Princess Arabia

Your title alone says it all. Get over yourself. You can't because your life is only about you. That's the dilemma. All the other millions of men getting married, fell in love or living with loving partners in relationships and having a family doesn't exist in your world. Totally invisible to you. Life's all about me, me, me. What's up with this "us". Surely not speaking to the men with wives or sexing down the town and having women flock to them like birds or in relationships.

The only illusion is you thinking there's a you that's an illusion. The only illusion is the I.

Why do you think we have senses. To try and make sense of the non-sense. How can life or reality or whatever make sense on it's own to us. Think about it. All these billions of different perceptions, all these subject matters, all the different beliefs, dreams, thoughts, ideas, opinions, different survival strategies, biases, desires....all that...how could you fit that into something that makes sense all on it's own. It needs help and that's where you come in. Make it make sense for you and your dreamt up made-up world. Take away all your stories and your life/world is utter chaos and insanity, but only for you and not life itself. Life is fine on it's own. It doesn't need to make sense for itself - so to speak. It needs to make sense for you. That's where the brain's abstractions and senses and all that comes in. Welcome to your world of sense making. Without it you'd be nothing. Ever seen a brain-dead person. Ever heard the term "sense-making". Note: This is just me trying to make sense of the non-sense. These aren't facts or truths. Nothing is.

So, your post is an illusion and your words is an illusion since the poster is an illusion anyway. Is that it.

I wouldn't call it healthy VS unhealthy. Just a different kind. Different expressions. Communication. Just as we're exchanging words and communicating here in a way that's considered normal, respectful, not filled fill explosive language or makes us feel imbalanced or threatening. If you were mad and outraged, your words would come out differently and carry another type of tone with them and I'd be able to feel that. Same thing, maybe more loving, passionate kisses to make one feel loved. Touching and rubbing each other passionately, communicating physically in ways that expresses deep loving affection towards each other. Looking in each other's eyes while emitting loving signals and exchanging signals of mutual respect, loving feelings and a feeling of really enjoying each other. The male can still be a bit aggressive in style and the female could receive him entirely but because it's one acting out of respect and love, he'd be able to feel that and she would receive him no problem. So I'm not saying it's all softness and passion, but the roughness would still have an undertow of passion and love and not feel like aggression and self-hate.

I wonder what P.Diddy's excuse will be. No sympathy or empathy whatsoever for these grown ass rich men who took advantage. They weren't traumatized enough to know right from wrong. Don't fall for these pity stories. They could have gotten the help they needed if they wanted to. Money, fame and power can also be traumatizing for some and help to create these monsters. Maybe without all that, they might have remained humbled. At the same time, yes, things can be put in place to help traumatized victims.

No, it's the trauma and whatever else on those levels, maybe abuse, low esteem, insecurities, don't feel deserving of love etcetc that makes them love the choking, extreme pulling of hair, want to be dominated in bed and all those extreme kinky stuff. Imbalance of some kind. The wilder the kink, the greater the imbalance. Most people are, so it's not a big deal but that's where it stems from. Nothing wrong with it - just saying. Lots release those tensions in the bedroom.

If 5Meo makes one find God, why keep doing it. Didn't you find God the first time. Did it disappear again. I mean, I'm trying to understand this stuff, not poke at it or anything but truly understand this stuff. What does it do the 50th time that wasn't done the first time. One doesn't need to drink 10x before they get drunk; one time is enough. The feeling was nice for some so they do it again and again and again for the feeling. Is 5meo being done for a feeling or for God realization. I realized I was drunk the first time I got drunk. How many realizations does one need to realize God. I wish someone could explain this to me.

Age restricted alright. Too x-rated even for this thread. I was cracking up. Especially with the middle kinda girl.

When I say I'm through with spirituality and stuff like that I mean all the dogma, teachings, trying to understand, trying to get more knowledge to use for benefits, practices and doing things to try and get somewhere. Whatever I do, practice watch or read is just for it's sake and not trying to get to a certain place. I'm not saying I'm not a seeker, but I'm not a spiritual seeker, never was. I would call it more Spiritual enthusiasts. It's not that I see no point, and it's not that I think it's useless, it's just that energy fell away. I love talking about life, and to me, there's nothing but spirituality because life is spiritual. Mundane things are also spiritual. It all depends on how one classifies it. I see nothing but spiritual and that's why nothing is spiritual.

