Princess Arabia

This is why spirituality is bullshit and humans can never be anything but moralizing, judgemental and critical. Absolute is the OF page and the girl selling whatever she's selling. Realizing God has nothing to do with what is. We're always comparing and measuring what we think is needed to recognize what's staring us in the face. Let's go meditate and go to Satsang and maybe we'll become more conscious and recognize God while the OF girl is living life as life intended. Just as going to satsang and meditation, but it's the mind that thinks one is more conscious than the other and means nothing different to life itself.

If you don't want to, fine, but no need to ask someone why would they want to. Only a closed mind asks questions like that. Your mind is the one that made the distinction between these contents and others. You say "that content", what content? The answer lies only within your mind and your perception and how you view those contents. Now it expects everyone else to do the same. Life doesn't work that way. Those things exists and life is neutral until we start to do our own interpretations and how we see what is. I know you meant well, as I used to be the same way, but I've learnt exactly as I've explained above that it's me who thinks it's any better not the reality of the situation and was only looking to control a certain part of life for my own benefit. Such delusion I realized. Now I train the mind differently so I see life for what it is more than how I'd like it to be and to be ok with that.

Try to be in two places at the same time. You can't; so recognize you're all there is because everywhere you go you're always there. You are the only common denominator in your entire existence. But all that is just a story. No such thing because there's no you, so you can't be the only thing in existence.

Funny thing is you're not really asking a question you're making a statement. It's right in your post. There are no answers to anything. Every sentence you made reveals this. It's written in crypto, but I can decode it. You're saying there are no answers in reality.

You left out the 'a'.

The person goes on retreats to try to escape itself. It silences itself to not hear it's own bullshit. Then it tries to encourage others to do the same. There are no others. You are a person so to you everybody else is a person; but you went on that retreat as a person and the person you're trying to convince to go on a retreat is not. It's you you have to deal with. There's no other that needs to go on a retreat or be in silence. You're your own idiot, apparently. The one you're trying to convince is just a body, it's this telling this to go on a fucking retreat. How fucking cool is that. Loosen up everybody, this is just one big existential orgy between nobody for nobody and it's all a big fucking joke. Tell that to the starving child and when my foot gets chopped off? Ok, I will.

The person isn't looking to awaken, it's looking to fall asleep. Take that to the bank.

The reason why feelings seem to be the driving force of one's life is because the contracted energy, the individual, the separate self, the me, the I, doesn't feel whole. There is an awful feeling that comes with that energy. So it goes about life trying to feel it's way back to wholeness. This is why we're searching for a feeling in everything we do and why we never truly feel fulfilled and never will. This is already fulfillment appearing as not being fulfilled so how can that happen. There's no personal energy but the me feels personal and incomplete so it sets out on a journey to find and feel complete, but it will never happen. Why? Because it's whole and complete already. We seek love and marriage and kids and all those things trying to fill the gap that the sense of separation caused. The only reason why there's even a thing called having a relationship or getting married happens is because of this longed for need to find wholeness. It searches for it in these things. No one really sets out to not seek out companionship. When someone feels like they're not interested in those things after awhile it's because they are seeking it elsewhere, whether in money, fame or occupational wise. So, they bury themselves within that. The person seeking to get married and the person seeking to expand their business is seeking the same thing. There's no difference in what they're seeking. A feeling. To feel whole. No matter what you're seeking or not seeking there's a need to feel better than how you're feeling. There's nothing that can be done about it because no one is actually doing it. There's no personal reality; but when one feels like a person, everything then becomes personal. THAT'S THE ONLY ILLUSION. One doesn't go around saying well, there's no person so I don't take it personally. No, there is no I to not take it personally and there's no one doing personhood. It's wholeness, boundless aliveness doing the person. So how can one say I will drop the person. This thing called life is utterly magical. All I'm saying here is in this video.

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Maybe investigate how the men in Brazil are and that might answer your question. They're probably responding to that. Here in America, women are a little more reserved because we tend to be scrutinized more. Shouldn't wear this, shouldn't say that, shouldn't be that way, shouldn't feel that way, be more ladylike, you're not feminine enough, do this, do that. We've created robots here, then we create the stimulii to loosen up the robots. It's all about consumerism and marketing in the West. Create the problem then sell the solution. I know, I went a little bit overboard with that explanation.

