Princess Arabia

Do you contemplate on the secret to sadness, the secret to suffering and despair, to loneliness, heartaches and misery. Why not go contemplate on the secret to those and try to achieve those states. I'll tell you why; they have no problems appearing, they don't need a person to give them permission to appear. Infact, seems like the default, always trying to get rid of them, always bringing out the tool kit to work on suffering, sadness, loneliness and despair, they are in abundance already. Happiness seems to be the one thing that's hard to find, hard to come by, there's a secret now to this free flowing state that needs no permission from anyone. Maybe try to find the secret to realizing that happiness is just happiness and needs no one's permission to appear and is just simply veiled from the seeking of it.

Most females don't necessarily have to find a man physically attractive to agree to go on a date with him. She might just like his personality, or he came across very charming and she just wanted to spend some time to get to know him a bit and see where it goes. Most women get physically attracted to the man she loves while a man get to love the woman he's physically attracted to. Remember that. Most men can't see past the way they see women and think women see them the same way or are attracted to the same things or get attracted the same way they see her. It's totally different. I've even heard men say they want her to lust after him the way he lusts after her or he wants her to like him the way he likes her sexually. Lust is usually spontaneous and one doesn't really learn to lust after a person if that wasn't there to begin with but a woman can surely grow to want a man sexually even if that chemistry wasn't there in the beginning. For a man, it's usually right there in the beginning where he's sexually attracted and don't normally grow to get attracted; for him, it's either he is or he isn't. This is a part of the issue with some men. They get reserved if they think they're not so physically attractive and feel insecure in that way and very rarely come on to women because of this. Not come on strongly, but put themselves out there and open up to possibilities. This is why you'll see ugly or short or even sometimes broke men getting all the women because of their personalities and the energy they exude. They couldn't care less about how they're coming across as long as they are having fun and being light-hearted about the whole dating game. Men are too into their heads about all this stuff and watch and read too much pill stuff and it comes off as structured and not organic and women can pick up on these things; and not just that, they taint the whole thing with belief structures they adapt just from gearing other people's stories instead of going out in the field themselves and exploring with an open mind. Why social circles work so effectively is because people's personalities come to light then; and for women, that's what brings her to a man more than his looks. People there are usually more light-hearted and free and more open to be themselves and that in of itself can be an attractor factor for women. It's harder for women to agree to go out with a total stranger from cold-approach as women's number one concern is their safety and it's a lot of mental work to try and vet a guy that way upfront and why you hear about a lot of women dating guys they already know somewhat or through mutual friends.

Yes, my family is safe, thank you and yes this hurricane was a really destructive one. Hardest hit was St. Elizabeth, Mobay area. It'll take time to rebuild but meantime food and necessities is what's on the forefront now and badly needed. You've been to quite a few places there, nice. It is a beautiful island.

Nice!!

What's amazing to me is that most people find being depressed, addicted, traumatized, having mental disorders and so on, normal. In fact, look how many people have these things going on now or at one time. It's prevalent on this forum alone; seems every other person have or have had some sort of mental issue. We talk about these things and mention them like we're talking about spaghetti. Like the weather, it's so normal. Now, as far as what I speak about - the natural 'reality', it's frowned upon, looked at like some foreign language and even hated and i'm called some kind of word when criticized. I've been asked do I ever talk about anything else, have any other interests, been called an advaita drone, advaita nonsense, and how I'm not of any help to anybody and so on and so forth. (I never get any of what I speak about from any advaita speakers BTW, and these words are universal and no one owns any words, meanings and understandings. Maybe it's a part of their philosophy, but I'm not here studying advaita; and if it weren't for others mentioning it I wouldn't know anything about them. It was after being called that that I even knew of that ideology or whatever it is. I would listen to a few non-duality speakers, resonate, intuit a lot, understand and put the pieces together. I would see day-to-day life and put the pieces together. I would notice how what I've heard is the same thing I'm seeing acting out in life and how the energy responds. I've made sense on my own, came to my own understandings and write about them. The true, real, organic reality is the one without the me/person/observer/i am/the one that thinks it's a separate entity. Without that mirage, everything is just what is. It is what operates from the illusion of time, space, continuity, and doesn't realize it's totally unreal. This is why it has so many dis-eases and problems and issues and look to what it believes to be other to fix itself. It's reality is normal to have issues and mental disorders and trauma. It tells continuous stories about what it went through and constantly relive those memories. It is institutionalized and all that comes with it is also illusion, without it, everything is just appearing but without anyone owning anything or that anything belongs to anyone. Now it's not 'my trauma' but just trauma. Not my depression, just depression, not my happiness, just happiness. It wants to own everything that appears and relates to it personally because it sees itself as a person and it just can't help it. It didn't cause it so there is no way for it to end itself. Ego death is an illusion.

Riddle me this, riddle me that, guess me this riddle and perhaps not:- Is tomorrow happening....No Is yesterday happening.....No What makes you think today is happening.

