Princess Arabia

I think that's what I really meant, looking over my re-enactment. Sometimes we see others how we see ourselves and the relations we have with them. You described it so deeply and with so much precision, that it just seems like you were describing something other than the subject. Since knowing you on this forum and how insightful and Spiritually mature you are, and you seem to have a deep sense of who you are and seem grounded in a way I looked at your description differently because I sensed it was coming from the heart and not the mind. You were describing you and how you saw yourself. That's why they say people are your mirror. Anyway, I hope you fully heal and I can tell you've come a long way and most people would have carried that resentment on and projected their anger unto the world in different ways, but you seem fairly grounded will all that emotional turmoil you endured as a child.

You have twisted the term honesty to suit your explanation purposes and that's the irony of what I'm saying. You are making my point even more the more we speak.

Lol...be honest....just kidding.

This is what I'm talking about. Men love the challenge. It's how they develop as a species. You're probably thinking no sense in enlightening anyone about this because they won't listen even if it will make it easier to be with women. I don't have all the answers but I can say I've learnt about men from other men. It's all about survival. Women are how they are and men are how they are with some variations. Getting to the root of it to try to figure out why, will make you one step in the game instead of demonizing the opposite sex. Things are deeper than they seem and humans like to complicate things. You don't go apply for a job you're not qualified for so why expect women or men to fit into your agenda without putting in the work. Women measure men for a reason, not because they are vain, a lot of it is subconsciously done, likewise men do the same. Understanding these differences will make your life a lot easier and instead of putting your own limiting beliefs in the picture because of what you have believed to be true, less complications will arise if we just try to understand where these differences lie and how to fit them into our own puzzle.

You are taking this out of context.

It's not about conforming to others but more not wanting to go through what it would take to be honest. Not all circumstances are the same and not all repercussions are the same I said discernment is the key. If your life depended on it, you'll see how quick honesty goes out the window in favor of surviving. Please take into consideration all the aspects I'm expressing here. Honesty is always the best policy, but humans are afraid of everything including the choice to be honest in every circumstance. You might say this is a bad example but here goes. If a woman is confronted by a rapist who says if she's on her period he would leave her alone and not rape her, do you think she's going to say she's not on her period. No, she will say she is, in order to not get raped. Extreme, but I could name thousands of other scenarios where honesty would not be the best policy when dealing with other humans. Other humans is the key here.

I forgot what I had for breakfast 5 days ago, much less 5yrs ago. You are incorrect when you say everyone is great at remembering everything in their lives. Most stories being told by humans about their past have about a 50% (not sure of the percentage but it's high) accuracy level. That's why they're called stories. Put 10 people at an accident scene, you'll have 10 different interpretations because of how differently the brain interprets things. It is an exceptional trait to be able to remember everything that has happened to you in your life in minute detail of every day. What was your post in December of 2020 and did you even make one. These people would remember that, can you.

Aah, the trickery of the mind. It's honest to be aware that you're being dishonest. It's like saying, I'm aware that i'm stealing so I'm not really stealing. Also, i'm not saying that inspiration doesn't come from being honest, I'm saying when dealing with other humans it's not always the best thing because if you're not prepared to deal with the repercussions, it can throw you in a state of confusion and resentful emotions. Discernment is the key here.

I get it, but people are only acting from their level of consciousness and he is trying to survive as his identity as a sex addict. He said so himself that he's a sex addict.. He's unconsciously believing that, so now he is fighting to keep that identity alive. It's energetic. He doesn't realize that all he has to do is to identify as something else, drop that identity and take actions to become a new identity. Now, since the Ego is just constructions, his mind is believing it has to maintain that structure to keep that part of it's identity alive and it will start to believe things that align with that identity. No sense in knocking someone down because of their ignorance, because now we will perpetrate more ignorant behaviors. I do it too. But I'm seeing through it and working on it. It's a cycle. Understanding is the key and recognizing people are just operating through programming.

Go tell that to the millions of people who tried to be honest with other people just to get bashed in the face with judgements and criticisms. Losing their jobs spouses and whatever else. Dealing with yourself is quite different than dealing with other humans. Being honest with yourself that you are being dishonest, to me, is a better way to be. Survival is at play here, and to the egoic mind, it is whatever works best, not brutal honesty. When you're unconscious, of course, and living from the egoic mind. God is tricking itself so why wouldn't humans play this game too. Humans are also God. So, you are only tricking yourself into believing honesty is the best way. It is, in the grand scheme of things but not when dealing with humans. I will guarantee you, that before you live out your entire human life from now, you will find yourself being dishonest with another human, and not just that, you will believe it is the best way under the circumstances. I'm not saying it's not the best way to be or live, I'm saying it won't be the case.

Re-read this again to yourself and replace your descriptions of him with yourself and see if that's how you felt. Let me give an example: Matter of fact, I'll just re-write the whole thing using the replacement. "When I saw him, it was like I felt like I was a stranger to him. He looked at me through the conceptual lens of "oh this is my son, who i've caused so much pain in his life or "oh this is my son, I love him so much" I am just some guy to him. You were removed from the whole story of you being his son. I saw in myself a person who just went through a lot of suffering in my life. I had shame in my eyes. I felt sad. I felt all these things and I didn't recognize myself anymore. I'm not the same person he thought he once knew. I wasn't the person he was angry at for so many years. The person he was angry at is a different person, a person in his mind. A projection. But this...this isn't that person. This is just me. It was like i saw myself for the first time in my life. There was a deeper love there.....but it was a personal love as in i love myself as his son, not as a human being. Not sure if I replaced all the pronouns correctly, but you get the drift. Are you sure this wasn't how you thought he was seeing you..

