Matt Skinner

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  1. I recently discovered two YouTube PUA channels, AG Hayden and Karisma King. They seem to be friends, and they seem like competent PUAs and coaches. Then, totally by coincidence, I checked to see if they have Instagram and realized they both follow @Leo Gura and he follows them back. They seem pretty influenced by RSD, and I’m pretty sure they’re based in Vegas. Leo—have you hung out with these guys? Have you gamed with them? I’m wondering mostly out of pure curiosity, but I also wonder if you have any opinions or takes on their approach to game. Anyone who’s familiar with their work is welcome to share, of course.
  2. Did Leo remove all of his blog videos?
  3. It’s not, necessarily. My understanding is that they’re basically pointing to the same thing, but emphasizing different aspects of it. Frank’s cultivation of continuous high baseline consciousness vs. Leo’s emphasis on reaching the highest states possible through whatever means available, plus integrating ego development and worldly understanding. I’m in no position to say Frank’s approach is inferior to Leo’s, but Leo’s methods and teachings resonate with me more. This is what I was struck with when reading Frank’s comment. Doesn’t seem to acknowledge his own blind spot, idk. He doesn’t seem to acknowledge the intrinsically paradoxical nature of reality the way Leo does, the way the absolute and the relative are simultaneous and one. Again, though, I’m not familiar enough with his work to really be assessing it him like that. Thanks for your input.
  4. I guess this is typical of Frank’s perspective on Leo’s teachings right? It always seems to me like Frank emphasizes a “you’re already awake” mentality or like, “There’s nowhere to go, awakening is just an experience so don’t place too much meaning on it.” And dismissing psychedelics. I haven’t watched most of the interview yet, nor am I super familiar with Frank’s work, for context. Just sharing the comment.
  5. Do a meditation retreat to get a taste of higher consciousness from just meditation. The Goenka retreats are free and you by no means have to stick with the method they teach there once you come back. You will cultivate a LOT of concentration and mindfulness on an intense retreat. Or, yeah, just do psychedelics. Do a light or moderate dose of a psychedelic and listen to Leo’s God realization guided exercise, and meditate while tripping.
  6. I appreciate this distinction being addressed ?
  7. For anyone still struggling to find good RSD videos…many of the RSD paid products can be torrented for free. Most are not even hard to find. The video courses are laid out in an intentional, comprehensive way, which I find more utility and security in than having to hunt and piece together random YouTube clips.
  8. Right, right , makes sense. All the more reason for me to get serious about pickup/dating skillz! I think that process will likely cut through a lot of the neurotic wiring holding me back from fully enjoying sex. Thanks for you input Leo ?? I really appreciate it.
  9. Right True! And yes balance is key, everyone’s slightly different. Question though—I’ve had past issues with cumming/arousal during sex with girls I thought were kind of average or even above-average attractiveness. In high school there were times when I would close my eyes and pretend my girlfriend was a super hot pornstar to help my finish because I felt like I couldn’t otherwise. The NoFap movement (Gary Wilson’s book, etc.) led me to believe there was legitimacy behind the idea that porn had significantly desensitized my arousal capacity with real girls. The thing is, I did find that remaining celibate for even a week+ made it a lot easier to cum. It’s just that the nofapping was consistently difficult. I guess my question is…do you think my issue is likely rooted in something deeper than just desensitization? (Performance anxiety, psychological issues, or even the girl really isn’t attractive enough.) And that ideally a healthy guy can jerk off to porn regularly and not have issues finishing in bed? I suppose the answer is obvious, since plenty of guys do just that. I’ve never understood the stereotype of guys cumming way too fast, that almost seems like a luxury to me.
  10. Where do you draw the line between an enjoyable activity being harmless, healthy self-love vs. sneaky, long-term self-harm? For instance, I enjoy using cannabis quite a bit, and using it makes me feel good, similarly to using porn. But in the long-term, I’ve realized I’m better off keeping cannabis use to a minimum. I guess it’s just about finding the sweet spot of moderation for each activity? I know you advise against cannabis, and I would agree than frequent porn use is generally healthier than frequent cannabis use. Perhaps porn and weed are too different from each other for this comparison, idk.
  11. I like this framing of it from @Emerald. The present moment not existing is the same as the present moment being the only thing that exists.
  12. I relate to this. Yeah you’ve gotta figure out your long-term logistics financially and address sexual/relationship needs first. I’m still trying to sprinkle some spirituality into my life (regular kriya yoga and occasional psychs). But I’ve realized I’m falling into the “born into low stage green without having integrated previous stages, lazy hippy” trap. Going through the LP course way too slowly as well. Good on you for taking action ?
  13. Agreed!
  14. I think, in general, more emphasized and frequent disclaimers regarding self-harm and responsible action could be helpful. It doesn’t have to be a big change. Ironically, I actually think it could make your content more accessible. I know people who’ve dismissed your work simply because they think saying something like “death is imaginary” or “other people are imaginary” is irresponsible and dangerous. You do make disclaimers to balance how unstable people may react to these statements, but sometimes they aren’t until late in the video, or they’re ONLY at the beginning. I know it can ruin the flow, but addressing it right at the beginning AND several times throughout/whenever certain topics come up could help. In general, maybe emphasize the importance and value of the relative/form domain of existence EVEN more than you already do. That dichotomy—communicating that this is a dream, you are God, nothingness, etc. while also emphasizing the value of a healthy developed ego, is what makes your teachings special imo. It’s certainly a tricky balance to strike—like, how much do you need to cater to unstable people? Tricky, tricky.
  15. Nofap is advertised as a cure-all quick fix (only 3 months if just doing a reboot) but there’s so much emphasis placed on resetting your streak when you “relapse”. I eventually determined that it was impossible for me at the time I was attempting. “If I can just make it x number of days, my life will fall into place.” Putting the cart before the horse. It’s precisely the opposite—get your life together, then you’ll realize it doesn’t matter if you jerk it occasionally, and you won’t be compelled to do it all the time. Nofap encourages neurotic obsession with your masturbation habits. Nofappers will even acknowledge the pink elephant problem without fully connecting just how fundamental that is to the practice. Just focus on only masturbating when you think it would be enjoyable, instead of doing so mechanically, out of a feeling of obligation. You can even experiment abstaining strategically for periods of time to see what happens. There’s no right or wrong. Masturbate consciously as much as possible, but don’t worry too much about it. There’s a part of the LP course where Leo says something like “no one ever did anything great through avoidance.” I think he was quoting someone else. Either way, I found that helpful, as well as his video on “should statements”.
  16. Yep. Not all metabolisms are born equal. I know people who eat like pigs and barely work out and literally cannot NOT have a six pack
  17. I second this. Allen is great
  18. “Genital preferences are transphobic” Green in excess EDIT: Photos uploaded out of order, couldn’t manage to fix it. Start with 1 of course
  19. Very cool, been meaning to get around to that series. Her point about judging stages (a point you always emphasize with SD) is very important. Congrats ☺️
  20. This, especially combined with some concentration practice, has worked well for me.
  21. @Leo Gura Everyone is unique, of course, but—is your current view that a combo of yoga, psychedelics, and some type of contemplation/self-inquiry is probably the best cocktail of practices for progress? In general I mean. Since you no longer consider meditation the most important you still think there is a single most important practice? Or have you bypassed blanket recommendations like that altogether? My current routine seems to be working pretty well for me, so I’m just curious.