Princess Arabia

If you paid attention to the context in which I wrote the statement, and which I mentioned, it was meant as a loving creature that shows unconditional love. I specifically mentioned that. Any other characteristics of a dog wasn't meant to capture the point i was making. I never called her a dog, I said like a dog and went on to explain why. Geesh, this is why people live in so much confusion and the drama of life never ends with humans, so many wrong interpretations and assumptions made that wasn't meant to be the intent in one's storyline. You added your own story to the mix by saying I was calling her submissive and that was never expressed but only in your mind and what you THOUGHT I was implying. I'm kinda done with this convo, as it's getting drawn out and mis aligned.

Most of the foods nowadays are deficient in nutrients and lack any substance unless it's whole foods or real foods from nature. Msg can make one feel hungrier sooner and ready to eat again in a short span of time. Empty calories will do this too. Maybe, in some cases this is the reason.

Oh hush, that's why most people have pets to receive the kind of unconditional love that @Sugarcoatemits. It was meant to be a compliment that only her with that type of loving personality would not take offense to. Compare me to a dog or a cat, and I would find it complimentary in the context in which I put it. About the narcissistic behavior, I never said he showed narcissistic behavior with her, he was narcissistic and loved her personality because of it. If you read his responses here on the forum most of the time it was about him, him, him and never considered the feelings of others. His advices usually stressed the points of only looking out for yourself which is quite narcissistic behavior. I'm not saying anything is wrong in being a narcissist or anyone needs to change it, just saying it the same way I'm saying she's loving. It's just a different personality type.

Everyone is. There's no one the same at all times in every situation. It's impossible to respond to all circumstances the same way and all that's happening here in life is responses. Energy responding to energy. It's never the same at all times. You might just have not noticed. This is why people get shocked or surprised by other people and nothing remains the same. It's constantly moving and what moves can never be exactly duplicated. Hehe, always have a response for everything, eh.

In person, I'm more chill. Both are 'authentic', just that different environments brings out different energetical patterns in people. In person, I'm very easy going, laid back and chill. Out drinking, I'm different than when I'm home or doing normal mundane things. I can be very funny and hilarious and quite a character when I'm pretty tipsy. People laugh and say I'm pretty funny on those occasions. So it all depends on the circumstances.

Yes. Most will like that type of online forum presence. It's like having a loving house pet that never talks back and only gives unconditional love. Like a dog. Hehe See, I'm so comfortable joking like that with you and comparing your presence to a pet dog, I know you won't take offense.

It's just a different kind of online personality that's all. People appear different in different occasions; and for me, I speak from the heart without holding back too much and being too self-conscious, so my energy just flows naturally that way. In another circumstance it might not happen that way or I may respond differently.

Well, you're making my point. This response is in line with not being challenging, controversial and is pretty neutral. This is attractive to narcissists and people who like to control others. All i'm saying is your online forum personality to him was/is perfect, you never back talk or challenge or put up a fight. To him that's a win/win - for him. Me on the other hand is the opposite at times, even though it's respectful and doesn't condescend, he didn't like that. Once he actually told me so in a rude way. I never responded back because, I didn't keep it alive, I stopped the conversation right there. Talking to me....not.

Yes, but he doesn't notice those who just ignores him or never replies to him or had nothing to say, he noticed you apart from those people because you at least responded, spoke with or paid his posts any attention but without rebuttals and was always cordial and kind and without resistance. Perfect for the role he was playing. Your "no opinions" were still verbally expressed, so he noticed that. Those who just ignored, went unnoticed.

You only stood out to him because you never talked back to him and either agreed with what he said or had no relevant opinion about what he said about anything. You're not controversial or dramatic and don't give anyone here any shit and you basically are emotionless (according to you), so that works for his storyline and the construction he was building for himself. Anyone that stood in the way of that, was an enemy and a threat. Why do you think he acted the way he did upon leaving. His construction was tearing apart and crumbling, and it was a desperate attempt at trying to not care, but that attempt only showed a desperate cry for help.

