Princess Arabia

Just so you guys are aware, OP did make adjustments to his original post and has deleted some remarks in his post after we originally spoke. It is not the exact same post word for word that I initially responded to.

Why do people say this to people is beyond me. How can someone appear wiser than they actually are. I'm just speaking and saying things from the heart and giving my two cents and opinions and what not. Maybe you're the one that thinks I'm wise because I never once said that about or to myself. If my comments seemed so stupid and unwise why would someone say I'm here to appear wise. Makes no sense.

No. He has had traumatizing experiences. I was not projecting.

Ok. Lets break this down. Give me an example of what I said why you feel that way. Instead of just criticizing me, which I could have just ignored, I'd like to see through myself here to see my own shit. So tell me one at a time where is the discrepancy here that you see. I'm doing this with an open mind so let me hear it please. Also where was I being condescending. I hope its not where I said his comments seemed to be coming from a place of trauma. That's not condescending. Anyway, I'll give it a shot that you'll address my concerns here and allow me to see where I'm so off.

Dope and talented. All grown up, same talent.

No one said you were wrong. I wasn't trying to prove you wrong about anything. Just showing how we tend to project unto the world our personal experiences and thinking the whole world is like that or feels the same pain we feel. It's personal for us. Maybe you'll hear other perspectives on this. I'll chime out for now.

Don't you see something dysfunctional in that. Hitting on, approaching and trying to get the attention of females you don't like. Then get angry at them for rejecting you. That's not normal behavior. It's not the women you need to be concerned with, it's your own imbalance.

Yes, and that changed the whole trajectory of the post. If you were just speaking about you or maybe even only mentioned other hurt men like yourself this post would have went into another direction. It seems you were referring to all men.

Reminds me of something you've also said in the past about not even liking those women who rejected you. You were approaching and trying to hit on females you didn't even like and got ticked off when they rejected you. You don't see how dysfunctional that is because you can't see it from those lenses.

Yes, you're right there if it is based on grounded reality, as you put it. I retract suggesting not giving out advice in general, as advice can even be sound coming from a hurt individual. It can't be measured ahead of time. So forget that and i retract that statement.

Yes, this is just you and your experiences. Your feelings and reactions. Lots of men out there can't get rid of some women fast enough and are having women begging to be with them. This is you and yours, not all men go through this, not even the majority. Women go through these things too, you know.

Do you see how quickly I was able to bring up your past post. All I had to do was type in certain key words and walla. Trauma works the same way. All I had to do was say some key words to you to bring up the memory. They also hit worse because I'm a female. Your memory bank is infested with these images. I suggest you start to try and see things differently instead of seeing them how you're used to. That's a start, but depending on how deep the wounds are, it might take more than that.

"Some women do like us and will like us in the future", screams of hurt and resentment. No one says these things out of nowhere. These kinds of statements are borne out of a hurt and traumatized person. Trauma doesn't just express itself in aggressive obvious way, it can be subtle and unsuspecting. Life has traumatized me too, so don't think I'm pointing a finger and singling you out. It's just in different ways and I've internalized it, but I know it's there. Certain fears arise as an effect.

Every post is different, but it's still insinuating hurt, hurt from women. You haven't healed and i suggest you not give men advice on the topic until you do because it will be coming from a hurt place. Your post screams of being hurt not giving healthy advice.

Here's one, and that's just the beginning. Don't make me, Rishabh.

Yes, about women.

@Rishabh RYou've had traumatic experiences with women in the past. Your posts have said so yourself. Don't make me go dig them up. I can.

They aren't female. They don't represent to you what your trauma is about.

I'll be a bit more sensitive and try not to stir up any unwanted feelings. It's just I'm just responding to you and you're taking my responses personally and they are bringing up past images in you. You're very hurt and i need to understand that from what I know of you and your past posts. I'll be more sensitive from now on to this.

Trauma

I was responding to the ALL MEN part. Now, you're telling me off about how I don't know you and what limited worksheet you concocted up. Drawing conclusions about life leads to closed-mindedness and not much room for growth or for other perspectives.

You're worried if women like you. Does that particular female like you. Do you like yourself. Why be so general about the whole thing. All it shows is trauma just like another comment suggested. This post reminds me of a phobia - an irrational fear.

Shows you how no one exists but you in your world. The clues are everywhere. I won't argue with you.

Slapping happened. Feelings happened. Now let's get back to the dream.

There is only seeing happening. There is no moment. Moment implies another moment, then another, then another. No such thing as one moment. The you is a dream. There is no you. So, therefore, the moment is you is incorrect. There is no time, so there can't be a moment.