He's speaking of a specific country and ethnicity of women that he notices this with. Not the normal women he hangs around and who just changed up on him. He finds Brazilian women to be as he described. He's not saying the kind of women he's used to is acting differently than how they normally act, he's speaking about a different breed totally. Your comment seems to Imply that women have changed up on him and have done so to try and gain something from him. Not what his post is saying at all.

Yes, I saw that and liked that.

I know. When I said just be I knew it sounded kind of cliche and woo woo. All we're doing is just being anyway, so it doesn't need to be said. What I meant was let not the mind worry us into needing to always be doing something about every sticky emotion can comes up. The only method I have now is really the "no method" method. Tired of always trying to fix something all my life. Then I keep seeing people go through this never-ending battle. My thing is I don't mind whichever state, feeling or emotion comes up. Don't like them all, but so what.

You mentioned the word "self" many times here. Self awareness, self dissolution, self attention. This is what's prolonging the feelings. It's counterintuitive. Recognize that these things come and go on their own without self involved. Self isn't doing anything only identifying with these things and making them stick even more. There's nothing to do, just be.

No need to try and overcome fear. Leave fear alone and it will go back where it came. Gosh, everyone is trying to control life. YOU WILL ALWAYS LOSE. Fear is fear. If you felt love you wouldn't try to do anything about it. You were conditioned into believing certain emotions are better than some. Life doesn't see it that way. This is why when we feel pleasure, we shouldn't attach either. When I speak like this, it's not just parroting, it's from a lived experience. The thing i was afraid of last week is still there but only with something else. It's just fear. It will come. Leave it alone and don't try to overcome it. It will come with something else if you overcome the fear of approaching. You will be living in fear for the rest of your life. If you just see it for what it is, then it won't make you suffer.

I understand that, but letting it be is like saying I could have done something else for things to play out differently. Letting it be is the mind's coping mechanism because things can't be any other way than what it already is. That's OK, but it will be living it's entire life living in the "let it be" lane. My thing is to not let go or let it be, but to see the experience as such, just an experience and even the way I'm handling it. I try not to even change that. I allow for it all because I know in the end, it's all life and the infinite versions of it. Cry, be mad, be angry, be sad, miss them, long for them, want them back whatever. It's all apart of life. I don't need to let anything be. I don't need to feel a certain way only, I welcome it all.

The trying to let them go is what's creating the resistance and the mental turmoil. How can one try to let something go. The thing you're trying to let go of will always be there. Get it. It's like throwing a ball and letting go of the ball. Don't you need the ball to throw and to let go of. The ball has to be there. Stop trying, and let be. Things fade away on their own the same way they came into your life on their own. The emotions appeared on their own and they will fade on their own. It's OK to feel whatever you're feeling, it's the not wanting to feel those things that's keeping those emotions alive longer. So telling yourself you have to let go is what's keeping the attachment going. You don't have to try and let go of anything because you never had it in the first place. I know that sounds harsh, but you want truth, that's the truth and life will show you truth; no need for a guru or a course to tell you what truth is. You're living it.

Perfect example. I never said this. You've created meaning to what I said and put your own ideas on what you think I mean when I said what I said. I never said emotions are meaningless and that they don't mean anything. My point about that was the emotions that come with the experiences we have is what's being remembered in the heart (memory), and the stronger the emotion, the more effective it becomes. Meaning when a scenario happens again to stir up that emotion it will have the same effect it had the first time even with a completely different circumstance. Example, you almost ran over a pedestrian and it scared you shitless. The next time it happens, you will remember the emotion that came with that first incident and the same feeling will arise. Now, you're scared of pedestrians while driving and will or may have road rage against pedestrians when they're being careless in the streets. You'll even notice a pedestrian way across the way doing something careless and get mad about it. This is how stories run our lives. So therefore, try to practice not getting too emotional about circumstances and experiences because it will run your life and have you being on guard. Aka anxious. The story there is that pedestrian is an ass, they should have paid more attention, they need to get off their phone, they need to walk faster, slower, they should have seen me or gosh why didn't I see them, I need to pay more attention etcetc. You almost ran over a pedestrian and that's it. Everything else is a story and is useless and only creates more stories to live in our heads by. I'm not saying no stories, just recognize them for what they are and don't believe in them.

This all depends on the matter at hand. Brainstorming an existing problem is not a problem as long as it's not being done with the same mindset that created the problem. There's no such thing as unnecessary thinking because thoughts just happen. It's just a matter of ignoring the ones that doesn't matter.

