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I totally forgot about it but do you all remember that time Musk slandered that British diver guy who called Musk out on his bullshit? I don’t think I ever really payed much attention to him before that but I think that was the time I saw through his facade as some genius and just a master Twitter / Wall Street guy. He’s not as fake as Trump though.

Not knocking your experience, but I have no need for this myself. I don't know how this is possible to do in a relationship either. Passion needs to be expressed somehow. Men who are able to master this practice are exceptionally talented people. If you are a man with a high sex drive it's kinda like eating. You can't be happy without eating some. You don't have to gorge McDonalds but you need to eat. To say you should be able to be peaceful and happy without sex is very much disowning one of your core needs. It's like saying you should be able to be peaceful and happy without food and water. "Food is a biological necessity that controls you as long as you frame it that way." It's an unrealistic, ridiculous litmus test and not the game of life.

The video seems pretty intimate and sexual tbh. I don't think it's appropriate with someone you've only met a couple times. Probably just doing some mindful breathing together or some yoga together that doesn't require contact with each other. Spiritual practices I think can be misunderstood in a relationship and used for ulterior motives so I think stuff like this is better explored when there is integrity and trust between two people. It's like doing all sorts of crazy kinky extreme sex on the first date. I mean theoretically some people may be fine with it, in fact it may just be a fuck and more honest, but some won't and require trust. The thing with spiritual stuff like this is that it often carries the same amount of responsibility and integrity behind it but it isn't apparent upon first observation. It can be weaponized and used to manipulate. Spiritual stuff but just an excuse to get sexual.

I’m more so speaking from what it’s like for my dick. Half of my family side is Jewish so snip snip for me. No condom just feels 100 times better to me. I can still perform with a condom though so it’s not the end of the world but it sucks so I don’t really like using them. Yes, pull out is risky if your girl isn’t on the pill. It can be very effective long term if done properly but that’s kinda like saying heroin can be done safely long term if taken properly. It’s really fucking hard to not get hooked. You basically summed it up. It’s not as hard to pull out when you aren’t so deeply in love with or that passionate about a woman but this builds up the more sex happens with two people and the first time you let it happen it becomes kinda like a drug and it becomes harder and harder not to each time.

I’ve gone raw dog with girls I just met before It’s very foolish. Codons are awful, especially if you are circumcised. I’ve matured quite a bit since. Pull out is fine if you aren’t in love and both of you have been tested but it’s going to basically fast track falling in love so…

dude gives me black republican vibes, at least he's more stylish. probably has the money to dress nice grifting donos from his toxic audience.

You basically just described online dating. You aren’t doing anything wrong per say. This is just the nature of the beast. You get matches and then a percent of them reply and then a percent of that give the number and then a percent of that are free to meet. The conversion rate is low when you add it up. But if you have 200 hot matches and you can sleep with 5% of them that’s not bad. All you can do is continue to improve your photos and profile. Also not internalize this and form judgements and beliefs about yourself. I would not overthink your texting. It’s online texting in a dating app. It means basically nothing. Just make small basic chit chat, a little joke, whatever, and get the number. Doesn’t sound like you are doing too much crazy or hoping for fireworks from texting but also sort of expecting more from it. Just continue improving your profile. You can send me screens of your texts if you want a second set of eyes to give you pointers in case you think you are over writing.

So let me start. Sometimes at night I can get wound up and triggered by something and it can make it hard to sleep. I’ll find myself in a mild to moderate fight or flight state. I’ll have uncomfortable sensations at the back of my neck, chest, etc. A lot of emotions. I’ll feel a little ungrounded as well. I’m very careful not to jump into my head, follow thoughts, etc when feeling like this. In general it’s just very uncomfortable sitting with the sensations. I’m doing other stuff to address the underlying causes for it but there is a time and place for that so I don’t jump into this sort of stuff at night or especially when triggered like this cause it’s kinda like a rusty valve, once it’s open it’s hard to close it. So I’m mature and carful when to navigate and explore this stuff. I at one point had what many might classify as PTSD but I’ve been able to handle the symptoms on my own for years now and overall am doing great. Some stuff in my relationship or work will sometimes trigger it and I’ll have problems sleeping at night cause I’ll be stuck in a sort of mild episode that just makes my body very uncomfortable and emotional. I’m also staying up really late at night and it’s been challenging to get my sleep schedule to more usual hours of rest. I'm looking for tips on how to handle such a situation when it’s occurring and anyone who has faced this before as well and what has worked for you. Overall I’m super grateful to be where I am though because it was so much worse years ago. I overcame facing when it was chronic and severe and now it’s just moderate to mild sporadically (2-4 times a month, maybe a bit more sometimes), usually on days I was stressed by something or during nights I have something important to do the next day. Thanks !

All therapy modalities, even basic talk therapy, can be healing in a way as long as the practitioner has integrity and there is a sense of trust, connection and safety. From there you can build on this or take away. I like that there are lots of different modalities. I think a mix of cognitive/thought based, body based and spirituality is for me. Holistic sort of approach. Sometimes I benefit from something more in one area than another. Right now I greatly benefit from practical relationship advice.

