Princess Arabia

It's funny the types of things we suffer as humans. I bet you lot of people would trade this type of suffering for the suffering they're experiencing. I'm currently engaging in another thread that's about suffering and if God suffers or not, so this part of your post got my attention for this reason.

This is what I have a HUGE problem with. Do you want Truth or do you want delusion. It's one thing to know the Truth but still live within the illusion knowing it's just an illusion and even feeling the realness of it. I think you're the one being immature and irresponsible for not trying to at least see another's perspective on the topic at hand. Not saying either is correct but you're not interested in asking how one derived at what they're saying or even enquire deeper to see if maybe you're missing something first before you so push your insight without leaving any room for another perspective. I said what I said up top and I could be wrong, but that's my perspective; but I'm still open to hearing other's as it may shed some light unto mine and may broaden it or even change because I was shown something otherwise that I might not have previously recognized. Sometimes it gets confusing when talking about this stuff because Self, self, being, ego, you, I etc can be misinterpreted while one could be referring to the "small" self the interpretation could be meant to imply the "higher" self. I still stick to my original post when i said God does not suffer. God just Is. How can God suffer. Yes, there appears to be suffering, but it's just an appearance. Appearing from Consciousness. If you look in a mirror and see a reflection of yourself, is that reflection you, can the reflection walk away without you walking away. No. If there is visible suffering showing on your person and you look in the mirror and you see yourself reflection suffering, did the mirror do that. Is the mirror suffering. No. Well, God is that mirror. If two people are fighting in a room is the space in the room feeling the effects of the fight. No. God is like that space in the room. God cannot be touched. It is omnipotent and omnipresent. It is like the space from which everything appears even suffering. It can become all these things but in it's original form it is no-thing and no-thing can suffer because it is that which the suffering is arising from. Now, someone please tell me if I'm wrong here because maybe I'm all confused and need some clarity.

You said English is your third language and you are apologizing if there's any confusion in your terms. Boy/Girl, whatever you are, you need to start teaching some English to some of these folks because I find your communication style, grammar and English impeccable. I even had to look that word up to make sure I was using it in the right context so as to match in with your vocabulary use. Kidding about that part, but your name suits your style of writing and I can tell you're an intellectual and/or academic. I can imagine if English was your first language, it would probably sound like Shakespeare.

I see myself in all 4.

This right here explains certain aspects of my core that was accompanied with a "why". Now It makes more sense to me now.

How is an app foolish. Did you ask it a question and it gave a foolish answer. "Hey Tinder find me a date". "No, go find your own date".

Done. Marriage and babies and happily ever after with that line.🤣

Why should he change. You're accepting it. You've not spoken up about it enough so he doesn't see any reason to be any different. It's the same kind of concept as "if it's not broke don't fix it". You're sending him a message and he is delivering. Not saying your message made him the way he is, but the message is I love you no matter what. The problem is, I believe, (and please don't take this the wrong way and i also could be wrong as I'm not an expert in this field), you don't value yourself. You don't think you're worthy of these things that you want or feel worthy. You think you do, but you don't. Another thing could be you don't want to come off as needy, you like to be and feel independent. In relationships and sexual partners, though, all that masculine energy flies out the window. In women, it doesn't want this kind of dynamic in a close, intimate and sexual relationship. It (energy) wants to feel protected and provided for; it wants to be on the receiving end which is the opposite for masculine energy, that wants to be on the giving end, hence sexual intercourse and it's design. The man gives, the woman receives. He is fearful of something, maybe fear of losing money or being broke, don't know his history and your fear is losing him. That's what's keeping you together, it's a match, but it's not healthy. That's why you're here. You don't feel loved. He loves you, but he also loves what he fears. What he's attached to. It's energetic. I'm not sure how to solve this problem as I've never been in this situation. I've only done these kinds of things in platonic relationships, not intimate or sexual. I never even had to ask or try to change this aspect in any of them, it just came naturally, maybe I just don't attract those types, idk. My problems with men are usually insecurity issues where they don't feel good enough, especially the ones in the past who didn't have much but I wanted to be with anyway for whatever reasons. Men usually feel like they never have enough even if you try to assure them that they are enough, but that's just their competitive nature. I would suggest you slowly hint at it. E.g. Honey, could you bring some chocolate for both us, but I love chocolate so much I could eat the whole bar so get one for you too. Or. Sweetheart, this bag is heavy could you carry it for me as I need my strength for us tonight, or baby, I would love to see this movie, can we go and conveniently leave your money or cards at home. Train him. Get him used to being this way. Make him see where it serves him to be more generous towards you and he will appreciate you more. Hope this helps. I'm not an expert, but sometimes one thing somebody says may be enough to make a difference.

OMG!

Exintrovert

Same 'ole story.

Suffering is an illusion. It is an appearance. God does not suffer. What does God have to suffer about. It is everything.

