Gesundheit

Pleasure does that, and I like it. Pleasurable activities give me pleasure regardless of my thoughts. It's easy to say this in theory. And you can even try to force that thought onto the pain, but the pain will still exist and you will still not like it. At least that's how it's been for me so far.

Good question.

I don't know. For me, pain is an unpleasant feeling. With or without thoughts, it is still painful. I imagine if at some point of pain I would kill myself to get rid of it. I wouldn't fear death at that point. The pain would be stronger than the fear.

Then why did you start a topic? At least offer something.

I fear pain as well. I don't like it one bit even though it's something else entirely than death.

So that maybe you could roll outta here?

I don't let others have that frame in the first place to the best of my abilities. The moment you submit to the frame of trigger vs victim, you've already lost the battle. Well, not quite. You can always use attack as a defence. Instead of waiting for them to trigger you, start it yourself, try to trigger them. And if you forget and then catch up later, play it cool and return their triggers onto them. But anyway, the only reason anyone can get triggered is ego. And the only true way out is awareness. Examine what exactly you are afraid of when someone throws some shit onto you. And let go... You can practice that at any time.

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Perhaps.

Thank you. I will contemplate and reflect on what you said here.

Exactly, and the word nothing describes what is perfectly, under one condition, which is not to restrict it with the word "only" or anything like that. Ex: being is only nothing. That is a false statement because it leaves out everything/phenomenon/perception/appearance. If it ever existed as a separate thing, then it was never the absolute truth. I am saying that nothing = everything, meaning that there's no distinction between nothing and everything. Nothing and everything exist as one thing and at the same time creating a distinction between them is valid. I am creating these constructs, yes. Not because I want to extract some value out of them, but because they have to be. These constructs are true, and the distinction between them is true. At least that's how it is to me. If these true constructs didn't exist, other false constructs would replace them and that would make me deluded.

Nothing

Elaborate pls.

What if there never was a mind?

You can, but they won't get it unless they share the same reference point. The reference point is the insight or understanding that allows someone to be realized. If that someone somehow forgets that reference point, they'll lose their awakening. I don't really see the connection here. Just because we can teach mathematics to kids does not mean that it's absolute truth. But anyway, I would argue that it's possible for a materialist to realize God simply by being open-minded, and then questioning and contemplating until it clicks. The realization will then become a reference point, or a memory. But the absolute truth is prior to it, and it will be seen as that.

Sex is meant to be mechanical and not enjoyable. But most humans are deluded, both men and women, although in different ways. The emotional connection during sex has nothing to do with the real emotional connection in real life, it's just a cheap trick for the unaware minds. That's for women. For men, the only reason sex is overrated is because of its relative rarity. Consider that if you could have sex with whoever you want and at any time you want, you would get bored very quickly. You'd hit a plateau point just like with food. Why don't most people appreciate food as much as sex? Because of its high availability and the ease of reach, obviously. If sex was as easy and available, it would lose most of its value, because its current value is delusion.

The truth is that "nothing" is here and now, and this seemingly-full here and now is not any different from the empty nothing that's meant originally. Appearance is in fact empty. Only the fabrications of the mind, which are another appearance, can make it look like it's not when one forgets that they're just fabrications/appearances and then believes them to not be fabrications/appearances but actual things. Consider this equation: since appearance exists as appearance; that makes: isness = isness + appearance. Therefore, isness = appearance. And by flipping the terms, nothing = everything. It's not that the mind cannot grasp emptiness. The mind itself is assumed to begin with, but it's usually taken to be actual, that's what makes things confusing. If it's seen through the fabrications of the mind, it's already done. The mind will know its place as a misperception of truth, and thus get dismantled. It can be explained, but if there's no point of reference it's not going to make sense, no matter the amount of mental gymnastics we may provide. This is the problem with awakening and with everything we try to learn. We don't know until we know. @Fran11 I thought you might want to read this too.

If isness is only nothing, then you're right. No words can ever describe nothing (except the word nothing ). But luckily isness is everything too, therefore the distinctions are true and included in isness. So you have nothing and you have everything as two different things, yet at the same time only one thing. This paradox allows for both correct and incorrect interpretations. Someone may be identified only with nothing and then deny the everythingness of reality, and someone else may do the opposite and identify only with everything and then deny nothingness. Wouldn't you say that that would be a misinterpretation of isness? And that the only true interpretation has to be that nothing = everything, necessarily?

How about oneness, totality, or infinity?

The thought experiment provided here is just a thought experiment happening here and now. And since it's not actually the case, then it's invalid. The substance of isness is simply the present moment, however it may be, which is infinity. That one word does describe the absolute truth fully to me. Therefore that one word is absolute truth.

I can't. This is a new insight for me which may or may not be correct, and I'm still looking for more coherent understanding. Maybe I'll eventually be able to convince you

I wouldn't say it's external but still, isn't reality objective and universal? The absolute truth that is prior to language or evidence or interpretation is objective and universal, isn't it?

It's normal to feel identified with humanity at stage Green. Green is a human-centric stage.

Nothing unnatural about having the same food every day. There's no rule against that. It may become boring to a lot of people though.

The first thing here is that you're probably judging yourself harshly. You probably have high standards for how you should be in order to feel the satisfaction you want and deserve. Keep in mind that marriage is not exclusive to certain qualities. A lot of people, both men and women, who don't have very appealing qualities still find a partner and end up marrying them. In fact, most people fit into that category. It's only rarely that someone is too special that they're desired too much. The point is that most likely it's not about how you are right now, but rather about how judgemental and unloving of yourself you currently are. You can fix that with self-love. Watch Leo's video for more info. The second thing is that I get the feeling that you feel obliged to get married, like it's the only right path to take, and that if you didn’t take it you'd get lost and end up miserable for the rest of your life. This is probably because of two factors: indoctrination, and what I call the herd effect. You're probably indoctrinated with the storyline of a good girl who does this and that and then marry her knight with the shining armour. And the herd effect is what you said about your friends getting married and you feeling left out. The reality is that all of that is nothing but a huge myth. Your inner peace and happiness aren't found in external relationships and achievements and all that. They are found within a healthy, loving, and nurturing relationship with yourself. Find your inner princess and love her. She deserves that love more than anyone or anything else.