Bruh, not dick game, pull out game. And that game begins on hardcore mode when you are super in love. You’re going to nut in her precisely because you have amazing dick game. It can be insanely hard to pull out when you’re super hard and having extremely passionate sex and she’s riding your cock, cumming multiple times, crying tears of joy and sexual ecstasy is reached. Everyone that OD’d on heroin was telling themselves the same shit when they started. You can be clever and time it with her ovulation like you said though. Girls that have that period tracking app get a thumbs up from me. I personally am wary of pull out with a partner not on the pill cause the sex I have is like heroin. I could OD on it and not just be daddy in bed anymore if I’m not careful. Glad my girl is on the pill though. It’s entirely her choice and not my place to tell her what to do with her body.

Because most gurus and yogis are uneducated, ignorant people who have just spent all their time meditating and not contemplating from a larger more embodied perspective about material issues facing society. Scientists and the educated are for that, not yogis.

People are just tired of this. Either take the vaccine or don’t but shut the f up. We are in war times so to speak, but it isn’t between countries but a virus. Wishy washy democratic measures for all sorts of various takes on an issue are not prioritized during war time. You don’t have time to discuss this stuff and unite the conflicting parts when a unified enemy is at your gates. I hope they start forcing this more on people who are healthy to take it.

I think Bitcoin (specifically) lacking political institutions and government support is going to keep it from advancing to some sort of new gold reserve. The invisible hand of the free market works in mysterious ways but I don’t think it will be Bitcoin. Just too many issues with it, lots covered in the op, for it to transition to that. There is also basically zero infrastructure for using it like a regular currency. It’s too volatile. As for the technology of crypto emerging in some form and changing economics and economies, sure. Bitcoin I think will be like one of those early computers that didn’t take off. What it has going for it is the brand name of it though but stuff like that can switch overnight. Hopefully something better gets adopted.

I’m looking for accountability and support partners for motivating each other to make a career shift.

I’m not into older women than me. Slept with a 24 yo when I was 21. Lied and said I was 25 lol. This was several years ago. I’m 30 now. Not knocking anyone. Women of all ages are beautiful. Prefer a younger partner though. Want to leave her a big pile of cash when I die lol.

Break ups are painful but always lead to growth. The relationship will eventually end in the highest sense that one partner will physically pass on before the other if both are so lucky to have a marriage last this long. That can be very painful to acknowledge but also lots of wisdom and love to be found there. Lots of gratitude and acceptance to be found in recognizing and resting with this. Relationships can really help a person accept they are aging and life is changing. Lots of beauty and joy to be found here and I’m glad people get the opportunity to grow through relationships.

I think MDMA is better than most psychedelics for growth. I've seen tons of people have huge mushroom or dmt trips and not really make much progress but mdma made them rethink how kind they are to their family and friends.

why not both? I think bdsm when practiced in a healthy way is expressing anger in a healthy way. It's not really my cup of tea though. Too "culty" and weird for me like some sort of star trek fandom. I think some light bondage stuff, consensual rapey themed role play and a toy whip from a sex shop doesn't really count as bdsm since it's so common today. bdsm is kinda underground. I think you kinda have to connect all the sort of emotions that arise (anger being one of them) when feeling that strong passion and then connect a path for them to the heart. This also pulls me out of my head in the process. I've found myself having this surge of passion during sex that feels similar to anger, has some shades of it so to speak, but it connects to my heart area and love is guiding it and sort of using it as fuel to further love deeper and rejuvenate the passion. Really rough, life changing passionate sex happens during this process. It ended in tears with both of us professing our love and trust for each other just recently. Anger isn't a problem so to speak when it arrises. It just depends how it's used during the sexual process. I do think it's possible for abuse and very dysfunctional sexual habits to take place under a bdsm / femdom guise however.

Don’t take what they say seriously. Like another poster said this is the woman equivalent to red pill / pick up. Every thread about dating is a dumpster fire on that site.

dude you’re asking creepy personal questions, take a hint

I have a friend who does femdom. She’s pretty good looking. I kind of resent her though for this. Her weirdo boyfriend broke her heart so she’s going through a “I hate men” phase and transitioned from general onlyfans nudes to femdom. It attracts some really sad men and some really unhealthy women. It’s not healthy. As for fapping, dude I literally came like 4 times with my gf over the weekend 1 sat 3 sun and then fapped twice on Monday on my own. My sex drive is insanely high especially since I’ve gotten active at the gym again and am super in love. Cultivate passion energy. If your passion for life is super high your sex drive will usually be super high, although I think you then have to learn to transmute all this passion so you aren’t just fucking for several hours a day.

Agreed, control and blame will lead to a literal never ending back and forth that just gets uglier and uglier till it burns out bitterly and leaves both people traumatized. “Nonviolent Communication By Marshall Rosenberg” is a must read for avoiding this or coming back from a back and forth like this. It literally saved my relationship! It’s a short book too. Must read for anyone here in a relationship or just getting into a relationship.

Have any women here experienced hair loss? What were the causes and what cured it? My girlfriend is having issues. She is seeing a doctor and they think it is hormonal and related to her birth control. anyone have any advice in such a situation?

Like 90% of this thread is you just whining about your shitty roommates. I'm not entirely against the whole notion of white woman feminism being myopic in modern times given all the other issues of discrimination going on but your thread barely examines this in any sort of intelligent way.

Settle down when it feels right for yourself and feel it's worthy to commit to. When you feel like you have worked through enough psychological stuff, when your T levels have dipped some with age maybe, when you have worked through painful/dysfunctional beliefs, explored your desires fully, etc. There may even come some sacrifice and compromise still when it comes to settling down cause a couple of these may not have had a book end to them. No one here can tell you when the right time is for you. Just shed some light on the various factors needed for settling down and prioritizing / deepening relationship love.