Lyubov

Dairy is one of those things that is really polarized. I’ve met people who swear that it is awful and they can’t handle it and others who feel their diet is incomplete without it. I tolerate it just fine and actually find a little dairy in my diet is wonderful. I’ve never had any of those allergies and it is nutrient rich. I’m not about drinking a gallon of milk a day or having huge amounts daily but some cheese and cream and milk I find works well in my diet.

How is there a double standard here? The guy with the gun I’m pretty sure is dead. If he was still alive I absolutely would say he should of been charged with man slaughter or reckless intent like I think how Kyle should of been convicted of. You can’t bring a gun to a protest and pretend to be a cop. The problem goes deeper than this case. Gun laws in the US are absolutely mental.

You’re 23 man trust me when I say this but you have plenty of time to plant a new field of crops. I would try to focus on your life purpose now and getting something more financially stable and work you enjoy. It sucks being in your home town I can relate. Set your goal to relocate as well. Can also do the same job in a bigger city and live with roommates. Great way to make friends. Doesn’t have to be totally shit like it is now.

I would give therapy a second try if you have the resources to do so. There are several different modalities. Internal Family Systems is a really good on. Also body based stuff as well. You’re aware of this shame and that there is some stuff going on internally which is actually a really good sign. It means you are on a path to get to the place you want to be and create the life you want to live. I have no doubt since you are here posting and self reflective enough to make this thread that this will happen. It may take a little time but be patient with the process. The replies here won’t have all the answers but can inspire you to take action in various ways. I am big on therapy myself. Therapy for assisting with challenging psychedelic experiences got me into it and I’ve stayed in it since. It’s helped me exponentially.

I love my girlfriend as she is. Thing is she is on my ass sometimes, nagging, etc. It kinda inspires me to love and accept her as she is though. She loves the cock, which is really important. Amazing body. She is incredibly loyal and has integrity. I’d rather not harp on about what I would change about her but her nagging and life drama and temper I need a break from sometimes

Your first sentence is the issue here right off the bat. You seem to consider your presence a burden. I feel a lot of shame in this. A “good person.” Do you feel like you are a bad person? I would do inner work, therapy, etc to really raise your self esteem and start loving yourself. You can always be doing this simultaneously with going out a bit here and there and looking to meet women.

He’s angry. He talks really fast. His body is devoid of something that’s missing. It’s his coping mechanism for not feeling something very painful beneath. This guy is either going to have a breakdown and have to rebuild himself into something more functional or he’s gonna be trapped in this for the rest of his life kinda like Donald Trump. The choice is his. He would benefit listening to someone like Mike Tyson, who walked a similar path and was brave enough to move beyond the resistance and anger.

Like I said, I’m not totally against everything he says and I do recognize he has played an important role in many peoples lives. I can also acknowledge his short comings as well and see in what other ways he isn’t helpful.

This is why I feel like such a clown touting liberal voting. I don't really do it. And I don't go to protests either or shout "eat the rich" or some bullshit like that. Dems talk big in the US but what those values look like actualized as real policy is unclear. It's like talking about a piece of technology you know will one day be created but it's still a ways off and no one knows what it will actually be like.

I wouldn't say biased. I just can see through his dog and pony show. He touches on some good values found in stage blue but much beyond that he is a dud. A lot of lousy thinking people will delegate their thought process to him because he is using big words and kinda/sorta espousing views that support their conservative world view. I think my description of him is apt.

This is why I say he is a stupid person's idea of a smart person. JP is articulate but much of the meaning behind what he is saying isn't all that deep or profound.

you're just some guy who she says hi to sometimes while she rings you up for gas and a candy bar. I don't think you're very high up on her radar.

You guys need to start drinking and doing drugs (coke and molly). You already do LSD and dress your reasons up for doing it in the name of God so you feel good about it. Drinking and drugs is just another change of state. You think it's some unconscious step backwards but honestly have no clue what you're talking about. Obviously, you must do it responsibly. Your life is out of balance neglecting your party side.

I swear this “too conscious to date” talk is starting to sound like when Dungeons and Dragons players will talk about how they won’t waste their seed on a common harlot because they are a wizard. Dating is possible when you are godly conscious. If you’re having problems with it maybe don’t look for a girl in a disco club?

If he was carrying around an assault rifle then absolutely he should be charged. Thing is though leftist don’t carry around high powered assault rifles to intimidate people and bring “law and order” so it’s kinda a ridiculous comparison.

I believe he is being charged with reckless intent amongst a slew of other charges. Reckless intent is a form of homicide and most severe form of man slaughter. I’m not a lawyer but it basically means putting oneself in a situation where you know you are putting other people at risk of bodily harm. I don’t think it’s possible to really convict him of murder 1 or 2 charges since he didn’t go out specifically to murder people but he put himself in a situation he had no business being in that obviously carried a tremendous risk towards others. I think a case against his guardians would also be suitable. Whoever provided him that assault rifle.

