Princess Arabia

I'm not referring to this. I'm not speaking about how others are being perceived by onlookers. I'm speaking about romantic relationships. Maybe be clear on what type of relationships you're referring to or just generally speaking. Also, not showing respect to someone who shows love to themselves isn't a bug it's a feature because on the flip side what you're seeing is a case of how you react to that. How does that make you feel and does it diminish how you feel about yourself. You will double down on your self worth if their disrespect and jealousy doesn't change how you feel about yourself and you understand that it's about them not you. Idk, I don't look to be loved, I look to be love. Sorry if my words sound woo woo and all but I cannot change who I am and my way of thinking and being is being reflected in my writings and it's just what's coming out.

Yes, I'm not speaking about non-duality. If we love ourselves, we will see others love us back in proportion to that. We cannot expect from others what we haven't given to ourselves.

If we love ourselves. We only get from people how we see ourselves.

Exactly.

Don't care about tik tok and social media dating stories. Nothing new under the sun. Just more publicized because of social media and our obsession with it. Watching that stuff and focusing on those types stuff does nothing but embed in our brains what we think the world is like, when in fact; successful, great quality, and happy relationships don't make the news as much or shown as much because it doesn't satisfy the mind's quench for drama and problems. By watching these stories you are not empowering or helping yourself, you are weakening and disempowering the mind to be more in a victimhood state. What are you getting from it? CONFIRMATION OF YOUR EXISTING BELIEFS - beliefs that are not serving you. You are a victim to your own circumstances.

Might be is speculation. Women aren't having sex with themselves.

Who the heck are these women with, themselves? Makes no sense.

I don't know, but it seems these women you're talking about that can easily find a man, these men are also with these women. Saying women can easily find a man yet complaining how hard it is for men to find women seems like an oxymoron. Obviously it's not hard for men because these women aren't with themselves or other women. IT'S MEN THEY'RE WITH. Your post is a great example that we have belief systems that aren't true; and we make them up as excuses as to why we're not accomplishing our goals. This one isn't obvious and kind of hard to see through because so many also believe what you're saying about how women finding it easy. So, you'll hear, "yeah man, you have to go out more and socialize". Yes, that's true; but how about addressing the fact that you're believing something that isn't true and it's showing up in your direct experience as so. I'm so sick of hearing about how women find it easy when that is also a misconception. Women can get laid whenever and by whomever, but women don't want to be, so they also have it hard finding the perfect lay, men are not as picky if it's just a lay they're looking for, as shown in your first sentence. Women have to usually feel something, men don't. It's not a judgement; it is what it is.

Haha, I tried to Google too and a bunch of recipes came up. Still not sure what it means. The did look good.

It's more of a pasta thing no matter the kind. Only if I'm doing Italian like Chicken Parm/Cacciatore/Meatballs or stuff like that with the red sauce; and even then I might sub mashed potatoes. Plus, not a fan of the spiral. Penne is good and spaghetti. Chick pea pasta is good.

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You mean zucchini with stuff inside?

That vinaigrette looks delicious. That salad too, only since I'm not a big fan of pasta, I'd use romaine instead. Thats how I cook sometimes. Lots of Mediterranean style eating.

You're being pretty funny and more relaxed lately. This side of you is refreshing to see. Something has changed. This is how observant I am. I can tell.

Yes, it's delicious if that's your kind of thing. My main style of eating, though, is Mediterranean as Jamaican food, depending on what it is, can take some effort and time to prepare and cook and sometimes I don't want to be in the kitchen for long. Mediterranean food is a lot more healthy, simple and easier to prepare. I can whip up a salad in no time or some fish or beans like hummus or some veggies and a side of whatever.

This is what i mean.

Just so you know this is about you and not the women. You were disowning and judging parts of yourself and now you've learnt how to accept them. The women were only tools and a reflection of what was going on deep inside you. As a result of this, you will also see positive changes in other areas in your life that you're challenged by, kudos to you.

You keep putting words in my mouth. Where in my comment did you see the word random. You have a very unsettling way of communication. You seem to hear only what you want to hear but not what's been said. Your interpretations stem from that, and in that brings complications and misunderstandings. been said.

When I was typing "parts have been solved", I didn't feel good about writing that. Something fell off, but I kept it there because if you notice the length of this thread, it was crazy busy and flowing and i felt it would have been missed and didn't matter. You quoted the only part I wasn't comfortable with and that says a lot in of itself.

It's all purposeful to the egoic mind identity, but not to life. Life is it's own purpose and is doing it's thing perfectly. I haven't seen life disappear yet. Life isn't saying I must do this or else, of I have to be this way or else, life is just life and how ever it is, is how it is and cannot be any other way. We're the ones putting our ideas unto life and turning it into "about us". Life is impersonal and doesn't see a human. There is no life and then you either because you are life. It's the mind that's doing this.

You should make another one of those Actualized trailers. That was epic.

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Yes, but one person isn't a reflection of infinite mirrors. So, no one can have all the answers.

Yes, I agree. If you're only talking about the kind of experience one can have, then I'm totally in agreement. If you're talking about some existential meaning and benefit one will gain to getting somewhere like say closer to God of enlightenment as in being in a better place after the so-called dream experience is over, then no. I'm saying all you're saying and those people you talk about are just different experiences and that is where it ends. There's no benefit other than maybe less suffering for the mind and a more enjoyable life experience. That's it. So, for those reasons it's worth engaging in.

Yes, I hear you but I don't mind. I get to engage with like-minded people and I'm engaging with life. Telling about my life and reiterating my life story is one way of keeping the dream and the illusion of separation alive also. So either way, we can't escape that unless we recluse in a mountain top somewhere away from people and live in a cave.