Social anxiety is one of the biggest effects from trauma. If you can't see how so many things were created to relieve the traumatized human from it's trauma, you're blind. Self- help was probably the first. Not sure. It's so hidden, hidden deep with the surfaces that it's missed and classified as a lesser problem like all the names we've made up to mask the trauma. Think of all self-help problems and solutions. They've all stemmed from trauma. This isn't something to be taken on face value and it won't been seen through right away, so i don't expect people to get what I'm saying, but it's everywhere masked as challenges and mundane human problems. They were created by the traumatized mind. The body tries to catch up and eventually goes off whack if not fed properly or given the proper conditions. The body gets traumatized from the mind. It gets tired eventually though and gives up. That can bring on the effects of awakening, but it's just an effect.

There's nothing traumatic in what people are doing, perse, it's the reason behind what they're doing that creates the trauma. The mind creates. What's happening is what's happening. Nothing traumatic in that. It's the feelings and lack and intentions of needing to feel a certain way or trying to get rid of a certain feeling and reasons why that creates the trauma. Take away language, perceptions, concepts, ideas, stories and what's left is just what is. Nothing traumatic there. Add the rest, and there-in lies the tragedy of humanity.

Why do you think so many people are on pills, drugs and pain killers. Those are the obvious, but pain killers come in disguises. Spirituality is a pain killer. It's used by some to mask the pain felt. To alleviate the suffering and sense of unworthiness, doubts and fears. What do you think causes all that - trauma. Shopping can be a pain killer if it's an addiction, work, sex, women, food, whatever we can get our hands on. Everyone talks about alcohol and cigarettes but fail to see the culprit lingering in the above mentioned. Some are just more toxic than some and are more obvious. We're all traumatized, I say. Most of the world is. It's just not noticeable and deemed normal because nothing different is known. Take away all the material things we use to mask and hide our trauma and you'll see how quickly that trauma comes to light. Cell phones, money, cars, careers, whatever. Modern day survival is traumatizing. Get it, there's relief, now the trying to maintain and keep it takes over. Societal living has traumatized us and we lack the vision to see it and called it life.

When I use the word trauma, it sounds harsh and the ego doesn't like to hear that. It knows what it's doing and is in control. Most of the questions asked here on the forum seeking advice is trauma-based. I'll give examples: How can I become more confident. I lack motivation, how can I become more motivated. How can I do approaching better, how can I make them like me, how can I not feel rejected, how can I attract more women to me, etcetc. Why are these things desires. Because of a sense of lack, why do we have a sense of lack because we have been taught otherwise and we believe it. The sense of self will latch on to anything that can make it FEEL better BECAUSE IT FEELS TRAUMATIZED. It doesn't recognize it as trauma because it feels so normal. The only reason why people who recognize trauma to be so is because it's feels different from the rest. It got developed at a later stage. The trauma I'm talking about is from when the fucking baby left the mother's womb. Why is it trauma to ask for advice on motivation? Well, why does one feel unmotivated to begin with. I'm talking about questions about the self or person not random questions like where does rain come from. We don't feel normal and think something is wrong because we don't feel confident or motivated. No rule book suggests those feelings need to be present. It's the trauma that surfaced that makes one thinks they need to fix their lack of confidence or lack of motivation. If one wasn't traumatized, lack of confidence wouldn't be a disturbance. Do you ask for advice when the body feels hungry or thirsty. Do you ask for advice when you feel in love or loved or feel good about something. There are no right or wrongs or no good or bad but what you think about it and how it's perceived. We don't perceive the above mentioned positive things as needing fixing but we see the confidence and motivation thing as needing fixing because we've been traumatized into believing we must succeed or keep doing in order to feel loved, important, needed, etcetc. That's traumatizing. Pressure is traumatizing. Keeping up with standards is pressure. I'll stop here because I can write a book on this.

Just because people are functioning doesn't mean they're not traumatized. There are functioning alcoholics and druggies everywhere. The trauma I speak of is so widespread, and infectious it goes unnoticed to the point of normality. How can it be detected when just about everyone is infected. We all think it's normal to feel fear, to feel anxious and depressed, to can't sleep, to feel jealousy and envy, to want revenge, to have prejudices and racists thoughts, to feel hate and to want to hurt others. I could write a book. These are the things I speak of, I try to clarify in my writings and in this case i said I wasn't referring to the normal trauma felt from childhood or bullying stuff like that, just from identifying as a human being is traumatizing and what comes with that. It has been normalized but the effects still linger throughout generations and generations. All you have to do is look around you. You will miss it for normalizing trauma and say it's just life or that's normal but it isn't. There's nothing normal about suffering. We did that out of ignorance and as a coping mechanism and made up stories about it saying it's God's will and we awaken from suffering. First of all we've identified with it because we've identified with everything that arises and claimed everything as ours and that's the essence and the cause of the trauma. We can't even see the perfection of life because we're viewing it through traumatized lens. Go read Leo's latest blog post #124 about not a single bad or wrong thing has ever happened in the Universe, that's how.....and I would replace selfish with......that's how traumatized we are.