I hear you and it seems weird when I say it, I know. We are here living our lives and relating to our stories and experiencing things and talking in stories about those things. Sure, I have stories too; stories make up our world and our reality. Now, if I'm having a problem with a particular story, I've learnt to stop telling that story. If you notice, and especially in this case, I said stop referring to the story in question. Not to stop telling stories. I've noticed here that the narratives I tell myself about a situation has nothing to do with the situation itself. So, I've tested it in real life. So, something happens, I start to put my two cents in (mentally/ideas about it), then the test comes. I drop the narrative, and the situation turned out completely different than what I was telling myself (which is usually negative, BTW, because of how the mind works and it's survival mechanisms). I'll just give a random example. I call someone, they don't answer. The mind automatically starts to narrate on why the person didn't answer. They're ignoring me, they're busy, they didn't see it or whatever. I call again, they answer, I don't ask why they didn't answer the first time, I just get straight to why I called. The story was about what I thought about them not answering - it's irrelevant and complicates things. Another example and to the OP's concern. I'm with a guy and he keeps looking at other girls. I start to feel jealous and saying I'm not good enough while he could be looking at them for the sole reason that he just loves to admire women but only loves me. Idk, I'm guessing, but our relationship is very good and I'm happy. Why go into the stories on why he keeps looking at women and how I'm jealous. That's my problem because looking at other women is the same as looking at other men or a building. Whatever is going on in his head is not my business. Do you get the drift, we live our lives in stories and ideas about life and not what's actually happening. We self-sabotage by our stories and ideas about what's happening. Just as you get nervous when you see a message. It's the story behind the message without seeing the message that you're reacting to. That's living in stories and responding to our mind's ideas, not what's actually happening. It creates anxiety and confusion and puts us in states that we don't want to be in unnecessarily.

You can see the patterns and train of thought with people with anxiety, depression (not extreme or clinical, maybe sad-all-the-time depression). You see the unnecessary problems they place upon themselves. They usually think of the worse-case scenarios and usually expect the worse from people. They turn just about everything into a problem and then turn around to try and find solutions to the problem that was created with the same mindset. It's an endless loop. "I feel this way about this thing and I don't like that feeling. The reason why I feel this or that way is because there's something wrong with that circumstance or the thing i experienced". Is the thought in so many words. Now, I must find a way to not feel that way and try to not let those experiences bother me. I don't want to go through that so i must fix it. If that happens to get fixed, then another scenario happens and it's the same thing. I wonder what is the common denominator amongst all experiences and all circumstances. The person and their perceptions of those circumstances. That's the common denominator. This is why I say the "me" is fucked. It looks at everything as an outside problem not realizing that there's nothing outside. Nothing inside either. It's just what's happening. The "me" interprets it as happening to it and the endless tiring cycle of overcoming itself continues and never ends until.......it recognizes life isn't about it. It will just see things as whatever is happening and the responses that occur to whatever happens as just that - a response. All this will continue to be the case until the person gets tired, extremely tired. Tired of fighting life. Tired of the mind and thought battles. It will come to the realization that it will never win at life because life isn't a competition to be fought. The mind will tire itself out and become free of its own mess and melt into the ocean of love. It's the only way for it to become peaceful. This is why there's no such thing as a permanent peaceful state. This happens in sleep when the mind is at rest, when it awakens the uproar begins. P,S. Nothing I write here I'm exempt from. I've either been there and have overcame the challenge, still going through, or just simply realize the dynamics. I'm able to spot things because I myself have been there. I've seen through certain things. I'm very observant and I notice a lot, with myself and others. I have a very keen sense of spotting patterns. Energetic patterns. They're everywhere. This how things can be predicted or expected or noticed and habits are formed. It's all imagination anyway and not really the case. Just within the dream of separation.

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This advice might not resonate but it's the way to go. Don't try to change it. Notice it and leave it alone. Don't try to analyze it or try to figure out why you're doing it. You can maybe say, this is silly what am I doing or laugh at yourself doing it; but don't take it seriously. I promise in due time, it will fade away with the wind. Promise. Come back and let me know when. P.S. Leave all the stories you're telling yourself about why this is happening behind or it won't work. Just see yourself doing it and that's it. Stories might come, but just don't pay them any attention. No emotions towards it, I mean. It's the emotions that makes things linger.

There's already no one so it doesn't matter. Everything exists. Everything. Whichever scenario it is, it is. Yeah, I know, stfu.