Princess Arabia

Not sure what that means, please tell me.

It's natural for me. I took up psychology in college because I was so curious about human behavior and the concepts of "why" from an early age. So, it takes practice to be able to acquire this skill. I know the more you acknowledge them out loud, the more they present themselves. Today alone I had two. Real quick, I was talking to somebody today about cats and they asked me my cat's name; I told them. They then started to tell me theirs and before they got the name out, I said to myself I bet it will be a name of a cat I've had before. Nope, it wasn't. Guess what, they proceeded to tell me of a cat their mother had named........guess what, it was the same name of a cat I previously had. Things like that. It's a fun game I play with the mind. It's not just about your needs and wants, just a playfulness with life. Infact, the more you use life for your needs and wants instead of giving back, like I try to do here and in my personal life, the more life takes from you because life mirrors back to you what you present to it. If you say take, take, take, life says, take take take it takes from you. Just approach life with genuine curiosity and wonder and it will show you things that puts you in wonder. Go within more, stop focusing on what others are doing as much, focus on thoughts, feelings and your state of being. Watch stuff that puts the mind at ease including movies, music and people. It's a way of being and the more you rest in awareness the more you become in sync. My life isn't perfect, and I do face challenges, but it's how I see them that counts and the way I respond to them that makes a huge difference.

My kind of guy. Work it babyyy, lol. I don't have to worry about nobody sticking their huge overload in my precious little kitty and give me stomach pain and blisters around my labia minora and majora. Hehe.

I would suggest things to get rid of a cold fast, but whenever I do, I get flack and get called a witch or that my suggestions doesn't pass the science test, or that the FDA will not recognize it as poisonous and recommend it to the public and slap a price tag on it. So I won't anymore. Let these other people who keep getting sick suggests something.

If I wanted to kill you and i know I can get that done by inviting you to a nice candlelight dinner to my house with lots of good food and I made your special meal and blaze blah, but I ended up poisoning you in the end and you die, that was bad intention. If I ended up poisoning you unknowingly because I didn't realize that blue Slurpee i made you was made of windshield wiper fluid and you die, my intention was good. Nothing to do with moralizing. I could use other examples like if I gave a crack head $5 not realizing he was a crack head but just a beggar that needed food, and he bought Crack with the $5 and overdosed, my intention was good. And If gave a knowing Crack head $5 to go by Crack and they overdosed, bad intention.

I'm responding to the whole post, but only quoted this part because it's essential for why you're going through what you're going through. My response might sound woo woo but it's up to you to get what I'm saying or not. Some try to exclude these Universal truths and end up in positions like yours or other unnecessary challenges of other kinds. Except for the obvious illness or biological deformities etc, that needs to be attended to and return to balance, THERE'S NOTHING TO FIX. The very notion of you thinking you need to fix yourself IS THE VERY THING THAT IS CAUSING YOUR INTERNAL PAIN. Imagine a table in perfect order, nothing wrong with it and you're trying to fix a broken leg where there's none. What would that look like. (that's just a random eg and can be extrapolated to anything). You would get frustrated and worn out trying to fix something that didn't need fixing. If you tell yourself you need fixing then you have, by your own claim CREATED something to fix. The mind now has to imagine things and put into your psyche things to fix. It will not work because it's all imaginary. (I don't mean that in the existential sense, but more on a practical level as you thinking about something, imagining something). The mind loves to solve problems and if it believes there's something there that is not, it will try to find the answers where there's none. It doesn't understand that it's not a real thing and it will create things that calls for tangible, real solutions in the physical world. Imagine trying to get rid of a ghost by shooting it with a gun, or trying to hit a thought with a hammer to make it go away. Same thing. I'm not saying don't go to therapy etc, what i'm saying is, do it under the mindset of maybe I might get to understand what the mind is doing, or why do I feel there's something wrong with me or to try and understand your emotions and anxiety or try to see where you can get better at understanding the underlying reason as to why you feel there's something wrong. That takes a special type of therapy; but not try to fix anything. Trying to fix implies you know there's something wrong and need to find solutions on how to fix it, VS reaching out for help as to why you have those beliefs and recognizing they are false, and trying to find solutions on how to replace those beliefs. I will also suggest that you try to not include those past stories about your mom and sister and half-sister and all those stories of the past into your quest for help in trying to defeat your challenges. All that does us feed the mind some more of why it thinks it needs to fix something. It doesn't realize that that is partially the cause of your challenges because of not being able to stay present but live in the past and future. You have created those memories again and again and again, and is the reason why you cannot get pass this. Please understand what I'm saying, it's chain of events for the mind, NOT REALITY. This comment is already long even though I could go on to say a lot more, to get you to really grasp what i'm saying and I've seen cases like yours over and over again and they all are under the same category - living in the past, having beliefs that triggers certain emotions that makes the body relive those circumstances and not being able to recognize that they are doing this unconsciously. It's the things in common that all you have in cases like these. You're not alone; in fact, it's quite common. I'll stop here, any questions feel free to ask.