There will never be a time where anyone can rightfully say they've found Truth or found God. Neither exists on it's own and are total concepts. What is this God you speak of, everything right. How can you find everything. Tell me without a story wrapped up in a pretty piece of paper around it like God forgot itself to remember itself or whatever story we've concocted up about all there is. God isn't lost, what is there to find. Truth is another word for God so that's self-explanatory. Sometimes, like I've said before, this seems strangely weird because I can't see how this is so hard to realize. I just can't get beyond that. Maybe I'm missing something. I try to see what it is I'm missing but I can't seem to find it. The only thing that seems to be lost is what I'm missing. If there is no separation, God is all there is, time and space are illusory, life is a dream and we're hallucinating reality, where is the search for Truth or God to lead to. Is God somewhere hiding, is truth somewhere else. Where, Mars, Pluto. After all these years why are we still searching for Truth. Oh my, go away Truth. You don't seem to wanna be found. I thought Truth and God were the same thing and I thought God was everything. Take this equation to kindergarten and I bet they solve the puzzle in 2 secs.

What are you talking about. What will be left for the mind to do. It needs to feel worthwhile and needs to pursue. It will never find what it's looking for because it's what's looking, but that doesn't matter as long as it's looking for something. There's nothing that can be done about it either until the seeking tires itself out or it just dies. It's called the pursuit of God by God. How can one stop that. God can't even stop it because that implies separation. God isn't separate from itself only appears to be, so in that way it's not really pursuing anything it's just an appearance of such. IOW, it doesn't matter if there's an apparent pursuit or not because it's pursuit pursuing which is also God. If God is everything and there is no separation, then what are we pursuing, like you said, but our own tails. Reality is a strange loop, no.

Because Tom doesn't make her feel like Harry does in those moments. She might want a Tom when she feels like feeling something else.

What is freedom. Freedom is terrifying, it's not anything conceivable or perceivable. It cannot be wanted, it cannot be known, it cannot be desired because those are conditions placed upon it. The moment one says they want freedom they have put themselves into enslavement. The search for freedom is what hides freedom. The moment one seeks liberation is the moment one has imprisoned themselves. Do you want to appear as someone enslaved and imprisoned. Do you want to appear as someone unhappy, miserable, sad, lonely and suffering. Probably not. That's freedom. You wanting to be happy is a condition, how is that free. It's like fucking handcuffs. We have glorified the handcuff called happiness and now we have chained ourselves to it and we seek it and search for it day in and day out. Would you search for your car if it's not missing. The search for happiness, freedom and liberation from any emotion is what hides the very thing one searches for. This is not a suggestion to stop, because there's actually no one doing that. It's energetic and until that energetic whatever it's called dissolves or falls away, it will continue to seek for relief. Phew, well that was exhausting. It can be felt but only when it falls away, not while it's there. It will feel like an orgasm, like tension that was built up being released.

The joke's also on me because I'm expecting anything to be different than what it is. It's the perfect fucking hide and seek game that's being played. It's so in plain sight and direct it appears hidden. Just about everything that appears hides the fact that this is already whole and complete. It's amazing how it can appear to create seeming effects and appear as something outside of itself. It is doing that, it is that, and it is the effects. Look at all the depictions captured to look like infinity and you can see how it seems to create an effect from itself. Same thing here. It's all effects from the one or all there is. What's visible are the effects out of nothing. It's beautiful and chilling at the same time. Not knowing what effects will arise and what will it reveal itself to be. It's only beautiful to the one that sees ugliness, the one that labels. I don't see beauty anymore, I just see effects which I may call beautiful or not.

Hehe, definitely need silence for that.

It cannot be spoken of but it can speak.

lol. You're tripping. Where's the post about love. C'mon we're waiting.

Yes, the silence OP is speaking of is sound. What I'm speaking of is nothing.

The stats speak for themselves. Just look across the world and see what people worship based on their geographic location. All the beliefs and world views and practices. All instilled, programmed and conditioned. Not because they thought it through because there's nothing to think through. If they really thought it through, they would probably realize there's nothing and nobody to worship in the first place.