Jacob Morres

You may like this book https://www.amazon.com/Say-What-You-Mean-audiobook/dp/B07NPRXSVM/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?crid=3KTG4C7L364MX&keywords=nvc+mindfulness&qid=1639439005&sprefix=nvc+mindfulness%2Caps%2C122&sr=8-3 I personally enjoy it because it stresses on using mindfulness and that imo is a pillar of healthy communication

this is a common issue. i would search something along the lines of, "overwhelmed by large goal", or something that articulates your issue even better.

Aspects of great social skills: Awareness of the other person's actions and feelings (?) Awareness of your own and other's manipulations (?) Strong degree of presence Calibration to the social dilemma Empathy Self-confidence Good intentions You can't have great social skills while having anxiety bcuz you will be anxious rather than performing well/confidently. ANd good social skils requires confidence to some extent. I think shadow work, trauma work, mindfulness, self-love is critical

I too am interested. I'm not fully aware of the resources for this yet, but I was reading this at Barnes and noble the other day and it looked decent The Mindful Relationship: Easy Exercises to Make Mindfulness a Daily Relationship Practice https://www.amazon.com/dp/1641526513/ref=cm_sw_r_apan_glc_fabc_J85T4JSJ3SER5SKJRJ0J

The dude corrects some of the issues in modern therapy with his ideas and provides tons of very good philosophy and techniques for OCD

Ya I agree . Sometimes mindfulness/meditation is not the ans Sometimes just connecting to friends can do 100x more than mindfulness. It's honestly just so contextual me thinks

I've heard that same critique of mindfulness, thinking it as if you're meditating your problems away. The term for that is spiritual bypassing. While that is a trap, it's not inherently what meditation/mindfulness is. Meditation/mindfulness comes in many forms and has many use cases. Therapists use MCBT and other grounding techniques to calm down anxiety - it's scientifically proven to be effective You can calm down your anxiety (using meditations. both as a daily practice and while the anxiety is occurring) and work on your problems at the same time! Mindfulness is soooo powerful for that. Meditation also has the potential to help fully let go of some anxieties. She is deeply underestimating it (sometimes meditation alone is not enough. it depends on the issue and person)

Interesting right.

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I don't think previous generations were stronger though. Our previous generations were fucked up and traumatized... I think people are glorifying the past generations. They were way more unconscious as a whole than today's people

damn thats impressive. did u ever see the girls that he hooked up with?

imo there might be twin flames but i dont think it's that only 1 person fits that criteria of it. i think the "divine relationship" low key might just be a fantasy but i think there definitely can be some great matches that are way better than other ones

usually it has to do with them and not you. or it could be your communication style (i find 'non violent communication' can be disarming and promotes conscious communication). you may need friends who are better at communication. good friends care about your feelings

The problem is the social conditioning around it making you feel less worthwhile of a person because u haven't had sex Which is distinct from the problem that arises of you desiring sex and were unable to get it

maybe but according to their research they say it has good impact https://blog.youtube/news-and-events/update-to-youtube/ i agree though i do want to see their rational based off what you said

1-2 years maybe

personally i like the change. i remember seeing an argument that dislikes were a good indication to tell you which content is good/bad for both the creator in terms of feedback and for the viewer in terms of judging quality (but like/dislike ratio isn't a perfect indicator of quality contact) but people use dislikes as a method for bullying and i think a lot of people get really negatively impacted by it. it wouldnt affect me as much as an adult, but for children without the best coping skills i know dislikes can be heavily influential/impactful. it's definitely hard for me to decide but i think i have to go with the latter. im sure there are another ways of gaining feedback/ judging quality

hmm what is it making it hard for you?

Y'all aware of any good book on social skills? Like the fundamentals of social skills? I'm looking for one at that is decently wise + practical. OFC I know action is everything but I enjoy having books as foundations whenever I pursue journeys like this

I have the same question actually.

My dating principles: Girls will reflect your own internal feelings. If you believe yourself as unattractive, girls will feel that and feel that way about you. Feel like an attractive guy and girls will feel that off you Find girls with good energy. Flirting in either their own unique good nature. Girls who are cold, uninterested, rude are loved but not my type.

Wow awesome thanks for sharing. Emma sepalla says the root of confidence is presence. So that theory would actually align with what you're saying And presence is a pillar of charisma (according to Olivia cabane)

@Jennjenn possibly. But also part of me also feels it is too one sided to work well . High investment in a girl doesn't make sense if the girl doesn't reciprocate equivalent forms of investment Also it's sort of supplicating as well. When you try to win a girl with flowers and dates and stuff , a lot of girls perceive it as a form of compensating for something (which it is actually a lot of the times). But at the same time such a thing isn't inherent It's also not a 21st century strategy anymore in USA at least It needs to be grounded in attraction principles first before this. This alone is a failing strategy. If the guy isn't already attractive it won't work

!! Lol. This is a death sentence lol. Guys usually do this when they have no game no offense ? Not to discredit them completely bcuz they are probably great in a healthy relationship

I remember teal Swan talking about love and connection being as important as physiological needs sometimes (while referencing maslows)