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Either way, usually a woman can sense when a guy cares or not. Remember, we're good at feelings and feelings never lie only mis-guide; meaning, just because it feels good or bad doesn't mean it's right or wrong for you in the moment.

Ok. Hope the equation of adding and subtracting and multiplying, adds up to the correct solution.

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You see it's never enough. Now, it's the top-notch girls. Nothing wrong, just saying. After you get the top-notch girl, then it's unto something else. Nothing wrong, just saying. Let the chase go on, nothing else to do. Never fulfilled, nothing wrong, just saying. So disappointing you have to develop the "don't take it personal strategy". Another strategy is the "raise your consciousness" strategy. The stupid girls, as you call them, keep outsmarting you and your survival strategy to not go mad is to not take it personal . But take it personal enough to raise your consciousness enough to outsmart them. "The only thing you have control over is your intention", you said. Still looking for control. Hanging on for dear life. "Setting high-quality, high-priority intentions is power," you said. Trying to gain power, to be powerful. "While everything outside of that is force and tiresome", you said. It's getting to you. Very exhausting being an individual isn't it. Tiresome and energy-draining. Always having to beat the system, always having something to defeat. So, by setting your own intentions, now you only have yourself to compete with. Can't blame nobody but yourself. The problem with that is it breeds low-confidence, low self-esteem. You call them top-notch, putting them up on a pedestal. A pedestal means out-of-reach. So now you blame yourself and call it "emotional baggage". You didn't notice it with the not so top-notch girls. You considered yourself at the same level or they were beneath you. You didn't stand out. So now the pedestal is above you and now you find faults within yourself as to why you can't reach the pedestal. It's my "emotional baggage". As long as I can fix that, I'll reach it. "The not-so-smart girls aren't do stupid because they are life-givers which makes them instinctively smart enough to out-smart what you believe is good enough tricks to try and out-smart them. It's mother nature's gift to them and taking that personal isn't the smart way to go about that. It's best to just surrender to mother nature or else you'll get traumatized and not procreate. Best reward is to love life and life will love you back or else the hateful life will hate you back". This is what you're basically saying. This is more of a "how to become a victim of life circumstances" post rather than a solution to a victims' mindset post. There are no solutions here, it's only revealing how tired you are of the struggles and challenges you're facing with women and the power you think you had over them and by you raising the bar without raising your consciousness level how that's not a good thing. So now to become more of a victim you want to raise your consciousness to deal with the higher levels you've set for yourself and that will solve that problem. Why that won't work is if you are capable of making $1000 easily, making another $1000 is not a challenge. So getting the top notch girl leaves you no-where to go because she won't be top-notch anymore. You're trying to reach the top-notch and since she won't be top-notch anymore, you'll consider yourself declining and going backwards with the next pursuit or still trying for the next top-top notch. A bigger and better top-notch. Endless cycle. The don't-take-it personal approach is spot-on but for the wrong reasons. It's because there's nothing personal about you and life is not about you. I will leave it at that. The rest will figure itself out when you've gotten knocked down enough.

Quoting yourself?

We all live in different time zones. It's not really his birthday at all since he was never born, so it doesn't matter. Hehehehehe. Don't take that so serious cause you were never born either. Hehehe. I'm silly, and I was born silly. Hehehehe

You don't ask a woman you're trying to date, like, or even your gf about other women. You ask female platonic friends, watch how they are with other men, listen to what they say and even if you have sisters or female family members. You can also learn from guys, not saying that, especially good professional male coaches who have your best interest in mind and also the women's and who are not coming from a place of anger, and too much hurt because they will mislead you. Your best teacher is yourself and from your own interactions but that can be biased if you've been hurt or even had great relations because great relations will not prepare you for the worst. Problem with yourself is you can only be in so many relations so it's kind of limited to only the ones you've dated and since women are different on the personal level, not much to go by. If it's a matter of trying to get something from women (not in a bad way and being selfish), but say a woman to love you, to want to have sex with you because you really like her, if you want her to open up to you, men are more appropriate for those things, but if you want to know how to attract women, learn how they are, for the most part, their inner most feelings and desires, what makes them tick what turns them off/on, these are more for like the initial stages the trying to attract stage, the getting to know stage, ask women for that. Women know how women are, men know how women act. Women are for the abstract, men are for the concrete - so to speak.

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Happy Birthday!!! We Love You. ❤️❤️

May I ask you something. Is there anything in your life that you had huge expectations for, in whatever way and it gave you lasting satisfaction. Just asking. If so, could you briefly describe.

Never approach a woman and say you're attracted to her. She will immediately put up slight resistance, even if she says thank you, smiles or blushes. Going up to her is enough for her to read between the lines. Main reason is, it signals sex and you don't want to put her on guard silently scoping you out to see if she feels the same. You approaching her doesn't mean she will be also attracted to you immediately but maybe throughout your interaction she may develop that attraction without feeling pressured to feel the same way you felt initially. Not saying it verbally to her allows for room to wonder on her part, even if it's evident. This is because of the reason I stated above. You have internally set a bar for yourself and now you're nervous she won't feel the same way. It's OK that you don't know, that's a part of the game; but not telling her you're attracted to her leaves room for you to not have to try and impress, convert her if she doesn't seem to be and allows for a more comfortable approach. Most people have a cell phone which has the time displayed and asking where the nearest Cafe is just sounds like you're asking for an impromptu date. This one doesn't even sound plausible. Working on? I'm not even sure what you mean by this. Telling someone you're attracted to them on an initial approach is not non-romantic. A simple hi how are you, what's your name? Is suffice. Are you from here? I was walking by and saw you were alone, would you like some company is a bit of a stretch, but still better than most. It all depends on the situation.

Nice one!

