead of fear - needs to be implemented before the shift of perception can fully take hold. All the while one's true self is aiding and abetting and cheerleading and coaxing to make smooth one's journey. Help is definitely needed and required in my personal experience.

My take is that while awakening to higher self requires individual effort and introspection, it’s important to recognize that we are not isolated fragments. Progress necessitates leaning on one's higher self to help us move beyond our limited perception. Self reliance will typically lead to a cycle of self-reinforcement, where the very patterns we seek to overcome remain stubbornly intact. Openness to something greater - whether you view it as god, spirit, or higher consciousness - helps break these barriers of the lower self and allows for deeper clarity and mind healing. Without this connection, the journey can become circular, trapping us in the limitations we aim to transcend. Cooperation with this higher self, when understood not as loss of autonomy but as release from self-imposed limitations, becomes essential for experiencing a fuller, more expansive understanding of ourselves on the path to awakening. Hand over the reins to your higher self to put the lower self to bed once and for all,

I think I'm wrong vs. I think you're wrong Nobody else was ever wrong except me This is taking responsibility and awakening readiness If I see evil, it's my eyesight that needs adjusting

You are right but don't be the same as what you are against