I buy this black soap from the African store and liquify it myself and pretty much use it for everything. Dishes, laundry and shower. I also buy Dr. Bronner's soap and use that too for dishes, laundry and shower. I might buy regular laundry detergent if I'm low on the other stuff or out, but I definately only use the black or bronner soap for showering and on my skin. I'll try to upload the black soap and you can Google Dr. Bronner if you haven't heard of that brand. That's made from natural oils and is chemical-free but use sparingly as it is very potent. This isn't the exact soap but it's similar and looks like it. Plenty of options online. Just Google black soap. I buy mine locally close to where I live direct from the African store. I break it up in pieces and put it in a large pot on the stove with water and slowly melt it down and transfer to bottles. Lasts a lot longer that way. I buy a $7 soap and it turns into about 7 16oz bottles worth.

Stop saying it takes years. You don't know that. If you say it will take years, it will take years, but no sense putting a time on something of this nature.

Thank you.

@EmotionalmosquitoI know you're not coming down on me, if anything it's vice versa - but it's coming from a place of caring and compassion even though sometimes I can express that a bit harshly. Go study the Universal law of Assumption from a reputable source. It really does work; in fact it's working on you now just not in your favor because you're assuming things that aren't serving you. It's very hard to change one's mindset because it's so deeply embedded in the psyche, but it has to been done to see changes in one's life. You don't go around making support groups of situations that aren't going right in your life. What that does is keep you entangled within that energy and keep you stuck in a loop. If one is broke and trying to get $$, it isn't wise to start a support group that keeps pointing out why you are broke and to invite other broke people to the group to muster and welp about their brokenness. If anything, it is more advisable to study wealthy people and focus on wealth than why you're broke. Same for your situation. The heading for this thread is a death trap. Death to the aliveness that's inside of you to potentially borne an identity of one who is loved by women, going on dates and enjoying this part of the experience that life has to offer. If I were you, I'd ask for it to be locked and start another one with maybe a heading like "hopeful men who see a promising sex-filled future" or " let's do this guys, we expect to be loved too" or "we no longer believe in the Incel concept, let's go, post your success stories" something in those lines. Not fucking HOPELESS INCELS SUPPORT GROUP. Why do you think alcoholics are having to keep saying they are alcoholics even though they have not had a drink in years. The reason is when they go to alcoholics anonymous, they tell them to introduce themselves as "Hi, my name is Akex, and I AM an alcoholic. Now that identity is stuck with them for the rest of their lives. Saying I AM an incel, and believing that you are that, keeps you stuck in that identity. Now, your brain's RAS system is seeking for ways to keep you in that world because that's where your focus is. I cannot go inside of your consciousness for you and change the thoughts that are arising from it nor can I personally or actively change your belief systems. You have to do that yourself. It will take an intention first. The intent of experiencing the act of sex. Seeing it in the mind's eye. Not posting videos of guys ranting on about young girls grabbing asses and if the shoe was on the other foot, men would be chastised for that while still saying he enjoyed it. Not starting threads about hopeless incels. I would suggest that you stop making excuses as to what you think is happening why you can't get laid. Cut out all the stories why this is not happening and start to see yourself doing it, but not from a place of I wish, I crave it or I hope. If you want to watch videos on the topic, watch people who are in relationships, who are having a good time with their partner, videos on how to attract girls or SP videos. Once I saw you wrote how you were repelled with people making out in public or showing affection to each other in public. Why would that energy want to be around you, if you're repelled by it. I wouldn't want to be around you either if you were repelled by me. Watch your thought, change your beliefs, start to like public displays of affection as that's the only time you'll see it in real life except for in videos or tv. Get your brain used to seeing that and loving it. Finally, stop rebutting every single advice to you. Stop making excuses as to why this and why that - even if you believe it to be the case because the only reason why you keep believing it is because you keep seeing, it and the reason you keep seeing it is because you believe it. This was long because I'm not going to keep this up with you. I'm not going to keep rebutting your rebuttals. My empathetic nature will step in and this energy will start to drain me. If I see some change in your willingness to even try to get out of that loop you're in, maybe then, but I won't continue to try to help someone who keeps going on the same path that leads to nowhere.

Ok,

I know, right. Mike Tyson is short. Lol. Then again he'd be the one beating me up and I'd need protection from him. So either way, doesn't matter.

From my Soul to yours. BTW, what's your height.

Ok Sir. So empathetic I felt all that screaming. lol. Thank you for your wise words.

This right here shows you are just ranting and raving. Makes no sense how you classify what you're saying as ALL women, but you put men into categories. Some are good and some are bad but all women are bad. Make sense into what you're fussing about or you won't be taken seriously by anyone with a bit of deductive reasoning.

Avoid stress, you avoid drugs, so that equals out to just stress,😜

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My ex.