Princess Arabia

Isn't it. Time for everything. I can't be serious all the time, I'd get depressed. Lol

Fear, that's all it is. Operating from scarcity, lack and fear. That's what it symbolizes to me and that's why those signals in the beginning tells a lot, so I'll pay for both and jet without an argument. Tells a lot right from the beginning. How you do one thing is how you do everything.

It'll give me an opportunity to practice detachment😜 Great. BTW, I saw that Samadhi documentaries on the same Channel. Will check them out later, maybe post them in the original powerful section.

I'm actually listening to part one now and you're right. I actually was going to post them in the original powerful section when I was scanning through the video but said the title still fits in this section somewhat; but you're right. I'll leave it here, though, since it's such a great listen. No one will mind. I'm enjoying listening to pt 1 and probably listen to pt2 right after. I usually watch the videos before posting them but once in awhile I may post while or before watching when I sense they will be pretty good. Seeing Rupert and Donald Hoffman sealed the cake. Please post some videos if you like that's suited for this section please. That would be nice. .

No, what you're saying now is different. I was referring to the paying half part, that it proves nothing. Serious and planned is fine if that's who you are; probably need a female whose opposite to that though, both of you serious and planned....hmmmm, idk, seems like we're a perfect match after all cause I'm definitely the opposite of serious and planned, but I'm def compatible with that type (not too serious and planned, though but somewhat), to balance me out.

Regardless, irrelevant still; it's a first date we're discussing here, should be fun and spontaneous. Anyway, people are different, not for me. I want him to look at other things, things like, does she have roaming eyes, does she interrupt me often when i'm speaking, is she kind to the service people, does she ask me questions about me and not just talk about herself...these kinds of things, not is she willing to foot half the bill. A gold digger can still foot half the bill and still take a man on a ride later, proves nothing.

It's even worse if this is a concern on a first date. Is this a marriage screening, a life-long partner situation. Things happen afterwards, and anything can happen in the long run but if this is a concern for a first date that did not start out as a screening for marriage or long-term live in relationship, it's even worse. But I'm just sharing my perspective and we don't have to keep this up, I saw your comment and just wanted to respond with my perspective. To each is own. Why would a date be concerned how someone is regarding money on the first date. Beats me. Says more about them than the other person regardless of which gender is concerned.

If a man asks me out and asks me to pay half or my share, I'll pay it all and say it was nice knowing you. I don't need to be scrutinized on whether I'm willing to pay for my half of the date when he asked me out. I don't ask men out on dates; so if I'm on one, it's because I was asked. If a woman asks a man out in a date, she should pay yes, but it still shows the trajectory of the relationship if he allows her to, whether it turns out to be serious or not. Let her reach for the bill, if that's what happens but interrupt and say you got this. If a man is only concerned that she's willing to foot half the bill on the first date, and sees her as a good match because of that or even one that won't use him or whatever his concerns are about financial issues, it's not worth my time. He's the one making it an issue not her by doing that. I don't care about the other 100 dates that he may pay, I just don't want to be tested in this manner, test me to see if I reach out to open your side of the car door or not while I'm already seated; that test, if testing at all, is a better indicator of a good woman, imo, or if she ever embarrasses you in public.

Yippee. Love it. Post away. Powerful stuff - the mind is.

Make biological art. Paint the human anatomy and create 3d art showing the biological structure of things.

I remember once a few months back you started a thread about the male/female dynamic and the problems they face. I remember you saying something about shame being at the core of some of these relationship issues and you went on to explain it in detail. His response to you shows how what you wrote was on point and how shame can be such a deal-breaker if one is going through this emotion and how it can negatively impact us if not dealt with at the core. If you can find that thread,(no big deal if you can't) it would be nice to share it here for reference.

That's lust. Another form of love, but don't confuse the two.

Love this.

This has started to be my new catch phrase lately, (in my personal life). People look at me like, wtf are you talking about. I'd be like, "that shit came outta nowhere". They be like, Ah, ah, nope, it came from my ass putting it there, or somebody else". I'd be like, "Well, where was it before that", they can't answer or come up with stuff like, somebody else had it or it was in the bank or some logic like that. I just leave it alone at that point cause then they're going to have to explain it backwards to Infinity. Hehe

No answers to your question will satisfy that inquiring mind. What i've quoted here from your post is more relevant. Try to work on that fear. Try to get comfortable with the uncomfortable. Life isn't about to make you comfortable in every endeavor. Learn to face your fears. You have anxiety, I can tell, no need to ask. These kinds of fears are what's fueling it. It loves these kinds of fears. The one's that cannot be prevented ahead of time. Who knows, no one. I could be facetious and say the same amount of time it takes you to fall in love, is the same amount of time it will take to fall out. Learn to take chances and be open to the unknown. That's what life's about. If you knew every step of the way, hour by hour, minute by minute, every second what was in store for you for the rest of your life detail by detail and exactly what will happen, how boring that will be you'd want to kill yourself or still get anxious and can't wait for the good parts, still suffering from anxiety. We fear the unknown and we fear the known. We fear everything. Overcome that, relax and try to see in the mind's eye what you would like to experience and not worry about things you don't. What we fear, we create because fear is a very intense emotion and we create from being focused and attentive to where we place our energy.

Learn how to give love. Giving is receiving. When you start to give love to others you are giving it to yourself. That's how you fill your cup in this regard. Love is Universal and when we start to see it as something we should have it blinds us, over shadows us, because it is what you are. We try to gain it from others and tell ourselves we have to have it to give it, then we become hoarders of love thinking we need to start loving ourselves first then we can start to love others. We need to fill our cup with money before we can give that away, fill up on gas before we can drive, fill up on knowledge before teaching, but when it comes to love, it's the energy force that drives the engine to want to give away things that represent the love we already are. So, we don't need to fill up on love to give love, we need to fill up on the things that represent love so we can express the love that we already are.

Great question. You see, we're all that, the Absolute, God, Brahman, whatever you call it and when you make posts like these and give in to these kinds of "self-questionings", it is that very same being in conflict with itself. Through the veil of separation, trying to get back to itself, find itself (so-to-speak), questioning itself, asking itself such questions through you, it's avatar. You already know the answers but this is the game it's playing with itself. If it didn't play this game, it wouldn't know itself. The question above is a direct inclination of this. It has eternity to figure out all this and this is the stepping stone; but only in the relative domain as it is already whole, perfect and complete. Welcome to the game, my friend, enjoy the process of figuring this shit out for yourself. This is why it's called a dream. A mirage, hallucination. You don't have love to give you are it, so go and shine that light and stop expecting love in return because you are just neglecting yourself and that part of you that's conditional and the part that doesn't need anything. You will never find what you're looking for because it is already here.

This is also unconditional love expressing itself as transactional. Nothing wrong with that if one stops seeking what they already are. Take the business side of love and either love or hate it. Your choice. It cannot be any other way because then it'll be conditional.

Not being able to love without provision is also unconditional love. Unconditional love means just that, under no conditions. You're looking for conditions as to not need anything from your partner. That's a condition. God doesn't provide conditional love, it IS unconditional love. There's nothing finite here only the Infinite masquerading as finite. You are that, and you are already the love that you seek.

Good advice, but the question was how to fix what those things already messed up. What you've mentioned doesn't accomplish that. Prevention doesn't help in this case.

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