I don't really believe this, infact, that's not how attraction works. Good looking? Good looking to whom. Put 10 pictures up and you will have different opinions as to who finds who attractive and good looking. An "ugly" (just for communication purposes because I donlt see people as ugly), an ugly person can see themselves as quite attractive and get more dates than someone physically attractive who don't view themselves as that, and that goes for both male and female, but more towards the male side since men usually go for looks first.

I would defend myself, too and become resentful if someone were to say this things to me in this manner even if it were true. So, expect no less from him if he tries to protect his identity.

You're talking about primitive and cavemen days as if you'd like for us to go back to that when in reality you wouldn't. You're using that to say, if it was like that back then, why isn't it like that now. If I was to mention to you another aspect of life that was prevalent in the old days and why we can't go back to that, your mind would come up with reasons why modern times are better. You're saying old days sex was better because of no manipulation, but if I took away all your money and electronics and told you they didn't have this back in cavemen days, you wouldn't like that too much. So I'm saying your caveman argument is biased and wouldn't hold up in other areas in your life, you're only using it because it suits you now.

This is very interesting to read. I believe this may be the underlying belief and subconsciously acted out why men can be so promiscuous when it comes to the opposite sex and are so sexually inclined in addition to testosterone levels, versus a woman's promiscuity. Her promiscuity is probably more mentally related and has to do with feelings of unworthiness. Something to ponder.

You are using your mind to self-deceive you without even recognizing it because of selfish desires. Eradicate all cell phones, tv, books, internet, etc., you won't be talking about cave-men days, you'd be begging for your sanity back and the opportunity to use those tools again. You are resisting life and wanting it to go back to how it was when you really don't want that you just think you do.

Because people are afraid. Afraid of being too honest for fear of judgement. I wouldn't say the trickery is a bad thing. It is a coping mechanism. If i'm playing hard to get with a guy, for example, I might not actually be deliberately trying to trick him. I might just be trying to protect myself from something, whatever that may be. Vulnerability is one reason why we tend to not be so open with others because humans love to judge, criticize and condemn each other, We have created this dynamic and now we call it trickery and deception. If we were to be blatant about our intentions with the opposite sex, if our intentions aren't pure or of a loving nature, we will always find ways to deceive ourselves and the ones we're trying to influence to fit into our construction. Remember, we are constructing something here so wherever and however we find the bricks to fit into this construction we will try to manipulate our way into getting the work done. It's human genius. Doesn't need to be taught. That's the power we have. To create and to destroy. There's always a deeper meaning to why we do what we do under the surface.

The way you describe it will perpetuate that desperation. Words have power especially if there is a strong feeling behind those words. Desperation implies lack, so maybe if you change your internal dialogue, you will have a better relationship with sex. Seriously. It's a mental world; so how we see things in our minds eye, will become true for us. Ever notice when you stop caring about something, it starts to flow in your life or trying to remember something with a lot of energy, as soon as you let it go, it comes to you. I've recognized the similarities in life when it comes to certain things and I try to use the same strategy in how I do something I'm successful at and try to implement that strategy in other ways because life has a way of showing us the connections to everything.

got ya.

Are you sure you've forgiven him or quite understand who he is/was or even the way you have processed that experience you had as a child. I'm not implying or insinuating anything here, just trying to get clarity in how you see it and if it was transcended in a healthy way, and also for my understanding in what you're saying. Feeling sorry for him, to me, is just the other side of the anger coin or another version. I think most adults are just children in distress and are also stuck in the body of an adult, so I think you're just describing people on a whole especially if they are mentally suffering in some way. Compassion, empathy and understanding are different emotions than feeling sorry. Love is even more powerful. Do you love him for who he was and who he is now, regardless of his perceived faults, because feeling sorry is still seeing him through your perception of him.

Women usually don't have to play tricks to get into men's pants. Don't kid yourself. Women are not going around saying how can I get laid today as much as men are. Ever notice how you guys are always looking for the next lay (of course, not all, just generalizing). If your previous ones were so fulfilling, why keep on looking. Why do men need so much variety. Why are you learning game, why after having sex one time isn't enough with the same partner forever and ever. I'll tell you why, because it's the process, not the end game that's more exciting. The thrill of the chase. The becoming, What a boring sex life you would have if everybody was just willing to have sex on call at anytime, any moment, anybody, anywhere, anyhow. You would get so bored of sex you would want to throw up every time someone mentions the word. This is why men have to work so hard at game because most of you are almost always ready to have it. Guys are easy. All it takes is some visual stimulation and you're ready. That's why hookers dress a certain way or strippers are half naked. If it wasn't so easy for women to get sex they would want it more, maybe. Telling a woman she looks sexy isn't enough to get her in the mood because she wants you to appreciate her, go through the process, that turns her on, whatever that is, just like how you men don't like easy women and call them sluts and whores, it's because you like the chase. That's what get's your blood flowing. You will take the easy sex but you won't feel as fulfilled. So don't be so quick to ask for the Mercedes when all you can handle is a honda. Enjoy the chase that you so long for because you created it. It's not about the destination, but the process. The younger you are, the more you chase after sex. When you get older, after realizing all that chase was just a waste of time and energy, even though it really wasn't because it teaches you about yourself and molds you into becoming whatever it molded you into becoming, you realize none of that was fulfilling and you start to appreciate the opposite sex a little more because you recognize it's not about quantity but quality.

I would say that Absolute Freedom is already the case and that Reality is that. To me, Understanding is not a fact and that it is a process of becoming......whatever that entails.

The wisdom of Louise Hay. She covers most aspects of life including love, relationships, money, jobs, stress and everything else in-between.

Very Interesting Interview. I learnt a lot. The part about looking into someone's left eye with your right eye, was very intriguing to me.

You should change your profile picture to Jack the Tripper.