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yeah same, sex is all about the beautify and fun and excitement for me personally, closeness is obviously a part of it. It is kinda like coffee. You mix a bit of the strong beans (love) in with the smooth beans for taste (beauty and excitement). My wife is beautiful, I wanna enjoy her beautiful body lol. We rarely have some deep loving sex and I am not saying it's not a great way to bond, i just enjoy the more passionate side of it. The love side I much prefer words of encouragement and thoughtful actions. The 5 love languages is an easy book to get an idea of what you want from a relationship. I hit peak love experiences on my own through self inquiry and meditating.

I’ve followed this thread and I think I can speak on a bit more of the core issues it revolves around and perhaps also a bit of cope as well for lack of a better word. There is a notion here in this community that goes something like “spirituality is in opposition to raising your consciousness or exploring this domain.” I’m not really sure I agree with this. I believe this is an expectation one sets and it becomes true the more you believe it and can be used as a cope as well when you have your expectations about the world and it it doesn’t align with reality. A marriage or girlfriend isn’t two bros having a beer no string attached. You aren’t going to be able to do 5meo enemas all the time while you have a family to look after, you’ll have to find balance with it and with this balance it can add new depth to your spiritual pursuits. A drop of water in a desert is invaluable in comparison to it in the ocean. There is also the idea of needs, why you want a relationship and what you hope to get out of it in the first place. Are your needs realistic? Are they something you can honestly expect another person to help with or have you created a bunch of standards and ideas about how you think the world should work? Not everyone needs a relationship and that is just fine. Sometimes we take part in them partially because of old beliefs we have about needing approval from other people. What I see is a lot of different beliefs here. I would do a lot of self inquiry on this and put precisely into words what needs you have and how relating has fallen short for you. I’d then very soberly also exam your expectations. What are you expecting form women? What is a conscious woman? Is your idea of how the relationship should be a personal bias or actually in flow with truth? This is a very sneaky topic because there is a lot of bias and your own mistakes and perceptions that could actually be clouding your path towards finding fulfillment and enjoyment in this area of life.

I've decided to delete this app. I believe it does more harm than good. For what I'm doing I don't need it on my main phone. Has anyone decided to detox fro social media and short form videos? I believe I'm done for good with the app. It is just a gross place and it's not worth being there for me anymore.

Some of you guys are brainrotted wackos. Good lord, did some of you guys form your opinion from the Instagram comments? The thing is that yeah, the world does interpret highjacking planes and doing all the Arab Muslim terrorism stuff as barbaric and playing dirty. Of course what Israel is doing is awful, but the optics is much cleaner. It’s not some grand conspiracy that brainrot folks try to set it up as “it’s just the mainstream media!” It’s easier for a normie to see a country drop a bomb and it’s president making speeches about how they are sorry for casualties and gave out warnings to leave etc vs some guy stealing a plane with civilians and crashing it into the ground. It is much harder to sell the idea that crashing a place like that is self defense and justified.

Yeah fetlife is a weird platform I didn’t even know it still exists

Be honest though, would you date yourself? Like are you able to relate and keep a long term relationship with a woman? I’m not saying anyone has to. There are great benefits to being single. But I wouldn’t just set up normal life stuff like relationships and whatnot at one oppositional end of a dichotomy with the other side being spirituality. Maybe some people aren’t wired for long term relations with women? Not as a spiritual truth (although I think it could be one aspect of it) but just your own authenticity and uniqueness not boding well with the female populace. Maybe some people simply don’t see the benefit for them on their path. I can’t say being married is so so much better than being single. But it’s nice to have a family and be together with someone you enjoy the company of.

What do you mean by all the fakery though?

msulim/arab world always doing baboon shit like this. allahu akbar! I can't judge them though. An animal in a corner always lashes out even at it's own expense. I have zero plans to fly to the middle east and won't ever go to Israel. Fuck that.

How old are you? You sound frustrated. What lead you to making this post?

Tantra I think is different. I never tried it and tbh I’m not really interested in it or bdsm. My sex life has always been kinda crazy and fun without labels and names on stuff. But yeah I’m sure tantra can be powerful in its own way. What I was speaking about is like doing some mindfulness before pick up. Idk meditation removes desire usually and desire can be really powerful when channeled into socializing and pick up. It’s a weird tightrope of walking between being detached but also having a ton of energy to fuck and pull a woman back with your tenacity and sharpness. I would also say the alcohol you drink matters as well. Beer is kinda dirty, spirits can take it too far. I’ve found wine is the ultimate elixir but I also think the environment you take it in is very important. Some environments are just fucking messy and getting drunk along with the rest of the cattle has its consequences. A couple glasses of wine with your wife or girlfriend or date or with your girl and a couple of her girlfriends works wonders. I’m not talking about slamming a bunch of beers and getting all gassy and in a carb high and making a fool of oneself.

