Jacob Morres

I guess the question to ask would be - Does her identifying with being non-binary conflict with a value/lifestyle/happiness of yours? What are your needs/desires? I don't think that all non-binary people are the same with the same ideologies. She could be pretty non-ideological and even still be meeting your needs/desires. It could even be an opportunity to learn more about the philosophy/perspective I guess a personal example was that I used to think vegans were really ideological people who were super hardheaded and push their opinions onto everyone. My sister actually went vegan and I put her in this box thinking she was one of those people. Overtime i realized she was nothing like the perception of vegans I had in my head and she never pushed her opinion onto anyone. She just... went vegan and never talked about it But if there is a strong conflict with your needs/desires it could probably be a deal-breaker. Especially since your gut says one thing.

First off, it's great that you want to read for 30 minutes a day, but maybe try starting with just 10 minutes. Baby steps, right? Once you're comfortable, you can slowly increase the time. Choosing the right books can make all the difference. Find something that really grabs your attention, so you'll actually look forward to reading. Setting up a cozy reading nook might help, too. Curl up with a blanket, a cup of tea, or whatever makes you feel relaxed. Making it enjoyable helps As for making it a habit, try to read at the same time every day, so it becomes part of your routine. You know, like brushing your teeth You can also join a book club, or community those can really be motivating

there are so many of these girls but just a warning - dont conflate spirituality with quality of one's character. i had an impression they were heavily correlated. knowing about non-duality, law of attraction, meditation, spiritual beliefs =/= integrity, empathy, communication skills, morality, ethics, honesty etc. there may be some correlation or whatever but they're 100% distinct

Not a fan of tate but sheesh that last minute speech on bravery was inspirational

Na even if true you can transcend that ^^

@RebornConsciousness yeah 100% it depends on how you interpret the scenario You can def get much better at it

i think that's a subtle boundary theyre setting - basically saying im not ready for anything right now generally you give them space in these scenarios

it depends... some dudes dont need it at all. some dudes could benefit from some. some dudes could benefit from a lot of exp. some dude might have a business to start or work on and has no time. another dude might benefit because maybe he wants to meet some ppl to satisfy some social needs a diff dude might need a ton of experience because he has very little exp and it makes sense for him maybe for hamza who is going monk mode right now with his personal awakening - girls are just not it

Not saying I hit the nail on the head - But I def do know a part of finding good girls is a numbers game. There's a lot of good girls out there and also some abusive people like you mentioned. Finding your type takes time One suggestion is to find your non-negotiables and what you want from a girl. Your type should also be - girls that are into you and sure about you, who feel a good chemistry/connection with, integrous and empathetic etc. That would rule out a lot of the girls you're talking to And also there's what leo mentioned about raising your value

almost never the issue You don't even need that much empathy for what its like to be a woman to get a gf But wouldn't recommend that (for obv reasons) Imo the receipe is: 1. Be detached and patient 2. Work on yourself, increasing your value 3. Develop great social, and flirting skills 4. Use some system where you are interacting with girls 5. Play the numbers game

Hey js men and women have their unique privileges .It's not a one or another thing Not related to the topic tho js Though related to this topic, I do wonder what the most conscious and accurate opinions are here ?

so doesn't a car. yet it's still very useful ?

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@Leo Gura they got both bro, u ever see a regular lookin girl use hinge? When my sis was dating she used to get 10+ likes a day, and she's p avg looks wise (she did have a great profile). She could probably get a date a day if she wanted .. But it doesnt matter. All this thinking corrupts the mind. It's important to realize abundance regardless of your gender, and have healthy frameworks Instead of saying omg girls have it easy... You say, I'm so lucky to live in a city where there are tons of great people and women around me. I can't wait to meet them. Etc.

its hard to deny most girls generally have it easier when it comes to having options But at the end of the day who cares. Tbh its not that hard to meet base checklists

it's valid and understandable based off the stuff he has been putting up with One solution is inner child work and conscious boundaries

Yes, 50/50, no? a lot of girls still expect guys to pay for dates, even in progressive areas What do yall think?

by principle i believe it it should be equal 50/50 especially since most girls split 50/50 after the first date (this is a non-negotiable for me unless she's suffering financially, or isn't entitled to me paying for her stuff) but im just worried that ill lose otherwise good girls by holding to that principle for the first date i might just go for free + coffee dates instead like you guys mention > It all works. Depends on the situation and type of girl. If a girl truly likes you she will not mind about this that's true

some form of self-therapy might be helpful, these are opportunities for more compassion + empathy (towards yourself and others) all negative judgements stupid, lazy, uncaring, selfish, etc. but when dug into, reveal healthier and more accurate perspectives this channel leo linked a while back illuminates what im tallking about

Talking to girls (and developing social skills and with woman) isnt inherently unethical There's def ways you can do it with good intention and social acceptableness ?

i thought this was a good talk

hmm, maybe priority setting would be helpful. what is most important to you? what are your goals?

I think a book on boundaries might be helpful here

Nice win and approach dawg. just try to watch for social cues about her comfortability. If she's not feeling comfortable I wouldn't pressure her too much