It is stupid to call someone who is not at an appropriate age to decipher maturely, circumstances that are for the mature, stupid.

Be careful of commenting in ALL caps. It's been known to be a reason for warnings. Some caps is fine, I guess, but not all. Looks like shouting.

It's not about making me happy. I can't resonate with happiness anymore. It's a fleeting state. One that comes and goes. So is sadness, joy, etc. It's about what is. It happened and it cannot be denied. There's no teaching, nothing to learn, nothing to hope for and nothing to seek. It is a message that requires no doing; and more doing only enriches the seeking energy that seeks for something it will never find. What everybody is missing (apparently, because nothing is missing), is that this is already whole and complete. It doesn't mean anything has to stop because there's no one that chooses to stop or start. Sadness, happiness, joy, misery, suffering may still arise but it's happening to no one and it's only the individual that thinks it's separate from the whole that claims these to be happening to them. The body feels pain, but that's just a sensation that arises in the body. These sensations can lessen as a result of the contracted energy loosening but it can only happen on its own because nobody is doing it.

I was merely responding to what you said initially. There's no denial of anything here. I can only deny what seems to appear and the future is not appearing so it can never be denied. 'It will not exist' doesn't exist. We don't have to continue this. I was merely suggesting to you that there is no trap to be lost in because the Absolute is everything and nothing simultaneously. So the trap is also the "no trap. You can't lose. There's nothing to lose and nothing to gain in what's Absolutely complete and whole. Only apparently in the dream of separation which really isn't happening to begin with.

Consciousness is a dream. Separation. Requires a someone to be conscious of something. The Absolute is all there is. With that reasoning you might as well not pay your bills or mortage, if there is no future nothing Will happen right? The paying of bills happens in the present. Nothing cannot stop happening because nothing is happening to begin with only apparently so. There is only Aliveness, every moment is a new moment and that's even saying too much.

I used to watch Jim a while back, few years back then I stopped. No particular reason as I like to spread my wings. Tony, I've only seen one or two of his videos, but I'm not a fan. Anna yes, I love her and have been watching her for a while. I watched a lot of stuff. Now after my confusion crises seemed to happen and I accidentally stumbled across Emerson non-duality and started watching him a lot, something happened as described in my "Oh My God, this is it" thread and ever since then a lot of the contraction seems to apparently fell away from the body allowing for more clarity, even though that's still only apparent since there's no one that gains more clarity. It's more of a losing. Then i've been watching a lot of Jim lately. The funny thing is I was already familiar with Jim but it was never as clear as it seems to be happening now. A lot of the stuff he says seems so obvious now and has broken away a lot of the confusion that seemed to be happening. It's the only message that totally resonates with something inside the body and is loosening the contraction a bit. No one is doing it, it's just seeming to happen. It's not a doing but more of an undoing, if you may. Everything now is less tension and the seeking energy is dieing. There's still remnants of an individual here and I'm not claiming to be awakened or anything like that. I'm not even saying there's not a me or that there's a me, it's just what seems to arise in the talking but is not being claimed as a me doing it. Its hard to speak without saying I or me but it doesn't matter.

Nothing here claimed to be or awake. No one awakens because there's no one asleep, there's no actual person inside these bodies to awaken and there's nothing actually happening to cause an awakening. That's a dream. James's apparent denial is you making sense of what seemed to happen. Evidence cannot be found in Aliveness and what is seemingly appearing because the evidence would also be aliveness and what is seemingly appearing. There are no others and there's no others to be aware of anything going on because what's going on is also what's appearing to be others not aware of what's going on. It's only an appearance. Everything is not one because one suggests there's an opposite. Infinite is more appropriate. Everything you've described in the latter part of this phrase is a call to action of a doer. There is no doer. Only thing that can seem to happen is the individual can lose it's sense of self and apparently recognize there was no self to begin with and there was never a personal identity. There's Noone speaking as they do. Speaking is just simply happening. I don't know why you speak as you do because there is no one here to know. Being trapped in a bias is illusory. There's just simply responding. There's a response that seems to happen due to the contracted energy in the body that comes with it a knowing that someone typed and then a response becomes imminent. It's just what happens. "This means" is you giving meaning to what happened and means nothing. It only means something to the one putting meaning behind it. "Lying to yourself" is suggesting there is a self and that that self can lie to itself. There is no self. There is no Reality, it's just what is and what is, is nothing appearing as something. There is no such thing as direct experience, only seemingly so, because it requires an experiencer to have an experience and there is no one that experiences. That's the dream. "Felt" is only apparent because there is no one to feel anything, the energy of feeling arises and the dreamer claims it as theirs. One cannot be actually lost because there's nothing to be found. All there is, is wholeness and whatever seems to be lost is also wholeness and completion. The Absolute appearing as someone that seems to be lost. All you're describing in the latter are just stories. Stories about separation, what courage seems to look like, what fear seems to appear as. No connection has been actually lost even if it appears that way so there's nothing to do as far as that goes. Going back and embracing doesn't make sense since there is no going back or moving forward in what is; that would only be what is (The Absolute), appearing as going back and embracing. How can there be a discovery of what is happening. That would also be The Absolute appearing as a discovery of what already is.

Just about everything, every word here Implies a doing, a future and something hoping and wishing for. Would you say there's no past and no future. What do you think that means. If you say there's a past and a future can you point me to it please. Either way, both cannot be found, so good luck.

That suffocation automatically comes with a sense of "I". A "Me". Always. Period. End of Story. It's just how strong of a suffocation that contracted energy feels like in the dream, because it's not really happening. Only seems and appears to happen.

I never said that this is going to speak and make sense at all times. Most of what you said I agree with, not all but most. Doesn't negate the fact that what is, is, and that there's Noone that actually does anything because there's no one.

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Ok.