I see it as an "anything for views" type situation. We can spend all day here trying to analyze him. I think he realized he was fine making a fool of himself and trading his dignity for some internet fame. I guess he values that more.

I'm not sure about that. It may seem like a good way to avoid having a ONS (maybe, some girls won't hook up on the first date with a guy they like cause they are afraid it will be a ONS) but I'm not sure about lifelong relationship. All the same I could of made her a FWB, which I almost originally did. I don't follow your claim.

Fair enough, I would say it's more than that though. I feel I'm missing out sometimes on other exciting sexual experiences by choosing to be in a monogamous relationship. I know her past isn't related and has nothing to do with spiting me in any way or anything. We got together by just going with the flow and having fun. I don't really like manipulating stuff and trying to control it when it comes to dating. I get amazing results just being a chill and fun guy. I feel justified in having desires for something more beyond the relationship though and can see how it leads to wanting more new experiences myself. I don't like this word beta though. It's just a cover up for basically "bad." Basically all that toxic pick up BS is just dressing up core beliefs a lot of the guys that get into it have. "I'm bad", a vow they maybe made when they were bullied in school, is just dressed up again as "I"m beta." And so it just pulls all those strings on stuff bellow the surface and tries to change it through overly practical overly manipulative approaches. It's good for building some initial discipline and getting a guy off his ass from playing video games all day but it is very limiting in the long run when it comes to dating and leads to marginal internal changes.

You see, this is something I wish I was emotionally mature enough and self actualized to feel and see. I feel slight resentment towards my gf that we didn't have sex the night we met but 6 days later Cause I'm sure she has had sex with other guys the night she met them. I've had ONS with other women so I get it. It still doesn't sit right with me she held it from me for a few days cause she liked me so much when I'm sure a guy who just wanted a fuck and was forward about it got it sooner. A lot of men today feel they have to sort of live up to a certain seductive standard and life style or else they are seen as "weak" or undesirable as a man. I've had my head filled with plenty of this garbage as well and can't help but feel it tug at me sometimes. I do feel this force that I need X number of sexual partners before finding a wife, have to be player statue or else I'm "beta", etc. None of this shit really feels good to think about and is kinda toxic. There is some helpful stuff in it for sure cause a lot of guys that get into pick up are huge push overs and they probably needed something to toughen them up and motivate them a bit but it becomes a huge trap after a certain point. Male dating advice can be helpful but it needs to be balanced with consciousness.

um, that's not true at all... I have seen little to no correlation between the two.

You have a slew of beliefs. They start out wide and then trickle down to just a handful. It's like an inverted triangle. You gotta start untangling the beliefs and then at the same time learn to do body based stuff at the same time to calm your nervous system and train it so it isn't triggered by these situations.

You have a belief or two here about yourself that is going to limit your life. Follow this inner thread why you think you can’t get a girlfriend. Probably the majority of it is untrue and what is true has a solution.

Yep, you nailed it. I am very acutely aware that there is this wound being touched below it that is reacting. I actually have a pretty wide variety of tools in my toolbox and I’m in the process working through what is bellow it at the same time as this life lesson is being presented to me. So I know that whenever I get those red light feelings to process them in small chunks and make decisions from a place of presence and that freeing feeling of love. This is why I feel like following the more freeing emotions and leaving my comfort zone and this sort of icky feeling that is around if I stay. I realize there is way less keeping me here materially than going with her. I have that luxury. I also felt the same wound being touched before and I followed my heart and great healing came to me from deciding not to follow the same feelings that are telling me to stay. We went through this before on a lesser level and I was brave and faced this fragmentation and that feeling of fear that wanted separation. We came out incredibly strong. I feel like this life lesson is being presented to me so I become less attached to wanting separation and a closed heart. I know it isn’t the end of the world if I go with her for a few months and we see how it works out. She even said she doesn’t want to go forever, to go and see if she likes it or not. I tend to not have many regrets actually. I’m quite happy about that. I have only a few. I know if it doesn’t work out I could still come back. That I would still have traveled to a new place and had a new experience. I can’t say going with her would be some huge regret. I feel like I would regret it if I let her go and closed my heart back down.

Basically my girlfriend and I are deeply in love. We have been through a lot and are constantly growing together. We have helped each other a lot. The thing is she very likely will have to relocate for work to a different country. It's in her contract and the borders have just opened again. I'm not sure our relationship will survive this one. I'm not really sure I wan't to do long distance and move with her. I'm open to what happens so I'm not trying to think about it too much. It just hurts knowing this is looming in the next couple months. Any advice or support during this time of struggle would be greatly appreciated.