Most of those people that say they're leaving the forum, after an extravagant life changing so-called awakening usually comes back. Why? Seeking even more extravagance that can never be found. Seeking to up the ante but never actually getting there. They will always get to the brink, the edge, but never ever crossing it to a final destination. The final destination is already. Psychedelic users are the worst because nothing without the drugs, this ordinary, vibrant, natural appearance can never top those effects, yet the effects is also this. They will want more and more and more just like a drug user that can't quite get to the top and the more it gets, is the more it wants. It will never get there, EVER, because there's no place to get to. It's the dream that tries to travel in space and time and it's on the look out for what more it can experience in this massive extravagant Universe not realizing that it's a dream. Not a person dreaming, but a dream that THIS is seeming to appear as but not really as the dream isn't really happening. Don't take my word for it, just notice this.

It's amazing how this energy can fool itself into thinking it's actually going somewhere or has been somewhere or has fallen away or whatever it fools itself in the dream with. All there is, IS ALREADY. I say this all the time and that is no one is actually dreaming it is the dream itself that's dreaming all this stuff even dreaming being a separate entity that is going anywhere or has achieved anything spiritually. It's all an illusion. It's amazing. Continuity is an illusion, time and space is an illusion, separation is an illusion, no such thing as a separate entity doing or being anything or even becoming. It's amazing how it can seem that way. It's a fucking miracle.

Eugene?? Can't see Leo being a Eugene..lol

Keep it for another 30yrs; might be worth a 1mil by then.🫠

I have to say, and especially pertaining to the last paragraph, these are the most powerful and insanely insightful questions I've heard on this forum pertaining to the subject that I've seen so far and I can tell you have intuition and understanding of this. Only thing I'll say about the questions is that there's no free will and no so-called human has never made a choice, conscious or unconscious, ever about anything no matter how real that notion may seem. I'll leave it at that but I do like the fish question. Answer that and there's the secret to existence and why nobody can know anything or even relate to anything without separation which is illusory and doesn't exist already.

Great quality post. We need more examples like this here.

This is my Spiritual Motto......NO MAN LEFT BEHIND. There's no separation, already. There are no separate objects, entities, experiences, awakenings, enlightenments, nothing. It's all THIS being - timelessly. It's hard for the seeking energy to grasp this. It cannot understand this. Once it's seen as over here then there's over there which is an illusion. What comes with that are other illusions. So whatever experiences it has are all illusory in nature. It cannot see beyond this. It is the only illusion. Without separation, there is just the natural reality of nothing appearing. There is no separation but the seeking energy is separation itself and doesn't really exist. There is no one having any experiences that are any more special, of any meaning or more valuable than anyone else's. THEY ARE ALL EMPTY/VOID of any substance and this is the void. There's nothing here because there is no here. It's all timeless, boundless energy being/appearing as and it's all empty. This cannot be experienced or known. There's no one there, there's no one here, there's just THIS being. This is the same as deep sleep and in deep sleep there's nothing. None of your awakenings matter, none of your insights matter, none of your experiences matter because they are all empty. This is not nihilism, this is liberation, freedom. NOTHING MATTERS.

Don't flatter yourself. Now go away.

You came on here talking about my 16k posts and I was merely showing how they added up from my mega threads and individual personal posts that I started to give information to users that might find them useful, etc and you said my posts were of no use or help here to anyone and why I showed the Leo's blog post recommendation that was a very big help amongst countless in the past that I used to receive personal messages about and who i've helped and it's the only reason why I went into the archive. Very manipulative of you to say how you don't hold unto posts as if I do and speaking about my ego after you were the one bringing up all this stuff and after I'm trying to defend myself from your personal attacks you gaslight me by trying to show how I'm just bringing up stuff and showing off and ego this and ego that. You came to me with all this stuff. Spoke about my 16k post count and I'm showing how it got to that and nit just from me blabbering my mouth about nonsensical stuff or non-duality nonsense, and now you're going to make it seem as if I just brought thus stuff up out the blue because of ego. Such a low blow on your part. Allow people to defend their stance after you attack them without coming back with this is not how you do things or you don't hold unto things. I suggest you just ignore my posts if you don't resonate rather than trying to insult me and talking about my 16k post count which doesn't matter. I will also ignore you and allow you be because I see how we don't get along and I don't want the friction to continue. I'll leave it at that. Thanks.

Yes and most of that are from the numerous megathreads that I started from the 5yrs being here. Since youre fairly new and have no idea who I am and the long list of contribution I've made to this forum, I'll go through the list but maybe I'll miss a few. You might want to check them out and maybe find some use in them here goes. I'll try to post them. Not to mention Leo's successful blog post thread was a recommendation I suggested; and he agreed, and it's been going strong ever since. This is just to show the numerous contributions I've made to this forum since I've been here and I'm not referring to comments and responses to posts. Between those and the above is why my ever-so-noticed and love-to-get-mentioned post count is so commonly talked about by those who feel the need for personal attacks without realizing how that number got so high. I didn't even mention my personal journals and also some that have been deleted. All of those threads' replies are from my posting information related to the thread; mostly videos which adds up to post counts, with a few exception from others random remarks and comments. What have you contributed but a few comments here and there trying to sound cute and sage-like and mystical and deep yet love to criticize what your fancy doesn't tickle and agree with. So please go away.

This is not normal behavior on all levels just so you know. This is a very unique and one of a kind story.

God doesn't love anything.

I don't think he was suggesting we are all one with his comment. He was just saying we all die alone so the 1 in 4 that dies single, as the title suggests, makes no difference if they're single or not because we all die alone anyway.

Duh! And you haven't, and the whole world.