You're right about that.

If this is infinite how can it end. How can it even have begun. The only thing i have to say about infinity is that there's really nothing to say about it because whatever I say about it, is also it. If I decide to go in a cave and not talk to anyone anymore and not deal with anyone ever again, that's also infinity appearing as that. It cannot be escaped. Trying to get rid of the self, is also infinity appearing as that. Saying there's no more 'me' and I don't feel a sense of 'me' is also infinity appearing as that. If one feels trapped in a body and feel as if there's no escape, that's also it. If one 'dies', that's also infinity appearing as a body that dies. It's incredible what this is.

This is why I gave examples of both. They are two separate things and not about mistaking one for the other. You're missing that point. I understand what you're trying to say but one cannot mistake needing to make a judgement call on a decision and bashing someone upside the head with a harsh judgement or criticism. They are just simply two different things.

I've noticed this confusion many times here on the forum and I'd like to make the distinction between the two. One is to understand something to the degree one can make an informed decision based on that judgement, aka judgement call. The ability to come to a sensible conclusion about something. E.g. I looked at both students' grades and made the judgment call that one exceeded the other by far and deserved the promotion being considered for Class President. The other is to criticize condemn and judge. To bash, to belittle. Forming a negative opinion of or expressing a negative statement about someone or something. E,g. That girl is very promiscuous, that guy thinks he's the shit and he's not all that, lawyers are some conniving full of shit assholes that should be put on trial themselves, those people in the backyard are so dirty and nasty and never pick up after themselves. Those are judgements also. Making judgmental statements about a person, place or thing. There's a difference between the two and I just thought I'd point out the difference. We don't have to make harsh judgements about people but we often times do need to make a judgement call about a decision we need to make. One can observe without making judgements, but to make a judgement call one needs to observe - Princess Arabia (yes, I'm a philosopher now).

Ok, this is the difference and what I'm referring to. The difference in the words and meanings aren't relative. What's relative is how they get applied and used and in what context.

Congrats, Davino.

hilarious 😅

Yes, the dictionary's definition is in regards to the first definition. The second definition is in the category of "to pass judgement on", for which there is a definition for if you type in those words and that's where the second definition comes in. So search "to pass judgement on" and you'll see a different meaning than the first.

Saying 'X is clearly wrong' is not a judgement, but merely an opinion. There's also differences there too. I actually should have mentioned that in the original post because that also gets confused with judgements - opinions i,e.

A judgment based on a decision made or that needs to be made, imo, is one that's usually personal/private/made to oneself internally. E.g making a call as to whether to quote your whole response or just the piece I quoted. It's usually a matter of discernment and decision-making. There are really no lines between the two, as they are two completely different things. You're either judging something or making a judgement call.

Ok, that's enough. I'm Absolutely talked out for the day. Good night and see you again for a neither real or unreal discussion about no-thing. Hehe.❤️

I've let go of all that too. The more labels one puts on themselves, the more attached one tends to become and needing to live up to that label - subconsciously. E.g. Smoker, drinker, etc, One tends to live up to those and find it hard to let go of because of the identity associated with that label. It's like the killing of oneself (identity) and nothing really wants to die. So the stage orange in you doesn't let you rest because it has no where to go but to be a stage orange in you because without you there's no stage orange.

Btw, thanks for stopping by and good to see you.

That is your definition. Please don't put words in my mouth or offer up what you THINK I'm saying in my responses. To me appearances are neither real nor unreal, they are simply appearances that appears from nothing. Would you call a rainbow real or false. It looks like something appearing in the sky but go try to grab it and nothings there. It's an effect from the sun's rays and the clouds or however the process responsible for it's formation. That's what I call neither real or unreal. Appearance means that which appears and not within reality because reality is not a thing for something to be within. Reality is not a container.