I forgot the story but it goes something like this. A man went to church to try to look good a man tried to seek God in a bar. The bar man went to heaven. Something like that. IOW, intention is the key. Doesn't matter the outcome as much as what was the intention. That's more powerful and can override any outcome.

Yes, I get that, that's why I brought that part up. I was just bringing to attention the other uses of the word's verbiage. It's very difficult for ordinary people here to get into the biology of silence, since that's usually the work of biologists, so it's going to be challenging for proper responses to procure appropriate answers.

Well, In my opinion, everything has a Spiritual connotation to it; depending on how you classify Spiritual. The way you did is not what I mean, so it doesn't relate to what I mean by "everything". I do understand what you're saying, though. I also am under the understanding that, Awareness is in the silent background from which everything appears and to sit in silence for a few minutes a day, can reveal a lot and brings forth wisdom and understanding that no other kind of practice can. In that way, it can be Spiritual. Hearing that silent sound is, however, biological in a sense so in that way, I agree, without getting into the existential nature of how we hear sounds and what a sound really is. That's a different topic.

In so many words.

I had a thread with this topic in Jan. Here it is. Not sure if it answers any questions but just thought I'd share.

Thank you. By inner guidance I mean, listen to the heart. Sometimes I ignore the heart and go with what the mind says, and I realize that if I had just listened to the heart I wouldn't be in the position I was in at the time. It takes awareness and keen observation to start to trust the difference between the heart and egoic mind. One feels tense, contracted, loud and anxious, doubtful (ego) and the other, very quiet, intuitive, makes one feel less anxious, relaxing, pure, non-resistant, like it's coming from a higher source and it feels like the right thing to do. It's kind of hard to explain the difference on paper, but one starts to develop this as they are more in tune to the body's response and how it makes you feel afterwards. A lot of people ask advice or ask for suggestions on how to do things because they are in conflict with the mind and heart. (not speaking about practical "how-to-do" questions like how to fix things or how to get a job done perse, more like how should I deal with this situation or how to cope with such and such abstract questions, then they'll rebut your suggestions or give excuses as to why what you're suggesting is wrong or won't work. Reason is, the heart already gave them the answer but the egoic mind identity is what's running the show and they are in conflict with both. Listen to the heart, it never fails. Just have to learn how. It's usually the one that feels good.

Yes, you are stating the obvious. Nothing was said in this thread about getting results from those approaches. Only about doing 2000 approaches and that wasn't enough; 10,000 is needed for mastery. To me that sounds like years and years of approaching. Five years when you do the math of approaching 2000 in a yr which is still quite a lot. Nothing was mentioned about the techniques used in the how to get laid series either. You are just mentioning that. To me, it's like the emphasis is on approaching and not the results. Why say you need 2000 approaches when you can get results within the first 100. Anyway, it's not my place to argue with guys about their approaching techniques and style, so I'm out this convo and I hear what you're saying and understand it. Thanks for your replies and I hope you get the results you seek and get better at socializing.

Great video to understanding human attraction on the Spiritual level.

Lol. Where did you find this shit. I swear, the internet has a meme for everything or is it AI generated. Either way.....lol.

This is why I stayed out of this thread and only made the couple of comments I made. I knew it wouldn't turn out well. Rest your head, my dear.

Those quotes that you quoted of me up top were not judgements. They are simply stating reasons why I think people behave the way they do. Saying "it's a way of expressing the anger inside" is not a judgement. A judgement would be to say, they are dirty and disgusting and expresses their anger like how dogs do. That's a judgement and a criticism. Also, the desensitized comment I made is not a judgement. I was merely stating what might be the case when people get desensitized and what might be a result of that. Neither of those quotes of mine above were judgements, they were merely observations and what I concluded from it.

It's not about what you think I'm basically saying. It's about what I said. Nothing in my words implied judgement. They were simply observations and my own analysis and implications. I would like for you to quote me verbatim where I passed judgements and criticisms and where it wasn't just a response to what I thought about something that was said. Please do, and make sure it's not someone else's quote that I didn't personally say. I will agree with you when I see it and agree where I was passing judgements because I'm not afraid to do so and admit to anything.

That's not what I'm saying. Of course, practice makes perfect, and we need to put in the hours to be good at something. To be out just approaching and approaching and approaching is only getting you good at approaching. 2000 approaches? What has one accomplished? Getting good at approaching. He said you can do that in a year. Sure. Fine. When do one stop to say after she says yes, how do I deal with the situation. Do I have the skills to keep her attention and to have a good time. Now you need 2000 more dates to get good at dating because you've mastered approaching. Then 1000 dates more to go through to really appreciate your times spent. Now 500 more to sift through the weed from the shaft and 250 more to get and keep a gf. By that time, you'll be an old man who conquered the dating scene and writing books and novels about how to seduce women and with a sore throat like Robert Greene.

