actuallyenlightened

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  1. But my story of the legal system lines up with the actual legal system, no? I'm just making conclusions based on my understanding of it, which I'm assuming is correct. I know well that if I accidentally get a girl pregnant after taking all precautions available to me, then I would be powerless. Is this not correct? A lot of my fear literally stems from this legal issue
  2. Skewed in what way? Introspecting I have done, and continue to do so. This is why I am aware of this. It's just unsettling that there is a small risk that my life can take a drastic turn for the worse by having sex just once. I'm aware that other issues such as a natural disaster, getting stabbed by a homeless man, etc are similar in nature but the probability of this happening seems like an order of magnitude more likely. In terms of a winning strategy, I think I would eventually decide to just take the risk and proceed. Living life without romantic relationships is also very costly.
  3. You're telling me to take this risk at my own expense? Not always successful. Many bad apples have mastered the craft of deceit. I'm good at seeing through lies but can't say I can detect more than 70% of them. Well yeah that's why I sabotage relationships because most people have yellow flags. The law needs reforming. Adult women are adult enough to be legally held to promises they make. Such promise in paper form doesn't violate body autonomy because they would willingly sign it. With that logic everyone who doesn't want to be a dad because they aren't financially secure should never have sex. i.e. all university students, and basically anyone before their mid-20s. Yep this is what they say when people don't agree with them. The law sure incentivizes this. If a woman gets pregnant she holds all the cards. There's absolutely nothing a man can do. If a woman doesn't think she can support a child then she gets an abortion. Too bad if you're a man you pay for 18 years of child support. If a man wants to be a dad but the woman wants the pill then he doesn't get to be one. As far as fairness goes, the man and woman should have 50% of the say on how the pregnancy goes; and body autonomy is simply a justification used to give women complete power. I'm fine with women maintaining body autonomy as long as men have a way to opt out within a few weeks into pregnancy (less than the time limit for abortions). I'm seriously considering this
  4. It seems like as a man, there's not way to eliminate the risk of an unwanted pregnancy - and that exploring my sexuality, and having an active sex life in general carries the risk of being burdened with an extraordinary amount of responsibility that I'm not ready for. It also doesn't help that I have trouble trusting people. I recently realized that this fear has been a major reason why I sabotage relationships and avoid having sex. The main issues: - Condoms aren't 100% effective. - Vasectomy's are often irreversible. - The girl can lie about being on birth control. - The girl can promise to get an abortion before sex then change her mind. - It's impossible to legally obtain a 'paper abortion.' If it were possible I would get the contract signed as a precondition for having sex every time. Better yet, I would want to contractually obligate a woman to get an abortion (before having sex) since it's not great for a child to be born into this world with either parent not wanting them. I just want to be able to enjoy having sex without the risk of huge repercussions and that seems impossible given how lopsided the law is in favor of women. Anyone here figured this out? Are my concerns overblown?
  5. You're not getting away from mind games anytime soon. Approach anxiety itself is based on mind games. PUA fundamentally provides you with a theoretical understanding and a roadmap on an interaction with a woman. Not studying it will get you lost in the forest; not recognizing patterns and opportunities as they arise. That will give you above average results nonetheless. For amazing results you would need to flawlessly implement these teachings, which requires solid inner game - so little to no approach anxiety, better yet excitement - and experience having fixed extremely suboptimal game that everyone starts with. That would already put you in the top 1%. If you want to go on and become world-class you'll need to take the art(ist) in PUA seriously and start innovating, making your game a unique expression. At that point your approaches should become elegant and aesthetically pleasing to an observer.
  6. Nothing notable, just a normal first date. Didn't seem to reflect much - just wanted to pay her own coffee. With me being from Canada, I found local Canadians have no issue accepting coffee. Just cultural expectations I guess
  7. @Thought Art haha unfortunately I don't have the app
  8. yeah even after I offered and told them not to worry about it..
  9. I found nationality plays a huge role. Met a few western European girls who flat out refused free coffee on the first date lol
  10. Perhaps helps with deterrence but don't forget the danger of 2 nuclear-armed stage redders already at war. Looking forward to yellow in this regard
  11. This is why I quit mushrooms and do LSD instead. They really shouldn't be legalizing shrooms first lol
  12. Same here. My trips seem to fill up a queue of sober integration work to do. Once that's exhausted and things start slowing down, intuition strikes again
  13. Would you say that it tried everything, quite randomly at first, then keeps doing what works while applying random changes (or using knowledge obtained randomly doing something else)? So an evolutionary algorithm in a nutshell. And that's how it went from being dumb to intelligent and can now create clean physics and math laws?
  14. @OBEler actually I could see psychadelics work for long term trades; by thinking of trades while tripping, then working out and double checking your logic when sober before attempting it. I'd recommend paper trading first though