Yeah that’s true. I think their drones and EV technology is pretty much their foray though and they are damn good at it too. I’m far from an expert on this subject. China is able to create a lot of really great consumer electronics and goods at an excellent price. They take stuff that was created in other countries and do an unbelievable job at making it themselves more efficiently. They maybe don’t put as much effort into R&D.

Crazy the amount of time and work people put into scamming. I was trying to exchange cash on Telegram yesterday. Seems like there are people who have made it their full time hustle to scam people in the crypto sphere.

Ask Deepseek ai what happened in 1989 on Tiananmen Square

What’s keeping us from stealing from them back? Sounds to me like we got outwitted.

Bro you are not going to create sexual tension with a meditation high

We all are slowly dying. Pick your poison.

Peter Thiel's astroturf'd influencer for poisoning the male youth and getting them to go right wing is now catching chargers

Yeah I am really finding 2 glasses of wine is really useful. I sort of lost interest in sex and even being intimate often with my wife and it has totally brought it back. Also us settling down from traveling as well, we have been traveling all this year so far. You need to really chill and relax to have an active sex life. I lose all interest in sex when I am experiencing stress. Alcohol is so stigmatized in spiritual circles. Drink a glass of wine when you are having an awakening or in your flow with a clear mind and connection to spirit. It doesn’t cloud it, it adds a really playful, fun, sweet and just joyful tint to it. Really surprised I haven’t heard more stories about wine on here like this. I personally would avoid liquor and beer.

careful with your thinking here. you make a lot of judgements. you can be very passionate about ping pong, ok. maybe that opens doors. maybe you build relationships with people you care about that leads you to new opportunities. maybe you teach resilience and responsibility through the sport. you completely tank your point by throwing in your judgements about ping pong. with this way of thinking you can disqualify anything anyone chooses to pursue.

Yes this is what I always am telling people. We get clouded by our emotions. Flow is earned. A lot of people apply flow, success, whatever you wish to call it as something that is this secret to unlock but to be honest there aren’t really secrets. It’s just ceasing all misconceptions and illusions and being able to deeply observe the world. It becomes usually very apparent the way things are, a sense of clarity and clear reasoning why x should be done or why y means sitting still and just waiting. The teachings are all very simple and in any moment it is exceptionally clear what to do. We often times get clouded by expectations, fears and wishing things were different. Patience is a virtue when it comes to shaping your life in a way where it leads to what you would like to see manifested. I spent a lot of my time in my 20s with ideals and expectations. I sometimes wish I had the wisdom I do now. I would of taken a number of great leaps and risks at times when it was appropriate and not wasted my effort when I was consistently marching blind putting tremendous effort into things that weren’t helping me, but of all the mistakes I would say delusions like what the OP seems to have discovered kept me in a state of inaction. Success (what I call flow, since Wu Wei flow usually unfolds as success and perfection in all one experiences) is earned. It’s not something you simply meditate your way to, although this practice can help. It’s a balance off inner stillness and ceasing illusions and expectations but then turning the lens outward and clearly looking at the world and clearly reasoning why a particular action should be taken at any particular moment, cutting through whatever inner resistance arises. I wasted so much money and time in my 20s thinking if I just want something and hope for it it will come to me.

Timing is also very important. Not just time management. But the actual timing of things. What is the best choice to make in these next two hours. Have you all ever had an experience where you spent weeks or months trying to accomplish something but then suddenly as you changed course or reflect on your actions, in the matter of a few hours or days suddenly you made tremendous progress? More than in the last 3-6 months? There is a quiet flow of energy at play and it’s incredibly important to become conscious of timing. There are people who did everything right at their company but when it came time to ask for a raise they did so the moment their boss got off of a phone call with their wife who is asking for a divorce. So always pushing always rushing always thinking you need to be doing a ton isn’t always the case. There is a dance to it. You need to know when to release the arrow. There needs to be tension in your bow which is created through force but enough ease to aim and control the bow as you do so. Effort mixed with flexibility and ease

I’m wanting to start a qigong practice myself, I really found it helpful the few times I did it.

Damn this is a wonderful analogy for creativity and passion. It’s your baby. Babies are fun. Usually the first year or two is a joy. Then as your baby gets older you realize the reality of being a parent. Your kids will misbehave and you will sometimes regret having kids. The same with passion. It’s fun to get started, we usually have big dreams when we go out to buy that art supplies or start that project. 6 months in you realize just how tall the mountain is you began to climb. It’s incomprehensibly tall and you may not make it to the top. That is the pursuit of greatness.

This is the same mistake people make with the law of attraction. The law of attraction works but most people teaching it leave this part out because a lot of people like being sold a dream that feels good over reality. It’s easy to play off people’s naivety for your own gain than share the whole truth with them. Gotta learn to swim before you can effortlessly row a boat staring. And even then a wave can still come along and knock you over. This is an ever present truth about reality. We do not get any guarantees. You can realize everything and on the day of going in to collect your dues get ran over by a truck. It’s why influencer LoA teachings get so many clicks, it removes people’s fears of uncertainty and the unknown.

You put too much energy into caring what other people think about you.