Jacob Morres

@StarStruck I didn't mean it negatively. I just meant in the sense maybe a professional could hold space for you. I think such issues need to be handled with delicate care Youre not alone. And what youre doing and feeling is understandable. But yeah I would really try to refrain and find different strategies in the future (which is what you're doing now) I'm not trained in this but I hope and know u will find the healng you need

i would get a therapist or a life coach man

??? interestingoso never knew this

i support the side that's willing to have conscious, empathetic discussions lmao but these civil rights movements are always so ugly fr. at least it's better than having a war lol

@sholomar Good point. But I do hear from some people that they have a lot of trouble balancing both.

it's literally textbook spiritual bypassing lol it's like saying "well all there is, is the present moment, so don't worry about it" but that's only if that philosophy is truly embodied which takes a lot of work

agree no way. way too spiritual and not practical. human needs like intimacy with others can take years to transcend . this is 'spiritual bypassing'

This Leo himself says that teachings that come from judgement and criticism are not holisitic and will be very narrow and to generally not trust them. It's okay. The only reason I know this is because I've been on both sides of the coin. So I have empathy for it But I def don't think it's an appropriate (or even useful) method generally.

@flowboy yeah p sure it's gaslighting

@Emerald personally it's just too judgemental for me too take it seriously. I would prefer if you offered your opinion and wanted to have conversations. Like the way you talk about people who do pickup, just the wording is sort of insulting. But that's just me Anyway hope you can reconsider your approach. If not, I get it

thanks!! but i remember your comment several months ago of your rant about how some people on the forum were a bunch of weirdos for not being good with women and needing help (paraphrasing). i can pull up the comment if you'd like lmaoooo

@soos_mite_ah lets be fair women harbor bitterness to men all the time. not pitting men against women here but u said that like yall just move on without ever getting bitter lmao

Ya I care way less than I used to as well. It's not that fulfilling. Like it's not even the good stuff of the relationship. The good shit is the depth part of the relationship But then again an analogy I thought was that it could be related to food. At the end of the day the taste of the food matters more I'd presume. But you'd also want food that looks good as well. But taste matters more

Have to agree with @Bando here, I don't feel she was honest about what they did. Looking back to my own rel it was so obvious that they did way more. Problem was I trusted so hard, but theres def a distinction between being trustful and being naive and also justifying/rationalizing certain behaviors by others

I have been in a similar situation Self respect is a huge thing for me now. What would a self respecting decision for you be here? My spidey senses really doesn't like this whole situation. Super triggered by it too. Sorry for that having happened to you. For me it was so rough when it happened. Good luck

@Emerald Well by options I meant that dating apps and things like that give you access to more people (to help you find the ones you want). Also to note that yeah there also will be simultaneously be more people who are not the right fit Friend groups always had me skeptical because the amount of people in it was just too less to find me the exact girl I needed. But like you said if you curate it well I can see how you could make that work perhaps

awesome tips great post. this could work for men too i think downside is that your options get decreased a lot though?

remember guys to consider that we all engage in low consciousness behavior from time to time so it's best to refrain from insults

i think it might be helpful to craft some yourself that may help with your weaknesses and also help manifest what you want becuase i think affirmations are subject to your needs + desires but personally I like: i manifest a good woman for myself i have great social skills women are naturally into me also some keys to affirmations are believing, feeling, trusting and embodying by taking action. mechanical/mindless or doing it half-assed is very low results

well to be fair i like sex but regarding the context of my post it's not BS. it's rarely ever on my mind

Lol idk I don't care about sex But if I had to dig deep on what being nice to me meant It means emotionally intelligent, empathetic, honest, integrous, non-judgemental and loyal These are non-negotiables for me in a healthy relationship

she just gotta be nice and we gotta flow and feel each other for me idk

@Leo Gura what's so ugly about building self-confidence, social skills and flirting skills? it's as human as it gets imo

i try to let them know it's more me and not them. and iterate to them that they are a good person and it has nothing to do with you. i once said it to a girl , with a really heartfelt response and she seemed to take it well and we remained friends after that. once a girl went absolutely off on me but like i was doing my best to remain kind and integrous. so just keep in mind their responses are somewhat out of your control but you can have some influence

@coca uwot