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Finally, someone is making sense! But did it really have to come from a woman? Men are supposed to embody your matter of fact rational response, but all I've been getting from some boys in here is "Ohhhh yea"

Ahahahaahahaha! If I have to explain it... you won't get it anyway. For those who can, but aren't there yet... the keyword here is beauty. If you embody the kind of energy that values beauty... what kind of stuff would you spend your time doing?

If that's what you think you are, and that's how you choose to see yourself and others... that is exactly what life will give you.

Really? You will storm into another mans house, fight him to the death, then kill all his offspring and the very next day go about impregnating her with your own seed? Yes, there are a very few physco (animalistic men) who would behave that, but if we all did, we'd be like apes living in some forest. What is the difference between you and a chimpanzee?

What am trying to say is this.. a man may stand outside his fancy house, looking at his fancy cars, and think of all the great things he has achieved and feel really good about himself. A woman may put on a sharp dress, perfectly saloon-ed hair, nails makeup etc (that only a fellow woman would truly notice) and feel good about herself. We are all MOSTLY driven to do the things that make us feel good RIGHT NOW.

What about little girls? Why do they play with dolls and dress them all up pretty and stuff, and like shiny things like glitter and unicorns? Is it becuase they must do it to compete in the cut-throat nursery school dating games for the little boys playing with all their mechanical toys and stuff? And by the way, the type of men who many women will compete and fight for are only like to top 5%. They most certainly do not need to be with one of the top 5% quality mates to survive. We are human beings, not crocodiles in some inhospitable jungle somewhere..

I think she is just your sex friend, not your girlfriend. It's just a sexual thing for her. Enjoy it if you can, or cut it short and look for a girl who wants both an emotional + sexual thing.

Oh yeah indeed. I was hoping to show you some dots and let you connect them, but that's obviously not going to happen. One more try, here is a picture...

Really? If the kind of women you know have to get all dolled up to be approached and seduced, then am sorry for your loss

A eunuch eventually looses all sexual desires, so castration will do it for you.

Consider the concept of beauty for a moment. Do you feel that something of beauty: a) has to have some other functional purpose or b) can just be exist for its own sake

Just be you. You are beautiful, you are attractive, you are sexy when you are just being you, without giving a shit about how others respond to that.

Not necessarily. It depends on the goal. If the intention is to get into as many random panties as possible, then it is game. If it's to find a lifelong partner, its something else.

Women are really turned on by a guy who uses his eyes to communicate intent. But she won't look you in the eye if she's not already keen.

Do not overthink it. Know what you want, and respectfully go for it. Do not make any apologies or excuses for your needs. So what if you're desperately horny? Be desperate. Be horny. Embrace the feeling, especially if it makes you uncomfortable. Whatever you resist.. persists and just grows stronger. A mans desire to sexually connect with a woman is natural, healthy and normal. Do not ever apologize, or feel guilty or ashamed for that.

@Preety_India I think the term "nice man" just needs to be abolished. A man is generally the protector and provider, and you cannot do that by being "nice". The word "nice" has evolved to meaning the same as "meek", "polite", "agreeable", "flexible" which are all actually feminine qualities. Whenver someone calls a really masculine man nice, what they actually mean is "humble" or "gentle". As in they see the power they have, and also see they are not intoxicated by it. That is the kind of man I strive to be, powerful and humble. That's my idea of a "nice man". When you truly have the power, you do not need to be fake or manipulative.

Here is a tip. If your sense of self worth depends on how many random strangers with vaginas you've convinced to go home with you, then you are putting them on a pedestial. And they often sense it, and no one wants the burden of being exptected to save someone else. Deep down, we all know that the only person who can unconditionally love and save you, is you.

Ok. I get where you are coming from. I do not think they are "nice guys" though. If you are lying and dishonest, there's no way I'd consider you nice. Call them "fake guys". I consider myself nice, but that does not mean swallowing someones BS or lying to them. To me, nice means not intentionally causing harm to someone else. I can be blunt, but the intention is never to hurt. So I just don't think being straightforward is a bad guy trait, it depends on why.

I stand by my assumptions. If they are wrong, then say so! But do not ask me why I make them... that's my intuition. And I've no idea how that works.

They are the selectors, regardless of how emotionally vulnerable they are. Meaning they get to decide what sexy is. You go cry and be all vulnerable, weepy and sensitive to a girl you like, and tell me how that works out for you.

No, you are not Leo. You are not me either... and following the same train-wreck logic. If you are both Leo and me, why the urge to respond... Please don't even go there... You are making two mistakes. One is putting Leo up on a pedestial (afterall, if we are all god, then whats so special about what leo does or says?) Two, is putting women on a pedestial. They are just dudes with vaginas, same needs, intelligence and weaknesses that you do. Meaning, just because she decides to go home with you, does not mean you are special, saved or validated. No human in this planet is ever going to save or validate you. If they could, the great pickup artists would not keep picking up and searching for whats not there.

My take, is this is all about control. Controlling your future. You might as we say.. "I'm not attracted to nice guys. They give me false hope. Unlike bad guys, when they do 'bad gut stuff' am fully prepared and expect it. So my heart is never truly broken, unlike with those phoney, flakey, fakey and pretentious liars. If you're going to break my heart, do not act like you won't mr, nice guy. Be like mr. bad guy, who gives me no false hope"

I think what you are saying, is you want a partner and kids, but feel ashamed that you have this need. Damned if you go and have a baby mama, damned if you don't. Either way, you are damned.

hmmm... so when Leo is talking about "picking up girls" he is not being his "authentic self"? Where did you get that from? How do you know what Leo being his "authentic self" feels and sound like? Are you Leo?

Are you sexually attracted to masculine men? And do you allow the men you have sex with to be as emotional and vulnerable as they please? If the answer is no... then whatever you've said is irrelevant.