I never started. I just love to inquire into the nature of reality. I'm a curious gal and like to observe. Anything I do is out of love not seeking. Yes, I'm seeking practical things but what else should I seek. I'm not playing hide and seek with the Universe. It never asked me to seek for it. It's right here, right now in plain site. What you see is what you get. I don't see any thing lost. Any knowledge I acquire is just that, knowledge. I'll know more than somebody else who doesn't have that same knowledge. If there's something for me to find, it will find me because i didn't ask to come here. I popped outta my mom's belly and here I am. If that's just my imagination and it never happened, then so be it. Why am I seeking for who I am and what is this moment. It's ridiculous. I read books and watch videos and listen to podcasts and am interested in improving the way I relate to people and in learning new things. If I spew stuff out my mouth, it's what I believe to be the case. If I'm wrong, then so be it; nothing will change because I'm not in charge. I'm aware and conscious, that's all i know, everything else is just concepts and ideas and regurgitation. I have not stopped learning about the Universe. It's a learning process not a seek and you shall find. I have matured while learning. I have gotten wiser and have learnt a lot about how the mind works, self-deception, spiral dynamics, how intelligence works, how reality is a strange loop, about infinity, about states of consciousness and so on and so forth. Lots of normal people don't have a clue about these things and I will continue to learn about these things because I love to learn and these topics interests me.....but seeking.....seeking for how to write an e-book, how to cook delicious food and how to control my emotions and not react to things so I don't raise my blood pressure. These are things I'm seeking. Not to see elephants in my hands and to see eyeballs on walls. Not to find God, because that's his problem if he wants to hide, not to get enlightened because I really don't know what that is and not to stop suffering because all I have to do there is allow it to be there. I don't mind. It doesn't like when I ignore it and it goes somewhere else for attention. You see, I don't need to seek in the ways you're referring to because I don't see anything wrong with anything only in the normal world where my perception is skewed and i believe that it is wrong - that's being human and I know it's not who I really am; because if it was, I wouldn't be able to perceive it. I cry and get mad and feel upset and joyful and peace comes and a little suffering comes and a little fear and anxiety and frustration and all the different emotions. So what. It's all encompassing and what life is about. I don't need to enjoy every waking second and I am a big girl now and have grown into all that to realize it's not permanent and those are things that will always be there. So what. I DON'T MIND. Only the ego does and I try to comfort it whenever I can and it settles down and walla it comes again and i ain't got time for all that babysitting so I just let it be and it shuts up. There you go.

I never mentioned anything about Solipsism in my last comment, the one you just replied to. I don't have to justify Solipsism because if all I said is true, there is no Solipsism either, but only as a concept and idea like we're talking about now. There's nothing justifiable but only within the illusion within the illusion. Now, we can continue to be illusionists.

There is no brain, and the body isn't real. There is no person having a life. There are no experiences and there is no world, not even on the inside. There is no one and there is no you to claim there is no one. There is no past and there is no future, there is not even a present moment because that implies a past and a future moment. There is no NOW either, because that implies time and that there is a THEN. Einstein and Jung and whomever else you claim to be so smart never existed and that's why they are not here to back up your claims about them. There is no movement and nothing is really happening. There is no one dreaming, nor is the Universe a mirror. There are no stars and no moon and sun. Jesus was never born and never died. My mother never existed or she would still be here. Everything you claim to know are just thoughts repeating themselves and will be repeated by another illusory figure to come that will claim to know stuff. Knowledge is an illusion and it's all descended down from dead ancestors who themselves didn't know anything. There is nothing here it's all empty and there is no point of reference, no facts, no truths and nothing false. Need me continue. Who is delusional now. Prove me wrong.

It's funny how I don't really watch porn and i will never do porn, meaning have sex on camera for the world to see. Nothing to do with morality as I'm an escort but it's just not my thing; but I don't shame the industry and call those people dysfunctional and low-consciousness or judge them. I find it's people that engage in these activities as watchers and even those that unwillingly engage in it that have the most judgements; maybe for the reasons you mentioned. Keep in mind that I'm not speaking about where there is abuse and exploitation and kidnapping and child abuse. Excluding those cases, but where it's consensual and only involving adults who enjoy their work and have no problems with it. There are these cases, in case nobody knows about them. The bad comments I see are from the ones who are porn watchers.

You are living in fantasy land. Do you think Mooji would laugh at someone if they put a gun to his head. I even heard him say he grieved over a relative's death but not to the point of getting all emotional about it. He moved on. You don't understand that it's the body doing it's thing. You're not responsible for how the body reacts no matter how conscious you think you are. You don't make your heart beat and you cannot make it stop just by saying "stop". The body will react, even if it laughs, doesn't relate to how awake you are and what you know about this experience. You just don't know. You heard about awakening by someone and now you think you know what awakening is. I never mentioned anything about awakening, you did. You are already awake and conscious, aren't you. How much more awake do you think you can get. The only difference is levels of awakening which is only a matter of perception. No one is more awake than another; only in perception and states of consciousness, which is still illusory as there is only the Absolute appearing as humans who are conscious. All that we do as spiritual practices is just for different experiences and ways of being and how we live life and perceive it. Yes, it will make for a better experience but that's it. You're not going to automatically know that you will just laugh at a gun to your head, unless you practice it over and over and train the body to react that way. Nothing to do with knowing that this is illusory and how awake you are.

He also used the word dysfunctional. So, if he agrees, he's agreeing to be dysfunctional.