Jacob Morres

There are two types of criticisms (I just made up but to me feel very true) Criticisms that are from below are argumentative, judgemental, critical, demonizing/bashing Criticisms that are from above are calm, peaceful, empathetic, unreactive, conscious and wise The former is like in an argument/debate kind of mindset. Where the truth actually can't be seen because it is based in arguments and some egoic agenda. Also because I can see clearly a lot of his judgements are wrong/untrue I know that his argument isn't based in looking for the truth!!

Important topic. It's important to stand up for yourself and your feelings and set boundaries

tons of great insights - but i just want to wary on being too analytical about this stuff. because if you focus too much on outer, your inner will remain the same. it requires a healthy balance of both

@Vzdoh would i be wrong in assuming this discussion feeds your ego as to how hot and high value you are and how the men on the forum need to up their value to get women like you

If we want to be epistemically sound, im curious to know how attached are you to the ideology? And how much do u desire to have truthful perspectives? Because if we want episetemic integrity then we must be willing to question any perspective (ofc me included :)) @eaaaeaeae

Yeah makes sense honestly, you do talk a lot It was from your infinite intelligence video

It's your own quote LOL

His whole harm reduction brand thing came after he got banned from YouTube. It was a survival mechanism to stay alive on the platform

also some skills dont require mastery. if you just want some base proficiency, dont stress too much

caused as a byproduct of systemic issues

I've done self image exercises that change your reality quickly. Like I say "I am a top 1% basketball player" If you belive and feel it, it will begin to fulfill and the skills will increase overtime. But u can't get it instantly. But u can improve some skill instantly with the affirmation

for what it's worth, i got a job at a good startup because of a good portfolio and a recommendation (without showing a degree) but i do feel a good degree is useful?

Go for it But be aware of it's limitations (there are so many lol) It's unholsitic

Regardless, he seems to be in a place of deep pain

High consciousness characteristics: Level of empathy Degree of self reflection capacity Awareness of self -bias Ability to see multiple perspectives Degree of holism and systemic thinking Size of one's circle of concern Lack of fear

Chill He wasn't even abrasive to you

https://www.reddit.com/r/SpiralDynamics/comments/ot1kqx/please_do_not_mistake_blue_for_green_just_because/ I found this post interesting and wanted to hear y'all's thoughts @Leo Gura " Green is more rare than we think. Most people, including myself, tend to think green is yellow. When people first start thinking of spiral dynamics they tend to simplify it to: Blue = religion Orange = capitalism Green = The far left/ cancel culture This is a really bad misconception. Cancel culture is a BLUE value. Censorship is a BLUE value. Closing down the conversation is a BLUE value. Just because someone is liberal does not mean they are green. Blue comes in any form of finding the “One true way”. For many this is religion. For MANY others it is politics, “following the science”, socialism, Marxism, ect. The MAIN CORE (!!!!!!!!) value of green is relativism, which is a huge jump from the other stages. Most people think relativism is yellow, because it “can see all the other stages”. That isn’t yellow, it’s green (Yes, green can be “intolerant” of others, but they are not intolerant of people just for having different idealogies. Basically green is not totally unreasonable like blue tends to be) Example: if a stranger walks up to you and picks a fight about wearing a mask, that is not green. That’s blue. Green may push values / post on social media but they don’t pick fights with strangers. “Cancel culture” is alllll blue. Green tends to see things as “products of capitalism” and “products of religion” or “products of a sexist culture” and are usually sympathetic and want to help the other grow and “get to their level of understanding” (in a nice way). Blue is more drawn to tearing others down in effort to virtue signal / develop sense of morality. (cancelling everyone or calling everything a sin) Just thought I’d share my thoughts. I think steortypes were rrly wrong when it comes to green, because people just thought blue had to be conservative Catholics. But blue can have any mindset."

@taotemu that's great to hear i love seeing conflict and resolution in relationships

the book might be helpful to check out - id assume it's comprehensive in its definitions about the stages

Notion I heard is good too

Yeah take it as a grain of salt. It's definietely a bit black and white on what is/isn't attractive. A good amount of it is subjective and if it's hurting your mental health def take a step back and consume some sources that feel better

@Preety_India even if everything you said was true it's still only partial because your label of "evil" Imo, even if true, it means your game/approach needs to be changed on your part It's just a lot of victim mentality

@Preety_India Maybe your approach was bad Sounds like a trauma response to rejection Maybe you can approach initially but then put the ball in his court to do the "hunting"